Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: I Would Marry Him

Episode Date: June 23, 2014

Emma has only been on ONE DATE with Matt, but she emailed the show and said that she would say "YES" if he proposed! Is it really TRUE LOVE? There's only one way to find out... Call Matt in a Second Date Update!(Image Courtesy: Chrismatos . Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I'm going to start today's second date update off with a line from the email that we got. From Emma, who is on the phone with us right now. She wants us to do a second date update and call a dude named Matt. This is what her email said. If Matt proposed to me today, I would say yes. What? Emma! How are you? I'm okay. How are you? Good. Good morning.

Now explain yourself because I hope you can understand it sounds a little intense. You just went out with this dude on one date, and you're already saying if he proposed to you today, you would say yes. I know, I know. Trust me, though.

It was an amazing experience. Why do you feel this way? I mean, I don't know how to explain it other than that I just felt that way, that I looked into his eyes, and it felt like our souls were mingled. I've never had this happen to me before. I'm not a crazy person. That was going to be my other question. If you've ever gone out on a date with a guy and been like, oh my God, this is the one. No. I'm a passionate person, but I've never gone out with someone once and then felt like they are the person for me. And I absolutely feel that way. Where did you meet this guy? We were volunteering at the theater

passing out programs like you get to see the play for free if you pass out programs and like do ushers type of stuff and that's cool. He just asked you out or? Yeah I mean we were like super obvious it was like our like eyes met and there was like immense electricity. There's a lot

going on with this guy's eyes. The stars collided Jubal and it was destiny. That's how it felt. Like the time there, it wasn't about what we were doing. It was just like whatever we were doing almost didn't matter. It was like the whole world dropped away. And at like some point I mentioned that if he would ask me out, I would certainly go, and then he did.

You know, it sounds crazy, but I really do have a girlfriend who's been married 11 years. They have four kids. And the night she met her husband, before she even knew his name, she told me, I'm going to marry that guy. Yeah. I feel like when you know, in your soul and heart, you know, like it feels undebatable. Did you tell him this is how intense you were feeling? Not directly. I mean, when we had our date, I felt like it was almost obvious it was in the air. Like, I said that this feels amazing,

and I didn't tell him that I would marry him. Because if there's one thing guys like on a first date, it's marriage talk and soulmates. We love that. Meant to be together. Do you feel like he felt the same way?

I feel like I can't imagine that I would feel that way if he didn't feel that way. It felt like a connection. It wasn't like coming from me. It was us meeting in the middle. So how did the date go? Like what was so magical about it? What did you guys do? Oh, the date itself was like normal. It was the end of dinner and drinks that had nothing to do with what the date was. It was about the conversation. And like my mom always told me that marriage or long-term relationships are as one long conversation.

And I felt like I wanted to be in conversation with this person for the rest of my life. Okay, so you had a fun time with him and you never wanted it to end. How did it end? He like walked me to my car and we were like staring at each other and we didn't know who was going to make the move.

But we both like felt like there was like this magnet of electricity in between our mouths and it was like we both just moved towards each other and we kissed and it was like all of the feeling that i had for the whole night just erupted felt like a volcano did fireworks go off behind you because that's what i'm picturing right now yeah all of a sudden over a lake yes that's what it felt and like he said that he would call me um really soon like he was joking about that he would like call me immediately and um so that's how you waited obviously and the next day he didn't call and then the next day I called him and he didn't answer. And some part of me thinks he's just scared of how intense it was.

Like he is like, like that kind of feeling to me makes me want to go towards him. But I know that some, for some people, especially men, like it can be scary to them. You're right. You know, as a guy, when you feel that way about someone, you never felt that way. It can be a scary thing and he could shut off. That could be what he's doing. How long has it been since you had your date? It was the day before yesterday. It was two days ago.

Two days. It hasn't been very long. So you emailed us after a day of him not getting back to you. I know, but I'm telling you, this is the most intense experience of my life. Okay, but you're resorting to have us call him after a day, basically. Yeah, but it wasn't a normal date, and it wasn't a normal day, and I'm in love. Whoa. Oh, my God.

