Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: First Date Redate

Episode Date: March 3, 2025

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No. It's all for a good cause. So the link to that merch is in the show notes, and today we got a little special second date, don't we? Yeah. It's the first time we've ever done this. Yeah, it's the re-date. Yes.

So sit back and enjoy. Enjoy. Second date update. Out of all the second dates we've done, Yeah. I mean, we're talking hundreds, thousands even. I think tens of thousands. Yeah.

Possibly. I mean, seriously. I know every once in a while I say, this is a first. Oh yeah, but this one really is oh you don't mean it the other time Those other times but this time I really We have a return caller his name is Zack And you might remember he was on the show a while back told us about his mobile bartending business That he does for parties and events. Oh, like weddings and stuff, and he made pretty good money doing it.

Exactly. Last time that he was on, he wanted us to call a woman named Bethany that he had met at one of those parties. Well now, he's back, and he wants us to call that same woman, Bethany, again. Again? Again. What? But she knows us now, what but she knows how did the last time go that we called her I don't think it went well Zack are you okay did you hit your head because we already did this and she turned you down I just ran into her again we actually went on another first date that would be a second day

yeah if you go if you go out with the same girl two times That's considered two separate dates. I do like two first dates She said no to you on our radio show and then you ran into her in person and then she said yes Yeah, yeah, well, it was like few months in between when we did that. Yeah Oh, I didn't realize there's like a statute of limitations, you know I didn't realize there's like a statute of limitations, you know After a certain point it like cancels it resets. Well, it's probably just she had a lot of bad experiences in that couple of months So she's like, I guess I'll try that guy Okay

But for those of our listeners who don't know what happened the last time or who might not remember Bethany Could you jog our memory just a little bit? Yeah. I met her while I was bartending a joint bachelor slash bachelorette backyard party and she was just one of the guests. Okay. Right. And why did she not like you? Is that a bad thing? I will. She said no, right? Yeah, he can recap. Yeah. What happened the first time? Well, she said that I basically had talked about myself too much and my business too much. Right. That's right. So it didn't work out the last time you were on the show,

but now you're saying you ran into her again recently. Yeah. What happened in the second meetup? Well, it's kind of funny because I was bartending another bachelorette party. Oh, really? She was at that one too. Oh my God, this is like Alexis. How many is this woman gonna be in a wedding? Yeah, I Guess you know a lot of her friends are getting married right now

So she's bouncing from wedding to wedding it tends to happen that way Okay, so what happened when you and Bethany saw each other at this new bachelorette party? Was it that friendly? I'd be shocked. First there was that deer in the headlights where we both just kind of locked eyes and froze for a second. How did the interaction go? Well, I didn't open up very well.

I started with, you know, hey, it's funny that a lot of your friends are getting snatched up and you're still single. Oh! Oh, that's a race. You said that to her? I don't know know I think she may like it yeah I tried to stop it as it was coming out but it didn't work what did you say back well she said something like well there you have it

that's why I didn't want another date with you well the sparks are just flying between you two right now the romance is right girls love being a little bit of mean so you did get a date how did you pivot well it wasn't really a date officially it was like we were hanging out at the bachelorette party while I was on break and then we were hanging out in this garden area we actually kind of made out a little bit. Wait, what? Did you not have to work? Yes. It's his own business, Alexis. He makes his own rules.

I'd like to have the bar closed halfway through the park. Just open 20 beers and leave them on the counter. Yeah. You got a make out. What? I did. I got a make out. Okay, of course she did because she'd been drinking and you pointed out how lonely she

is, so she felt the need to prove you wrong is so was it like super drunk make out or did you guys actually connect yeah go into the details for Brooke how much time I wouldn't I wouldn't interpret a drunk make out as she's someone's interested in me that's true she could especially to any wedding scenario and after they've turned me down. I beg to differ. I think she was definitely interested. What gave you those vibes? Probably the makeout.

Yeah, I mean, it just seemed like there were sparks flying because she didn't pull back. She seemed to be into it and I was certainly into it. Okay. But now you're here. Yeah So you're saying that she's not responding to you after your second Bachelorette Party makeout Correct. We're back at the square one Dude, I am just dying to talk to her cuz she is gonna be like what you are calling at me again She's gonna know yeah, she's gonna be like what you are calling me again. She's gonna know yeah, she's gonna know

That's what's funny. That's what makes this an actual first we have two of the exact same people That are being called on the second date update and hoping that the second time goes better than the first What do we do just go okay? Remember last time have you reconsidered? Yeah? Could you answer differently? Yeah, okay? Bye could you answer differently? What's the strategy here? I want to we should get her to talk about this last date and what her impression was right? Yeah, I mean, we'll just see if she even answers because she has our number two from the last time that we call Yeah, I don't even save it We're gonna find out we're going for the very first time a second

date update redo. Is this gonna work out? It's coming up we'll make that call right after this. Second date update. The great Yogi Berra once said I'm getting deja vu all over again and I think that's what I'm feeling right now Yogi bear oh, that's a car Like yeah baseball players are so embarrassing to work with The thing is I'm having that deja vu feeling cuz we we're having the exact same two second daters back on again. So you think the title of this would be third date update, but not according to our listeners, Zach.

