Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: My Ears Are Clogged With Love

Episode Date: February 4, 2026

The woman on the phone today was taken on one of the LEAST romantic dates we’ve ever heard of, and she says she CAN’T STOP thinking about the guy! We’ll try to track him down in a Second Date Update!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Thank you for being here, whether you found us on like a viral TikTok or maybe a viral Facebook or someone stole our audio. Or that bus stop where I've been writing like at Brooke and Jeffrey, right? Yeah, that. You're small font. I appreciate that. That's guerrilla marketing of its finest. But you're here, and this is the official second date podcast.

We've got a brand new episode coming for you. but we always love to start by highlighting one of our listeners. Yeah. Joseph Petru said, hey, Brooke and Jeffrey Crew, I'm in college to be a business engineer. And I listen to your podcast every morning to help me get through the week. Oh, that's so cool. I like to highlight the people with really smart and future careers that listen to us. I see.

Yeah. To prove. We don't really cover business or engineering on this show. I don't even know how they go together. I don't either. Is this like time out for you? What are doing here? All right, let's make this guy dumber.

Your brand new second date update starts right now. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Second date update. I know we've talked about this before where you may have a big plan for your first date, but plans change. And suddenly you're saying, oh, God, I didn't realize they remodeled this fancy steakhouse and turned it into a Chucky Cheese. And they got rid of the valet, too? Yikes. Yes, all those Chucky Cheese buildings definitely used to house.

fancy steakhouse. Right? At least they kept the ball pit from the steakhouse. Thank you. In my neighborhood, they did. And the entertainment. Now you've got to adjust. And apparently one of our listeners had to adjust on the fly and deal with a change of plans for

her date. And she needs our help today. Her name is Aria. Aria, I'm assuming you didn't plan to call into a radio show for help with your love life either. But here you are. Welcome to the show. Thanks.

Yeah. No, I did not. Okay. That's a good pivot. Can I ask before we get into it? Is it you that plan the date? No, I did not plan the date. Okay.

Okay. Who planned it? Ryan, the guy went out with. All right. Where did you meet him at? So we actually met through church. We both volunteer. Like, when they have events, we help put out food and things like that.

And obviously, we've seen each other around. And finally, he asked me out. Oh, finally. That means you were hoping for it. for a long time. Volunteering for the same area that he worked at. How did he do it? I mean, he just literally just asked if I wanted to go on a date.

And I normally don't do this, but I did let him come pick me up at my place. Well, because you know him from church. I mean, yeah, you trust him a little more than Randolph. Hopefully you can trust him. Exactly. That's what I thought. So I invited him to come inside. Oh, very forward for a church girl, like right away?

Yes. Because I was kind of frustrated at the time. I really like cooking, and I have been searching for this ingredient called Aleppo. I don't know if you've heard of it, but it's like a special chili spice. Oh. Sounds like a drug. I know. It sounds like one of those late-night infomercials.

Like, ask your doctor if Aleppo is right for you. It kind of does. But I had been looking online and then trying to find if it was available at any store. and I just wasn't having any luck. And it was for this low cooker recipe I was trying to do for my family the next day. I wouldn't hear about the guy, no offense. You were scattered, long story, short. Unless Aleppo is like some sort of aphrodisiac before the date happens, but I don't know, maybe not.

Not that I know him. Oh, okay. Well, good to know. So you invited him in. Yeah. Yes, and he was being really sweet. And he's like, well, let's go find it. He's like, I know some grocery stores in the area that has some cool stuff.

So he's like, let's go check him out. Yeah. So this must be the adjustment that you're talking about where you had something planned and suddenly you're going out to pick up spices. Yes. Okay. I thought it was really sweet. I mean, so we went to like three different grocery stores. Wow.

But we finally ended up, finding it at like a specialty fancy store. Okay. There we go. So then did you finally get to go on your date? Well, so by this point, it was really late. So we just. went back to my place and we did end up making out. Oh, okay.

So there was still romance, even though it was an errand run. Yeah. Yeah. So, I mean, I felt a good connection. And we planned on definitely going on another date. It's wild that you can't get a hold of this guy. I mean, I assume that's why you're calling us because you volunteer with him at the same church. I just don't know what happened.