All right, well, love can't wait. But it's like if a miracle happened to you. All right. This is so sweet. I want this to turn out so well. I'm serious, dude. When you find love, it's all beautiful. Emma, we're going to play a song.

We're going to come back. We're going to call him and get your second date update, okay? Okay. Thank you. Good luck. Hang on the phone. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the Morning's Second Date Update. All right, we're about to call a guy for a second date update that could either end in one of the most romantic

love stories you've ever heard in your entire life or it could end crashing and burning. With a lot of tears. And flames. Yeah. Remember the girl that's on the phone with us right now that wants us to call a guy named Matt. Emma is her name. She emailed us and said

if Matt asked me to marry him today, I would say yes. At the end of the first part of the second date update, she actually said, I love him. It dropped the L-bomb. And it's only been a couple of days. And I'd be the first one to say, okay, this is going to turn out horribly. But I also want to be the first one to point out, this has worked out for other people. We've had a few second date updates. Well, we've had one second date update where the person said that they love someone and the other person actually felt the same way. So out of about the 50 times that's happened,

it has worked out once. Emma, the odds are in your favor, I think. Great. I actually have faith in this. I feel like you sound like a woman who's got her head on straight. Thank you. You just maybe are more in tune with your emotions than most people

because he hasn't reciprocated any of this love stuff to you. Well, not with words, but I trust what I felt. Okay. That is the one thing about you, Emma. You don't sound absolutely insane. Thank you. It is sort of insane what you're saying, but there are people who feel that way.

You feel strongly that you care about them. We're going to call him right now and see if we can get him on the phone. Are you ready? I'm ready. Okay. Hello? I was looking for Matt.

This is Matt. Hey, man, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. I'm moving 92.5. Okay. You sound a little confused. Yeah. What's going on?

You recently went out with a listener to our show for a lovely dinner, and she feels like you're blowing her off and you don't want to see her again and she wants to know why. Do you have any idea who I could be talking about? I don't know. The last date I was on was a couple months ago. A couple months ago? Not a couple

days ago? A couple days ago? No. The girl that emailed us, Emma, said that you guys went on a date like two or three days ago. Was that not a date? No. What do you mean? All right, that's confusing.

Yeah, no, Emma said that you asked her out, and then you went on a date, and there were sparks, and you guys had a great time. You didn't consider that a date? That was definitely not a date that was definitely not a date from everything she said it sounded like a date what was it then maybe she didn't tell the whole story here um emma we were both ushers we were just trying to see a show for free and i wanted to know how long the show was because i was meeting some friends at a bar later that night. Okay. And she was like, oh, where are you going?

Blah, blah, blah. We're going in here. So, okay. So the show ends, left the theater, went to the bar where my friends are, and then lo and behold, 20 minutes after I get there, Emma shows up. What? Now, at first, I didn't think anything of it. I did tell her where we were going. So, you know, there's not a lot of bars on that street.

So maybe, you know, whatever. But to be clear, you didn't invite her to it. I did tell her where we were going, so, you know, there's not a lot of bars on that street, so maybe, you know, whatever. But to be clear, you didn't invite her to the bar. Oh, no. Yeah, let's make that very clear. Oh, no. It's not. Oh, goodness. What about the kiss?

She said that you guys kissed. She said that it was a great kiss at the end of the night. I mean, we were drinking for a while and talking, and I had said goodbye to my friends that I was meeting. They had already left. And she made it seem like she was really wanting a kiss. So, you know, a gentleman. It was nothing like... No, no, you don't need to explain yourself, Matt.

If a girl wants a kiss, sometimes you just got to lay one on her when they want it. You know, you got to give them what they need, right, Matt? There was nothing R-rated. It was just like no groping. We're not like, you know, nothing. I'm sorry. I can't listen to this anymore. Matt, what are you doing?

Emma? Yeah, Matt, that's Emma's voice. She's on the other end of the phone and has been listening this whole time. Oh, my God. Matt, are you going to lie on the radio and say that that wasn't a date or that that kiss didn't mean anything to you? I'm not lying. I mean, I didn't even ask you to come to that bar. You just showed up literally in front of all my friends and was just like, hey.