I thought we could call it Groundhog's Day. Oh, Yogi Berra. Maybe. Go straight for the die. No one's going to understand that. If you remember Zach, he's a mobile bartender who met a woman named Bethany at a joint bachelor Bachelorette party he was working. Bethany said no to us the first time that we called her. Yeah, I mean very clearly.

But fast forward months later, they meet again at a different Bachelorette party and making out and now she's not texting him back. Okay, there's no date in any of this story. Let's remember that. Making out is pretty close. No, God no. Do you know how many dudes I've made out with that I didn't even know their names?

It's interesting the things that you choose to brag about. I know, I know. I'm not bragging, I'm just saying. That's not real life what you're saying. I wonder how Bethany is gonna feel when we call her and if she answers, she hears our voices again. Like Zach, doesn't this feel weird to you at all? You seem so calm.

Ah, a little bit. I mean, come on, things happen for a reason. And the fact that we ran into each other again just kind of sparked it for me. Like, you know, maybe there is something here, maybe fate stepping in. No, that's nice. I think that's a good way to interpret it and if not you're a chill guy like and brooke makes out with chill guys all the time without knowing their names tight

guy whatever guy I mean I'm married now so I can't but well before he's also a chill guy though we'll see let's just call her we'll see if she picks up here we go. Hello? Hi. Is this Bethany? This is so awkward for us. Hi friend! Bethany, um, remember us?

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Welcome back to the show Bethany. I know no We've done this I'm good no Bethany you you have no idea what we're even calling about You know, I do don't make me do this again I hear you. I really want to respect your wishes, but we have a job to do on this show We're just like a certain strapping hunk of a man who was doing his job serving you drinks recently You know that I've been trying to forget yes Was way smoother than the first guys it was a mistake Way smoother than the first. No, no, guys, it was a mistake. It was a huge mistake.

Wait, are you talking about when the make-out session was a mistake? Yeah, obviously. Are you sure? Because it is interesting that the two of you keep randomly running into each other when you're at your most vulnerable, Bethany. Yeah, all of my friends keep getting married

and apparently only know one bartender. Yeah. Were you shocked? What were you thinking the first moment you saw Zach? That I need to talk to the maid of honor at the next party I'm going to? And then something doesn't happen again? Come on. Who are you booking for the bar?

Wasn't there just a little bit of you that was excited to see him? I mean, I guess a little bit because I did end up making out with him. But it was like the tiniest, I mean, the tiniest, the tiniest. OK, well, we want to talk to that teeny tiny little part of you. Yeah, get her on the phone. And reintroduce that tiny part of you to Zach, who you know is already listening and desperately wants to talk to you Oh my god. I forgot that was how it works

Zack you there What are you doing I told you that that was a one-time mistake That part I just remember saying it was a mistake I mean honestly, I made out with a lot of guys that night So I wouldn't say that it was like that. I was probably the last guy you made out with so, you know I must be the ringer. That's the part of the lineup you want to be in. I'm thinking you were kind and to me you trusted me to call you an uber where you didn't trust anyone else to call one for you. Because you were the one serving all of us drink.

Everyone else was drinking. I mean Bethany what we were just talking about before we called you is Stuff like fate and destiny things happen for a reason I would think that you keep running into each other. There's a tiny bit of you. That's obviously attracted to him Why not go on one real date just to give it a shot? What's the worst that could happen? I mean, it's actually you've already drunkenly made out with him. I mean, I mean, actually did that twice, but there is a big difference between drunkenly making out with somebody and then dating the bar.

Dating is it one day. We're just asking for one date. That's it. One chance. One moment. Come on. You know he's a good kisser. Oh yeah, good point.

We didn't ask her that. I mean, Zach, you're the one who has been calling us all these times wanting to connect with her. I'll give you 20 seconds here to say your piece, convince Bethany to meet up with you one more time. Okay, you know what? If dating a successful mobile bartender isn't really a dream come true for you, I do have bigger goals than that. Oh. Oh.

I also wanna integrate mobile karaoke with it as well. That's a win. That's actually a smart plan, Zach. I love that. I love that. It's much better than the sober karaoke mobile DJ. Yeah. Right. You can come get your confidence from me and then go ahead and sing your song right after.