You know, like, I'm assuming he had like a big plan for the night. and it felt through. But, I mean, he was being, like, the sweetest guy. Yeah. But he went on a second date. He doesn't have to, like, but from the way that you're, the way that you just said that,

did you not know what his plan was? I did not. That's the thing. Okay. Because there's a chance that maybe he had something really big plan, something really special. But he feels like he never got to do it. But, I mean, I feel like he could have said that, you know,

and I want a guy to put in that effort. Like, I want them to, plan something special and so wait are you disappointed that he offered to take you to all those grocery stores i'm confused i mean did he like just take me there because he had nothing planned or i don't i don't know there could have been a guy with a violin like on a park waiting for you and you never got to get there so since that happened have you been communicating and trying to put together another date or what's happened there yeah it just feels like every time we do something's always coming up now.

Another spice is missing and you have to do another run. Oh, man, there's my coriander. So you are seeing him though? No, I haven't seen him since. But you are trying to put something together. It's just never materializing into an actual meetup. Exactly. Exactly.

So I don't know what's going on because I feel, I mean, I had a good time, even though I know we were just looking for spices. Okay. So you weren't disappointed that there was. in a grander plan? I mean, if there was a grander plan, you know, I don't know that it existed because we never got to go out again. So I'd like to see it.

Okay. Yeah, I can't imagine what would be grander than a grocery store run to several different places around the city. But if he really does have something in mind, we'll find that out. Yeah. We're going to call Ryan and try and get you your second date update, a little spice on top of it. I'm craving chili now. Yeah, I know.

I think we're all hungry. We'll get this done right after this. Hold on. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Second date update. Just quick recap, if you missed part one. Two people met at church. That would be our listener, Aria and a guy named Ryan.

He asked her out, but instead of doing their planned date for the night, whatever that was going to be, instead they went on a night-long grocery store run all over the city, trying to find one particular spice to help. aria finish a family recipe. But you have to remember, it was his idea. It was his idea to help her out and go find this thing. Absolutely. He was totally on board with that.

But they never ended up going anywhere else, except for back to Arias for a little C&K. Cooking and kissing. Did they cook ever? I was wondering about the food situation. Maybe he's not calling you back because he's hungry. She said it was like a slow cooker, so I was like they're not eating the chili tonight.

Whatever ended up happening, that was the last. time the two of them saw each other. But we never asked how long ago was that date, Aria? That's the thing. It's been almost two weeks now. Oh, that's a while. Is it so awkward right now? Because you were volunteering with this guy.

Yeah. And that's why I don't know what I'm weird about it because I feel like it was a comfortable date. Like, I mean, it was good conversation. It didn't feel awkward at all. Well, it's one of those things, too, Aria, that, like, when you do just normal errands with someone and can still have chemistry, that means that there could really, truly be something there. Yeah. Yeah, that's what I thought. And, you know, and sometimes, like, it's timing, and it's, like, now I feel like we're losing that spark, I guess, that we have, you know.

It'd be such a shame to have so much potential cut down by a six-ounce jar of Aleppo. That just doesn't seem fair. I mean, yeah, that's what I want to know. I mean, it just was going so good, I thought. Well, let's find out. We'll see if Ryan picks up the phone. I'm going to dial his number right now. Hopefully he answers, but let's do it.

Hello. Hey, Ryan. Is this Ryan? Yeah. Who is this? Hey, man. My name is Jeff from a show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Everybody's here.

Hi. From a show? Yeah. Yeah. Radio show. Is this like a scam call? I've been getting a lot of those. We break those people.

Yeah. We hate those too. We hate you, Ryan. No, yeah. This is not a scam called. This is a segment called a second date update where we're trying to help out one of our listeners that you went out with about two weeks ago. A girl from your church named Aria. Wait, what?

Yeah. That's a cute response. Why is she contacting you? We're still in touch. Like, we're texting. Yeah, she said that. We got that impression from her, but what she's not understanding is why the two of you haven't met up a second time in the last couple weeks. I mean, it's just like a scheduling thing.

Like, it's not like I haven't talked to her, you know? Like, I don't know. You can't find time in the last two weeks to even just grab coffee with her? I, okay. I got to be honest with y'all. I mean. Oh, I don't like that sentence. I don't even know how to explain.

this, but I have this feeling that I just sort of can't shake. Okay. Can you take a pill for it or something? Can you shake it with that? A little leppo? We're joking. We're joking. What's up? Well, this isn't to sound ridiculous, but

I think maybe I feel kind of like I love her already. Whoa! What the heck? Dude. I did not think you were going to say those words. I mean, you, I will say you know her more than just one date because you guys have been volunteering together. So I don't think that that is totally insane.

