Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Blurry in a Hurry

Episode Date: December 2, 2024

The woman in today’s Second Date Update admits she did something a little drastic to make a first impression… and even maybe a little sketchy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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They don't want to become a weekday girl. What's that? Yeah, I had not heard of this before, but apparently it's a thing in the dating world right now where if a guy only wants to hang out Monday through Friday, that means you're his safe weekday girl that he's got in his back pocket.

Probably not even Friday nights then, Jeff. No. Yeah, it's Monday through Thursday. He's free to use those fun weekends finding new, more intriguing women to try and play with. That's messed up. It is, and that's why Sarah's emailed the show because she's worried after just one date she has been labeled a weekday girl.

Oh, no. Is it a date on a Tuesday? Sarah, welcome to our weekday show. What is this guy's name, and what day did you guys hang out? His name is Steve, and it was a Wednesday. To be fair, you're not going to do a first date on a weekend. You don't give up a weekend for it. Really?

I'll do a Friday night. Jose will do any day. I'm like, I have better plans than a first date on a weekend. Okay. Well, maybe it depends on what type of date you're doing during the weekday. You can make that kind of sexy. What did you and Steve do for your Wednesday date? I'm just going to own this right up front.

I kind of messed up because I know I got a text when I was at the gym from him saying, are you coming? What? No. You forgot? You stood him up? No. I mean, almost.

But no. Jeff set up this whole thing making it sound like he was the one putting you on. I know. You didn't even remember when you were supposed to go out with him. You barely showed up. Oh, no. How long did he have to wait? I hustled.

I hustled. I dropped everything. Oh, but that's so weird. Straight from the gym into the date? Oh, wait a minute. Did you get a shower in? I did, like, an emergency, like, splash with soap in the sink. Sink bath.

But you started to sweat again as you got in your car, I bet. I mean, that's the thing. Like, yeah, you're still sweating while you're sitting down at the table. And if you're hurrying, trying to get ready, you're still rushing. Not a great way to start off this date late and coming straight from the gym. But what did he say when you finally got there? Yeah. I mean, when I got there, he wasn't there.

So I thought that he had given up like he was gone yeah yeah i mean it sounds like it took you a while and you can't be mad if he leaves you know what you know no i know i wasn't i wasn't i mean he said he would be sitting in the window and he was not in the window so i said i'm texting oh my gosh i'm so sorry did you take off like i get it if you did but i'm sorry and he was like oh no, in the restroom. Oh. Oh, good. So he's there. He's still there. It's weird that they put the tables in the restroom at this restaurant.

That's bad. So did you have a moment to collect yourself before he came out? I did. I figured out which table was his. Oh, you didn't just run into the bathroom and give him a hug? You know where he's at. No, I didn't do that. But I kind of, I did something very unlike myself.

Because all his pictures, he has glasses. He's so cute in his glasses. But his glasses were on the table. Okay. And I mean, I told you I wasn't really looking my very best because of how I kind of ran out of the gym. So I have a big handbag and I just slid them in. What? Wait. I thought you were going to say you put them on. Did you just say you stole

this man's glasses? Why would you steal them? It was more like a borrowing because... Oh, you took them so he could lose them and then you could be like, are these yours? Or like you didn't want him to like see you as well in your disheveled state. This way I could put my best face

forward without having to have my best face on. I hate to break it to you, but you could see the bathroom and bath without them, so you could probably see your face. What happened when he came back to the table? Well, you know, he said hello, and it was like, quick hug. And then he had that moment of like, wait, where are my glasses?

So he went back to check the bathroom, and he was looking around everywhere, and he was asking you to counter. And I was the whole way. Wait, he's he's spending all this time searching for them. And the whole time you're what? Just sitting there like, I don't know. I mean, it wasn't all this time.

It was like two or three minutes. And then he's like, you know what? I'm going to worry about the glasses later. Let's like sit and enjoy our time together. So we did. We had a great conversation. I mean, we get along so well. Did he compliment your sexy, blurry looks at any point during the night?

No, but he complimented my awesome personality the whole time. He's like, I didn't know you were a natural blonde or brown or whatever it is. Whatever you are. I'm so curious how you got these glasses back to him. Oh yeah, did you? Tell me you did. They're so expensive. We wrap up our lovely, cute little date.

I kind of dilly-dallied on my way to my car, and then I turned in his glasses after he left. You gave them back to the employees that worked there in case he went back and, like, tried to find them again? Yeah, because he told me he gave them his number in case they turned up. But aren't you worried, like, when they called, that they said, oh, the person you were with turned him in?

