Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Avocado Swaggin

Episode Date: June 22, 2015

There are times when you're out on a date, in the middle of conversation... and the other person says something SO bizarre, that you don't even know how to respond. That happened with one of our listeners Chelsea, when she was out with a guy. And she doesn't even REALIZE that it was weird.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And I didn't even have to talk to the girl. How did that work? I was behind her in line at the checkout counter. Yeah. And the checker asked her for her rewards card number. And as she gave her rewards card number to the checker, I took it down in my phone behind her. Oh, my God. That's so creepy. So creepy.

But it's effective and it worked. I did try to text her later and got nothing in response, which I thought was very rude. But apparently, yeah, some guy came up to Chelsea in the grocery store and asked her for her number. Hey, Chelsea, how are you? Hey, I'm good. How are you guys?

Good. So are you disappointed that he didn't do it like I did? Yeah, that would have been surprisingly romantic. It is. I think what's even more shocking about a guy asking you out

on the grocery store is that you actually found him attractive. Well, I know, right? Yeah. It was kind of amazing. Why is that? Are all guys at grocery stores ugly or something? No, just like the likelihood of you getting asked out at a grocery store is going to be by like some 50-year-old divorced dad that's kind of creepy.

Really? Where do you shop? Because I see like single dudes in the grocery store all the time. All ages. I get him on in the grocery store all the time, but chances are it's just not going to be someone I'm interested in. Like a creep who's coming up to you talking about how to test melons or something? You want to let you know how these melons are ripe?

Okay, that's not unlike the conversation that me and this guy had. What? Really? He did not pull a melon line on you. It wasn't about melons. He brought up avocados and how he was having issues with them. Completely different than what I was saying. You're right.

He was like riding the struggle bus about avocados. He was standing there with like two avocados in his hands, like looking back and forth and like not knowing how to tell if they were ripe. And I helped him with it. Okay. So he didn't approach you going, hey, you know how to squeeze these things properly. You actually saw him having trouble and helped him out.

Yes. Okay. That's nice. And when did you guys actually exchange numbers and stuff? Well, I sort of helped him with avocados and we laughed a little bit and then I went away and kept grocery shopping. And then we ran into each other in a different part of the store. And he said something really like, I still don't know about avocados.

Like, he was horribly done, but very endearing. Because it was clear he just wanted to talk more. So I was like, oh, I could help you with that any time. I'm a much better person than he is. I don't know why this is turning me on, but it is. You're welcome. Thank you. So it just sounds like an awkward exchange that you guys had.

It was, like, charmingly awkward. It was like, okay, we're obviously attracted to each other, but don't know each other well enough to say anything. Yeah. So we'll talk about avocados. Did he ask for your number then? He did. So tell us about your date when you guys actually went out,

or was the whole date at the grocery store? No, we just went on a coffee date. It was nice. He took me to this little independent place I hadn't been before. And I thought it went really well. We had a lot of easy flowing conversation. We both have a few different weird jobs. He works as a professional dog walker. Dude, those guys are impressive. And I work as a clown.

What? You're a clown? That's awesome. Yeah. You currently work as a clown? Yeah, I currently work as a clown. I mean, not like currently, like this morning. I'm not dressed in clown clothes right now. Interesting.

That's cool. I've never met a clown before. Did he think that was really cool? Yeah, he thought it was fun. I told him some funny stories about things that the kids say, and he's told me silly things that his dogs have done. That sounds so boring. Yeah. I know what you're saying. It really does. I love kids and dogs. like silly things that his dogs have done and i wish i could have been there for your conversation yeah it was great so you guys bonded over your jobs yeah weird jobs okay it was nice it was

really nice and he was just like a good guy. If everything went really well, why do you think he's not calling you back? I'm not really sure. The only thing that I could really think of was that I said that I wasn't necessarily interested in getting married anytime soon. And I wonder if maybe he was like, that's like what is on his mind. So we're just in different places. How did you say it, though? Did you harp on it?

Was the whole thing like, oh, God, I'm not interested in getting married ever? No, no, no, no. I wasn't like, my parents married each other and left because they don't love me. I wasn't like weird about it. The reason I don't want to get married is because I had a bad example of love growing up.

