Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Awkward Bday Date

Episode Date: December 1, 2016

There are plenty of topics that you should never bring up on a first date (religion, politics, weird fetishes... etc.) But today, we found something more awkward than ALL OF THAT combined. Is it a deal breaker for you? Listen in the Second Date Update!(Image Courtesy: Mick Kelly. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Moving 92.5. Ruck and Jubels, second date update. How early do you introduce somebody to your friends after you guys have just started dating? Takes a while for me to want to introduce people to my friends because it's very important to me. So if I take a girl around my friends, that means I'm finally really into her. And then she can meet my friends. And then after meeting them, she goes, they all seem like terrible people. I hate them.

You should never talk to them again. And you can only spend time with me from now on. I fall in love right there. Instantly. That's what I look for in a woman. Well, George is on the phone today and that's how he spent his second date with the girl that he wants to call today. He spent it meeting her

friends at her birthday party. How's it going, George? Good. How you guys doing? Pretty good. So where did you meet the girl that you want to call today? Well, we discovered each other on a dating app. Oh, like a Tinder type of situation? Yep. One of those types of situations.

Is it Tinder? Yes. Okay. A Tinder type of situation. It was Tinder. People don't want to claim it right now. I know. It's like, ah, kind of.

People love doing that. Like an app on your phone and sometimes you swipe one way, sometimes you swipe the other way. Yeah, one of those. Were you excited about going on a date with her or are you just looking for a hookup? I mean, it's always exciting when you get a match on Tinder, especially your guy, I think. Yeah, I was excited. And we just met for coffee. So where do the friends and birthday party come into play on this thing? I mean, I thought we hit it off.

We really enjoyed our company. We had a good conversation. At the end of the day, she just said, Hey, this might seem weird, but it could be fun. I got my birthday party this weekend. She's going to be friends there. She'll be pretty chill. Do you want to come?

That's actually an awesome invite for you for a second date because, I don't know, somewhere subconsciously in my head, any time a girl invites me to her birthday party, even a friend date because, I don't know, somewhere subconsciously in my head, anytime a girl invites me to her birthday party, even a friend of mine, I'm thinking like, oh,

she wants me to be her present that night. Is that how you felt? I took it as a good sign. Oh my God, I have never thought that inviting a guy to my birthday party before.

You guys go quickly. So much that comes with being invited to a birthday party. That's what a guy's thinking if he invites you to a birthday party. He's like, that is what I want to unwrap later. Did you get her anything for her birthday, seeing as you barely know her?

I brought a bottle of wine, but that was a good gesture. Yeah, it's a perfect gift. Are you kidding me? And was she excited to see you? Yeah, I felt like I was welcome. I felt like they wanted me there. She wanted me there. She invites you to her birthday party and you show up.

She's like, oh. You actually showed up. Well, she could have been preoccupied with all of her friends and family. Like, it'd be easy to not be able to spend a whole lot of time with you. No, no. I got the vibe that she was very excited for me to be there. Okay. How did she introduce you to her friends?

This is George from Tinder. Or did she say, it's a friend of mine, you know, or it's a guy I'm dating Okay. How did she introduce you to her friends? This is George from Tinder. Or did she say, it's a friend of mine, you know, or it's a guy I'm dating even. How'd she introduce you? Yeah, I think she said friend. This is a friend of mine. We didn't go into details about Tinder. I think that's a later. But all of her good girlfriends knew.

Like, they all got the lowdown before you showed up. Yeah, I got the sense that they knew. Because whenever she introduced me, they go, oh, you're George. Yeah, I got the sense that they knew because whenever she introduced me, they go, oh, you're George. You're the guy. That's a good sign. That means that she's talking about you to her friends. Yeah, or they were all in the room

when she swiped bread. Maybe. Because the last thing you want to do is go, this is George, this guy I just met. And they go, I've never heard of you. She's not excited about you one bit. So that's a good sign. Yeah, I actually met her parents.

Her parents were at the party. And they seemed like nice people. We chatted and it wasn't as awkward as it should have been. That's nice. But then the next day, I texted her and be like, okay, what are we going to do next? And then it took a long time for her to respond. And when she did, she just said, let me pull it up. She said, hey, I feel like I need to be honest.

I'm not interested in taking this any further. Well, she. So you don't, you're not wondering if you're not getting a call back from her because she's busy or something. You know specifically that she does not want to talk to you again. Yep. And then I asked why, if I can ask why, and just no response. So I have no idea. You seem like, I mean, were you social at the party?