I don't really think about that. You should have held on to them and been able to give them back like kind of a Cinderella's glass slipper sort of deal. Yeah, that's what I thought. Just have all the men line up. Are we worried he drove home without glasses? And you said your whole goal out of this date was to not end up a weekday girl. You wanted to get a weekend date. Yeah, so when

we were wrapping up, I'd be like, oh my God, I was like, you know, it'd be so great to see you this weekend. And he's like, yeah, that would be awesome. Oh. And nothing happened. Maybe Alexis is on to something. When he was driving away, he rear-ended somebody's car. Yeah.

Or maybe he's trying to call and text you, but he can't see the contact information on his own phone. Yeah. That's totally fair. I did shoot him one text on Sunday just to be like, hey, I hope you're having a great weekend. And then I didn't want to, you know, you don't want to be the crazy one. It's interesting that you don't sound like guilty at all about taking his glasses. Yeah. Well, I mean, you really just have one moment to make a

first impression, and I wanted to put my best foot forward. Okay. And steal his personal belongings. That makes sense. So, let's try and get... It was not theft. It was a borrowing. Oh, shit. Samantha. You got him back. Well, let's come back. We're going to call Steve for you. We'll see

if he actually did find his glasses, and then find out if he's willing to go out and give you one more try on hopefully a weekend date. We do not want you to end up a weekday, girl. Thank you. Uh-oh. But we're going to have you meet the whole fam coming up when we do your second date update right after this. Second date update. You've got to live your life no regrets.

Oh, okay. And our listener does not regret stealing her date's glasses off the table. Yeah. Just temporarily so that she would look better to him during their date. Okay. Technically worse, but he just wouldn't be able to make her out. Right. It's kind of like a Monet.

You know, it's like all a mess when you get up close, but from far away, it looks fantastic. Beautiful. Because the thing is, she'd rushed straight from the gym to be there, so was feeling a little bit disheveled, a little musky, and acted on impulse. Did that actually help?

We don't know. It was definitely a risky move, though, from a very sweaty woman. But she did return his glasses to the cafe so they could return them to the owner, Steve. The question is, should this be brought up to him if we're able to get him on the phone? Wait, that his missing glasses are at the restaurant right now? No, that she was the one who basically took them and then put them back. Sure.

If this was all about honesty, but this is about getting her a second date. You're not going to date someone who does that. I don't know. I don't know how Sarah feels. I mean, it's really up to her. Sarah, do you want us to out you as the one who grabbed his glasses? I think that would be

a really cute thing to maybe come up on our first anniversary. Okay, we'll wait on that. In a year, you can call us wait on that. Okay, yeah. In a year, you can call us back, and then we'll tell him. Maybe even longer than a year. Yeah, let's do it. Maybe on his deathbed, you whisper it into his ear. Maybe.

He's like, they were blue light. It didn't matter. He's like, it didn't matter. It's so funny, Alexis. So we've decided we're not going to say anything about you taking the glasses if you want to bring it up that's going to be your decision okay that is totally cool with me all right now let's call this guy and see if he picks up the phone here we go hello hey we're looking to talk to Steve.

Yes, this is Steve. What is this about? Hey, Steve, this is about a radio show that you are currently on right now called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Put her there, Steve. My hand's out. Where's your hand? Okay.

That is an awkward phone call. What is going on? Sorry. Hi, Steve. Hey, man, this is a segment we do. It's an awkward phone call. What is going on? Sorry. Hi, Steve. Hey, man. This is a segment we do. It's called Second Date Update. And we're trying to help one of our listeners that went on a date with you to a cafe recently.

This is just really strange to me. Okay. Yeah, it is strange. We know that. Sorry. It's kind of random. We heard about it. It's kind of a funny date with this girl named Sarah where

during it, you ended up losing your glasses. She said that you were looking everywhere for him after you got back from the bathroom or something. Yeah, I did lose my glasses. I really can't really see that well with them. I would have liked to have been able to see Sarah a little

better. It was just the strangest thing. Yeah. Kind of weird for you to leave your glasses on the table if you can't see very well there, Steve. Where'd you put them, dude? I mean, as someone who is, like, legit. Blind? Yeah, not good. But I do appreciate a man that likes to take a risk in a bathroom. So I support that.

No wonder there's pee all over all the journals all the time. It's Jeff's fault. But, you know, bathroom stuff aside, we are wanting to know more about your actual date. Like, if you had a good time, what did you think of Sarah? Right. You're not calling her back, and she just doesn't know why. I mean, I did have a good time with her.

