Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Are We Having Fun Yet?

Episode Date: April 21, 2017

Today one of our listeners went out with a girl and noticed ALMOST IMMEDIATELY that she was not enjoying herself... BUT, we never could have Guessed the Actual REASON why she was SO put-off... Listen to the Second Date here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Moving 92.5. Rook and Jubal's second date update. You ever go out on a date with someone and you're not sure why, but you just know that they hate you the whole time? Wow, no, I haven't. No? I feel like that's happened to you more than once, though. All the time. Even in like current relationships. It's weird. I were just out and I'm like, I know that you hate me and I don't understand why. Well, Vic is on the phone for a second date update today and he was in that situation. He went out with a girl that he met on Tinder and he says it just

seems like she didn't like him very much, but he liked her and now he wants to call and try to get a second date. What's up, Vic? Hey. Oh, yeah, I get it I understand why she didn't like you now You too I'm sorry, man Maybe on the phone with you for three seconds So your email said that the girl you went out with just was cold to you the whole time frigid

Why are you even calling us? Why would you want to go out with somebody that you didn't obviously connect with? Well, I really liked her, and I just have to know if whatever I did is something that I do on dates and if it's going to plague me for the rest of my life. I like how you're already blaming yourself

for the whole thing. That's good. Has this happened to you before? Not exactly. I mean, I've dated online before, and either it goes well or it goes really poorly. Okay. So there's no in-between. Yeah. And this one sort of felt like an in-between. I mean, it didn't seem like we had no chemistry.

It just didn't seem like she liked me. And was it the whole date that she didn't like you, or was there a turning point? I would say about 12 minutes in. So the whole date. 12 minutes for her not to like you. What did you guys do on your date? We decided to go rock climbing. Oh, that's ambitious.

I assume you guys saw that you both were into that on Tinder? Well, she's got a lot of pictures of her doing, you know, like really athletic stuff, like playing volleyball at the beach. And, you know, she seemed like she probably played sports in college. And it seemed like a fun thing for us to do. I'd gone like once or twice before, and she'd never gone. And she said it sounded like fun. Yeah, sounds like an awesome date. Yeah, and so we went to the place, and they've got, you know, they set you up.

They give you a harness and, you know, teach you how to get hooked in and what to do. And we paid for two hours thinking that, you know, we'd be good and tired. Not knowing that 12 minutes in she'd want it to be over. Exactly. I looked over at her at one point and she just had this look on her face like she was doing the last thing in the world she wanted to be doing. Did it look, I mean, from the sounds of it, it looks like she wanted to push you off the fake rock wall that you were on. Yeah, she just didn't seem like she was having it.

So I said to her, look, you know, maybe this isn't our thing. You know, forget the two hours. Like, I know an oyster shack a few miles down the road. Let's go there, and we'll switch the date up a little bit. See, I feel like that is good self-awareness in a date. There you go. How did she respond? She was relieved, it seemed like, at first.

And she said, you know what, I think that would be a great idea. I'm not really feeling this. So we got to the Oyster Shack, and we ordered drinks, and this conversation would kind of start and stop. We'd find a thread, talk for a minute or so, and then it would sort of die. And then it was kind of up to me to start the next thread of conversation. It just seemed like she had something on her mind. There was something bothering her.

And I didn't know what it was, but it kind of felt like that throughout the night. That sucks. And by night, I mean 25 minutes, because she then tells me that she has a work presentation that she'd totally forgotten about that she had to go prepare for.

And I'm going like, this is weird. It's 5.30 on a Sunday. Completely slipped my mind. I have the biggest presentation of my life tomorrow and I don't know why I forgot. So I'm going to go handle

that right now. You know, and theoretically, I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt, because I mean, if she really did have a presentation the next day, then, you know, maybe that was why she was not having fun rock climbing, maybe why she couldn't really hold a conversation together. That's true. She could have been preoccupied with

trying to get ready for her thing and felt like she was kind of wasting time on a date at that moment. Either that or I'm really unlikable. That's so sad. Yeah. What did you like so much about her? Because she sounds like it was kind of a painful, awkward time with her. You know, she was she was gorgeous. She has these brown eyes that could like pierce into your soul. And on Tinder or profile, you know, she says she's into old 80s horror movies, stuff I grew up on. It seemed like we were really going to hit it off. And when she was talking with me, I mean, she seemed really cool and interesting. Those brief moments where she would respond to your comment or something.

Maybe she just wasn't attracted to you. And it's not to say that there's probably anything wrong with you, but maybe that was just it. But we met on Tinder. She has like four pictures of what I look like. Yeah. How accurate are they? They're all recent pictures taken in the last year. So it looks like me.

I mean, it's what I look like. Okay. So it was definitely your personality that she didn't like. Good. We got the looks out of the way, and we know that it goes deeper than that. It goes straight down to your soul. So let's figure it out. We'll play a song, come back, and then call her and get your second date update, all right?

