Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Backseat Crier

Episode Date: December 14, 2015

Some relationship experts say fighting can actually be healthy in a relationship... UNLESS you're entire first date is a big yell-fest. So why does one of our listeners (Nick) want another go round after that happened? We'll find out in Today's Second Date Update!(Image Courtesy: MattysFlicks. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Moving 92.5 or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm sure you guys have had friends that argue all the time with their significant other. Like, you know that couple, they can't ever go out anywhere because you know it's going to end in an argument. That has to start at some point,

maybe even on a first date. Kind of what happened with Nick who wants us to call Grace today. That's the girl that he went out with. I don't even know why Nick wants to call her because it sounds like a horrible first date. But we're going to talk to him about it anyway and ask. Nick, how are you?

Hey guys. First off, I just want to say I'm like a huge, huge fan of the show. You guys are awesome. You're the man. I love want to say I'm like a huge huge fan of the show you guys are awesome Thanks, Jubal like you're the man. I love listening to the stuff you guys do on the radio. All right, okay couldn't agree more Now we're getting out of control Nick. Let's be honest Nick your email said that you and Grace the girl you went out with Argued the whole time on your date Why do you want to call her? Why do you even want a second date? I? Don't know man. I just felt like there was some kind of, like, connection, you know?

Like, there's some fiery about the whole thing. It's not passion, dude. Well, was it the type of arguing that's, like, over big theological issues, or was it the kind of, like, fiery debate that you can have with some people? Because I think that's nice sometimes. It was just, like, about some stuff. Like, some of it was about stuff that happened that night. But, um... Can you get more specific here?

Yeah, well, I'll give you, like, sort of the lowdown of, like, what happened. Okay. Basically, like, we met online. It was either, like, Tinder or it was OkCupid or... You don't even know which place you met her at, Nick? How much online dating are you doing, dude? I don't know. Like, a good deal.

I mean, it's fun, you know? It's fun to meet people. Right. So you met Grace on some website and you guys met up. Now, your email said that you started off arguing. You started the whole thing off with an argument. How does that even happen, dude? How do you start off with an argument on your first date right away?

Well, like, we met up at this parking lot. We met in the mall parking lot. You know, because she was like, oh, you know, we don't really know each other that well. I don't want you to, like, come pick me up at, like, my house. Right. Which I respect for. So we're, like, hanging out in the parking lot of this mall. And I was like, all right, well, let's go.

I made a reservation somewhere else. And she was like, oh, well, I kind of thought we would be here. And I was like, no, no, no. Like, I put another restaurant down the way. Like, just hop in my car and we'll go. Oh, so she didn't want to get in the car with you because she thought you were a creep. Yeah. She didn't want to get in the car.

And you guys argued about that? Well, I was like, you know, like, it's a date. It seems like a more sort of economical. Get in the car. Yeah. Get in here. Nick, you don't sound like a fiery person. You sound pretty laid back.

Well, I have, like, opinions, I guess. Oh, okay. I don't know. I wanted to do nice things for her, and she wasn't letting me do them. And I was like, hey, like, I want to drive you to the date. Okay. So she said, no, I don't want to get in your car. You said, get in the car now.

I'm taking you to dinner. She said, no. Did it get heated with you guys? We were arguing, but it didn't really get heated until we got to the restaurant. That's when the big argument started. You guys have known each other for all of what?

An hour by this point? Probably like 15 minutes. Yeah, a little less. Okay, so what was the argument about in the restaurant? Well, she went to sit, and I could see that she had this tattoo on her hip. So I was like, oh, what's that? Can you tell me what it's about?

She was like, no, no, no, I'd rather not. And I was like, oh, come on, like, it's on your body, you know, like, you got a tattoo on your body. It's there forever. It's in a pretty visible place. Like, what is it? And she was like, no, I got it when I was 17. I don't really like, just would rather not talk about it on a first date. Why didn't you just let it go then, Nick? Well, I tried to like, forget it and not think about it. And then like a minute would go by and it would come into my head again and just ask. And I would say like, why can't we just talk about this now so we can get to the next part of dinner oh my god you know you're coming

off as crazy right you argued with her the entire date how did things end with you guys well i was pretty upset about it and she was pretty upset about it and you know we drove back to the parking lot and it got a little bit worse, and then she just left. Were you, I mean, at any point during this, did the arguments escalate into actual yelling? Yeah, definitely. So, Nick, why do you even want to call her back for a second date? You guys obviously don't get along. I just, like, I really liked her.

