Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: 10 Things I Like About You

Episode Date: September 3, 2014

Doug is worried that he may have SAID something or DONE something weird on his first date because he was so nervous... BUT, has he even considered that maybe he never should have gone on the date in the first place??? What does that mean? Find out in the Second Date Update.(Image Courtesy: Crystal. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Moving 92.5. Ruck and Jubels, second date update. Practice makes perfect. That's pretty much everything you do, right? That's true. That's why if you haven't been out on a date in a long time and you don't have a lot of practice, you're probably going to screw it up. I see what you mean. And that's what Doug thinks he did with his first date with a girl named Rachel that he met online. He's on the phone with us right now

to do a second date update. And apparently Doug hasn't been out on a date in a long time and thinks that maybe his nerves got the best of him. What's up, Doug? How are you? I'm pretty good. How's everybody over there? Not too bad, man. So how long has it been, first of all, since you went out with an actual woman? It's been close to a year.

That's okay. I guess it's been a long time because I got out of a rather long relationship and was just waiting for the right girl and the right time. So you met this girl, Rachel, online that you want to call today? Yeah. And what did you like about her so much? Obviously her profile pic is very attractive. She's super cute.

Our conversations online just seem to have like a really good taste and chemistry to it. Okay. And she's just got some really cool interests. You said that you think your nerves got the best of you. Yeah, I think so. Okay, what do you mean by that? Well, you know, I hadn't been out for a while.

And I don't know. It was just I tried to go in preparing a little bit. Like, did you prepare, like, everything that you were going to say to her? Like cue cards? Did you get a script or what? No, no, no, no, no, no. I saw these really nice flowers in the store and I got them for her. And I just thought that she would really like them.

Did she not respond well when you brought her flowers? I mean, that's always a nice gesture. Yeah, I thought, you know, I just tried to do things like that. But that doesn't sound like nerves. Well, I did something else that maybe, you know, I went a little too far and my nerves got the best of me. I read her a list that I wrote at dinner, and it was a list of 10 things that I really like about Rachel. All right. Yeah, that's a little cheesy there, man.

So before the date, you sat down and wrote out a list of things that you like about her. Yes. It was things like, I really like your smile. It lights up a room, and you have a weird sense of humor like mine. I guess, you know what? Hey, Doug, I never really asked you. How long did you talk to her online? I mean... We were talking for a couple of weeks. Okay, because you didn't, like,

meet her, like, and then it was the next day you're going out and you already had this list. There was a little bit of, you know... And a list of ten things is a long list. What number did you realize, maybe I should stop? Uh, I guess maybe around six.

It would have been kind of a jerk thing to be, here's the one thing I like about you, Rachel. There's one. Did you tell her that you were nervous? Did you just fess up and be like, oh, God, I'm sorry. I haven't done this in a while. Yeah, it was kind of like that moment when I got to the middle of it where I was like, oh, I'm really nervous.

Maybe this wasn't the right idea. What was her reaction after that? I mean, she got a little quiet, but then tried to laugh it off, I guess. I did notice as we were leaving the restaurant that she left the flowers, and there was that weird, awkward moment of like, do I go back and get them? I don't know. I was kind of nervous about that. You should have gone back and got them and then followed her back to her house.

So when you said goodbye to her, did everything seem cool? Did you agree on a second date? Did she seem into it? I walked her to the car and I got a little peck kiss. And I don't know. It seemed like she didn't have to kiss me for any reason. So I felt like that was a good moment to end on. Have you asked her out since?

Yeah. I texted her, you know, very positive things that I had a great time about the date. And maybe we should go out again soon. And all of the responses that I was getting from her were really short. It was like, sounds good and then nothing. And I was like, you know, how's your day going? She said, it's okay. Yeah, that's the

worst when you're like, how's your day going? Fine. Alright, that sucks. Or when you just get a K back about something. Want to go out sometime? K. I mean, I didn't think it had gone that bad, but it was my first date in a long time, and I was admittedly nervous.

