Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Date Night Veto

Episode Date: May 7, 2025

One of our female listeners used an innocent little excuse…. To go from awkward end of the night hug… to Instant sleepover at his place… Your gonna hear it in your brand new Second Date Update podcast!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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wrong on their date. Yeah. I think this woman omitted what she did simply because it didn't register to her as something bad. No shame. Yeah. Right. She should have so much shame. Like, she should have all of the shame should be on her.

You're going to understand here in a second. Let's get some comments, though, Alexis. I know a lot of people were heated yesterday or laughing, I guess, over the awkward Tuesday phone call. I saw Ashley Lottowise commented, laughed for 30 seconds straight at Jeffree's men don't lie quote. Also, he lied.

That hit close to home for her, didn't it? Everybody lied. Yeah, there it is, there it is. All right, keep your comments coming. Like, subscribe, follow, do the thing. Hey, and give us a rating too, that'd be rad. Well, unless it's bad, then you didn't hear that. No.

All right, let's get this new podcast started. It's a second date update. Second date update. Are there rules for when you want to veto a date that you don't love? Like in the planning stages or are we already on it? In the planning stages. Okay. You it in the plan in the planning stages Okay, you're looking forward to hanging out with this person

Yeah, yeah, but you just aren't thrilled about the activity that they came up with Like is there a limit to how many vetoes you get to like be like, oh you want to do this? No Yeah, no, yeah a number that you have you can't go over I think you can't go over one I think you get one veto and then you start to look picky and do you need to say veto in a fancy accent? So it sounds less harsh when you're turning them down veto I Only ask cuz one of our listeners Brittany exercised her right to veto and now she's ended up here with us

Did you use the wrong accent when you vetoed? I wish I could do a cool accent. On your email it says you went out with a guy named Josh and you had to turn down an idea or two. So tell us about Josh. How did you meet him? We met through friend of a friend. So, I was already really close to one of his guy friends. Okay. And so how did the planning of this date go? Like run us through that. So we were in between texting and it was really sweet of him to bring up like mini golf, but I just wasn't feeling it. And then he brought up bowling. I honestly wasn't feeling that. So wait, are you like, I feel like if you vetoed, you then have to offer a suggestion yourself. I agree with that.

Were you just saying no? Okay, so I was just saying no. And I, okay, real quick, I will admit I was being kind of a princess. You weren't just saying no, you were saying ew, no. Yeah. Should use that little barf emoji. Yuck.

Yuck. Bowling, gross. It wasn't that bad, it wasn't that bad. Okay,'t that bad. So did you finally decide on something to do? Well we ended up just, he was like why don't you just come over to my place. It's a big community. Like we can go for a walk like around the neighborhood and to be honest that sounded more like I had a stressful work week like I'm about it. So I mean, after feeling high maintenance, now you seem low maintenance. Yeah, that's all you need. You can just chill and walk.

I didn't even think about that, but you're so right. Oh, wow. You look good without knowing. There it is. That's a good thing. So you agreed to a walk around his neighborhood. And how did that go? It was actually really good.

We got along. We had a lot of things in common We ended up going back to his place and it was good and bad His place was bad. No, no, no, no his place was nice. Actually like it was modern and clean Okay, you're saying the vibe was good and bad. Yes Thank you because I could see you also walking through and being like veto that painting Okay, so when you're hanging out with him at his place what happens yeah, what's the good the good with the banter like again We just kind of hit it off really well

The bad part that okay, so we put on you the Netflix show Show this then it's supposed to with Penn Badgley. Yeah, but it only gets darker after the first season it gets It was just on in the background like okay, we were talking watching and He was sitting all the way on the other side of the couch like oh, no I don't know if it was the fact that he was shy or what? But it did kind of throw me off like it wasn't the greatest vibe if you know what I mean Across the living room while a show is playing. You probably have to yell anyway to be heard over a Netflix show playing in the background.

Interesting. So how did you guys end it? Well, it was getting dark and I honestly I just kind of like I was getting tired so I just told him I had to go. No kiss, we did hug. Okay. But when I got to my car, I realized I only brought my sunglasses.

I didn't bring my real glasses. So I can't drive. I definitely can't drive without my glasses. And so I ended up texting him, like, hey, this is the situation. And he ended up telling me that I could stay the night. Oh Why wouldn't he say I'll drive you home? Yeah, that's interesting Obviously between the two choices stay the night or I'll take you home. The guy is gonna pick. Yeah, sure

You can have a sleepover. I don't wanna stay she may kiss. Why are you so against the sleepover? I'm not I'm just surprised cuz he's a guy that sat on the opposite room Yeah, he had all the night to the room from her. it sounded like he wasn't and now's his chance into it He's like, okay, so I'm sure you're getting mixed signals then right when he asks you did you stay the night? I did and I ended up yes, I did It's nothing I just ended up staying the night Well, like did you sleep on the couch at separate ends again? Oh, yeah question. Yeah definitely Here's the question what was it like in the next morning there you go, Brug. No comment. Hey, all right. We heard all we needed to hear.