She's really pretty, and she had a cool energy about her. She was really feisty and she didn't take any crap from me and she would just give it right back and I felt like it could be like a really cool sexual energy too. Nick, do you normally fall for girls who tend to beat you up a little

bit? I like a girl who can stand up for herself. But screaming at the end of a date, not exactly the same as feisty. You never know. Sometimes people are together and they just have that thing where they

know how to push each other's buttons. You fight and then you make up. And the makeup is very nice. Alright, Nick. Well, we'll play a song. Come back, call her, get her on the phone. And we already know why she's not calling you back. That's a terrible first date you just told us about. But we'll see if we can get you a second date, I guess.

Okay? All right, cool. All right. Hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. All right, I figured it out.

I figured out how Nick, who's on the phone to do a second date update with us right now, can actually get this girl to go out with him again. Apologize profusely and swear it won't happen again. No. Oh. Well, kind of, I guess. Nick's about to have us call Grace for a second date update. Their first date was filled with arguments.

It started at the car and continued on through dinner. They argued the whole time. Nick, you want a second date with her, right? Yeah, definitely. For whatever reason. I'm guessing the best way to do that is to just tell her, hey, at least it's going to be all uphill from here. Like it can't get any worse than what happened on our first date.

Unless she disagrees with you and then you start a fight. Yeah, and then it just ends up in an argument. I mean, I'm willing to try whatever. Okay, we're going to call her right now. See if we can get her on the phone. Talk to her about your date and then we'll connect you with her. Okay? Great.

Alright, man. Here we go. Hello? Hi, is Grace there there this is she hello grace how are you this is jubile from brook and jubile in the morning hi do you know who i am i do i just don't know why you're calling me but hello do you know who i am grace i feel like you've used that line a couple of times i have mostly at restaurants so you listen to our show at all of times. I have. Mostly at restaurants. So you listen to our show at all? Yeah, I do. Okay.

Have you ever heard the second date updates before? I think I heard one. Okay. So you kind of know what it is. It's where you go out on a date with somebody, end up not calling them back. They email us to get you on the phone and ask why. The person that I'm calling about is named Nick. You've got to be

kidding me and i feel like that's the best response you ever could have given i feel like this is a very memorable date for you because we actually talked to nick we read his email and he said that you guys argued throughout the whole first date but nick still wants to go out with you he is a loon. I'm glad we're doing this because this is going to be like a warning to everybody on Match.com. Oh, my God. He didn't even list Match. So what happened on the date?

So I told him, let's meet in the mall parking lot. That's where I always meet dates because I don't know these guys yet. Right. And I told him we're going to go to eat at the restaurant that was right there where I had parked. He starts going into a fit wanting me to get in his car because he's going to take me to a place

that's quote, bitchin'. Bitchin'. Bitchin'. I'm going to take you to a bitchin' spot. That's like a five-star yell yeah well he explained that to us grace he told us all about your argument in the parking lot that you didn't want to get in the car and he said that he was he had planned to take you to a nice dinner and wanted to drive you there and told us how you argued quite a bit so we're in the car and he

starts trying to kiss me at every stop sign no he didn't didn't. Really? Right away? Yes. I'm like, get out of here. And then he says, you need to be more open with me. Wow. Okay. He didn't mention anything about the kissing. I'll go ahead, Grace, and tell you what else he said about your date. Go ahead. He said that you went to the

restaurant and got in a little bit of an argument about your tattoo. It was like a dog seeing a bone he would not shut up about this tattoo where'd you get it was me what you have a hell over you did it here we're going to do you too i'm like shut up it's private first of all if i want you to know what my tattoo is i'll tell you you. Okay, I didn't. So I'm getting mad. And I'm just starting yelling. And I said, you know, it's none of your business.