But wait, why wouldn't you call her back? She thinks she don't like her and you love her? Well, I don't know. I feel like if we go on a normal date, it's just going to feel different. What do you mean? What's going to feel different? I'm just nervous that if we, like, go to dinner or drinks, it's just going to feel different. Like, we did such a boring kind of thing.

I just want to go to the post office. I don't know. Okay. You're done with all the romantic aspects already. You want to dive right into like boring chores, mundane, forever love life together. I mean, I'm not saying forever, but I'm just feeling kind of stuck. And I mean, it's funny that you call because I think about her all the time. What are you doing?

You need to take her out. Get your girl, bro. I mean, if chores are fun with her, then imagine. What I imagine what a great night out is with her. Like, that will just only amplify the good. Yeah. I don't know. I just feel like I might mess that up.

Like, we have, like, this volunteering thing coming up, and I kind of think we should just do that. Oh, God. Oh. You're going to friend zone her because it's going too well. Listen to yourself. I don't want a friend zone her. I want more.

But I think this might be the path to get there. I think the path of you're on will be the same. Not more. It'll be the same. Yeah. church volunteer buddy, Pat. Yes. Yeah, I mean, there's a lot of stuff running through my head.

Like, I feel like I'm in paralysis. And I don't know what to do about it. Okay. Well, you know, I think you don't have to do anything right now. You could just stay paralyzed for the moment and let Aria do all the talking because she's on the other line waiting to jump in and speak with you. Yeah. She's here? Yeah, right here right now.

Oh, no. Oh, no. No. Probably for the best. I don't know. Do you have some nice thoughts to say to you? That's a lot of information, though, for Aria. Ari, are you there?

Yeah, I'm here. I'm trying to take everything in. Look, I didn't know you were listening to all that, so I take it back. I take a lot of it back. Oh, bro, don't take it back. Just forget the last five minutes of your life. I don't think you can take that back, Ryan. Do you want him to take it back, or did you like hearing that?

Oh, good question. I like hearing that, but I'm also... Concerned because I want that romance. I want that planned special date. And I did have fun, like I told him, I really did have fun just going grocery shopping with you. Absolutely. But there's got to be more to it.

So you want me to move in or something? What? Is that what you heard, Brian? I think that's a joke. You're joking. I don't know. I'm just, I'm spitballing here. I'm, I'm, this is stressful.

I mean, have you ever, like, planned a date before? I mean, just something like, I'm just asking for some kind of thought. Yeah. I mean, I planned one with you, but we went to the grocery store, and then that was way better than anything I came up with. Oh. Wait, what was the plan? Yeah, what was the plan? We don't know that it was better or worse.

We were just going to go to dinner and drinks, you know, the normal stuff. Oh, that's a nice day. No, you're right. grocery store shopping's better. I mean, I feel like that was what the magic. The spice was, so to speak. Aren't you listening to her and hearing what she needs, though, too? Like, she needs to feel special and taking care of.

That's what I was trying to do. She needed a spice, and I was trying to help her find it. Yeah. He wants to make her feel special by, like, taking her to the pharmacy to pick up her medication and helping her, you know, organize her junk drawer in her cabinet. Those things are great. I think that any person would appreciate that, Ryan. Everybody needs Aaron, buddy.

Yes, but I think that she needs, she's saying, and I could be wrong, Ariea, that you need a little bit more. Yeah, I think the difference is, like, the love language here. You know, like, I need that quality time, that special time, and he just kind of just wants to, like, do the practical help, and that just doesn't reach me as much. Okay. Okay.

That is a very clear message. Ryan, are you hearing her? Yeah, Ariya, I am hearing you, and I hear that you don't want me to help you anymore, and that's fine. That's not what she said. I don't think anybody heard that, but you, bro. How could she have communicated that more clearly? My ears are plogged with love. Okay.

Well done. I mean, he didn't think he was moving in one minute, I guess. Again, I think there's an ointment for that you put in your ear, but, I mean, I think you guys should probably talk about it. it together when you're on a date. Oh, are we going to pay for half their dry cleaning or pay for dinner? What are we doing? Really up to them. Maybe we can go to dinner and I'll bring my taxes and you can bring your taxes and we'll do

those. Could there be a less sexy sentence? I mean, seriously. Well, normally here we'd be asking Ryan if he'd want to go out. But it sounds like, Aria, he's fully invested. He's already dropped the L bomb for God's sakes. He's a clock. Yeah, he's laid it down pretty hard.