I just, I would have liked to be able to see her better. I was kind of thrown off on my game. Okay. But of what you could make out of her, did you like what you think you saw? The silhouette. Yeah, the silhouette was nice. That's good.

That's so funny. Sorry. That's a funny compliment, guys. She had a nice silhouette. Oh, come on. You can see better than that. I mean, she seemed nice.

She seemed very nice. I just, it was very disorienting to me and it was a fun date, I thought. Okay. It'd probably be hard to like concentrate on the date if you're thinking about where are my glasses? What did I do with them? I mean, those are expensive. Any of your senses. If you couldn't hear well, you can't see well.

So maybe it wasn't even a good look at what your first date could have been with her. Yeah. But that's all the more reason that we want to help figure out what to do about your next date. Do you think there's a possibility that you might want to see her again, give it another chance with glasses on? Here's the awkward thing that happened. I left the cafe. I didn't have my glasses. And I ended up getting a call from the cafe. And someone said, oh, we found your glasses.

Oh, that's great. And so I asked them who found them. And they told me that it was the woman that I was at the cafe with. And I was confused as to who that would be because I actually talked to two women at the cafe. It wasn't just Sarah. There's also a girl before Sarah got there. Her name was Amanda. Wait, so you had another date before Sarah at the same restaurant?

Yeah, I did. What's the big deal? Whoa. Okay. It just news. That's all. We didn't realize that. I don't know if Sarah did either.

That is just so risky. Like, what if they come at the same time? Oh, good thing she was really late. Yeah. Well, I'm an adult, and I schedule two different dates. I didn't know that I had to tell you everything in my story. No, but how does it feel using glasses? Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

So I asked them who turned them in and they said it was the girl that you were there with. And I thought, well, I'm with two girls. So I called Amanda before and she said, oh, I returned your glasses to them. And I said, oh my God, thank you for returning them. I would have been lost without them. You called the first date girl?

Not Sarah? You called Amanda? Well, I called Amanda first because I met with her beforehand. And the other girl said she found them? Yeah, she said she returned them to the cafe. And so I said, thank you very much. And you're really my hero. I kind of brought us together. So I called her for a second date.

Oh, so because she was the hero that found the glasses, she got the second date and Sarah did it. She's trustworthy and reliable. So I didn't feel right about having a second date with Sarah when really I had

a closer connection with Amanda because of this. Because of this. Because of this. Okay, there is all kinds of wrong with this. All kinds of wrong.

We need to sort this out. Are you ready? Yeah. Yeah, this is really uncool because that girl, was her name Mandy or something? She's a liar. Okay. She's a flat out liar.

Okay. Hold on. This one's Sarah. Sorry, that is Sarah, the other woman, the second woman you were out with. I feel like I'm getting ganged up on here. No, no. This is really just an ambush here. Steve, the way that this works is we have the woman listening on the other line to this

conversation the entire time. So Sarah's heard the whole thing. Oh, the way that this works is we have the woman listening on the other line to this conversation the entire time. So Sarah's heard the whole thing. Oh, of course, yeah. This is brilliant. You contacted me, so you have no one to blame but yourself, really. I love the empathy there.

Excuse me? I don't think you really get the kind of person this other girl is because she totally lied to you, and I can prove it. Okay, but what do you prove it with, Sarah? Let's think about this for a second.

How do we do this? You may not want to prove it. If I have to, I have to. How can you prove it, Sarah? I can prove it because remember you sent me the text saying, hey, are you coming? And I was like, OMG, there any minute. I like was dashing from the gym and I was not looking my best. OK, so we're going to do it. And I don't know. We just like really hit it off when we were messaging.

And I wanted to make the best first impression I could. So when I got there, I I saw your glasses on the table and I may have put them in my handbag to make sure I made a good impression. You stole my glasses? How dare you do that? See, I think that she was hoping for the reaction of, how dare Amanda lie to me? Borrow, borrow the glasses. There's no way Amanda could have been the one that found them when they were inside Sarah's purse.

Yeah, and... Yeah, I'm confused why Amanda would lie, but why would you take my glasses and put them in your purse? I think you missed that first part where she didn't look good. To impress you. You stole my glasses? B them in your purse? I think you missed that first part where she didn't look good. To impress you. You stole my glasses. Borrowed. No, I borrowed them.

