Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Long Distance Love

Episode Date: February 15, 2023

After a crazy, whirlwind weekend with a girl who lives across the country, one of our listeners thinks REAL LOVE is out there and wants a Second Date to prove it!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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to help you feed the best part of yourself. No hype, no fluff, just wisdom that works. Listen to The One You Feed on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. When you match with someone online and it's going really well, you feel like, you know, it's clicking. There's chemistry here. I miss that feeling. You start talking on the phone with them.

Maybe you learn each other's birthdays, your safe words, your previous felonies. Okay. We're learning a lot. It's really personal. You start to have all these expectations building up, and you wonder could this be the one? I'll tell

you this. I don't know a lot about the story here but I do know Robert, our caller, was feeling that and it may have caused him to say something that he now regrets. Was it banana? Is that what they chose? Is that what he said? I don't know. Let's find out. Robert, what was your safe word? Is it Jumanji?

Ooh, Jumanji's a good one. Ugh. You know how to answer. I'm sorry, Robert. I'm sorry. If this gets too weird, we'll shout Jumanji, but welcome to the show, man. Thanks.

Sounds like you were catching feelings pretty hard for this girl that you met. What's her name? Yeah, her name was Grace. Grace. Okay. Tell us about Grace. So we met online. So like with the online dating stuff, and I was recently single.

I've been single like maybe a year. Okay. So I got back out there, but on I guess the real dating sites, like not the little ones. What does that mean? Well, just like the actual websites, not the application. Oh, okay. You're not on an app. I didn't even know you could go on websites.

Yeah, yeah. It's like chemistry.com, match.com. Yeah, things like that. Right, right, right, right. And you can get like ultra specific about the things that you like, dislike, et cetera. Okay. And you could set your distance parameters

to be close by or you can... Right. Guide us through all the different settings that are available on this dating app. I bet he works in IT. I bet that's what it is. Just really blown away. No, that's great.

I really wanted someone that had a convertible. What? Wow. Very specific taste. Wait, are you being serious or sarcastic? He's a funny guy, too. We like you, Robert. I mean, I guess.

You're more than two miles of me. I guess what you're saying is Grace checked all your boxes, right? Exactly. Nice. So we met, and she lives across the country. And so we started kind of. That makes it hard. Oh, man, that's not a box.

You didn't put distance as a box there? I'm a romantic, and I love the sleepless in Seattle. Aw. Okay, I forget. Honestly, I forget the premise of that. the sleepless in Seattle. Oh. Okay. I forget. Honestly, I forget the premise of that. Hence the radio show call. Okay.

Oh, is that? There's a radio show. You ran out of options locally and had to expand your net broader, I guess. Yeah, yeah. So we met and we started talking, you know, on the app and then we exchanged phone numbers. All right. This all sounds really really nice but let's fast forward to like did you guys ever actually meet up and go on a date

yes okay wait in person in person okay oh my god that's a cross-country day dang did you who flew where she flew me and it was great like she had flowers for me at the airport, believe it or not. She brought flowers for you? I wonder what that's like, getting flowers. That's cute. Wow. Yeah. Were you so nervous?

Because this is a whole weekend you're going to spend, I assume, with this person, right? Oh, of course. I mean, I haven't done anything like this in a very—I've never done anything like this, actually. Wow. How did that go? Was it— Oh, yeah, it was great. It was awesome.

And we got some awesome meals. We walked a lot, obviously. And we learned about each other's families. And, you know, it was extremely romantic. Oh, my gosh. I'm happy for you. Did you guys share a bedroom all weekend? That is an inappropriate question.

I want to know the answer. You don't have to answer that. Of course we did. Okay. It's not in the course. I mean, so she felt comfortable enough with that. Right, exactly. Okay. So, I mean, gosh, that is like whirlwind romance type of situation.

What was it like, like the last day? I mean, to be honest with you, it ended on like a pretty perfect note. Like we said goodbye at the airport. We, believe it or not, exchanged I love yous. What? Okay, Jumanji. I'm calling Jumanji. It's way too early, I think, for the L-bomb.