All right. Thank you. Moving 92.5. Rook and Jubal's second date update. If you're just joining us for today's second date update, Vic is on the phone, and Vic is the most likable, unlikable person I've ever met in my life. I say that because Vic went out with a girl named Jessie that he met on Tinder. They went rock climbing and then went to go get some oysters,

but he says the whole time it just seemed like she hated him. And he wants to know if he's doing something on dates that makes women dislike him. Also, he says he likes her too, but more than that, he just wants to know what's unlikable about Vic. Sounds like a sitcom, Vic. Yeah, it does. If this doesn't work out as a second date, we could just maybe write a show. What's unlikable about Vic? What do you think? I don't know if my ego could handle that. Oh no, Vic. Vic, I mean, what if she does say something super harsh about you?

Then I will know, and I can change. Sometimes you can't change the things people don't like about you, and you just have to find somebody who does like it. Okay, Vic? Yeah. I don't know. She's just, she's really cool. I like her, and I hope she'll go out with me again.

Okay, well, let's get her on the phone and find out, first, why she seemed to have a horrible time, and, second, if she'll do it all over again. Sounds great. Okay. All right, here we go. Hello? Can I speak to Jessie, please? Hi, speaking.

Hey, Jessie, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the morning. I'm sorry. I don't know who that is. We're a plumbing and contracting service. Just need to know if you need any work done in your neighborhood. That'd be so amazing. What are all those people in the background? Hi, Jessie.

Hey, what up? Those are all people that work at Brook and Jubal in the morning plumbing and contracting. How are we in the morning? Do we only do it in the morning? I'm sorry. I'm confused. I don't know what's going on. Brook and Jubal in the morning is a radio show.

And we're calling you today because we actually got an email from one of our listeners who wanted us to call you. Okay. His name is Vic. Oh. All right. That actually sounded kind of Vic. Oh. All right. That actually sounded kind of positive. Okay, well, we do a segment on our show called The Second Date Update. So Vic emailed us because he really liked you a lot and was hoping you guys would go out again.

But since your date, you haven't talked to him. I don't think that's going to happen. You don't think going out with him again is going to happen? No. What is it? So, Vic says it seems like you had a horrible time

the entire time on your date. Like, there was just something about him that you didn't like. You know, it was the first date. It wasn't amazing

and it's not a big deal. It's a big deal to him because he liked you a lot. Uh, okay. So, can you tell us, like, why didn't you like him? He said, like, 12 minutes into the date is when you started being cold towards him. Oh, he gave me 12 minutes?

That's funny. No, it was way before that. Oh, wow. You didn't even like him for 12 whole minutes, huh? No. How could he make you upset right away? Well, for starters, he looked different than his pictures. Really?

He said all of his pictures were taken within the last year and looked just like him. Oh, well, sure, but in his pictures, he was clean-shaven. Okay. Okay, so he showed up sporting a beard or something, and you don't like facial hair. No, I'd be fine with a beard. He didn't show up with a beard. What'd he show up with? He had a Hitler mustache. What? Like a fake one

that you get at a costume store? No, like a real one growing out of his face. Like he grew it on purpose. Was it like to try to be ironic and hipster? You know, I don't care if he's trying to be ironic. No one should have that. Yeah, I agree.

Except for Michael Jordan. For some reason, Michael Jordan can wear a Hitler stache, and it's okay. He's the only person in America that can do it. But Vic— He helps us with our multi-millionaire basketball stars. That's true. Vic obviously couldn't pull off the Hitler stache. He didn't tell us anything about that.

Well, maybe for him that's normal, but it just doesn't work for me. But the thing is, okay, I can get where the mustache was a turn off for sure, but that is something that can be easily changed. I guess, but it just gave me this bad first impression, like I'm climbing up this rock wall and I look next to me and there's Hitler.

No wonder you hate it. You could see how that would be a little disturbing. Yeah, disturbing is a good word for it. Did you ask him about it at all? I mean, I don't know how you ask somebody. You know, it's a first date. I don't need to ask about it. But then it just got worse.

How does it get worse than Hitler? Yeah. Literally worse than Hitler. He kept, like, staring me down and being like, are you having a good time? Are you having fun? And I'd be like, well, I'm trying to figure out how to climb this rock wall. You know, I've never done that before. And I'm trying

to figure out this difficult thing. And he's like, you're not smiling. I don't think you're having a good time. I'm like, I'm trying to. It's like you were actually on a date with Hitler. You will have fun. I'll have fun. You will have more fun. You're not having enough fun. Come on, man.

So I can't believe that you left the gym and then went and got drinks with him. I thought maybe alcohol might calm him down a little. I was wrong. I was wrong. I shouldn't have gone to the second location with Hitler. He's not going to do that again. What happened then? Just more of the same.