I gave them back. You have them. I don't see what the big deal is. I liked you enough that I wanted to really make sure I made a really good first impression. It's coming from a place of her liking you, I promise. Yeah, I mean, it's kind of... A good first impression by me being blind, not being able to see you. Nothing works.

You can't butter him up, really. It's kind of weird because now you're having to choose between either a thief or a liar when it comes to these two women. Do I want a relationship based on theft or lying?

That's the choice you get to make here because we'll offer to send you out on a date with the girl who borrowed your glasses, Sarah, who's on the phone right now.

And gave them back, remember? I mean, this just is too ridiculous for words. How can I trust you with anything in front of me at this point? That's just my pair of glasses. Trust her. She's telling the truth. Then you got back. Yeah, Amanda's still lying.

Yeah, first date she stole your glasses. The second date she's going to steal your heart. Aw, cute. And give it to the people at the front desk of that cafe. This is just too strange for me. I appreciate the offers. Look, I don't care how strange it is for you. It's romantic for us.

So I need a yes or no. Will you date Sarah? She's honest. And we'll pay for the date. She came from the gym. Yeah, that's huge, man. As long as you promise not to steal anything of mine again, I guess I could see it.

And I will not take anything of yours, however briefly, ever again. That was kind of cute. What a promise. It's so cute. You guys are going to grow old together and she's going to steal your hearing aids. But she'll give them back, though. It sounds like we're going to send you guys out on another date. Wait, what about you're going to dump Amanda, though, right?

What are you going to do? Clearly, I have to have a conversation with her about lying. Okay. Oh, yeah. She's going to get it. Not dump her, just, okay. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. We never really got back to this, but it is interesting that the guy went on two dates

with two different women in the same day at the same place. Well, I mean, he didn't think it was too interesting. It's efficient. Yeah, he didn't think it was too interesting. It's efficient. Yeah, he was taking it more like business deals. You know? Yeah, I mean, no wonder the people at the coffee shop weren't sure who turned in his glasses because most of their customers are there to date him. So take your pick.

The barista's like, I was dating him too. Yeah, I thought he was here for me. I think there is so much gossip at the restaurant about this guy. The baristas were like, he got here for me. I bet there was so much gossip at the restaurant about this guy. The baristas were like, he got caught for finally. You know the guy who hangs out for two hours at the shop? I think he's definitely going to call that first girl Amanda, but I don't think he's actually going to have a long talk with her about honesty. No, you don't think so?

You don't think that's what he's looking for in a relationship? No, I think he's just going to date her. You're just saying a guy who schedules two dates for one night at the same place isn't all about honesty? Weird, right? Yeah, I don't know. That's a pretty big assumption, Jeff. He's probably going to end up dating Sarah, too. He's going to get both women. Yeah, knowing him, he'll get a third somehow.

Yeah, he's just good at what he does. And even though we're not very good at what we do, we do have a lot of these podcasts. So go follow us on Apple, Spotify, wherever you get your podcasts at Brooke and Jeffrey. We've got libraries full of these inspiring date stories. And maybe you'll be inspired to get out there and date 14 women at the same restaurant. Or steal someone's glasses.

There you go. We're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them.

More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will, too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Catch Jon Stewart back in action on The Daily Show and in your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. From his hilarious satirical takes on today's politics and entertainment to the unique voices of correspondents and contributors, it's your perfect companion to stay on top of what's happening now. Plus, you'll get special content just for podcast listeners,

like in-depth interviews and a roundup of the week's top headlines. Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Laurie Santos, and to welcome the new year, my podcast, The Happiness Lab, is releasing a series of happiness how-to guides to help you in 2025. I'll distill the wisdom of world-class experts into easy-to-digest, actionable tips. Struggling with tough emotions? We have a how-to guide. Worried that you're not enough? We got you.

Self-obsessed and want to get over yourself? There's a guide for that, too. The Happiness Lab's how-To Season starts January 1st. Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Snakes, zombies, sharks, heights, speaking in public, the list of fears is endless. But while you're clutching your blanket in the dark, wondering if that sound in the hall was actually a footstep, the real danger is in your hand when you're behind the wheel. And while you might think a great white shark is scary, what's really terrifying and even deadly is distracted driving.

Eyes forward. Don't drive distracted. Brought to you by NHTSA and the Ad Council. Hey, I'm Jay Shetty, and my latest interview is with Mel Robbins. Work has been seen as the number one cause of stress. How can the let them theory help? As you notice the stress come up, Jay, you're simply going to say, let them. You have no idea right now how much time and energy is being wasted because of other people's behavior. It's like a death by a thousand cuts.

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