No, walk us through that moment. I mean, at least both of you said it, right? Yeah, she said it back to me. I mean, like, it was involuntary. Okay. So you said it first, it sounds like. Yeah, it was like I did not have control. Okay.

Oh, my gosh. And now, so then she flew back to her hometown on her plane. How long has it been since that happened? It has been about a week. Okay. Okay. A week. And wait.

And, like, what's going on in your relationship? Are you still talking? I asked her when she got home if she got home safe. Okay. Okay. A week. And wait. And like, what's going on in your relationship? Are you still talking? I asked her when she got home and she got home safe. Yeah. And she said, and her response, I'm reading it again to you right now, is home safe, dot, dot, dot, not interested anymore. Oh. What?

Wait, in like a couple hours time, you went from I love you kissing to not interested. And I was like, what? Are you joking? And then literally no response. This is OK. This is your problem. You should not let her get on the plane. Every movie will tell you.

The second you say I love you, it's like, no, you live here now. Why didn't you run out on the tarmac? Oh, my God. That is heartbreaking. I'm sorry. Oh, God. Is there anything that you think out on the tarmac? Oh, my God. That is heartbreaking. Man, I'm sorry. Oh, God. Is there anything that you think you might have done wrong? I don't know.

I don't claim to be a perfect human. Right. No, it's not. Yeah, like, I was just going with my gut. And so that's what I did. And if I had done something, I would expect her to be honest with me about it. I mean, it might not even be something that you did. It might be on her.

Maybe she has another guy in her hometown. That's what I was thinking. Maybe she met a guy on the plane. And they're like, immediately, I love you now. Yeah. She just says it to whoever. Super clingy. I do what we do when I talk to all my friends

and they're like, maybe this is just a blessing, dude. You dodged a bullet. Maybe she's not. That's true. What's the bullet, though? You loved her, and now you, like. You know what? I mean, like, I said, I've been single for a year.

I've been, like, doing the work on myself. Aw, that's sweet. But here's the thing. Like, you take risks, and you never know what's going to happen, you know? Hey, do you know what? We're going to get to pay off right now. We're going to take to pay off right now. We're going to take a risk and call her on the phone in a few minutes here.

And we'll see if she answers and hopefully get some answers out of her when we do your second date update. Let's do a quick recap on one of the more romantic stories that we've actually had on our show in a while. I am so excited for this phone call. Because Robert met a woman named Grace long distance over a website. They connected, had chemistry. And the other weekend, she flew out to come meet him. IRL.

Yes. And normally when these things happen, you'd think the meetup couldn't possibly match the idea in your mind about how it's gonna go right robert said it absolutely did and more yeah it surpassed the build-up which is crazy he even said i love you when he dropped grace off at the airport and she said it back to him yeah which is very important to the story but it got weird from there because since then he's only gotten one text from her saying home safe, not interested anymore. Like right when you land, jeez. I mean, I've had bad flights

before, but that must have been a really terrible, terrible flight. The turbulence in between us is awful. There's no way this will work. It could be that she just got scared, Robert. I mean, like, you're in this love and then you fly all the way, and you're like, what am I doing? Like, when am I going to see them again?

Yeah, exactly. All I'm going to end up doing is breaking my own heart. I can't do it, you know? Like, do you think that could be it? My mind's racing right now. I have literally no idea. Okay, well, hopefully we can give you a little bit of peace of mind. I'm praying more than any call that we've ever done before that she actually picks up and tells us some things.

Well, we can call back if she doesn't. I'm setting a one call limit to this. If she doesn't answer, I'm giving up forever. No, Jeffrey, don't give up on love, buddy. That's how love works. One chance. Okay, here we go. For some people.

I hope she answers. Let's call Grace. Hello? Hi, is this Grace? Yes. Oh, my God. Grace, my name is Jeff from Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. You're on a radio show right now.

And we're really excited to talk to you. Wow. Thanks for answering. I'm sorry. Wait, what? What's going on? Grace, today is going to be a day that you will remember for the rest of your life. And the question is, is it going to be a happy memory or a sad memory? That really depends on what you say next year.

