Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: No Fire In The Fireplace

Episode Date: May 13, 2024

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to the Party, that's P-A-R-T-E-E on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Second Date Update. Alexis, if you could describe, not the perfect guy for you,

but the feeling that you get when you're around that guy. That's so cute. Close your eyes and tell us the three words that he makes you feel. A little bit roasted. Like I want him to be mean to me a little bit. You know, like I feel a little bit. A little bit. That's the first thing that comes to your mind? That's a wrong answer?

No, it's wherever you want to feel belittled is one. Full of food. I hope I get to go drunk, a little tipsy. Oh, my God. I don't know if I've ever met anyone as scared of emotions as you are. Yeah, seriously. Terrified. You said imagine.

This is what I'm imagining. Everybody's perfect guy looks a little bit different. Yeah, it's like Michael B. Jordan making fun of us. Sometimes you see two guys because you just have double vision. I bring it up because one of our listeners says she figured out how she wants to feel when she meets her perfect guy. That's sweet. And maybe it even happened to her this last date. I mean, he's not calling her back, but that doesn't matter.

She felt a certain way. That could feel good, though. Like, just a little bit of not calling. See, she likes being ignored. If it's one day, it's hot. Well, let's talk to Alice and hear about it. Alice, how you doing? I'm good, and you guys?

How are you? Hey! I don't know. I'm worried about Alexis, but I think the rest of us are fine. Would you like us to roast you? Because we will. Yeah. I don't know. I'm worried about Alexis, but I think the rest of us are fine. Would you like us to roast you? Because we will. I bring it up because in your email, you said you felt the way that you wanted to feel when you met up with this guy. What does that mean?

Well, the deal is that I've just been meeting the wrong guys. My discernment hasn't been the best because I usually go for guys that wind up being wrong for me. Okay. So you're taking a different approach, looking for a different feeling. Yes. Yeah. So I heard this podcast by this lady and she said, instead of looking for your firecracker, you should be looking for your fireplace. Oh, that's good.

I like that. I've heard this. You're supposed to go for the slow burn type of person. That's absolutely... What does that mean? Okay, so like firecrackers, for me, I get butterflies and knots in my stomach.

I get an adrenaline rush. It's so fun. It's scary, but it's like a ride I want to go on. But then the ride crashes. Yeah. It's a dangerous ride. Yeah. Oh, okay. It's a dangerous ride. It's a dangerous ride.

You know, now a fireplace is actually more, it's welcoming, it's warm. Yeah. You look forward to that comfort. You're not scared. Right. You're not scared. It's not all the bells and whistles. So basically you're not supposed to be looking for the exciting person anymore. You're supposed to look for the safe person.

Right. I need to be swiping right on the fireplaces. So is this guy that you went out with the fireplace? He fits the profile where he doesn't necessarily knock my socks off, but he does tick off the

boxes that I like, and that's what I found in him. Doesn't knock your socks off, and maybe he would mend your socks if they ever was a whore. He'll untie his shoes. He'll warm them because he's a fireplace. So what's his name? His name is Paul. He's got a fireplace name. What did you and Paul decide to do?

What did you and this fireplace go? Okay, so what we decided to do was to go out to dinner at 5.30. At 5.30? Was that his idea or were you just really pushing this old person persona? Well, no. Actually, he said he had to be home to be in bed

by 9.30 so that he could go to work. Oh, goodness. Oh, wow. Even when I was dating, I wouldn't go to bed at 9 30 yeah you know one night to stay up late come on alexis yeah brooks attracted to those firecrackers that's why okay so you were excited about this because this is still like fulfilling what your thought is of him yeah how did dinner go dinner went really well i mean he told me he likes to cook. He likes to bake. And when he said that to me, it's like that gave me some really nice, like, low-key fireplace vibes, which I really like.

Yes. So did you tell him this? Because you've brought it up so many times. Like, did you use the term firecracker and fireplace with him? That's what I mean. Honestly, I didn't want to bring up those terms because I just wanted him to be himself and not think that he had to be somebody else. Okay, that's good. It's probably not going to go too well if you keep referring to him as the safe fireplace. Yeah.

I mean, every guy wants to think of themselves as a bad boy in some ways, right? Yeah. So, okay, he seems to be checking the boxes that you want. Right. You know, he said he was looking for long term you know he's into health and nature and that to me was perfect i mean i wasn't getting butterflies in my stomach you know i feel like that should still be happening yeah there should be a balance of oh yeah no no you don't want to have that okay that's a firecracker okay so i'm guessing like you guys didn't end the

night with a kiss or anything well near the ending of ending of the night, he tells me a joke. And he says to me, did I want him to teach me a car trick? So I said, sure. Okay. And then he says, oh, well, I don't know any. Oh, gotcha. Oh, gotcha. That's funny, though.