Because I think it's always such a red flag if you invite somebody and then you have to, like, babysit them the whole time. No, I thought I was making the rounds. I thought, I didn't think I offended anybody. Okay. It just sounds like you got bad reports from friends. Oh, really? Yeah. I mean, like, that's how I would read it.

I thought I got along with her friends great. I like her friends a lot, and I don't think I did anything crazy, like pull my junk out and wave it around. Maybe that's actually the problem. Maybe that's what you needed to do, make a really lasting impression. Yeah, maybe I misread the situation entirely. Get hired for all sorts of birthday parties in that group. You got to know when it's a party where you're supposed to whip your junk out at the end.

You have to know that because if you don't, it's just bad form. You know what I mean? True. Very true. Dating 101. Yeah, I know. We'll play a song, come back, call her, and get your second date update, all right? Awesome.

Thank you. Hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. George is on the phone with us. He wants to call a girl named Lisa today. They met on Tinder, went out for a coffee date.

She liked him so much, she invited him to her birthday party. He went there, said he had a fun time, talked to all her friends, family, all that good stuff. But a few days later, he wasn't hearing anything back. And then she texted him saying, I'm not really interested. He's curious why and if he did something wrong. George, I didn't even think to ask the obvious question here. At the birthday party, did you sleep with one of her friends? No, no, I think I'd remember that. All right. Well, there's a follow-up to that. Does she have any pets, and did you sleep with them?

Oh, come on. It's a... You hear how these second date updates end up a lot, all right? She did have a very cute dog, but no, we did not have... All right. So, from my perspective, everything should be good, and she shouldn't be blowing you off. Are you ready to call her?

Yeah. Yeah, let's do it. All right, but if I find out she had a bird or something and you had relations with it, I'm going to be pissed that you lied to me. No, no, no, no, no, no. Just trying to make sure we're on the same page. All right, I'm going to dial the phone number right now and get her on the phone and get your second date update. You ready? Yeah, let's do this.

Hello? Hi, can I speak to Lisa, please? This is her. Hey, Lisa, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Um, hello. Hello. I'm calling you today because one of our listeners emailed us and asked us to get you on the phone.

Really? It's a segment that we do on our show called The Second Date Update. It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up blowing them off, they email us and ask us to get that person on the phone and ask why. So you recently went out on a date with somebody that listens to our show. All right. His name is George. I think you would remember going on a date with George

because you also invited him to your birthday party. Oh, yes, I did. Sounds like regret in your voice right there. Do you have a second to talk to us about George? Yeah, I have a second. Fortunately. Do you have a second to talk to us about George? Yeah, I have a second. Unfortunately. So he told us about how you guys met and he went to your birthday party. He thought everything went great.

And then you sent him a text message saying you didn't want to talk to him anymore. Did he do something wrong? Well, you know what? He was great with my friends, but the reactions at the end of the night were just not what I expected. Did your friends not like him? They thought he was kind of a douche or something? It wasn't my friends who reacted about him. It was my parents.

Oh, your parents didn't like him? Yeah. Like, really didn't like him? At all. Really? Are they, like, really strict parents? No, they're not really ever protected. That's why it's weird that they didn't like this person.

What did they say to you? Well, they told me, he asked questions. And they told me, he asked my mom, how many grandkids do you want? What? Yes. Was he joking? My mom said.

I don't know. She didn't make it seem like he was joking. Was it in context, though, about something they were talking about? How long was he talking to your parents? He was talking to them for a long time. I think he was trying to impress them or something, but he was with them for a while. Before I got married, my mom would not really bring up grandkids. But some of them are like, oh, my God, I can't wait until she finally gets married.

Give me some grandkids. No, that's not my mom at all. But to ask that after, like, the first time meeting them, and especially we just went to coffee once. Like, we've only been on one date. To ask that? Did she get the feeling? I mean, because I could see him talking to her and just be like, hey, do you want grandkids someday? That's cool.

But if he's like, how many grandkids you want because I'm about to do work? I'm getting ready to do work tonight. With how she felt about it? Yes, that's exactly how I talked to her. But don't you think, I mean, one question like that, like it was enough to write him off? No, it was the second question that he asked my parents. The second? What else did he ask your parents other than if they want grandkids?

He asked my dad for permission to marry me. Shut up! What? That is not true. He had to have been joking. There's no way. He did. He had to have been joking. There's no way. He did. He had to have been joking, though.

