Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Match, Mix and Repeat

Episode Date: January 20, 2023

The woman in today’s Second Date says the other patrons of the restaurant were giving her weird looks all night, all because of one thing she was compulsively doing. Did it cause the guy she was with to ditch her?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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or wherever you go to find your podcast. Lately, we've been asking people on this segment to pull up their apps and have them read off the other person's dating profile just to get an idea of who they are in a different kind of way. Right. Instead of us just asking boring questions like, who are they? Totally. And I don't know if my co-hosts really like that strategy or not. I do.

I didn't ask whether you did. I'm just saying I didn't know. Okay. But I'm curious what our audience thinks. So text in to 7592. Tell us, do you like us having them read stuff off of the dating bios? ask whether you did i'm just saying i didn't know but i'm curious what our audience thinks so text in to 7592 tell us do you like us having them read stuff off of the dating bios and today we have samantha on the line samantha are you cool if we did that with you because i know some people think of it as a little bit of an invasion of privacy i personally call it getting the juicy

deets i think it's the same thing yeah you down to spill some juice on the b and j yeah of course all right good pull up the guy's profile and uh tell us what's his name okay one second you can't do two things at once samantha his name is ian his name is ian okay oh ian okay and what app are we on can i ask that okay we're on hinge i got it okay now uh splash some fresh squeezed Ian juice on us. Tell us what's on his profile. No. That's a different app.

I'm just trying to get the juice. Yeah, that's not. Okay. I guess read what it says. Okay. So on his bio, his interests say comedy, hip hop, and pizza. Okay. Yep.

He likes to laugh and he likes pizza.'s a real rebel but at least it's not the opposite he's like i like not laughing and vegetables then it'd be more boring that's a good way to look at it what else is on there okay so later in his profile there's a prompt that says i get way too watcher and i can tell you it's a hoot i think oh no brooke's laughing on the inside i'm not wow i liked it what did you think of that did you did you like that he was into bird watching? I mean, I like animals, so I was like, all right, I guess we can do the birds. I wonder if he's like me and he knows how to spot a woodpecker or a red-bellied sapsucker. Bird jokes, they're always good.

I'm loving it. He's going to get all real fast. I'm his number one fan, Jen. Is that a joke? Yeah. Okay. Okay, whatever. Just move on.

What else does this guy write? What else does Ian say about himself okay so um under the worst date idea i've ever had he wrote getting bangs not good oh i thought it was funny i don't know i thought it was a verb and that would have been worse i heard yeah bang duh they went and got haircuts together okay so he's a guy with bangs that likes birds. Well, at least he admitted that was a bad idea. Yeah. So he's learned from that.

He's relatable. Does he still have bangs in his profile picture? No. Okay, that's good. Yeah, so we started messaging, and it was, I don't know, it was, like, really easy and natural with him. Oh, that's cool. It must be good pictures if you swipe to that.

What did you guys end up going to do for your date? We met up at a bar for some drinks. Okay. Nice. Yeah, I don't think a lot of people liked me there, though, because they kept playing Macklemore's surf shot, like, I'm going to pop some tags. Like on the jukebox?

Yeah, yeah. Okay, you know, that could just be a troll. I have a friend, they have Wi-Fi jukeboxes now. Yeah, yeah, right. He lives down the street from a bar, and he will troll the bar and play, like, Mbop or, like, other funny songs over and over. She was singing. It didn't sound like a troll to me.

Oh, yeah, no. I literally played it, like, ten times. Whoa. You did it on purpose. That's a good song, though. Not bad. It was. I mean, I love that song.

Like, Ian thought it was funny, and he liked the song, too. He thought it was i mean i love that song like ian thought it was funny and he liked the song too he thought it was funny 10 times that's literally 30 minutes of that song yeah everyone else thought it was really annoying and was staring but oh no was this a highlight for you or a low light it was a highlight because then he was really sweet and he was like well well, can you blame them for staring at you when you look this good? Oh, that's cute. Plus, sometimes it's nice to have

that us against the room mentality. Everyone here hates us. He's a little bit cheesy like pizza. I like that. Or like you right now. Is there a cheese bird? Did anything else happen? Was there some bird watching on this date?

No bird watching. See, that's why he's not coming back. Jeff, not even pigeons on the screen? There's always an opportunity. What else happened? I don't know. I paid him a compliment back, and I was like, you're the only guy I'm interested in online. Oh.

That's a big thing to say. That's a bold statement. How did he respond well he actually ended up kissing me while we were sitting at the bar oh my goodness what kind of kiss like open mouth kiss or a peck it was a passionate kiss i'm sure was it a passionate kiss yeah it was a good kiss okay this is all sounding really good. How did you guys end the evening?

