Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: I've Dated My Date Before

Episode Date: May 3, 2024

One of our listeners had the SHOCK OF A LIFETIME after being set up on a blind date by her friend. As soon as she showed up she knew something was very wrong… Hear her story in the Second Date podcast!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smashed it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Second date update. If someone sets you up on a blind date, what are the worst possible case scenarios that could come of it? Like in the first five minutes, they ask for a job interview at your company. Oh, I don't know. You would like that.

I mean, I thought of worse things in my head than that. I can't even get you an interview. Like driving the getaway car and they do the bank heist? I mean, how hot are they? Let's say they were really hot. I mean, I'm a good fast driver. Exciting. Or maybe you realize halfway through dinner, your date is just three children standing on top of each other in a trench coat.

It happens more than you think. Hey, you guys want to go play Fortnite? This is kind of cool. Best case scenario for Jose. But one of our listeners, Janelle, said she had the worst possible thing happen after she was set up on a date by her friend. And it's letter to us today. Wait, Janelle, worse than the three children stacked on top of each other?

It's so much worse than that. Oh, wow. Four children. Five toddlers. Baby duty. Okay, we're going to stop. We're laughing at your pain. Yeah, let's stop guessing.

Why don't you tell us a story? You said a friend set you up on a blind date. Yeah, so one of my friends at work, she was at happy hour, and there's this cute guy that she's seen there, and she wanted me to hang out. Like a waiter at the happy hour place? Is that what you're saying? No, he hangs out there. Oh, okay. For Brooke, her biggest fantasy is, like, making away with one of the staff with the help.

Fantasy or reality, Jeff? Well, yeah, that's true. Okay, who was she trying to set you up with? Well, this guy named David She's like, he's a real cutie So why don't you come up here and just try your hand Okay This is like a spontaneous date that she set up

While she was out somewhere already Yeah, so I get up there And well, I got cute, of course And we get there and it's not busy at all So once I walk inside the door I immediately lock eyes with, it's got to be David. And guess what? What?

I know David already because he has experimented three years ago, okay? No. It didn't work out. What a small world. So she knows your type because it is your type because you've dated him before. Yes. Oh, no. Is that good or bad awkward because he

kind of just disappeared on me three years ago he texted me like and just you know did my walking papers via text oh he ditched you over text it was goodbye we're done yeah at least he messaged you a lot of guys wouldn't even have the day to do that. I love how that's still a positive. Are you kidding me? It was a full ghosting. How long did you guys hang out for three years ago? Just for a few months.

It wasn't long at all. But just kind of bye, you know? Wow. Oh, my God. So how did your friends find out that this was your ex? Well, I just kind of blurted it out. I was like, uh, I dated him before. Oh, my God.

What did they say? Everybody was just embarrassed for me. And well, David was he kind of pulled me to the side and he's apologetic. He said he wanted to explain to me the reason. But I didn't want an explanation. Oh, about why he kind of ghosted you before. Maybe there was a good explanation. What was it?

Well, he kind of just let me know that he wasn't ready for what I was looking for at that time. He was busy studying to be a doctor to save babies' lives. That's usually not the excuse. You think it was probably it. You think it was something worse than that?

No, yeah, I think he had other ideas of what he wanted to do with his time or who. Probably didn't want to get tied down. Most men don't lie about that stuff, but okay, I can say so. Did he do the thing where he comes crawling back because now he's seeing that there isn't anything better in the dating world?

I can't say that, but what I can say is after a few drinks, we talked about making out. I mean, who brought that up? I did. He was kind of one of my best make out partners. Oh, yeah. Okay. So you were totally disappointed that it was David when you showed up to the bar.

You could make out, though. But you've gone from, like, I cannot believe I got set up with this horrible ex of mine to talking about you're the best makeout I've ever had. To then calling us to call him again. Isn't it funny how life is? Oh, my God. So what happened that night?

Yeah, how did it end? Oh, yeah. Well, guys, I'm going to shock you with this one. We made out. Oh, yay! You don't say. With the best kisser ever. Come on.

You went back to his place. No, no, no. Oh, good. He sent me home in an Uber. Like, I was on cloud nine. For a gentleman. Oh, okay. Did you want the Uber, or was he like, see ya?

No, we're good. The way you said it. She's getting in. Wait, I thought this was your car. Stop asking to make out with me and go home. That's a good point, Alexis. It's like we're saying congrats. Did you want to leave with him or no?

Of course I wanted to leave with him. Okay. But he was trying to be responsible about it. It ended the way it should. Did you really think at the end of the night you would hear from him again? I was hoping. You were after all this. Some people grow.

Have you tried to contact him after that night happened? Yeah. You have. How many times and at what time a day? History repeats itself. Apparently, I didn't learn my lesson.