No pressure or anything. Sorry about him. It's just a regular day in your normal life. Why are you calling me? I don't get it. We're doing a segment called A Second Date Update, and we're trying

to help one of our listeners get back in touch with you after you met up with him the other weekend. Who are you talking about? Oh, you know, you were just about to say it. Uh-oh. Does she know? I'll spell it out for you.

R. Yeah. O. Okay. Do you want me to keep going? No, that's okay. I've already been in contact with him. You what?

I've been in contact with him. So this is all good. What do you mean? With Robert? Yeah. I texted him and told him I'm not interested anymore. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. He got that text. We heard about that, but he's a little bit confused about why.

He felt like that came out of the blue. I mean, it literally happened. I mean, you texted that hours after you had just said I love you. Uh-huh. You could understand why he would be a little confused. Okay, let me say this. Since you seem to know the whole story, when he dropped me off at the airport, it was completely in my consciousness that we were probably going to have a long-term relationship,

like possibly leading to marriage. Like, Oh my God. Oh my God. So you were feeling the exact same way he was at the airport. Yes, I was. I was. So wait, what, what changed between saying goodbye to him at the airport and you sending him the text saying you're not interested? Well, I'll tell you what changed so my flight ended up getting delayed so i'm in the airport for a couple hours waiting for us to board okay

then i'm getting a phone call and it's him it's robert calling me and i'm thinking well why is he calling me because as far as knows, I'm in the air right now. Oh, weird. He didn't say that he called you. He just said that he got that text message from you where he texted you. So I pick it up, and it was obviously a butt dial. Oh. Okay.

So he's just, like, driving home from the airport or something. I mean, that happens. What did you hear? I heard him talking to a woman that obviously was not his mom, not his sister, somebody that he knows maybe in a romantic way. What? Because that's how I could tell that that's how he was talking to her. And it was very upsetting to me because we just said, I love you. There has to be an explanation for this.

Maybe he was watching a romantic comedy and that's what you heard in the background. You thought it was. He's talking to the TV, bro. Come on. There has to be something else going on here. Oh, I just, oh. And oh my God, we're getting a butt dial to the radio station right now.

Let's see who's there. Oh my God, it's Robert. No, sorry, Grace. Hello, my God. It's Robert. No. Sorry, Grace. Hello? I'm here. I told you. I don't need this. Sorry.

Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. Grace, I'm sorry. I know this is really uncomfortable, but we need to get some answers here just so that everybody gets a little bit of peace of mind. Robert, do you know what was going on with the butt dial? Yes. Yeah, you were cheating. Okay. you know what was going on with the butt dial? Yes. Yeah, you're cheating. That was what was going on. What was happening? I was ending things with a previous situation.

Shut up! Get out of here! No, that's a good thing. He was ending it. No! That means that he was cheating. You're cheating. No, I'm not. If you have a woman fly from across the country while you're still in a relationship with somebody else and haven't ended it, that is cheating. You're cheating. No, he's not. Yes, if you have a woman fly from across the country while you're still in a relationship with somebody else and haven't ended it, that is cheating.

It wasn't a relationship. It was a situation-ship. Oh, give me that. You had overlap between your husband when you met him and the previous relationship that you were in. No, I never overlapped the relationships, Jeffrey. Never. She was never official?

I met him while I was still seeing someone else, but then I broke up with that person and then started talking about it. That's what I'm talking about. See, he's breaking it up. No, you broke it up after the weekend. You should have broke it up before. Grace, you know, this is your chance to talk to Robert and set things straight once and for all.

We can get some answers, hopefully. What other answers does Grace need? What answers do you need, Grace? Just calm down, Brooke. This isn't your relationship relationship brooke were you the one dating robert yeah it makes me mad it makes me mad grace robert you know i'm really upset about this and knowing that there was somebody else you're involved it doesn't help it doesn't help but it's over and i'm here for you why did you wait why did you wait Robbie, you broke up with her? No, I'll text her right now. What?