I was like, oh! What's going on? Why would you tell me where you were going to be? Why would you tell me at a specific place and time that you were going to be there? You invited me to come to the bar and then we had dinner and drinks for hours and had like meaningful

and intimate conversations and then at the end of the night we had an amazing intimate kiss. We did not have dinner at the bar. We had chicken wings and fries. Why does it matter what we ate? That has nothing to do with the quality of our drinks spent together.

We could have eaten twigs. It doesn't matter. We were talking about our family and what we want out of life. See, here we go. We were just talking about your family and how amazing. Here's another thing. In this phone call, if you rewind all this, you will hear

Emma say amazing about 400 times. She says it a lot. Matt, did you know it was amazing? You know that. Emma, when you kept talking, you are one of these girls that just says, what are you thinking to the guy over and over and over again. That's the worst.

She's like, Matt, what are you thinking? If there's a lull in the conversation, I just ordered a drink, and she'd be like, what are you thinking now? I just ordered us another round. That's what I'm thinking. Why do you care? Because I want to know you on a deep level. That's what intimacy is.

That's what happens when you're not afraid to know another person. You want to know their thoughts all the time. Haven't heard anything from you in a second, Matt. What are you thinking? I'm thinking Emma's f***ing nuts. I don't understand why you're afraid of a true connection or if you don't feel like you deserve that, or if you don't believe it because you've been burned in the past.

But this is a real thing that you can trust. You can trust it, man. No, I don't even know your last name. We didn't even really talk to each other. That doesn't matter. Who cares what my last name is? Emma, is there some way that you blew this all out of proportion? Absolutely not.

I know what I know. I'm not 15 years old. I've been on dates before. I know what it feels like when it's there and when it's not. And it was there in a stronger way than I have ever felt in my life. And I think that Matt is afraid of that. I will say this. I am afraid.

I am not crazy. I just know what love is, and I. I will say this. I am afraid. I am not crazy. I just know what love is, and I recognize it when it happens. Okay, B. I see it, and I saw it in you. Emma. It's okay. Emma, you sound very, very, very... Passionate.

Crazy. Upset. Yes. Well, someone is telling me that an experience that was more real than anything I have ever felt, you're pretending like that didn't happen. Okay. I don't make anyone feel great. Well, Matt felt differently, obviously, Emma.

And he has a right to his feelings. Yeah. He's pretending to feel differently, and I would love to have another chance to sit face-to-face and have him deny it. Okay. Facing me. Looking at me. How about this?

If you think your love is so strong, I'm going to ask Matt right now. Matt, would you like to go out on a second date with Emma? We will pay for it. A second date with this Emma? Yes, the Emma that's on the phone right now. Not another one. That's specific. I would like to just say that I have not even known this girl for 48 hours yet,

and I'm on the radio debating marriage. Hey, love moves fast sometimes. You just gotta embrace it and get on the train, Matt. Will you go out on a second date? We will pay for it. I will let that train bypass me. I'm gonna get on a different train. You sure? We'll pay for it. You're making a huge mistake, Matt. I appreciate it, guys,

but this is not the one for me. You know what, Emma? In a little while, Matt's gonna be kicking himself. A few years down the road. I know. me. You know what, Emma? In a little while, Matt's going to be kicking himself. A few years down the road. Yeah, I know. Absolutely. When he doesn't find real love, he'll think back to this moment and he'll remember that it was possible and that he gave it up.

When he's alone and doesn't have anybody, he's going to be thinking back to this phone call and realize how he screwed up, Emma. Oh, man. Thank you very much. You're welcome. Thanks for listening. Thanks. I know, honey. Love hurts sometimes. You'll be okay. He's really making the biggest mistake of his life.

I wish I could help him. Emma, I wish I could help both you guys in lots of ways. Yeah, we did try. I wish I could help both you guys in lots of ways. Well, you tried. Thank you. Yeah, we did try.

You have a good one. And Matt, thank you for your time, okay? Thank you very much. Be safe. Very safe. Broken Jubal in the morning. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble.

More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer.

If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How To Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zittron, host of the Better Offline podcast.

And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards' Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

or wherever else you get your podcasts from.