No, my dad said he was serious. Are you sure your dad's reading it correctly? I can't imagine a guy being out technically your second date at your birthday party and then asking your father for permission to marry you. I wish it had happened, but it did. And is that why you sent him a text saying, I don't want to talk to you anymore? Yeah. Okay. By the way, I completely support

that. I'd love to know if he was actually joking, though. Wouldn't you? No. I mean, I trust my parents. Alright, well, I'd like to ask him, and he's actually on the other line listening right now, so we can do that. Are you f***ing serious?

Yes I am. First of all this is being blown way out of proportion. Way out of proportion. I was having an adult conversation with some adults about adult things. I don't know what to say right now. This whole situation is just confusing.

It's really confusing to me too. George did you ask her father if you could marry her? It was in the context of a fun conversation. I was like, you know, I was just like, hey, man, what do you think if I married your daughter? What? So you weren't joking, though, because you just didn't deny it. No, well, I mean, first of all, I didn't want them to think I was just some Tinder guy. So it kind of established some credibility.

Wow. It's too much credibility. So I thought, well, for this guy to take me seriously, I should ask the question. Let's talk about putting me in the awkward position of this is my first, like, well, I guess second date with you, and I'm meeting your parents, and I'm supposed to hold the court for an hour? Okay, but you don't ask them to marry me after we've only been on one date. It just came up. It wasn't, I didn't say, I didn't say, hey, I'm going to go propose your daughter. I said, hey, you know, down the line, what would you think of a guy like me marrying your daughter?

That is so crazy. I don't understand what's so crazy. Look, I just turned 30. I'm in the present company of adults and we're talking about adult things. Marriage is on everybody's mind. You have gone to coffee with this girl, and that is it. We hit it off. Yeah, but hitting it off is way different than, hey, we're going to get married. Sir, can I have your daughter's hand in marriage? I didn't ask for her hand in marriage that moment.

I asked down the line. Oh, so it was a future proposal that you were thinking about. It was a future hypothetical. That doesn't make it any better, George. Whether it was in the future or not, you don't ask it now. I mean, we did hit it off at the coffee shop, but it didn't hit off to say, okay, I'm going to marry this person. Man, I think you're just way too uptight about this whole thing.

Holy crap. I'm uptight about it? Really? Yeah. Well, I think you're f***ing crazy. Well, okay. I guess I'm sorry that I saw a future, you know, together. I'm sorry. If that makes me crazy, well, then I'm sorry.

Yeah, Lisa, you should be flattered. George wanted to marry you after one coffee date. Yeah, that's not flattering. Why is that not flattering? Because it's creepy. Okay, I guess I just don't understand. I feel like that's, like, a pretty high compliment you could pay somebody. George, you don't even know her. You just met her.

Well, and she's having me meet her parents. Yeah, but she didn't specifically say, hey, come meet my parents. Didn't she just ask you to go to her birthday? Yeah, but she left me alone with her parents for like an hour. I mean, I think she would see that and be like, oh. So were you like pissed off that she left you with her parents for so long? You're like, I'm just going to screw this whole thing up right now. Hey, sir.

No, I wasn't pissed. I was actually like, okay, she must really like me. She's putting me together with her parents. I never heard, what did her dad say to you after you asked for her hand in marriage? He just laughed it off, and I did too, and I took that as like, oh, he likes me. Yeah. I'd love to know what he was thinking. Yeah. Well, this I did too. And I took that as like, oh, he likes me. Yeah.

I'd love to know what he was thinking. Yeah, seriously. Well, this is normally the point where I ask if you guys want to go out on a second date, and I will pay for it. But instead, George, would you like to propose to Lisa right now? I will pay for the catering at your wedding if she says yes. Oh, my God. Please don't.

Lisa, you don't want free wedding catering? I'll pay for it. No. No, my God. Please don't. Lisa, you don't want free wedding catering? I'll pay for it. No. No, thank you. Yeah, I think the moment's passed on that one. You sure? I don't know. Lisa, has it passed?

Yes, it's definitely passed. It was never even there. That's a good point. Lisa, thank you for your time. Anytime. Yep, and I'm sorry that you're not going to be getting married to George anytime soon. Thankfully. If a girl ever asks me to meet her parents, I will politely decline.

Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it.

For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show, and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition Podcast. Dive into Jon's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and

more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The forces shaping markets and the economy are often hiding behind a blur of numbers.

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