And so he said, well, if that's your attitude, you're paying for dinner. Oh, no. It was worth $40 to me to just get him out of my sight. I put down the $40. And I'm like, take me back to my car now. I mean really I could have ran there but I had on good shoes. Hey Grace, I'll tell you this. Nick

when he was talking about you I said why do you even want to go on a second date with Grace? Because you guys argued the whole time. I didn't know about him being a weirdo or whatever with you. I just knew about you guys arguing and I said why would you want to go out with her again? He said I love the fact that she's got spunk and she stands up for herself. You do have a lot of spunk. He got that right.

And you're funny. What if you were to talk to Nick right now, what would you say to him? Well, I'd have to spit because I'd throw up in my mouth a little bit. I would just suggest a bit of therapy. You know, he just, I don't know if his meds hadn't kicked in yet or they wore off or what the backstory is. But he's not issues. Grace? Oh, my God, Grace. Yeah.

Nick is actually on the phone. Hey, Grace. You have got to be f***ing kidding me. No, not at all. Nick, what do you have to say for yourself? Is everything that Grace said true? I mean, it's not that bad But, like, yeah, we had some hiccups in our date Well, you told us about the hiccups

You told us about the hiccups But I'm talking about trying to kiss her As soon as she got in the car And that kind of stuff Well, I met her online Like, a lot of the girls that i've met online are like down you know to kiss like pretty much right off the bat i feel like that's probably not true they're not nick they might be doing it to shut you up because first

of all i have never been around anybody that uses more words that says absolutely nothing and takes 25 minutes to do it i mean you are one of the most annoying human beings that has ever walked the earth wow see like that's why i like you because you got that spunk you're not afraid to like tell it how it is right right here's how it is the guys didn't let me finish my story when we got to my car finally thank the lord he started crying he was what was he saying why was he crying wait well i just don't understand why this is south you know because I think that you're just like an awesome chick, you know, and there's like all this energy and chemistry. And he jumped in the backseat of my car. He jumped in the backseat of your car?

How'd you get him out? He said, I'm not going to get out until you promise me a second date. I'm not going to get out. Sometimes I just got to warm up. I'll be better on the next date. And so I was like, okay, I'll get out until you promise me a second date. I'm not going to get out. Sometimes I just got to warm up. I'll be better on the next date. And so I was like, okay, I'll go out with you again. And the freak got out of my car. And I'd like to apologize to the mall because I left big old tire marks as I was going out.

Nick, is all that true? Well, I was upset, you know? Nick. Nick, you're okay. I had to put all this energy and focus into something. Nick, Nick, Nick, you are very calmly talking about this. You don't see anything wrong with your behavior. No, I do. I don't think it was the perfect date or anything like that.

The perfect date, Nick. That was the understatement of the century, Nick. Nick, I'm going to recap one thing real quick for you. You were in tears, blubbering, jumped in the backseat of a car, refused to get out unless you would go on a second date. That is not normal behavior, man. All right. Well, I just, I don't know. I was improvising.

Okay. Oh, God. Nick? Yeah? How about this? You don't have to cry and throw yourself around this time. I will ask for a second date

before you. Grace? Would you like to go out with Nick again? We will pay for a second date. Please don't yell at me. Come on. Yeah, I would.

What we're going to do is we're going to go to a therapist's office. I'm going to drop him off and you guys will pay for it. That'll probably be the nicest thing you've done this year.

It's like a charity case for Nick. Mm-hmm. Nick, there you go, man. That's what happened. Well, win some, lose some, I guess.

Hey, Nick, are we still cool? Like, I know that you got put through a lot here with Grace and everything else and being in this segment. Like, you may feel ripped on everything else. We're still cool, right? Like, you still are we still cool? Like, I know that you got put through a lot here with Grace and everything else and being in this segment. Like, you may feel ripped on everything else. We're still cool, right?

Like, you still are friends with the show and everything? Yeah, you guys are cool. I mean, like, you went out of your way to do this for me. That's pretty cool. All right. Thank you, man. Thank you for the second date update. Take care.

All right, I will. All right, man. Thank you. Yeah. I just wanted to make sure he was still friends with us because he is crazy we're so done with new year new you this year it's more you on Bumble

more of you shamelessly sending playlists especially that one filled with show tunes more of you finding Gemini because you filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive

balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general.

You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show, and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Dive into Jon's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors.

And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.