Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Earlobe Madness

Episode Date: June 16, 2016

Have you ever been on a first date and you do something so STUPID... so idiotic... you're like... "I WISH I could just take that back". That happened to one of our listeners, Nathan. And now he's not getting a call back. Find out what happened in the Second Date Update!(Image Courtesy: Travis Issacs. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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A lot of times in life, you get caught up in the moment, and then you do something. Later on, you think about it and you go, I'm a dumbass. I probably should not have done that. Nathan is on the phone with us right now for a second date update, and that's sort of what happened on his date. Nathan, how you doing? I'm doing all right, but you're exactly right. Thank you for your email.

Appreciate it. We'll let you kind of explain the story of what happened. I thought it was hilarious, actually, just picturing what you said in your email. But first of all, how did you meet the girl that you want us to call today? Her name is Maggie? Yeah. Okay. How did you meet Maggie? I met her on

OkCupid. I know like sometimes it's just people look at that as a hookup site, but I figured that she was worth, you know, getting to know a little bit. Alright. So normally you hook up with all the other girls. This one was special. You liked Maggie. So how long did you guys chat for a couple of weeks and then decided to go out?

Yeah, we set up a date for a dinner date. And what'd you do at your dinner date? Where'd you go? We went to this really great restaurant that I wanted to try. It had just a great water view. Oh, fancy. I called ahead to let them know if I could reserve one of the best seats, you know, like with the best view right by the water. And they gave that to you? Yeah. Do you have to drop a name or anything else? Next time, if you're having a problem with that,

I will allow you to drop Jose's name. You can do that all you want. They will seat you by the back, by the kitchen. So you got the table that you wanted by the water. That's cool. Yeah. And you were still excited about this date because everything had panned out in person, right? She didn't turn out to be someone who, I don't know, looked more like Jabba the Hutt or something.

No, exactly. She looked like her photo, which is rare. That's impressive, yeah. And how was dinner? Dinner was great. The conversation went well. The food was good. Tell us about the part that you think is the reason that you might not be getting a call back today.

It's so embarrassing. And again, I thought of this after the date. I was trying to figure out, you know, just sort of playing it through in my head and realized that we're having conversation. And, you know, I'm looking at her and taking her in and sort of looking at her face. That's a good place to look. Yeah, exactly. And I noticed that her earlobes are really not, just are like sort of barely connected. You know, some people have those earlobes that are... Yeah, some people's earlobes go straight into their cheek, and then the other ones kind of have a big lobe on it.

It's genetic. Yeah, exactly. And it's such a silly thing, but I was just caught up in it. And it was really kind of dangle. She had kind of big earrings on, and I thought they were cute. It was just me getting caught up in it, and we were talking, and I thought they were cute. It was just me getting caught up in it and we were talking and I thought they were cute.

And I reached across the table and I played with her earlobe. That is going to be so weird on a first date. Nathan to just like, were you guys touching at all before you played with her earlobe?

And that's what I wanted to know because when you put it in your email, I was like, okay, if they were holding hands or something before, maybe I could see it. But if she's just in mid-conversation and you slowly, this is how I picture it, Nathan, slowly reach across the table while gazing into her eye and then just start flicking her earlobe, that's going to be weird. It may have been even worse than that. I mean, it wasn't even like we were gazing.

She was in the middle of a conversation. She was in the middle of Did you caress them I mean what did you do with the earlobe no it wasn't a caress it was more like intriguing like to see What was her reaction like immediately she she flinched I mean it was it was inappropriate did she stop talking after that or did she just like kind of look at you like what did you just do

yeah she did kind of like like can I help you kind of a thing and then I I just started talking and I was like you were saying it was genetic

and I was like everyone in my family ours are attached and I just you know so you started talking about her earlobe after you played with it just, you know, I... So you started talking about her earlobes after you played with it.

Exactly. All right. You know what? I don't even know if there's a move you could have done to make that better. If you would have just been like, sorry, I thought you had nice lobes. Or you go, hey, this is why I did that. How did the rest of the evening go after that happened? I mean, it seemingly, that didn't seem to ruin anything.

We continued on, but then looking back, you know, I asked her if she wanted dessert. This place has, they bring out a beautiful dessert selection you can pick from. And she was like, no, I'm not hungry. You know, so that's a sign. And then at the end of the date, I walked her to her door and I would have wanted to go in for the kiss. And then I just, it didn't feel right. So I gave her to her door, and I would have wanted to go in for the kiss, and then it just didn't feel right, so I gave her a hug. You should have given her one last flick on the earlobe for the road.

