Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Love Stinks like a Candle

Episode Date: July 21, 2016

Alot of romantic relationships, might END UP with a couple shopping together in a candle store... but not very many relationships BEGIN inside one. That's the case with today's Second Date Update... so why has the "flame" gone out? (yea, sorry that was a terrible pun)... Find out, what went wrong in the PODCAST!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Stephanie is on the phone with us, and she wants to do a second date update today to call a guy who she met in what I could only describe as hell on earth. I'm talking about a candle shop. If there is a hell, it smells like a candle shop. I can tell you that. You talk about an instant headache. I can't stand in those places without wanting to vomit from all of the scents from the candles. But anyway, that's where she met the guy that she wants to call today.

Hey, Stephanie, how are you? Hi, I'm good. How are you guys? I'm okay. I'm just having PTSD thinking about having stood in a candle shop before. Oh, come on. And pretty amazing that you picked up on a guy in a candle shop. What men are in those things?

I actually thought the same thing. I was a little, I kind of noticed him. I was a little curious what he was doing there, too. And, you know, I got to say, he looks pretty clueless. He was kind of looking at the candles and smelling them and making faces that I'm sure you're making right now. So is he a candle enthusiast? I mean, no, I don't think so. Like I said, he seemed very out of place and kind of shy.

So I decided to kind of go over and just see if we needed some help. Nice move. Yeah, yeah. We started talking and he said he was trying to buy a candle for his mom. Okay. I thought that was so sweet, right? Do you think this guy is just trolling candle shops and making up a story about his mom the whole time? Yeah, just looking for women. It's pretty smart.

It is. Well, I mean, I guess it kind of works. No, really, though, I helped him pick out a candle, and he went and bought it, and we both left the store, and that was it. He didn't ask me out or anything. But when he left, I was actually thinking that I thought he was pretty cute and maybe it was a missed opportunity. And then actually a half an hour later, we ran into each other at another store in the mall. And the bedding section of somewhere, just like this guy's buying candles and comforters. It's just domesticated dude. Surprisingly not. No. At this point, I kind of realized, you know, why not just go for it? I was a little nervous and I don't do this a lot, but I basically asked him if he wanted to hang out again.

That's awesome. So you asked him out? Yeah, I asked him. I know it's a little forward, but why not? Sometimes you got to, you know, you got to make moves for yourself, right? Right. Absolutely. And it worked. It worked because he seemed excited about that and we exchanged numbers i just pictured this guy calling his friends after like oh my god you guys i was shopping for candles and then this really cute girl totally asked me out what'd you guys do for your day? Well, I texted him first and asked him if he wanted to meet up. And he said,

yes. So we I ended up choosing a restaurant to go to. Okay, so you guys did a full on dinner. We did dinner and we ended up meeting was a Friday night. I picked a restaurant that was it had a nice feel to it, but wasn't over the top or not you know crazy expensive or anything it was moderate we had a great time you know the conversations were great and it went a little longer than i kind of expected so the next thing i knew we had been at the restaurant for a little over two hours but a lot of times that's a good thing on a date right you're like oh my god we've been talking forever yeah i mean that's what i thought. You know, it must mean that it's because we were just talking and we lost track of time because we were

having a good time. And it wasn't just you talking, right? No, we definitely had his time to talk to. Okay. I allowed him to speak at certain points. But I thought that, you know, maybe the night would progress.

Maybe he'd come over or maybe it would just be, you know, to figure out when we would want to get together again. I don't know. But by the end of the night, he seemed a little maybe like something else was on his mind or he was a little upset or a little agitated. What was he doing to make you feel that way? You know when you can tell you're looking at someone and you can tell that they're looking back at you but in the back of their mind they're not with you? Right.

By the end of the night I just kind of got that feeling and he wasn't talking as much. I was doing much more of the conversation. Maybe he was thinking about some potpourri he had to pick up or something

to go along with his candles. No. Honestly, I don't know. He kind of left it at that. And by that time, we were pretty much done with dinner. We said goodbye. We hugged. And that was it. And he made no mention of seeing you again.