And I know that I can do better. So you want to call her, get her on the phone, ask her if you did something wrong, and then ask her on a second date. That's what I would like to do, yeah. All right, we're going to play a song. Come back, see if we can get her on the phone and get your second date update, okay?

Okay. All right, hang on going to play a song. Come back. See if we can get her on the phone and get your second date update, okay? Okay. All right. Hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. I wish people would take my advice and stop trying so hard. Try just hard enough.

Like with everything. Everything gets better when you stop trying. I used to really try to do a good job at radio and everything else. But once I stopped caring, the show's ratings are better than ever. Once you just give up and don't try so hard, things get good. And Doug is on the phone with us right now. And I think that's his problem on his first date with a girl named Rachel who he met online. He tried way too hard by showing up with flowers.

That's not the bad part. But making a list of the 10 things that you liked about her, Doug, and then reading it to her at dinner, probably a turnoff. Probably at this point, yeah. I'm listening to that. You met well, but unfortunately, since your date, all you've been getting is one-word answers from her and no second date.

So we're about to call her, see if we can get her on the phone, and then ask her if it was the list of the ten favorite things about Rachel that turned her off and is making her not want to go out with you again. Doug, why don't you just scrap this one and start new? I mean, you haven't dated in a year. Maybe you need to get a couple other dates under your belt. I mean, why is it so important for you to get a second date with this girl? It's kind of two reasons. I really like

her, and I want to prove that I'm not a nervous weirdo loser. I think that I let my nerves get the best of me, probably because I hadn't been on a date in a long time. You want a do-over? Second chance? Yeah, a second first shot.

All right. Well, I'm going to dial the number right now and see if we can get her on the phone, okay? Okay. All right, man. Hang on. Hello? Hi, is Rachel there? This is Rachel. Rachel, how are there? This is Rachel.

Rachel, how are you? This is Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning. I'm sorry, what? This is Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning, the radio show. A radio show? Yes. It is a morning show. Uh-huh.

And we're calling you to see if you'll come on the air with us for a few seconds and talk to us. Why? Because you recently went out with a listener of ours. I did? Yeah, and he emailed us and wanted us to call you and ask why you're not going out with him on a second date. Okay. us to call you and ask why you're not going out with him on a second date okay his name is doug and i'm sure you probably remember doug because i'm assuming he's one of the only dates you could

have gone on that made a list of things that he likes about you oh yeah yeah i know doug yeah you do okay so so d Doug emailed us, right? Said that he had a great time with you, but since your date, he's been getting like one-word responses from you, and it's obvious that you don't want to go out with him again. But Doug really wants to see you and is wondering if he did something wrong

when you two went out, and if you wouldn't mind telling us what that is. He's fine. He was a nice guy. He's just... If you guys talk to him him can you just let him know that i said thanks so much for the date and that he's a really nice guy okay yeah we'll talk to him about this whole thing and i appreciate you staying on the phone with us i do i just want to ask you because he told us about everything and he feels really bad about making a list of the 10 things that he liked about you. Doug, I don't know if he shared with you,

hasn't been out on a date in a long time, so he's a little out of practice. You made him nervous because he likes you a lot. Was it the list? I mean, the list was weird. It was definitely one of my more awkward moments on a date. Okay. But, yeah, I was nervous, and it was fine, and I understood.

And it was okay that wasn't the main problem okay well do you mind telling us what the main problem is Doug wants to know I just I mean I don't want to come off as sounding like weird and rude and petty but he kept making really weird faces like a nervous tick almost. Like, I don't know, like caress of the face. It's so hard to explain. It was so weird.