Oh, yeah. Well, hopefully you didn't laugh too hard, because then you're going to get too excited, and that would be a turnout. Was that the only funny moment? Is that why you brought that up? I feel like they both laughed and they go, okay, let's calm down. Let's calm down. It's just so specific.

Was there like any like hug or? Well, I'll say we did a nice little hug. I mean, I thought it was a good date. It wasn't over the top type of thing. That's what you want, though. There wasn't like a bad experience or one big negative thing about it. Okay, so what's happened since the date? Oh, this is the thing.

Now, I haven't heard back or gotten a call back from this boring fireplace guy. You sound so insulted. So are you just more mad that he's not calling you back or do you really want to see him again? I really would like to see him again, but I'm like, how could you not call me back? Right. It's supposed to be the other way.

Yeah, like what could you possibly have going on outside of what you told me? Wow. Okay. I have a cat. Maybe we should dial down some of this language when we actually get him on the phone. But we're going to call him. We'll try and stoke that fire back up, but not too brightly, when we do your second date update right after this.

Okay. Hold on. Second date update. I got the strangest text message from the Academy of Radio Broadcasters saying we just hit a new radio record for saying the word fireplace in a single segment over 15,000 times. Hey, you know what?

We know what we're looking for, Jeff. Yeah, and I'm only going to say it once more because our listener Alice used that term as a simple analogy for what she's looking for in her romantic partner. She learned she needs to stop chasing firecrackers and start looking for her fireplace. And whatever you do, don't chase waterfalls either.

We'll just put it in there. That's an old saying. We don't need any more analogies thrown in. Basically, it's stop looking for the exciting guy who gives you butterflies. Start looking for the safe option. Yeah. Settle, kind of.

Not really. I mean, it's just like... Different things. Yeah. Just don't look for the stuff that's going to fizzle out really quick. Yeah.

You're looking for that feeling that's going to make you feel like you're at home. Yeah. And now that she went down that road, the fireplace is leaving her on red.

Yeah. I said fireplace again. Oh, no. I'm not going to say it anymore. We can't break our own record, Jeff. I know. It's like our wood's soggy. It just won't light, you know?

Yeah. So, Alice, how are you feeling before we call him here? I'm feeling pretty good. I'm just hoping to figure out why I haven't heard back from Paul. I like that you still have hope. But not too much. It's like you're shifting everything to try to find the thing that you're supposed to have. And even that is're supposed to have.

And even that is a struggle right now. But I don't think it will be at the end of this. I hope so. Yeah. We all do. It's interesting. We're going to be calling a boring guy for a radio segment here. Not the best rating strategy on our part.

But you know what? Let's dial him up anyway. Stay tuned. We've got a crackling fireplace on the line. Hopefully we can squeeze a little bit of excitement out of this, but here we go. Hello? Hi, we're looking to speak with Paul. This is Paul.

I'm sorry. I don't know why. Not that we wanted you to come hot out of the gate or anything. Good morning, my friend. Yeah, hey, Paul. First of all, thank you so much for answering this number that I'm sure you didn't recognize. Yeah, we're strangers. We know.

We're a radio station called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay. Okay. Cool. Nice. Okay. Let's keep this going because what we're doing here is called a second date update. And we're trying to help out one of our listeners that you actually went out to dinner with a few nights ago.

And she had a really nice time with you. Her name is Alice. Yeah. Good old Alice, huh? Yeah. Pretty exciting. Well, that's it. huh yeah pretty exciting well we'd like to open it up to you for a second and tell us what you thought about the date what you thought about alice uh um what what is this for well it's a update basically alice has reached out to us because she told us a little bit about your night together she had a great time yeah how was

it for you um i'm i'm just not really sure how the date went i guess i don't uh i don't know i don't get i don't get a lot of matches so i was pretty nervous but spent a long time doing my hair. Doing your hair. Nice hair, man. For sure. Well, hey, it makes me feel better. She said that she was nervous to meet up with you two. Yeah, I told her a joke at one point, and it kind of failed, but kind of worked at the same time. I'm not really sure. What other joke did you tell her?

Are you talking about the magic trick joke? Yeah. Okay. Dude, that was hilarious. We all laughed at that. Yeah, she told us that. Yeah, you're funny. Another joke did you tell her? Are you talking about the magic trick joke? Uh, yeah Dude, that was hilarious, we all laughed at that Yeah, she told us that Yeah, you're funny Yeah, it was good Okay, um That's a compliment, feel good about that

You were doing good Why would you not be calling her back and why wouldn't you be excited right now? Like, we're telling you, it was a good date Um, I don't know, I just didn't know how to feel about it. We did talk about going out again, but she was talking about axe throwing.

I don't know about that, going out into the woods and throwing axes. It seems dangerous. Paul. I understand you haven't dated in a while. You might not know this, but they actually have

places set up where you're supposed to go indoors and throw axes at the wall like targets. You don't even have to date to know that. I've never heard of that. I thought it sounded kind of like a liability. You're going to be fine, man. You're going to be fine, man.