Dude, all you need is a bed situation and you kind of have a mobile home at this point. Yeah. Is that a selling point for you Bethany? I'm not really sure. One thing you probably don't know about me is that you know, I was basically raised in a trailer and for my ninth birthday I got a microphone in a boombox and I used it.

I kind of have a natural sound in my voice as well. I wouldn't be surprised if it wooed you just hearing it. Oh really? Woo us! I want a woo. Wait, your singing voice is really good? Are we going to hear a serenade? Yeah! Get to wooing, bro. is really good? Are we gonna hear a serenade?

Yeah! Get to wooing, bro! Oh wow! Alright. Go for it! We've lost that lovin' feeling! Oh! Whoa, that lovin' feeling! Alright, okay!

Yay! Beautiful! He sounds so fun! Go on one date, come on! Yeah! And we'll pay for it, remember, Bethany. If you say yes on one date. Come on. We'll pay for it. Remember Bethany, if you say yes, the date's on us. Come on, do it for the plot. I can't. I'm not saying that like I never want to see you again, but I am going to ask if you are bartending at a bachelorette party for a girl named Sienna next month,

because if you are, I'm going to have to change my RSVP. Oh. Oh. Come on, do it for Sienna. He's a romantic at heart, what a guy. I am, and a book solid, so there's a good chance you'll see me there. A book solid.

Yeah. Zach, you're her kryptonite. Every time that she's around you, she goes weak. Oh, I mean, I don't know if it's him or the mojito, but... It may serve a strong drink. It's the perfect combo. It's all leading

you towards Zach. So it might be a no from you now, Bethany, but it could be possible next month at Sienna's bachelorette party. Third make out, Zach. I'd say third time on this show, call back. It's gonna be like 50 first dates all over again. Finally, the sixth time she goes, I'll go out with him again.

We will call you 100 times until you agree to. She's crying, I think she's laughing. Stop crying, right? Well, I think fate will lend a hand and do its thing and I've got a good feeling we'll see each other next month Get your uber app open Bethany he's gonna dial it for you Jeffrey in the morning So yeah when it comes to Bethany and Zack we are oh for two I really thought we were gonna get her right there

I thought she was like, okay, I'll give him a chance She's coming around she's admitted. Yeah, he's pretty good kisser. Yeah when I'm drunk, I guess but we're gonna get her third time That's the thing over to is not three strikes. You're out Zack is still in this game for a couple more swings I think we're done. No Brooke I was so proud of you during this segment I really thought in part one you were not very on board was that trying again after the rejection I think you called him sad and desperate, but by Something like that, but by the end you were really on board with Zach pulling for him I think he's a sweet guy. I do. I just think that- Just stop there. OK.

You know, I don't need to say anymore. Brooke, you are my MVP of today's phone call. Even if it did end in total utter failure, you can take the MVP on this one. OK, I guess you're welcome. Good work, Brooke. And remember, Brooke can be the MVP for you if you email the show.

We'll call that person who's not calling you back. No matter how many times you've run out to them and they've said no. I'd like to say after twice, we're just going to call it. No. Yeah. No negative attitudes here. And you won't find any negative attitudes on our podcast either. You'll find them wherever you get yours at Broken Jeffrey. Are you hungry? Colleen Witt here and Eating While Broke is back for season four every

Thursday on the Black Effect Podcast Network. This season, we've got a legendary lineup serving up broke dishes and even better stories. On the menu, we have Tony Baker, Nick Cannon, Melissa Ford, October London, and Carrie Harper Howie turning Big Macs into big moves. Catch Eating While Broke every Thursday on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, wherever you get your favorite shows. Come hungry for season four.

Dressing, dressing. Oh, French dressing. Exactly. Ha ha, oh, that's good. I'm AJ Jacobs and my current obsession is puzzles. And that has given birth to my podcast, The Puzzler. Something about Mary Poppins? Exactly.

This is fun. You can get your daily puzzle nuggets delivered straight to your ears. Listen to The Puzzler every day on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to My Legacy. I'm Martin Luther King III, and together with my wife, Andrea Waters King and our dear friends, Mark and Craig Kilburger, we explore the personal journeys that shape extraordinary lives.

Join us for heartfelt conversations with remarkable guests like David Oyelowo, Mel Robbins, Martin Sheen, Dr. Sanjay Gupta, and Billy Porter. Listen to My Legacy on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, wherever you get your podcasts. This is My Legacy. Hey y'all, it's your girl, Cheekies, and I'm back with a brand new season of your favorite podcast, Cheekies and Chill. I'll be sharing even more personal stories with you guys, and as always, you'll get my exclusive take on topics like love, personal growth, health, family ties, and more.

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