Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: I Need a Loan

Episode Date: June 9, 2014

You can expect SOME lies when it comes to online dating (like the profile pic might be a little outdated)... but the girl in today's Second Date Update didn't lie about her LOOKS... it was something else and she says it's the ONLY WAY she can get a guy to message her. Find out in the PODCAST.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Moving 92.5 Brooke and Jubal in the Mornings Second Date Update It's my experience that people get upset when you lie on your dating profile. Yes, especially when it's a bad picture.

Yeah, anytime I've been on an online dating site and had my profile up there, people are always disappointed when I show up and they realize I'm not a 42 year old woman who just wants to go berry picking on the weekends. And I don't get why they get so angry. And I thought you were just going to lie about your height. Daisy is on the phone with us. And Daisy, I guess you wouldn't say you lie on your dating profile, but you omit something

on your dating profile that you think could have led to a guy not calling you back, right? Correct. Yes. There is an important detail about Daisy that she doesn't share on her dating profile because she met the guy on what website? On OkCupid. All right. Which if you're going to talk about like dating websites, that's like the burien of dating

websites. It's not quite the bottom, but it's not necessarily the best either. What is it? You have like 11 fingers or something? No, I have the right number of fingers. But in addition to the right number of fingers, I also have a son. And when I did have that on my profile, when I was honest about that, I got a lot fewer responses. So now I just don't put it on there. But I do always tell the person, you know, on like the first date. It's not like I try and keep it secret, you know, indefinitely or anything like that. So you're not hiding your son.

You just don't want it to be something that is defining you in the world of dating. Exactly. I just kind of want to get my foot in the door and then I tell them. I'm not exactly. Is the reaction usually pretty good when you tell guys on a first date like, oh, by the way, I have a kid. You didn't see that on my dating profile, but surprise. It's kind of mixed. Some guys are okay with it. Some people are totally offended that I lied on my profile.

If it were me, as soon as you told me that, you would just see a cloud of dust like in a cartoon. I'd be out of there. I totally understand that and that's why i tell people on the first date because you know i don't want to lie i just want a chance to tell them face to face because i think that sometimes can make a difference so what was it like when you told him on the first date when you guys were out to dinner well his name's alex and we ordered dinner and i told him after the food came, and I was just kind of like, so, I have a kid. That's the smoothest way I've ever done it. Just casual.

So how's your steak? It's pretty good. I have a kid. I have a child. So it wasn't the smoothest way to break the news to him that you had it. No, it wasn't my best. And what did he do? I was watching him, you know, because I wanted to see his reaction. And he sort of stopped and just looked at me and said, oh, that's cool. And then sort of went on.

So, I mean, it wasn't horribly positive, but it wasn't horribly negative. It was just sort of generic. I think that's just a polite way of being like, ouch. Really? You think so? I think so. Or maybe he's just saying, why are you being so awkward about it? That's cool. Like, you have a kid.

I don't think so. You'd want to be like, did he ask you about how old your kid is and what sort of kid it is? It is. He did. You know, he asked about, you know, is it a girl or a boy? How old are you? How old is your child? That's cool.

Maybe it was, because if he didn't ask any of those questions, he was like, oh, cool, moving on. Yeah. Then it was obviously something that he didn't like. But if he was asking you questions, he might have been like, oh, that's cool. Yeah. How did the date end? I mean, were you guys having a good time? Yeah, it ended nicely.

I mean, he had picked me up. So at the end, he drove me home. He gave me a kiss on the cheek, which I actually liked. I thought that was really sweet and, you know, like respectful and stuff. I totally like that. And it says I'm not totally grossed out to touch you, but I don't want to move too fast. And the last time you did more than that, you got pregnant. So you don't want to make a mistake.

Yeah. Yeah, and so that was it. And then I called him the next day and I left him a message and just said, you know, that I had a really great time and I appreciated how gentlemanly he was and everything like that. But he, he never called me back. And you haven't heard anything from him. Have you tried more than just that one time? Yeah. I called him a couple other times, but I didn't leave another message. It just went to straight to voicemail, you know couple other times, but I didn't leave another message. It just went straight to voicemail, you know, but I didn't leave another message.

Okay, well, we'll play a song, come back, call him, see if we can get him on the phone and get your second date update, okay? Great, thanks. Hold on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update.

Daisy is on the phone with us right now. She wants to call a dude named Alex. She met him online, okcupid.com. Daisy thinks that the date went poorly once she revealed that she has a kid because she doesn't put on her dating profile that she has a mom because she doesn't want to scare guys off. But you have a rule, Daisy, that you always tell them on the first date and then they can make their judgment from there, right?

Correct. Okay. And that's the only thing you can think of that he wouldn't be calling you back is because he doesn't want to be an insta-dad. Yeah, it's the only thing I can think of because I thought we had a good time except for, you know, there was that. Why would you want to talk to a guy who isn't interested in someone with a kid? I mean, you're not going to change that you have a kid.

Well, I guess I just want to know for sure, you know. And we're just speculating. We don't know that the kid is the reason. It could be something else. Right. Okay. Well, we're going to call him, see if we can get him on the phone, and find out what went wrong, if anything did go wrong on your date, okay?

Okay. Hang on. Hello? Hey, I was looking for Alex. Yeah, this is Alex. Alex, how you doing, man? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning on Movie 92.5. I'm sorry, who is this?

Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning on the radio station Movie 92.5. I'm sorry, who is this? Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning on the radio station moving 92.5. How are you? I'm fine. You're calling from the radio station? Yes. Okay, why? Well, I'm calling you because you recently went out on a date with a listener of ours. That's kind of weird.