You're going to be fine. This is going to be a relief to her, so you just weren't calling her back because you didn't think she liked you. You're just confused. And you were scared of axe throwing. Yeah, I guess that's kind of the gist. Okay. You know who's probably really, really relieved

to hear you say all those things is Alice, who is on the other line right now, wanting to talk to you. Hi, Paul. How are you? Hi. I'm good. Oh, Paul. That was so cute.

You could hear the smile on his face right there. Did you hear that? Love it. It's good to hear your voice, Paul. I was wondering why I hadn't heard back from you. I'm sorry. I guess I was just kind of unsure. I didn't really know if you wanted to go out again or if it went well.

Well, I think the axe throwing idea really scared him off there, Alice. You're not married to that as the next day. You know, there was always other activities that we could do. Would be good. I tend to be a bleeder. A bleeder.

A bleeder or a leader? Wait a minute. It must feel good. Like, you understand. Like, Alice likes you, right? You can even tell him yourself now. We don't have to be your voice. Paul, I really had a great time with you when we had dinner.

I think the conversation was pretty good. I don't know if maybe you might have been a little anxious. But, I mean, if you were, I couldn't tell. Your confidence has to be through the roof right now, right, Paul? Yeah. Good. All right. Good.

Okay. Listen to that confident man. That's why I tried to tee him up for that. I was trying. She did, and he knocked it down. All right. I mean, I think that you guys should give it one more shot. I think we all for that. She did, and he knocked it down. Alright, I mean, I think that you guys should give it one more shot.

I think we all think that. Choose a safe activity for you two to do. No sharp objects anywhere around. Bowling? Bowling's good. Yeah, we could do that. We could come see my collection. Collection?

What collection? You have a collection, huh? What do you collect, bro? Oh, I collect antique gynecological chairs. What? I don't know what the hell. Excuse me? Did you say gynecological?

Like with the stirrup feet? I heard gynecological, like a dinosaur chair. Like an OBGYN chair? Yeah, but they're from the 1800s. Whoa. You collect those? Yeah, they're really kind of fascinating, actually. You know.

Why? Why are they fascinating, Paul? The leg things? Yeah, I mean, that period is kind of, you know, really interesting. I'm going to say not a great period in women's health. Well, it was the experimental phase. They're trying to figure out what's going on down there they did not know i'm gonna go with that a little how are you feeling about that oh that's a that's a little bit odd well i think maybe the question we need to ask is do you feel like you have butterflies right now, Alice?

Oh, I hope not. No, I don't. Well, that's a good sign for you. That's the opposite of what you're looking for. So we would love to send you two out on another date. Wow. Paul, we'll pay for this date if you're willing to meet up with Alice. Yeah, that sounds great.

Okay. All right. So yes, from Alice. Yeah, that sounds great. Okay. Yes from Paul. Alice, are you still up for it? You don't have to go to his house. You don't have to see the collection. I'll say maybe you can see pictures of his collection first and then judge from there if there's a third date. Yeah, from your comfort zone. Yes.

I think that's what I would need to have a visual of the collection of the gynecological chair. Let's not say that word over and over again. I know. It's not like a massage chair. Take some photos of your collection and text them over, and then we'll send you guys out again on a date. Okay?

I'll send a link to my website. Oh, there's a whole website. Oh. We'll open a whole museum. All right. PaulSturbs.com, no. All right. PaulStirrups.com. Okay. All right.

I'm kind of excited. Oh. Okay. All right. All right. Look at Jeffrey in the morning. I mean, the whole firecracker fireplace thing needs to come with an asterisk now, right? Because the, quote, safe, quiet introvert

also might have some secret firecracker tendencies. Are you saying might burn your house down? Yeah. Yeah, I think that that's what it is. You need to get that

chimney inspected is what you need to do. I think it's more of a bonfire situation. Maybe. It's not good. Well, we did get them a second date, though.

Maybe. Or we found out some stuff. Okay, if she goes, we need to do a safety check afterwards just to make sure she's okay. He's a history buff. He's not actually doing any examinations with that stuff. He's a collector of old goods. See, you're the one that walks down a dark alley at 2 a.m. and says, nothing bad's going to happen. Ladies, why are you running?

I'm a collector of old goods. I want to go to his house and see all the gynecological chairs. I bet they're cool. I bet you do. No, Jeff, for other reasons. Oh, yeah. Maybe I'll strap myself in, too. Whatever.

You do that, Jeff. Yeah, maybe go check it out for her first. I will. That's the lengths I'm willing to go through for our listeners. You will put your foot up in stirrups. I will. Keep that in mind when you email us asking for help with your love life. We'll

call that person who won't call you back and go check out all of our second dates wherever you get your podcasts at Brooke and Jeffrey. We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists,

especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini is because you know you always Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late night legend John Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app,

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