Wait, you didn't do it? Dude, what a cheating. Oh, my God. Yuck. I thought the butt dial was you breaking up. Uh-uh. Well, that was me initiating the breakup. That was the pre-breakup to the breakup.

Why did you initiate the breakup before you got on the dating website where you met Grace? Because we never officially said that we were each other's boyfriend and girlfriend. It just kind of was like a thing. See what he did on the weekend. So if it was just a thing, then you don't need to even have a breakup relationship talk. Like, right? You just ghost them. You just ghost them.

Out of respect for the other lady's feelings, I just wanted a clean break. Okay. I think that's fair. There's nothing clean about this. This is so messy. Let's just get some clarity. And I'm willing to dive into this next thing with a full honest heart.

That's good. Now you got an honest heart. I see. Let's just get it out in the open. How many people do you currently love, Robert? Let him answer, actually. In all seriousness, I meant everything that I said. I apologize for what you heard, and if I can do anything to help us out,

you let me know. I'll fly there. I'll fly you here, and we can work it out. And if we can't, I understand where you're coming from. I'm not a bad guy. I had been single for a year. I don't know what I'm doing, but I do know that I do know how I feel. I mean, he sounds pretty sincere to me.

And look, sometimes you don't do Jeff. Turn off her microphone. We're done with this. Okay. Look, Grace, he sounds sincere. Even if he was in the relationship at the time when he met you. Sometimes you don't know who you really love until you meet, like, that one. What's a relationship?

Situationship. Different. Yes, exactly. According to him. He has gone to enormous, enormous lengths to reach you and tell you that he really wants to see you again. And if you're willing to give him another shot, we'll pay for that date. If anything, get in a room with him so he can bug his phone. You realize we live across the country from each other.

Yeah, we do. That's why we're going to pay for the cheapest airline available. Yeah. I don't, you know, honestly, I would just rather cut my losses. There you go, Grace. Set some boundaries.

It is so hard to find people out there, you might regret this. I know. A guy just said he loved you. Yeah. There you go, Grace. Set some boundaries. It is so hard to find people out there. You might regret this. I know. I'm just saying. A guy just said he loved you. Yeah. At the same time, he was telling another woman the same thing, Jeffrey. He was telling the other one, I don't love you.

No, he wasn't. It's different. He hasn't even fully broken up with that woman yet. All right. Well. I just did an over text. It's done. Okay. Okay.

Good. Now we can wipe the slate clean. Now that he's officially broken up, would you like to go out on another date with him? No, thank you. All right, text her back and say, back on again, Robert. You guys are dumb. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. The text board at 78592 is pretty split on what he did was considered cheating.

What? Yeah, it's very split. 78% said they think it is. 22% said maybe. I don't. So pretty even. 50-50 if you ask me. I'm going to give him.

It's not 50-50. Is that how it works for you? I feel like, yeah. I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt and say he wasn't. But those other 22% are also in a relationship while simultaneously on a dating website. I mean, come on. Dude, he needed to be honest from the beginning. If he was like talking, oh god, all of it.

If he was honest from the beginning, he never would have had her come out. It never would have happened. Because it's a problem. See? Hmm. Doesn't make sense to me. You know what the good thing that came out of that was? Is that we've never ever before had anybody break up with the other person that they were seeing via text mid-phone call. Oh, you believe that that text message went out? That's cute.

Brooke O'Fair told me. She's like, there's no way he really texted her. Yeah, no way, dude. I'm still going to believe that true love is possible. And if you want to believe in true love, then you can always find it by going onto our podcast and listening to a second date update whenever you want, wherever you get your podcasts at Brooke and Jeffrey. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

Ugh, we're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you.

Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show, and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition Podcast. Dive into John's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups,

this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. You don't need another podcast. You've got too many already. But if you're looking for one that actually changes something, a way to take control of the chaos and find meaning, well, then maybe the one you feed is for you. I'm Eric Zimmer, and I bring real conversations with real people to help you feed the best part of yourself. No hype, no fluff, just wisdom that works. Listen to The One You Feed on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.