No. Honestly, I mean, I expected to maybe get a text from him. If not that night, then at least maybe the next day. But now it's been a while and I haven't heard from him even once. No candle recommendations? No candles. Nothing? No.

Interesting. All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update, all right? Okay, thanks. Okay. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. If you're just tuning in for today's second date update, Stephanie is on the phone with us,

and today she wants to call a guy that she met in what I like to refer to as the land of the zombie boyfriends. Talking a candle shop. Candle shops, craft stores, Target on a Sunday afternoon. You see nothing but just dead-eyed boyfriends following their girlfriends around waiting for death's

sweet release. It's one of the worst places you could ever possibly be. Look at this, such an accurate description. But this guy actually doesn't have a girlfriend. He was just shopping for a candle for his mom, and they struck up a conversation, and she ended up asking him out. They went out to dinner, had some decent conversations. She says at the end of the date, he seemed a little distant, gave her a hug, and then walked out of her life forever.

She hasn't heard a word from him. Are you ready to give him a call, Stephanie? Yeah, let's do it. And you really want to go out with this guy again? I do. You know, I really felt like we had an instant connection

and I really couldn't tell you why he hasn't responded. It's very strange to me. Okay. You want to date this guy so that you can make him your boyfriend and then you can drag him

to the candle store. And then he can buy candles for me. Yeah. He'll be dragging her. You're a candle man. All right, here we go. I'm going to dial his phone number right now.

Hello? Hi, can I speak to ***, please? Yeah, this is ***. Hey, ***, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Wait. What? Have you heard of Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Wait. What? Have you heard of Brook and Jubal in the Morning? It's a radio morning show.

No. Well, that's who we are. Okay. Do you want to know why I'm calling you? Yeah. We do a segment on our show called The Second Date Update. So you recently went out on a date with a girl named Stephanie. And Stephanie said she had a great time and then emailed us

because you haven't been responding to her phone calls or text messages. So I said, hey, let's get on the phone and find out why he doesn't like you. Oh, no. Do you have a few minutes to talk to us about your date with Stephanie? He's shocked. I guess, but I'd rather not. You are an honest person, aren't you? You can just give us a little bit of information.

She's just really confused. Can you just tell her that I made a mistake and I'm really sorry? What kind of mistake did you make? Buy the wrong candle at the candle store? She told us about how you guys met. Okay, I'll talk to you, but you have to promise to not use my name. Whoa.

I promise you we will beep out your name. Okay. Okay. All right. So what's the issue? Did you even like her? Yeah, she's cool. Okay.

I like the pause before you said cool. It's like, she's, I think, okay. Yeah, no. No? No, no, no, no. She was cool. This is my bad. This is my fault

it's not hers she didn't do anything wrong no no no I did something wrong and she's great whoa okay so what did you do wrong then I uh I'm gonna tell you but it's gonna sound

really bad but it's not bad it's gonna sound bad but it's not you, but it's going to sound really bad. Okay. It's not bad. It's going to sound bad, but it's not bad. Usually means it's bad. Like, I didn't ask her out. Like, I ran into her later, and she asked me out. Okay.

And I don't know. It's never happened to me with someone just, like, I've never had someone ask me out. So, I don't know. But I have a girlfriend. Oh, come on. You have a girlfriend, but you went on a date with her? Well, yeah. She came to me at a candle shop, and she started talking to me, and that was weird.

It's weird for a girl to talk to you? Yeah, that never happens. Oh, sweetheart. I just panicked and I told her I was there to get a candle for my mom. So you lied because you liked the female attention you were getting from her. That sounds right. I was I was there shopping for my girlfriend. So the candle wasn't for your mom at all?

No. Okay, but why did you agree to go on a date with her if you had a girlfriend? I didn't. She didn't ask me out there. We ran into each other again, and then she asked me out, and I just, again, was so floored by it that I said yes. Okay, but you couldn't have said, I'm sorry, thank you very much, but I have a girlfriend? I suppose I could have said that. But you didn't.