And I wanted to ask if there was something wrong with him, but I felt too, it was like, it was too rude to do that. Yeah, that's understandable. Hey, what's wrong with your face on a first date? Yeah, exactly. I mean, he was so sweet, and he was clearly so nervous. And he's a good person. I just really couldn't see myself doing that. We don't know much about Doug other than he listens to the show,

and he seems like a nice guy when we talk to him. Is it obvious that he has a facial tick, or what do you think he was doing with his face that made you so uncomfortable? Honestly, you guys, I have no idea. What did it look like? It was so weird. Like he was doing with his face that made you so uncomfortable? Honestly, you guys, I have no idea. What did it look like? It was so weird. Like, he was in pain. Like, every once in a while, it would do this weird, like, grimace thing.

But it was just, like, totally random. Like, nothing was going on. Did you ask him if he was okay? Like, if he was honestly in pain? I did never feel like there was a right time to do that. Because it was always kind of in the middle of stuff happening, and all of a sudden he would just throw this face and I'd be like, ah, I can't do like that because I'd be

really horrible and rude. Rachel, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I can't take it anymore. I have to interject here. Hey, Rachel, that's Doug. He's actually on the other line. Oh, God. Hey, Rachel.

Hi. Hi. Oh, God. Hey, Rachel. Hi. I'm sorry. So, oh, my God, this is so embarrassing. Are you okay? I mean, really, I can ask you now because I'm not sitting in front of you, but are you okay? Well, I had a surgical procedure recently, and I thought I was doing a really good job at concealing it,

but I was actually in a lot of pain. What? What? You know, I guess I was just so taken in with you that I was trying really hard to ignore the pain that I was actually in. Doug, Doug, what kind of surgery did you have? Well, I had a really kind of unfortunate bicycle accident. Okay.

And so embarrassing to be doing this on the radio. I basically injured myself downstairs. You had surgery on it? Yeah. I was mountain biking with my buddy

and I went off a little jump and it just landed wrong. Terrible. Ouch. Yeah, I strained some muscles down there. Oh, man, that sucks. I'm sorry, dude.

You were talking to her for weeks. Why didn't you just wait? Well, because she's so wonderful and I know that if I waited that someone else would just match her up. Rachel, are you still there? Yeah. Okay. Oh, my gosh.

What do you think about that? It wasn't a weird face thing. It's a weird something else that he has making his face do that. Oh, jeez. That's awful, and I cannot believe you went through a whole date without saying anything. If you were in that much pain, that's crazy. I was really just trying to focus on the great time that I was having and that I thought we were having. You are so sweet, but please don't, like, sacrifice your body for a date. Oh, my God.

Rachel, what if Doug would have said, hey, let's go out maybe a couple weeks from now because I've got some problems, some strained muscles down south? You would have been pretty understanding about that, wouldn't you? Well, I mean, I probably would want to know a little bit more about what's going on and, you know, the long-term effects and all that stuff. But, I mean, yeah. I mean, you shouldn't. No, don't, like, throw yourself under the bus

on someone else's behalf. That's crazy. But you're so great that I thought it was worth it. Doug, is everything going to be working in the future in that department? I'm just looking out for her best interest. That's all. Yes, the doctor said that I'd be back to 100% in another month or two. Oh, look at him.

All right. So you'll have to take things slow if you guys continue to date. Good point. So, Rachel, would you like to go out with Doug again, knowing what you just learned? We'll pay for a second date if you give him another shot. Only if he's well enough to go. Okay. Doug, are you well enough to go. Okay. Doug, are you

well enough to go on a second date or do you need a couple more weeks? I'm good to sit at dinner and you know, things like that. Taking it slow, but we couldn't probably do it anymore. I think we know what you're saying, Doug. Alright.

Well, congratulations and we'll send you guys out on a second date for some dinner. We'll pay for it, and then anything else is up to you guys and Doug's timeline. Follow your doctor's orders. Yeah. Rachel, I'm so happy.

Thanks for giving me another shot. I will definitely make it up to you. Only if you take better care of yourself. Yeah, he'll make it up to you in about

six to eight weeks. Broken Jubal in the morning. Ugh, we're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know know you always like them. More of you dating

with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general.

You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline's CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr., with guest appearances from Behind the Bastards' Robert Evans,

It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.