It is. A woman named Daisy. Yeah, we'll admit it is not normal to receive this kind of phone call. A woman named Daisy that you recently went out with emailed the show saying that she really enjoyed your time together, but you've been blowing her off and haven't been answering her phone calls. So she said, hey, can you give Alex a call and see if you can find out if I did something wrong? So that's why we're calling you, Alex. Okay. Do you remember going out with Daisy?

Yeah, I had dinner with Daisy. Did you like Daisy? We had a fine time. Dinner was fine. Daisy told us that she doesn't put on her dating profile that she's a mom and she kind of dropped that at dinner. Did that scare you off? I mean, I wouldn't say that scared me off. I mean, it was a little surprising that, you know, that's like a big part of a person's life. And like in other profiles, I feel like that information was on there. So it was a little bit shocking that she just sort of dropped that in the middle of our dinner. But, you know, I'm not against dating someone who has a kid.

So that wasn't it then? No, no. Do you want to see her again? Um. Your voice just got so high. Yeah, your voice got so high, bitch, dude. Oh! I'm taking that

as a no, Alex. You're not necessarily into Daisy. Honestly, the date got a little weird, and so I just don't think that I would want to see her again, you know? Define weird, if you could. This is weird to talk about with strangers on the phone, but towards the end of the meal, she sort of got kind of quiet and emotional and sort of intense.

And then she told me that her car was in the shop, which I knew because I had to drive. She asked me if I could pick her up, which is totally fine. But then she asked me if she could borrow some money to help pay for the car repair. No, stop it. She asked for a loan on your first date? Like, how much money? Like, $700. Oh, stop it. She asked for a loan on your first date? Like how much money? Like $700. Oh, jeez.

She just didn't have, she was waiting for a paycheck the next week or whatever, and she would get me back the next week, but she was in this tight spot, and it was really affecting her kid's life and her life and whatnot. Oh, gosh. How did she bring that up? Did she just say, hey, can I borrow 700 bucks? No, I mean, it wasn't like that. I felt like she felt uncomfortable having to ask, but it was just really weird.

And I was like, you know, I don't really have that kind of cash flow. You know, I don't have $700 to give to someone that I've met like 45 minutes ago. But I understand, you know, people are in a tough spot, like car repairs. Yeah. But then she's like, well, what about like $400? Like I have another friend that I could get the rest from. She was bargaining with you? Yeah, so then she bumped it down to $400.

And I was like, just as a general policy, I don't do loans on first dates. And we had dessert. We went home and I got out of there. Oh, that's so awful. I have a tough time loaning money to good friends of mine, let alone somebody that I just went out on a date with. It seemed like a situation I didn't want to get into. Not to make things weirder than they already are for you. But Daisy is actually on the phone and heard everything that you just said.

Hey, Alex. That's Daisy on the phone? Yep. It's me. Hi. Daisy, you failed to tell us that you asked him for a loan on your first date, Daisy. It was just one little question. You know what I mean?

It didn't... Daisy, that's a $700 question. I was going to be able to pay him back by Friday. I mean, I got paid on Friday. It wasn't like I was never going to pay him back or going to drag this out or anything like that. And, I mean, what am I going to do? I can't ask my ex-husband. He's a jerk.

You know? So, it just, to me, it was like a little question and i didn't hold it against him at all that he said no so i guess it never dawned on me that he would hold it against me that i asked yeah but i don't know you just seems so weird that you would think that it was okay to ask to borrow money don't you think that's weird to me it's just like there's no harm in asking you know what i mean i thought we were having a good time it seemed like you would be and you never know until you ask you know like i said there was no hard feelings that you said no so it just never occurred to me that it

would be that it would create hard feelings that i asked you don't worry about it alex daisy's not pissed at you that you turned down opportunity to loan me money. Why are we worried about whether she's pissed? You know what I mean? Come on. It's super weird to ask to borrow money. I mean, I don't ask friends for money. That's like something you ask family. Do you have an uncle or a cousin or something, rather than asking someone that you just met on a first date?

I mean, I suppose if I had someone else, I would have asked them, you know, but it feels like to me it seems like super judgy to make assumptions about a person based on one question that they asked, you know. Daisy, if I went out on a date, if I went out on a date with someone and they started telling me they were having money problems and then asked me for cash,

I'm going to judge them. Yeah. And I'm going to say that you're trying to like milk me out of money, especially if I met you online. I don't know you at all. Not a lot of trust can be had in a person that you just met on a first date asking for money. I mean, I get what you guys are saying. I totally do.

And I just didn't look at it that way because I am totally honest that I did have the money on Friday. I would have totally paid him back. So it didn't dawn on me that people would jump to that conclusion. Regardless of all of that, I did have a really great time on our date, and I would like to see you again. Alex, would you like to go out with Daisy again? We will pay for a second date. Daisy, I'm not paying for any car repairs.

But we will pay for a second date if you'll go out with Daisy again, Alex. You know what? I will. I'll go out with Daisy again, Alex? You know what? I will. I'll go out with her again. I mean, it was a really awkward, weird first date, but that's not the first awkward first date I've had. That's awesome. Congratulations, you two. Thank you.

You're welcome. They're cute. Alex, don't leave your wallet out on the table. Oh, Jubal flag. Broken Jubal in the morning. Ugh. We're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes.

More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone always like them. More of you dating with intention. Because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year. And find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast.

But the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general.

You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show, and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition Podcast. Dive into Jon's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups,

this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.