So it started getting late and he offered to walk me home. Okay. He gave me a piggyback ride home and then kissed again at my door. Classic. Oh, and then you guys made out again at your door, you said? Yeah, it was cute. But we've been texting and trying to get a second date on the books. And nothing's really been working with my schedule.

And I was like, please don't think I'm blowing you off, because I'm definitely not. Oh, wait, so you're worried that he thinks you're blowing him off? It's not the other way around? I mean, it was like that originally, but then it went so long. And it took him, like, such a long time to respond, and he finally said a day later, like, yeah, sorry, I don't think it's going to work. Oh.

After you said, please, like, I'm not trying to blow you off, he still was like, never mind? Yeah. So I'm, like, really confused. Why would he say that? He's not answering me anymore. So that's why I reached out to you guys. This is, like, the telltale sign of, like, I got back with my ex or I met somebody else. Really?

There's nothing wrong. There's no red flags at all. See, I think that he thinks you're trying to blow him off even though you said it and he wants to get ahead of it he wants to be like i'm rejecting you you're not rejecting me i think he thought that was just a pity text maybe well let's see if he rejects us when we try and call him no guarantee he'll answer can't reject a a bird expert, Jeff. From bird to bird. We're going to do it with your second date update next. Hold on. Second date update.

Except for the 15 straight Macklemore songs, we heard maybe the best first date that we've heard on this show in a long time. And we normally don't get those. Where the guy piggybacks her home, kisses her on the doorstep and then for the next few days they both try to figure out how to hang out again and for whatever reason they just can't and it dissolves well and he even says like it's over i'm not even gonna pursue this anymore after trying for so long and you know what i call that the dating magic window because there's usually about 48 hours after your first date where you need to capitalize on that high feeling and see each other again or the spark goes away and things just kind of fizzle out.

She did say she kind of took a while at first, but then she clarified and said, hey, I'm really sorry. I've been super busy. I wasn't trying to ghost you or anything. So maybe that's what it comes down to. Maybe things just took too long and it fizzled. Is that what you're thinking, Samantha? I have no idea. I hope it's not that because I really like them. See, I think you should hope it is that because that is easy for us to fix. We can re-fizzle, unfizzle situation. Yeah, true. You're just getting together, Brooke. Let's just call Ian now.

Okay, I'm ready. Okay, here we go. Hello? Hey, is this Ian? It is. Hey, Ian. Just want to say one fellow bird watcher to another. How's it going, man?

Oh, I thought there was going to be like a bird. What? Like chirp of the morning to you. Okay. Bird call. It was a dove. What's going on? You're on the radio.

We're the way the Bird Watchers Association is. Yeah. Also, you're on the radio with Brooke and Jeffrey right now. What? Yeah. Hey. Not sure if you listen to us but uh number one bird show in the in the country that is a verifiable fact and we're also a show that does something called a

second date update you ever heard of that i i'm not familiar well uh you're about to be because you're on one now we're we're trying to help help out one of our listeners named Samantha, who you went out on a date with recently. Is that ringing a bell? That was like several weeks ago. Yeah. Right. And the thing is, your date is a little bit strange compared to most of the ones that we do because it actually sounded like a good time. you two were trying to set up another hangout but it sounds like maybe it took too long or samantha was too busy and the spark may have died off uh she said you guys were texting after your

date and that you were trying to plan something and then suddenly you were just like nah i'm done yeah i mean that's true but like she started sending like mixed messages and like online dating's pretty tough as it is so i'm not into playing games and so it's over what do you mean that she was sending mixed messages when you meet somebody you go out on a date it's cool and like i understand like not checking your profile and like actively like just sort of focusing on one person that's the way i am yeah okay she said she told you that she didn't want to date anybody else that she was going to focus on you oh right and then right after that you kissed her that's all true and at the time i like totally believed it

what happened to change yeah that thought right after the date things were good but like we spent like a few days texting back and forth trying to figure out when to hang out again. Yeah. And during that time, I told my friends I'd sent a couple of photos saying, I'm going out with this cute girl, Samantha, wish me luck. Oh, cute. Yeah, so you were that excited. Yeah, and they couldn't have been more excited for me. Dude, yeah. Yeah, and they were like, they couldn't have been, like, more excited for me. However, a couple days later, one of my good friends texted me, hey, what was that girl you went out with?