I did not. And even after, like there was plenty of opportunity for you to text later and said, I'm sorry, I was so flattered. I'm not single. You know, I thought I might tell her. And then things just got busy

and I just didn't. I don't know how many times that has happened to me. It's always a good excuse, too, when you tell your girlfriend, like, why were you out with another girl? Oh, man, she asked me out, and then things got busy, and I couldn't turn it down. It was a really bad idea. I don't know why I did it, but we went out, and I could barely eat more than, like, two bites because I felt so guilty the whole time. It was just.

She did say that when you guys were out, you seemed a little distant. I'm assuming it's probably because you were thinking about what you were doing. Yeah, I was thinking about my girlfriend. And cheating on her? I didn't cheat on her. We didn't do anything. We just went out to dinner and nothing happened. I think going on a Friday night date with somebody else is kind of considered cheating.

Is it? It wasn't a Friday night. It was just a... I don't think it matters what day of the week it was on. You still went out. It could have been a Tuesday night. You still went out to dinner with somebody else. Well...

And why did you never come clean afterwards when she was texting you and wanted to see you again? You know, I was going to text her back. But why didn't you? Because I just figured, you know, I had a girlfriend, so just ghost out. Alright, well, unfortunately you can't

completely cut her out of your life just yet because she's actually on the other line listening to this conversation right now. What? No. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no. Stephanie? Are you serious right now?

You're in a relationship. What were you thinking? I'm bored. I don't even know what to say. It's my fault. It is not your fault. I'm so sorry. I don't care. You to say. It's my fault. It is not your fault. I'm so sorry. I don't care.

You went out to dinner with me. That's a date. You didn't even think about how it would make me feel? Nope. No, I'm sorry. He's honest. Oh, my God. He didn't think about anything.

Yeah, no. I just said yes to the date and then went out and realized, oops, I made a mistake. Boy, I wouldn't do that again. I am so sorry. You were great. Wow. You were cool. You were cool.

Somebody really should date you. How dare you? If I was single, man, you're great. Is there any chance of you being single? How long have you been

in your relationship that you're in? Three years. That is a long time. Wow, I feel sorry for her. Is this the first time you've been out with another woman since you've been in your three-year relationship? This was the first time a woman's ever asked me out. So I said yes for some reason.

I have no idea why you said yes. That's the answer you have to say. Yeah, I mean, I kind of feel you a little bit, but you still should have told her you have a girlfriend. Do you, like, want out of your relationship and you're just trying to look for a way to end it? No, and honestly, going out with her made me, like, realize how much I love my girlfriend, like, even more. Oh, come on. I'm sorry. You hear that, Stephanie?

You helped save a relationship, I think. Oh, my God. Yeah. Is there any signs that he had a girlfriend, like, at all? No. No. You should have known when he was in a candle shop. Right off the bat, you should have never talked to him.

Yeah, I guess I can't trust men anymore, ever. No, no, no. Just dudes in candle shops. You can never trust them. I would love to ask you if you'll go on a second date with Stephanie. We'll pay for it. No, no. A second date.

Are you really? Really? No. I'm asking not you, Stephanie. Stephanie, you were great. If I was single, holy man, I would still go out on a date with you, but still not, though. Wow. No, no second date.

Are you going to tell your girlfriend about this? Uh, yeah. Yeah, right. Come on. You're a better liar than that. Broken Jubal in the morning. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast.

Join late-night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Emi Olea, host of the podcast Crumbs. For years, I had to rely on other people to tell me my story. And what I heard wasn't good.

You really f***ed last night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smash it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. You don't need another podcast.

You've got too many already. But if you're looking for one that actually changes something, a way to take control of the chaos and find meaning, well, then maybe the one you feed is for you. I'm Eric Zimmer, and I bring real conversations with real people to help you feed the best part of yourself. No hype, no fluff, just wisdom that works. Listen to The One You Feed on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.