I don't know if that's good. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So what's happened? I'm assuming the next day you got back your car, you drove home, and then what's happened since then? That's where we're at. Absolutely nothing. He's not responding to you at all. At all. Well, now when we call him, some of the details about what happened that night might need to come out if they explain why he's not calling you back. Hopefully you're OK with that. We need that.

We need that right now. The whole world needs that. Yeah, be prepared. Let's try and get some more details out of Josh when we come back and call him. Try and get you your second date update right after this, all right? Thank you.

All right, hold on your second date update right after this, alright? Thank you. Alright, hold on. Second date update. It's the classic first date line young people love to use. Oh, I forgot my driving glasses. Can I spend the night at your place? Worked on me all throughout college. Oh, and my driving glove and scarves. Oh my god, so many.

But now, to be fair, our listener, Brittany, didn't ask to spend the night over at Josh's house. He offered to let her stay. Which means he wanted to, because there are so many other solutions to figuring this out. Totally. Why wouldn't he want to? He could have been like, oh, I'll just call you an Uber. He's getting something.

But ever since then, Brittany hasn't seen any effort by Josh for him to arrange a second meetup with her Which is kind of odd because she says there was there was a connection there There was a chemistry especially when they were bantering with each other. Yeah, except for the moment on the couch That's moment long moment. Yeah They're sitting on opposite ends. He just sat in a weird spot and maybe got stuck there wasn't sure how to move over We're not really sure That's why we need to ask him and I forgot Brittany you said your friends set you up. Have you heard anything from them? Nothing

I've tried to reach out to them too. And she just keeps saying that she's busy and then the other guys like yeah We're super busy right now. Like we'll get back here. That sounds like they're covering for him. Yeah Wow Yeah, we're super busy right now like we'll get back to you. That sounds like they're covering for him. Yeah Hmm I wonder if they didn't know like maybe I don't know what who knows Let's find out we get up a million questions. It's best to just call Josh and ask so I'm gonna dial his number right now See if he picks up here we go Hello hey, we're looking to talk with Josh. This is he. Who's this? Hey, Josh, we're a radio show.

We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hey, Josh. Hey, good morning. Hey. Hey. Hey. So, hope it's okay if we ask you some questions about your dating life because we're doing a segment called second date update

On the radio yeah, yeah, they're very specific questions only about one person Yeah, a person you went out with recently named Brittany. Oh Yeah Okay, okay, okay Okay, okay, okay We know a little bit about when you and Brittany hung out Like here's a little bit of the background to catch you up because Brittany was on the show and she told us that She came over to your neighborhood you guys walked around

Overall, we weren't sure if the date was like great or just average, but she did say that she spent the night. We just, we were not 100% sure what that means. Yeah. And she's interested in you. Yeah. So could you maybe let us in on what's been going on in your head? Sure. I mean, I don't know how much she's told you now.

Well, it's mostly everything I just recapped for you right there over the last 20 seconds. Okay, he's taking it a lot right now's mostly everything I just recapped for you right there Generic just general did you have a good night? It was different Different in a good way, I don't know Alexis, would you be complimented if a guy says? For ten seconds before he answered. Yeah, he was like, oh it was different. Yeah Did she do something weird or wrong? So, I don't know if I mean this is gonna

Look great for her. It's not gonna look great for her You said it's not gonna look great for her But I mean if you really want to know where it took a left turn for me We really want to know but more importantly she really wants for me. We really want to know, but more importantly, she really wants to know. And she's agreed to hear whatever the reason is. No, we- She knows the risks. We outright warned her that she may hear something that's not super flattering. And she was pumped about it.

She wasn't. But she's okay with it. She's like, I hope so! Okay, so we were just watching Netflix and during the middle she pulls out her phone, which you know is fine, but then she asked me to come over and look over and she's basically showing me pictures of her co-workers and how fat and ugly they were. Wait, what? And just commentating one by one and you know to her credit she wasn't wrong about all of

them but... Wait, hold on. commentating one by one and you know to her credit and she wasn't wrong about all of them, but Being like look how ugly this person is like bad workers What is going on right now? Oh my god was it a joke that maybe No very funny. It seems like she had no one to talk to, no one to gossip with at work. So I guess this is her way of releasing that information. Oh my God.

And it's gossip. That's just mean. She said she wanted to do something chill because she had a bad week at work. Oh, she needed to vent a little bit. She told us that, that she had a bad week at work and so she's just venting by. And it was all about people's appearances

Yeah, mostly but also I think it was just she was also talking about their performance at work. Yikes She was telling you the stories this girl was mean to me or this thing happened Oh, but not just going look at this Have a photo gallery of them Impressed with her that she's that organized to be able to bust it out. There was a group picture and it wasn't a good photo at all. Oh, so it made it easy to go this collection of people. The way you're describing it to us earlier, you felt like that was a bad thing for you. That was a red flag.