He's staring me down. Are you having fun? You don't look like you're having fun. Now I picture him doing it and, like, his bangs falling in his face and him, like, angrily getting out of his face. Like, are you having fun? Just shouting at you the whole time. That's pretty much what it felt like. It was just so weird.

Yeah. Not to get weirder on you, Jessie, but Vic is actually on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. Wait, seriously? Yes. Oh, God. So you didn't have a presentation? No, no, you know what? I didn't have a presentation.

That's the first thing he said. Jesse got out of the date by saying that she had a work presentation, and that's what you're focusing on, Vic? Well, that was a little rude to lie to somebody. I mean, you can't just tell them the truth. No, Vic, why do you have a Hitler stache, man? Yeah. That's how my mustache grows. I don't have like a full mustache, so it's kind of like a more abridged.

You're trying to get sympathy because your mustache doesn't grow? Then don't have a mustache. I do not think it looks like a Hitler statue. I've watched hours and hours of Hitler's speeches, and I do not... Whoa! That just won't help. Whoa!

I hope you mean like in documentaries and not just for your own research. No, I'm a history... I was a history major in college. Okay. It's getting way worse. Start with that next time. No, I mean, I've seen a lot of videos of hitler about hitler and i don't know why have you seen a lot of videos about hitler like jesse didn't

you hear me i mean i was a history major i i didn't i didn't go out of my way to watch hitler videos but i don't look okay look i think it looks. I get that you don't think it looks good. I guess I have to ask some people that I'm close to and get a consensus. Look, even if you don't look like Hitler, which is fine, that's what you think, it's still really rude and strange to spend the entire date

asking me if I'm having fun yet and being mad at me for not having enough fun. You know, maybe if I did like you, I would have been having fun. I just don't understand. How is it rude to ask someone if they're having fun? I just thought that's what people do. Are you having fun?

I'm having fun. No, I'm not having fun. I'm not having fun now, and I wasn't having fun then. Why aren't you smiling? Are you having fun? Why aren't I smiling? Because I'm not having fun. Because you keep asking me if I'm having fun.

That's why. So what can we do to make sure that you're having fun? That's why I'm talking to you. I could go do something else. A problem solver, Vic. Jesse, would you like to see if you could have fun with Vic and go on a second date with him? We will pay for it.

No, no. Please. What? I have heard enough. I do not want to go on another date with with him. We will pay for it. You know what, Jubal? No, no. Please. What? I have heard enough. I do not want to go on another date with the Ice Queen. Whoa! Ice Queen! Oh, wow.

I won't be having any fun at all, will I? I've yet to see you have any fun, so. Oh, my God. Am I done now? Do I have to keep talking to you guys? Can I hang up? Yeah, Jesse, that's fine. You can go.

Thank you for your time. Yeah, thanks. Yeah. Wow. Vic. That was intense. That was a little rough. Sorry you didn't get a second date, man.

No, I'm even happier that I called now. Really? You know now? No, you need to shave that mustache off is what you need to do, Vic. I think you really have the wrong idea of what this mustache looks like. It's very professional.

I can go out into the world. I think that if I was walking around with a mustache that looked like Hitler, one person other than the crappiest person I've ever met. Well, then you'd think that she probably would have liked it. Like, right?

She'd have been. Like sweet. Broken Jubal in the morning. Text in at 78592 says, I don't care if that guy looks like Hitler. He sounded nice to me. Really? I mean, but think about when you're getting intimate. I couldn't. I couldn't.

I mean, I understand if you missed today's second date update. We're talking about Vic who wanted to call this girl named Jessie. They went out on a date, and she seemed instantly cold right away, and he wanted to know what he's doing wrong on dates or if he did something wrong just in that specific situation. And we got her on the phone and found out that she didn't really like him because he had a, quote, Hitler mustache right away. And then the whole time just, like like kept asking her if she was having fun because it was clear that she wasn't having fun and that just kind of annoyed her. He says that he doesn't have one. He's just trying to grow his mustache

out and it grows in kind of weird or something and nobody's ever told him that but her so we don't know. We don't have a picture of him to say if he does have a Hitler stache or not. I feel like it's such a distinguishable feature. I think you know's such a distinguishable feature. I think you know.

Like there's no like gray area for that. You can't make eye contact. You just make stash contact. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. So I don't know. I don't know if he does or not. We'll try to get a picture of him and see if we can find out.

Okay, that's the most important piece. He sends us a picture. It's black and white. And it looks like exactly like Hitler. Wait a second. He's got slicked back hair. Yeah, hold on a minute. Why is he wearing a uniform?

Either way, they decided not to go out again. As a matter of fact, they'll probably never talk again because it didn't sound like they liked each other at all at the end of that phone call. No chemistry. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Yes. Young Jeffrey's Song of the Week is just a few minutes away at 810.

We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will, too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble.

Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got,

and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada,

to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you

in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards Robert Evans,

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