Is this her? Oh, no. Oh, no. What did they send you? What was the picture of? Well, it was on a different dating app. Okay. That she had matched with him and had reached out to him,

not knowing that he's my buddy. And her profile photo on Bumble is the photo of the outfit she was wearing the night we went out in front of the bar we were at. Oh, no. Did you take a picture of her that night? It must have been before our date because she was by herself, but it was clearly the bar we were at. That's her go-to. Oh, man, I'm sorry. So she must have looked before our date because she was by herself, but it was clearly the bar we were at. That's her go-to.

Oh, man, I'm sorry. So she must have looked really good that night if she had to take that picture and post it on her new dating profile. Maybe she came back after. You guys, like, benefit of the doubt, what if she just messaged your buddy after you had told her, no, I'm good, I'm going to move on? Remember, because she said it wasn't working. You guys couldn't link up on a date. She didn't say. She created a new profile picture from the night that they went out.

Well, she didn't say I'm your girlfriend. She's still interested in him. But she said you're the only guy I'm interested in. That's why you never say that to someone. Well, maybe that was true in that moment. That's totally fine. But don't say that like you're not interested yeah or that you're only interested in one person like do what you want okay so you

feel like you were being deceived by her and i understand that because kind of we've been deceiving you at the same time by not telling you samantha's on the other line what she's she's been listening and she's wearing that same outfit she's listening because i'm gonna you know like i said i don't what i told you i'll tell her go ahead why would you tell somebody that all you wanted to do was date this one person and that they were the only one for you and then that day start a new dating profile from the photo the night we were out. That's a lot. Samantha? Say hi.

There you go. All right. Now answer his 20 questions. Well, this is really awkward. Why did you say that to him? I mean, I really did like him. And we were talking. And I don't know.

I feel like when you're on those apps, you just keep your options open. But like he was the only one I was actively talking to like that and going on dates with an interesting. That's rich. You said something to his buddy. Yeah. Literally in the days we were texting back and forth that she then matches with my buddy and then tells him it's Bumble. She had to reach out to him, say, hey, let's go out. I mean, I could like, I'll send you the screenshot to their conversation.

No, we believe you. No, I want to see them. Maybe it was like a butt match or a butt text. She accidentally swiped and sent him a message. Is that what happened, Samantha? I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. I mean, to be fair, I wasn't having any serious conversation with him. It was very introductory, and I was trying to keep my options open very light.

I was not going deep with anyone. I wanted to go on a second date with him. Yeah, that makes sense. light. I was not going deep with anyone. I wanted to go on a second date with him. And her profile picture on Hinge is the profile picture you took on the dates with those other guys. Oh, come on. We're piling on Samantha. I can see she's caught up in the moment. She's really excited about

you. She says something that maybe isn't 100% true, right Samantha? But it's not like she's outright cheating on you, man. It's less of a red flag for me that you're dating around. People like to match for fun. That's a good point, especially when you're feeling a little bit down. You're feeling like you're rejected and the second date isn't happening.

You want that confidence boost with one of his close friends. And I didn't know it was his friend. Okay, let's not say that. That sounds bad. I didn't know I'd get caught. Okay, let's not say that. That sounds bad. I didn't know I'd get caught is what you mean by that, Samantha. Well, in the spirit of saying things that might not be 100% true, would you like to go out on another date? Wait.

I am not at all interested in going out. Are you serious? Samantha, like, you're great and all, but I could never trust you. I mean, literally the night we went out, you created a new profiler in the next couple of days. And like, I'll never be able to trust you again. Like, it's just a waste of both of our time.

It wasn't a new profile. She just updated her photo. Yeah. I mean, come on. Hail Mary, what if we send you to the bird sanctuary together? Oh, yeah, you like birds. That's right. You can't say you like birds. That's right. The birds can help. You can't say no to birds. What's the bird thing about?

Why does that matter? Oh, we never told. That's right. I thought you were into birds, bro. On your profile. Do you feel deceived, Jeffrey? You're lying to me. What is going on?

I never want to talk to you again. Don't ever call on this show ever. Screw you, Ian. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. I never want to talk to you again. Don't ever call on this show ever. Hang up on us. Screw you, Ian. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Ugh, we're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists,

especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention is because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year

and find them on Bumble. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition Podcast. Dive into John's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed?

Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The OGs of uncensored motherhood are back and badder than ever. I'm Erica. And I'm Mila. And we're the hosts of the Good Moms Bad Choices podcast, brought to you by the Black Effect Podcast Network every Wednesday. Yeah, we're moms, but not your mommy.

Historically, men talk too much. And women have quietly listened. And all that stops here. If you like witty women, then this is your tribe. Listen to the Good Moms Bad Choices podcast every Wednesday. On the Black Effect Podcast Network, the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you go to find your podcasts.