Yeah, like I wasn't like a crazy person. I was just like, I have a lot of things I want to do in my life before I settle down and get married. Did he seem awkward after you said it? At the time, I didn't think of him as being awkward. But looking back on it, I'm like, huh, I said that and then I don't know how he feels about it. Is that because he quickly changed the subject or something? And I'm just not really exactly, I don't quite have a handle on it.

Yeah, it doesn't sound like it's too bad. You might be overthinking that a bit. How many times have you tried to get a hold of him? Twice. I texted him the day after our date and he texted me back and was just like, oh, I'm really busy this weekend. And then I texted him the next week and he didn't text me back at all. Okay, so you haven't heard anything from him since that second text?

Mm-mm. All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update, all right? Okay. Thank you. Brooke and Jubal in the Morning's Second Date Update. Call now to win a $1,000 cash grade. 1-866-MOVING-925.

Chelsea is on the phone with us, and today she wants to call a guy named Greg. They met at the grocery store, bonded over some avocados, ended up going out for coffee, and now he's not calling her back, and she has no idea why. Chelsea, I have a really good idea for you, actually. What is it? I say you don't do the second date update, okay? What? Why?

I think a better idea is to go back to that grocery store every single day and wait by the avocados. Just like pull up a chair next to the avocados until he comes up to buy some and ask him to explain himself in person. That's a good idea. I could be holding two avocados and weeping over them. Exactly. Everybody going to the store, look, there's the sad avocado lady again. Imagine his surprise when he walks up and sees you camped out by the avocados. Yeah, guys love that.

He'll definitely go on another date with you then. Oh, no. All right, well, never mind. I'll see you guys later. Yeah. All right, I'm about to dial the phone number right now.

Any last thoughts before we get him on the phone? No, I don't think so. I'm ready. All right, I'm going to dial the phone number right now and see if we can get your second date update.

Hello? Hi, can I speak to Greg, please? Speaking. Hey, Greg, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Sorry, what's that? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning, the radio show. How are you?

I'm okay. What's this about? It's a segment we do on our show called the Second Date Update. Basically, if somebody goes out on a date and they get blown off, they email us and ask if we can get the other person on the phone to find out why. The girl that you went out with, her name is Chelsea. Okay. She told us a little bit about how you guys first met at the grocery store. She helped you with avocados, and then you asked for her number, and you guys went to coffee.

Yeah, that definitely happened. Okay. Did you not like her? From the tone of your voice right now, it sounds like you didn't really like Chelsea very much. No, no, no. It's not that I didn't like her because it sounds like from the tone of your voice right now it sounds like you didn't really like chelsea very much no no no it's not that i don't i didn't like her just a weird phone call to talk about a date yeah for sure i get that um can you tell us a little bit about it though she really wants to know why you're not calling her back um i guess i can tell you guys about it thank you man i appreciate it so she told us about your date and said that in her opinion, everything went great, but she hasn't heard from you.

Can you explain the date to me a little bit in your words? Yeah, she was really nice and the date was going really great until she basically just got a little weird. She said something and I just, I couldn't really shake it. And I, um, I feel bad, but yeah, it was just a little weird. Was it about not wanting to get married anytime soon? Cause she felt like that might be the issue. Really? That's, that's why she thought I didn't want to call her back.

Yeah. She thought maybe you were a guy that was like looking to find a wife right away or something and that scared you off. Oh my gosh. No, that was not what scared me away. I don't really even know how to say this. We were talking about our jobs and things that make us interesting, and I told her that I was a professional dog walker, and then she started saying things that make us interesting. And I told her that I was a professional dog walker.

And then she started saying things that made her interesting. And like, I work part time as a clown. I work in the medical industry part time. I'm a swinger and I do calligraphy. What? Slow down. Back up a little bit. No way.

Exactly. That was my exact reaction. I was just so taken aback. And so I asked her, I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait. You're talking about like swing dancing, right? And she said, no, you are thinking about the right thing. And then she just tried to keep going and I could not drop it. It like completely changed.

Oh my God. That's not something that you usually casually drop in a conversation. Like, yeah, I walk dogs and then I have sex with lots of people. And then also, uh, she lumped it in with calligraphy for God's sakes. I couldn't even, I couldn't change the way I looked at her after that, the rest of the date. So you're not into dating swingers? No. I mean, it's not something that I actively seek.