Because he's not responding again. We're back to this stage. And why do you think us calling him is going to make a difference? Because we're not her, bro. At least he'll be honest. Like, I learned something from this. You're still willing to give this guy a chance after he ditched you not once, but twice. Or this will end

the cycle. This will be it. It's not that toxic. Don't trust the Gen Zer on what's toxic and not in a relationship. I don't know about Gen Zer, but don't trust Alexis. She just texted four boys before we started this. We're going to do this for you, Janelle.

We're going to call David, who's technically one of your for you, Janelle. We're going to call David, who's technically one of your exes, and see if he's willing to give it another shot with you. I hope he remembers you. All right. It's happening. We're doing it with our

Second Date Update right after this. Hold on. Second Date Update. If you're just joining us, this is definitely an unusual one for Second date. Yeah.

Because we're kind of reaching out to Janelle's ex-boyfriend, David. I don't think there's a kind of about it. Yeah. It's the return of the Dave. Because they dated three years ago when he suddenly ditched her over text message. Yikes. So fast forward to today at a random happy hour, they accidentally got set up on a blind date,

which, of course, was very awkward when it first started. But after an apology and a lot of drinks, they were in a much better place. Yes. Even ended up making out again that night. Which, I mean, your ex is at a bar. Who isn't going to make out with them? It's how you say hi. Yeah.

But now Dave is being shady say hi. Now, Dave is being shady once again. Ah, shocking. So we need to call him and figure out once and for all what's going on. Brooke, what are your thoughts on this situation? I just think you know already what's going on, but I get it.

It's the chase. It's the chase. It's why doesn't he want you? That is totally understandable. You're right, Brooke. I'll never know unless I ask. How about that? Oh, I mean. Okay.

We know, though. The two times that he told you no. That's a hint. The thing is, she wants an answer that he hasn't given her yet. Right? He wants it yet. Oh, okay. Okay.

Maybe a radio show calling will help give him some clarity and realize that you're the one for him. The one? Exactly. Okay. You still think there's something there. You're hoping he grew up. Okay.

Yeah. The dating world has really messed you up, hasn't it? I told you, this doesn't sound that bad. All right. Well, you know what? There's some optimism in the room. Let's give David a call. See if he answers. I'm dialing the number right now.

Hello? Hey, we're looking to talk to David. Yeah, this is him. Hey, David. Brace yourself because you're on the radio right now. Hey, David. Yo. Welcome to the show. What? the radio right now. Hey, David. Hey. Yo.

Welcome to the show. What? Is this allowed? Allowed? It's actually required. It's part of our show. As long as I tell you that you're on the radio, then it's legal. Yeah.

Isn't that funny? Oh. It's very easy. Yeah. Okay. What's up? Yeah. Don't worry.

We'll beep stuff if you swear. This is a segment that we do called a second date update, where we try to help one of our listeners reconnect with somebody that they had like a romantic spark with. Okay. Okay. And this is a woman that you actually have a lot of history with, but you met up with her again recently at a happy hour named Janelle. Oh, what does she want?

Oh, so that was like a what does she want? Oh. So that was like a what does she want? I'm so excited. I mean, the short answer is like what she wants is to see you again. Oh, no. Yeah, I don't know about that. Oh. Were you excited to see Janelle when she walked into the bar?

No, that was super awkward. Oh. Okay. Hold on, hold on. In her defense, she was like, oh, No, that was super awkward. Oh. Wait, hold on, hold on. In her defense, she was like, oh, no, I've dated him. And it was like, it was awkward for her, too. Yeah. That's true. It was awkward for the people in the room, too,

when they all found out that you guys had been together before. Yeah. So. Yeah. Okay. I mean, totally understandable. But Janelle said that after you guys hung out for a little bit, after you had a few drinks, things seemed to to settle in more and you even apologized to her oh yeah i

mean like i don't like that i semi-ghosted her it's not like who i am you know i don't mean to do that it's kind of what you're doing again because well he doesn't like that he's doing it it just doesn't make him feel good, but he will do it. Yeah. I mean, like, look, I know I told her I had grown, but, like, I don't want to date. Wait. You don't want to date or you don't want to date her? Just in general, honestly.

Oh, okay. I mean, I know she wants to, like, settle down and have kids and, like, we talked about that. But I don't want to do that. I that but i don't i don't want to do that i don't i want to be single i don't want to disappoint her or anything i think that is like such a hard thing for women to accept and i don't like i think that you're totally valid for saying that but like so many times women can be like well but if you do it with me yeah i can see us having plans on a friday night and then a buddy calls me up and is like, hey, you want to go hang out?