Yeah. I wouldn't use that. to us earlier you felt like that was a bad thing for you that was a red flag yeah I jokingly say it was kind of funny and random but at the same time this was not yeah okay but if you were that put off by it then she told us that you asked her to spend the night and something may have happened between you to. I'm a guy so. Oh it was a selfless act of you. You want to make her feel better dude. That's nice. That's what it was. I can't believe we even asked him that question. What a sweet sweet man. Brooke why aren't you thanking him? No I mean honestly she's the worst. Like, yeah, he's so good. Well, she probably felt better afterwards and got it all out of her system. She was a joy to work with the rest of the week. And you don't have to believe me on that one, dude,

because Brittany is on the other line of this phone call right now wanting to talk to you. Oh. Yeah, she's been calling all of us ugly. Oh, boy. Real quick, um, I do, I want to talk about that, um,

like the elephant in the room. Wow, I'm gonna say elephant. You know, Brittany, you never brought that up when we talked to you about your date before. Which is honestly, it's worrisome because it means that you found it normal. Yeah, it is absolutely normal.

I mean, isn't it better to talk about him behind their back than in front of their face? And also you went way beyond that. I mean you were just being so negative and critical of everyone and I get Honestly you need to shut your trap cuz I'm so sick of your Judgey judgey judgey She sounds stressed out again

She needs to play another round of hot or not Scared when she's gonna vent about us. Oh yeah, she's definitely going to be dropping into my Dio. Talk all the crap you want girl. Well Brooke, you do say a lot of unsavory things about people that work here in private. I do not! I have never commented on someone's looks before. See, so it is normal. It's a normal thing. And if you create an environment for people to be able to do that, then people are gonna do that. It's normal. It's a normal thing and if you create an environment for people to be able to do that then people are gonna do that That they aren't to your standard of appearance Brooks words

To be honest. Yes, it is That is so shallow Brittany and me You're the shallow one Brooke like everybody else saying that you talk all the time I'm definitely smiling I regret asking you to help me out with this book. I just I knew you weren't gonna be truthful about it Okay, Brooke I would really appreciate if you stayed out of the second date and brought everybody down with your negativity. We need to focus on helping this couple reconcile and get together for another date because Josh, we would offer to send you out one more time

and we would pay for it unless it ended up being back at your place again. Unless it ended up being back at your place again. You know what? I'm not interested. This wasn't the way I thought things were going to be wrapped up. And I'm not interested. I'm actually not even interested in this show anymore. So.

Oh, don't worry. Look what you did. I know. You seem quite interested spending the night. Yeah, that's why she's calling you back. Josh, you don't need to go all the way back to the house. That wasn't the burn you thought it was I mean look I tried I tried I Think she's always gonna be meaner than you so I would just stop well yeah, well Brittany

Hey, thanks again for being on with us and giving it a shot. Yeah, thanks for nothing You can go through up. Oh Well, thank you. I think I'm going to go do that. That's what the wellness room here at the work is for. That's right. I'm going to go in there and think about all my fat, ugly coworkers. Oh, yeah. Just have a great time.

Okay. I'll join you if we fit. Yeah, it's a party. Come on. Broken Jeffrey in the morning. Well, back from the break room. Oh, God. And had a lot of time to mull things over about what just happened.

You take listeners so literally sometimes, Jeff. I think that was more of a figurative, screw you. I thought you had a good suggestion. Screw yourself. But I think we all agree that bad mouthing your coworkers is something you just don't do until date number three or until you're in a serious relationship with that person at the very least

Have you honestly ever pulled out a picture someone and talked about how ugly they were? Not like hey look at this fool So no surprise their moral compasses didn't align He was agreeing with her on some of the comments well, okay. I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt. Yeah, you know what it didn't work out, but maybe she'll appear again on our show during a blind love is. Oh She'd be perfect for that. She sounds like looks don't matter to her So she'd love to meet someone that she'd never seen before. Sounds like she's better for am I the jerk? Yeah There's somebody and a segment out there for everybody. Yeah.

We can hopefully find your segment if you go on to our podcast, wherever you get yours, at Brooke and Jeffrey. And if you ever need help in your dating life, email the show. We can call that person who's not calling you back. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. I found out I was related to the guy that I was dating. I don't feel emotions correctly.

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and on the psychology of your 20s, we are taking a vulnerable look at why mental health is so hard to talk about. Prepare for our conversations to go deep. I spent the majority of my teenage years, of my 20s, just feeling absolutely terrified. I had a panic attack on a conference call. Knowing that she had six months to live, I was no longer pretending that this was my

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