I'm definitely looking for a long-term monogamous relationship. And, I mean, she just said it so casually. It didn't seem like a big deal to her. I couldn't stop thinking about it. Like, what if I take her home to my parents and she wants to sleep with my dad? I guess I've never thought about that before, yeah, but I guess if you're dating a swinger, you bring her home, some fun things, interesting

things could happen. It weirded me out and I mean, she's a sweet girl and I feel bad, but I just couldn't drop it after that. That's understandable, Greg. Greg, I also need to tell you something. What's that? Chelsea is actually on the other line

listening right now. What? Yeah. Chelsea, are you there? Yep. How's it going, Chelsea? I guess I'm just like, why didn't you say anything? You could have, we could

have talked about it. You could have asked me questions. I would have been like, no, I'm not a psychopath who's going to try and sleep with your father. I didn't know what kind of questions to ask you about that. You just said it so casually and nonchalantly. I've never met a swinger before and it totally shocked me. Okay. First of all, you've definitely met one before. They just didn't tell you about it. That's a very good point, Chelsea. Yeah. And second of all, never having met someone doesn't mean that they're bad.

You know, there's... I didn't think of it as bad. I don't think you're a bad person. It's just honestly not the lifestyle that I'm into. And I'm sorry I wasn't up front with you about that at the date. Chelsea, do you always bring it up in that manner on first dates? Not necessarily but at the same time I think

it's better than like bringing it on somebody after going out for a while where they have all these assumptions. Yeah, like you guys are... I'd rather get it out of the way in the beginning and be honest and then that way if they do freak out then I haven't gotten like... Yeah, that's a good way to do it. until you guys are like a couple months in you're like okay it's finally time to meet my friends oh and by the way you're gonna have to have sex with all my

friends too right but again you wouldn't have to like well it's just ignorance i don't think any of us really understand the swinging lifestyle i've never been a part of it it's always interested me i think it's really cool that you're willing to do that but i I don't know anything about it, so that's just what I assume. I think what's surprising to me is that it didn't cross your mind that that could be a potential reason why he's not calling you back. Well, yeah, no, I guess it didn't because he didn't really have a reaction to it. Like, I told him all that stuff, and he was like, oh, a clown, eh? That makes sense, then.

Yeah. I just didn't want to focus on that because it made me totally uncomfortable. I didn't know what to say about it. I appreciate the fact that you said it on the first date, and yeah, but I couldn't let it go. I mean, I think that the thing is that it's more about options than anything else. It's about the fact that you're not like, we have to do this and you have to sleep

with these people, but you're like, okay, well, do we want to be monogamous right now? Sure. Do we want to swing right now? Sure. Do you want to go on a date with someone else right now? Sure. 20 years from now, when you're bored with the sex with your current partner, that doesn't mean you have to break up. It means you have other options. Greg, I'm going to ask you a question, and I'm

going to beg you to say yes to this, okay? Would you like to go on a second date with Chelsea? I will pay for it. She was like, I want to be there. You know what? Honestly, maybe I could be a little more open-minded. Of course.

I would like to go on a second date. I would. Awesome. I was really actually very surprised that you just said that. Me too. Chelsea, are you cool with going out on another date with Greg? Maybe tell him a little bit more about your lifestyle so he can understand it more? Sure, if only to help spread the gospel of consensual non-monogamy. Consensual non-monogamy.

I like that term. It does have a nice ring to it. All right. Well, awesome. We'll send you guys out again. All right. Great. I got this great restaurant you go to.

You put your keys at the door in a bowl. Broken Jubal in the morning. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got got and just feel

more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Dive into John's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else.

Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. $1.4 billion in NFL quarterback contracts. The untold stories behind the biggest deals in football history. I'm A.J. Stevens, Vice President of Client Strategy at Athletes First, introducing the Athletes First Family Podcast, the quarterback series. My co-host Brian Murphy, Athletes First CEO, and I are sitting down with the agents who have negotiated contracts for Justin Herbert, Deshaun Watson, Dak Prescott, Tua Tugnavailoa,

and Jordan Love. Listen to Athletes First Family Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.