So you went in for a hug, and at the end of the night, did she say that she wanted to see you again? I said, I'd love to do something like this sometime. Can I give you a call? And she said, sure. But, you know, I think it speaks more that I haven't been able to get in touch with her for the last two weeks. I've sent her a text here and there, and I haven't really gotten anything back. You haven't gotten anything back at all.

Yeah. All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call her, see if we can get her on the phone, see if we can get her to press those beautiful earlobes up to the phone and answer. And we'll get your second date update, okay? All right, thanks. All right, hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the Morning's Second Date Update.

Hey, Nathan? Yeah? I think I figured out what the problem is with the date that you went on. All right. Nathan wants us to call this girl named Maggie on their date. Nathan got a little wrapped up in the moment, noticed her earlobes and did something that he knows is weird. He reached over

and started playing with her earlobes. And it set a really weird theme for the rest of the date because that's an awkward thing to do. But Nathan, I think I figured out the problem. It's not the fact that you played with her earlobe. It's the fact that you didn't play with her earlobe enough. Everybody in here knows, Nathan, as soon as you'd go for the ear on a lady, you got to

go all the way. You know what I mean by that, Nathan. Yeah, I didn't commit. Yeah, you didn't commit all the way. Did you only play with one side? Maybe you should have gone for two. Don't be a lobe tease. Yeah.

Nobody likes a lobe tease. Very good point, Jose. All right, Nathan, we're about to give Maggie a call and see if the earlobe fiasco killed your chances at a second date. Are you ready? Yeah, I'm ready. Okay, I'm going to call her right now. Hello? Hi, can I speak to Maggie, please? Hi, this is Maggie. Maggie, how are you? This is Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning. Sorry, can I help you with something? You recently went out on a date with one of our listeners, but you're not calling him back. So he emailed us to give

you a call and find out if he did something wrong on the date. Now, the guy that wanted us to call you today knows that he did something a little strange on your date. His name is Nathan. Okay. Nathan says that he's tried to text you a few times since your date. And so he called a radio station? Yes. So he called us to see if we could get you on the phone since you're not answering his phone calls and ask you why.

Seriously? Yes. Is it because he played with your earlobe on the date? He told us about it. Oh, he did? Yeah, he told us all about your date. He said that he met you on OkCupid, and he liked you a lot, thought you guys were getting on very nicely, until in the middle of dinner, he reached over and played with your earlobe.

I'm assuming that's probably the issue. The earlobe thing was definitely part of it. Part of it. That's not the entirety of it. Because as soon as Maggie, if I was on a date with someone and they reached across and just started jiggling my earlobe back and forth while I was talking, if they were hot, there'd be a second date but maybe but most people would not want to

call anybody back after that i assumed that it was just the earlobe what else did you not think was so great about nathan um it just it seems like he's not somebody who goes out on dates a lot was he just really awkward like the earlobe thing and maybe... The earlobe thing was a little inappropriate, but he also, he kept making, like, really out-of-date pop culture references. Hey, there is nothing wrong with that. I'm gonna

just jump in and defend it right now. Woo-woo is fine. No, Brooke, that's not... What do you mean out-of-date pop culture references? Well, it kind of seemed like he went out and memorized a bunch of stuff that he thought would be relevant to have a conversation. At one point, he was like, oh my gosh, did you hear that Katie Holmes broke up with Tom Cruise? No, stop it. Did he really say that?

Was he joking? He did. And I was like, yeah, that happened a while ago and he's like oh really because i just it's so shocking that's like something that happened like 10 years ago it feels like yeah and he made a reference at one point he's like oh my gosh have you seen this new music video dogman style dogman style he was trying to talk about Gangnam style, which is also not very relevant. How did this come up in conversation? Were you guys talking about

pop culture type things? No, that's why it kind of felt like he memorized a bunch of stuff or something, because it was like these little tidbits that he would kind of just throw into the conversation. So you'd be talking about something completely different, and he would just kind of spout off like, I know this pop culture fact.

That's what it felt like. It's like going on pop-up video. Which is also not a relevant reference. I don't think that show has been on the air in about 15 years. Did you? Yeah, so okay. So that obviously felt like

he must have been a little weird. I mean he seemed really sweet and I felt really bad and I didn't think it would benefit anybody to tell him I didn't want to see him. Aren't you kind of curious, though, why the out-of-date pop culture references during your date? I just figured he was really nervous. Aren't you curious about the earlobe play that you got?