And honest to God, I would ditch her. It's an unfortunate circumstance. It's like, I won't make her a priority. It's funny because it's mature that you know that and you can like say that. Right, but it's not mature that the priority doesn't happen yet. But that's okay. Yeah, I don't care. Whatever judgment call you want to put on it, it's who I am and I admit it. sure that the priority your actions aren't yeah that's okay yeah i don't care like whatever

judgment call you want to put on it it's who i am and i admit it yeah there we go own it brother yep when somebody says who they are you got to believe them absolutely yeah at least you're saying it some people just ghost well like he was doing he was i mean i was going to text i was going to text him but honestly you in that classic text you love that thing i'm sorry to text her, but honestly... You and that classic text. You love that thing. I'm sorry to ruin your plans to text her and ditch her, but we need to tell you she's actually on the phone right now. She's haunting. Wanting to talk to you. Hi, David.

Oh, coming in positive. Different energy than I thought. Hi. You sound so insane. How are you? What? Hi. Janelle, you heard what he was saying, right?

Yeah. I mean, but what could be so bad, David? Like, wait, wait. Are you not listening to him? I mean, if you wanted to hang out with your friends while we were hanging out, all you had to do is say, so you can do that. Oh, God. Oh, my God. Seriously? Like, you don't mean that right yes it would be no issue no this is like i'm a cool girl walk all over me like don't do that oh i'm trying to be

understanding yeah you have to be understanding with someone who will make you also a priority yes thank you who respects you i mean you want to be understanding understand that Yeah, but you have to be understanding with someone who will make you also a priority. Yes, thank you. Who respects you. I mean, you want to be understanding? Understand that, like, I don't want this. What exactly don't you want? The more we say no, guys,

the more they like. It's crazy. I don't know. You want to be in a serious relationship and I'm looking for a very much more casual thing. I don't think you get it. I have a lot of casual clothes.

I can put on casual gear. I can go on all the casual things. Dude, that's a good spin. That's a good spin. Yeah, I like that. Okay, well, I don't know if you like who I am. I really don't. You're an awesome person.

What is there not to like about you? I don't want to do that to her. I don't want to, like, I bite my toenails and I eat them, all right? Ew. Ew. What? You eat your toenails? I eat my toenails and I put the big ones.

I keep the big ones in a little box. Oh, God. But the flexibility it takes to be able to do that. That's interesting. We'll just work on healthier coping mechanisms. Like, that's all. Huh. He's trying to get rid of her, guys.

There's so many other things that you can chew on. Yeah. I will say. I feel like he's politely as possible trying to steer you away from a bad situation. Not even that polite. But I will say to her credit, I don't know, when we talked to her, she didn't say she wanted a big relationship with you. That's true. She literally said, I just want a couple more dates.

She wants to hang out, bro. Just hanging out. Yeah, no, I just want a couple more dates. She wants to hang out, bro. Hanging out. I'm not going to have a toenail eating baby or anything with you. I don't think you get me. I'm super lazy, okay? I pee in the backyard instead of going upstairs to go pee in the bathroom. I'm that kind of lazy. There's nothing wrong with that. Janelle, pick up your self-respect. It's on the floor. I'm not a quitter. There's nothing wrong with that. What? Oh, my God. Janelle, pick up your self-respect. It's on the floor. I'm not a quitter.

I am not a quitter. Not a quitter. Don't ask it then, Jeffrey. Do it, Jeff. Janelle is still into this after the toe-biting and the backyard defecating. We'd love to send you guys on another date that we would pay for. And he'll probably ditch you halfway through for his friends. I know the answer is yes from Janelle already, so we need to get an answer from you, David.

Would you be willing to see her one more time? No! Bro! You know, you're great. Seriously, you're great. It's not you, but it's me. I just don't want this. That's the worst.

That's classic. Well, Janelle, I'm sorry, but it looks like we're not going to be able to set you up again with your ex-boyfriend. That is the universal sound effect. That's the title of Janelle's entire dating life. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Oh, man. I had a lot of hope going into this.

Did you? I mean, before we even called him, I didn't have hope. What? Rekindling an old relationship worked for J-Lo and Ben Affleck? Did it, though? Like, what, the fourth time? I'm sure they look absolutely miserable whenever they're around each other, and both of their careers are tanking at an astronomical rate.

Yes. Together they're tanking. But they filmed a Dunkin' Donuts commercial together, Brooke. Yes. Which we love. It is literally the only good thing that happened. And that was mostly because Matt Damon was there. I was just going to say that.

Well, they could have had their Matt Damon Dunkin' Donuts commercial moment. Unfortunately, someone wasn't willing to give it a chance. Wow. What a stickler he is for his own ideals. So you lost me in the analogy. So she needs to date Matt Damon? Yeah, sure. We'll go with that.

I think that's a good thing. We should reach out to him next. And we can reach out to anybody that you want us to. You just have to call us, and we'll call that person not calling you back. And go check out all of our second dates wherever you get your podcasts at Brooke and Jeffrey. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble.

More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year. And find them on Bumble.

Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition on the iHeartRadio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Emi Olea, host of the podcast Crumbs. For years, I had to rely on other people to tell me my story. And what I heard wasn't good. You really f***ed last night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smash it against the walls.

And then, I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.