Aria, do you want to go on a date with Ryan? And if you do, we can pay for that date. I just feel like he's already halfway to the practical side. And that worries me. But I'm willing to give it a shot. Okay. Okay. Maybe you can learn to love practical.

Yeah. Sounds hot. All right. Ryan, she has officially said yes. Kind of. Yay. So maybe bring a little bit of romance with you on your tax dinner date, maybe some flowers. I will pack some romance in my pockets.

Okay. That's why you keep your romance. Is that what's in your right pocket? Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. The newest tracks. Let's go. New music. And the next big thing.

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had both been assassinated. And Black America was out of breaking point. Writing and protests broke out on an unprecedented scale. In Atlanta, Georgia at Martin's Almermata, Morehouse College, the students had their own protest. It featured two prominent figures in black history, Martin Luther King Sr. and a young student, Samuel L. Jackson. To be in what we really thought was a revolution. I mean, people were dying. 1968, the murder of Dr. King, which traumatized everyone. The FBI had a role in the murder of a Black Panther leader in Chicago.

This story is about protest. It echoes in today's world far more than it should, and it will blow your mind. Listen to the A-building on the I-Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I've been thinking we should advise more first-daters to say I love you right out the game. Oh, my gosh. As soon as you meet up at the restaurant, hug them and whisper, I love you, so that you get all that awkwardness out of the way.

And it doesn't happen in the middle of our second date calls because that made us uncomfortable. And that's not fair to us. She definitely didn't say it back. No, she didn't. No. She didn't know what to say when that came out, and that just made it awkward for everybody.

Even the people listening felt cringe. Yeah. It may work out, though, in the end. It's always nice to be with someone that loves you more. than you like them, I guess. Maybe. I feel like. You know, they won't leave you.

I appreciate your hopeless optimism. I'm trying to spin it in a good way. It is going to be tough for him to come back from. But who knows? Maybe miracles will happen. You know, she's looking at a clock that she's worried about. Yeah. We're hoping that by the end of the year, her ears are clogged with love to.

And they finish their taxes together. Yes. All good things. And we want good things for you. your love life. Reach out to the show. We can call that person who's not calling you back. And it's also good if you subscribe to our podcast. If you're listening to us on it right now, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Seems like just yesterday that the Two Guys Five Rings podcast was in Paris for the Olympics. And now we're heading to Milan with the 2026 Milan-Cortina Olympic

Winter Games. I'm Bowen-Yang. And I'm Matt Rogers and we'll join athletes from 93 countries as Two Guys Five Rings hits the Italian Alps for the 26 Milan-Kritina Olympic Winter Games. Open your free A-Hurt Radio app. Did we mention it's free? Search Two Guys Five Rings and listen now. In the middle of the night, Sasquia awoke in a haze. Her husband, Mike, was on his laptop. What was on his screen would change Saskia's life forever.

I said, I need you to tell me exactly what you're doing. and immediately the mask came off. You're supposed to be safe. That's your home. That's your husband. Listen to Betrayal Season 5 on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. 1969, Malcolm and Martin are gone.

America is in crisis. At a Morehouse College, the students make their move. These students, including a young Samuel L. Jackson, locked up the members of the board of trustees, including Martin Luther King's senior. It's the true story of protests and rebellion in black American history that you'll never forget. I'm Hans Charles.

I'm Manilic Lamouba. Listen to the A-building on the I-Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Black history lives in our stories, our culture, and the conversations we still having today. This Black History Month, the podcast, I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either.

Digs into the moments, perspectives, and experiences that don't always make the textbook. Let me tell you about Garrett Morgan. Brough had to pretend he didn't even exist just to sell his own invention. Listen to, I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either. From the Black Effect Podcast Network

on the IHard Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or simply wherever you get your podcast. Hey, I'm Jay Shetty, host of the unpurposed podcast. On a recent episode, I sat down with Nick Jonas, singer, songwriter, actor and global superstar. I went blank. I hit a bad note, then I couldn't kind of recover. And I built up this idea that music and being musician was my whole identity. I had to sort of relearn who I was if you took this thing away.

Who am I? Listen to On Purpose with Jay Chetty on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.