I mean, I kind of just chalked it up to him being nervous. Aren't you curious about the earlobe play that you got? Wouldn't you want to hear? I kind of just chalked it up to him being nervous. Don't you want to hear the reasoning behind any of that? Yeah. I mean, maybe, but not enough to want to hurt his feelings. I figured, you know, just maybe just not calling him back. Well, I know how to get your answer, though.

You said maybe you'd like to hear the reasoning on that. I can get you an answer. Because he's on the phone right now listening. Maggie. Hey, Maggie. Are you curious? Yeah, I can get you an answer. Because he's on the phone right now, listening. Maggie. Hey, Maggie. Are you serious? Yeah, I'm listening. Why didn't nobody tell me this? I forgot.

Maggie, I'm glad I got to hear what you had to say. And I wanted to make a good impression. And I was nervous. I'm sorry I'm not, you know, Mr. Pop Culture. But men and women like different things and I have to admit I did a little online research Nathan I don't think

that she's Miss Pop Culture like you're thinking and men and women are different that's true but did you just start reading things online well you know I know that the video didn't just come out but I don't know how you pronounce that word all right whatever it is and it's still the

most watched video on YouTube it's true so that's a relatable I was trying to you know turn it and Tom Cruise has a new movie coming out and so Nathan don't you think she'd want to hear about your hobbies or talk about your interests? I mean, you're interesting people. You could talk about that. Are you supposed to relate to people? But, again. Yeah, but you just kind of like to see if you guys naturally get along.

You know, I have to say something really quickly. I mean, I'm actually a little offended that you think that all girls are just kind of really into pop culture because I'm the kind of person that like to relax. I watch like documentaries and I go to artsy foreign films and stuff. And the fact that you would sort of assume that the way to all women's heart is by People magazine is that actually is kind of offensive to me. I'm casting a broad net. We're just trying to find anything relatable. That wasn't casting a broad net.

That was trying to impress me with a very limited frame of reference. Well, Maggie, at least he put effort into it. He tried. He read. He prepared. Like, girls are on guys a lot of times for not putting enough effort in. Well, but I would have preferred for him to put effort in getting to know me. I mean, I was asking him a lot of questions about him.

You know, I didn't feel like I needed to go bone up on football and Playboy to impress him. Nice. Shut up. But I wouldn't have been offended if we talked about who won the World Series two years ago. Or if you talked about Playboy the entire time. Nathan's like, why are you reading up on guy stuff? Who do you think you are? Look, Maggie, I was just nervous.

All right, I would like to get to know you. And I would love if you made a suggestion for a second date, whatever kind of thing appeals to you. Beauty salon or whatever? I don't know. I mean, truth be told, I might have just chalked the first one up to nerves and tried it again. But after this conversation, I really have no desire. Really?

But I think that everything Nathan has said to you is kind of nice. I mean, he did not apologize for the earlobe thing yet. But I guess that was not the biggest issue with you. I mean, it just sounds like Nathan was nervous. I think I was most nervous because we had such a good rapport back and forth to set the date up. You know, that's what got me nervous for the date is because I thought that was going so well. Okay. Maggie. Let me ask Nathan, let me ask you a question and then I'll decide. Other than the fact that

assuming that you find me somewhat attractive or you wouldn't really want to go on another date with me, what is it about me wouldn't really want to go on another date with me. What is it about me that makes you want to go on another date? Well, I mean, first attraction is important. And you're passionate. I did like that you talked about things passionately, that you do seem intelligent and well-read. Maggie, would you like to... What did I seem passionate about specifically?

I'm going to try not to let it get there Maggie will you go out on a second date with Nathan we will pay for it and Nathan can tell you in person what he likes about you and what he thinks is good about your passion and whatever I promise it's just gonna be you and I talking about you and I, I won't watch any Housewives episodes. And I promise I won't flick your earlobe. We forgot all about that. Nathan, you do seem like a nice person. And I understand what it's like being really nervous on a first date. So I will go out on another date with you if we can agree to just not try to impress and just really try to legitimately get to know each other. No pressure or anything. All right.

Yeah, all right. Sweet. That sounds great. And I won't be so awkward next time. I promise. That's okay. I understand what that's like. So it's all right.

We got you guys a second date. Maggie, thank you for being understanding. Thank you for being on the show. I appreciate it. Nathan? Yeah? You are right. I can hear through the phone that Maggie has fabulous earlobes. I can hear it. We're so done with New Year, New You. Good morning. I always liked them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you.

Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline's CES coverage

won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances

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