Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Mistaken For Mom

Episode Date: April 13, 2017

Today's Second Dater Tim went out with an older woman...And neither of them had any problem with it! UNTIL a third party said something about it while they were on their date! Now she feels too old for him. But Tim is trying to convince her to change her mind...So we decided to help out in today's Second Date Update!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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One of the things that I always find interesting when doing these second date updates and reading the emails that we get in is why people liked somebody. And Tim is on the phone today to do a second date update. He went out with a girl named Nicole, and he described in his email the reason that he likes her. He said he met her on Tinder, and she was, quote, pretty, but she had silly photos, so he liked her. I get that. He listed the photos.

He said in one photo she was riding a mechanical bull with a cowboy boot over her head. That's pretty silly. And in another photo she was wearing a squirrel costume climbing a tree. I want to hang out with her, too. She sounds like a fun time. Tim, how are you? Hey, I'm good. How are you doing, guys? Good. So tell us about the wacky Nicole.

She was cool. I mean, like, the best part about that squirrel photo was that you could tell, like, she hired a photographer. Like, it was, like, a pretty serious day. Okay. So she did glamour shots in her squirrel photo was that you could tell like she hired a photographer like it was like a pretty serious day so she did she did glamour shots in her squirrel photo it was i was just like okay like she's pretty but she's cool you know what i mean yeah and obviously you guys went out you hit her up yeah i mean like you know we like matched up and we figured we'd hit the town and she was just like you know take me where you like to go like what like she wanted to get a

feeling for like what I like to do. So I really like Chinese food. It's kind of like my thing. And I got my spot that I go to. It's pretty authentic. So we rolled down there and ordered appetizers and like, you know, we're getting it off. But then the appetizers come and it's like one of those authentic places. So they had the chopsticks in front of us.

And that was it. Oh, yeah and she kind of like looks at everything and kind of freezes and she looks at me like she goes i've never used chopsticks before whoa ever like ever really i know people who have never used chopsticks before really that is so weird to me the thing is it was fine you know like i was like okay like i'll get you a fork don't worry about it like that's fine but she was like no i, I'll get you a fork. Don't worry about it. That's fine. But she was like, no, I'm going to try and use these, which was cute. And I got to show her my teacher, and that was kind of fun. Oh, yeah.

You got to go behind her and put your arms around her. Sort of like you're a pervy tennis coach giving a tennis lesson, but with chopsticks. I wasn't that forward, but it was kind of close. Good. I'm glad you stayed in your seat for the lesson. But the thing is is that, like, I got to give her credit.

Like, she was, like, really trying, but, like, she had this, like, dumpling, and she just couldn't get it on the chopstick. Do you think

that she was embarrassed? I think so, but I got to give her credit. She was not giving it up. Okay. It got to a point where she was just, like, I think she kind of

had enough of it. And I was like, you know what? We'll just bail, and we'll just go to the movie like it's no big deal like i wasn't super hungry anyways like it's cool so he actually didn't eat your meal because she couldn't use chopsticks oh yeah i just kind of like brought it up i was like hey like we can just go and then she just like lit up like a christmas tree and i was just like yeah let's go thank you god okay i mean she sounded cool up until that point. That sounds kind of extreme to me. Like, you bail on a whole dinner because you refuse to just ask for a fork?

No, I mean, like, you didn't see what happened there. I mean, it was kind of the next logical leap was to just get out of there. It's a war zone, man. All right. And so you said you went to the movies after? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. And once we got in the car and, like, we were out of the restaurant, like, she kind of started, like, loosing back up again,

and we were just, like, you know, going back and forth and laughing. Like, I think she had kind of gotten the whole incident out of her system a little bit right when we got to the movie theater. Okay. I was worried something like that would, like, actually ruin the momentum of your date, but it doesn't sound like it. No, I was even kind of proud of myself because I was like, cool, we pulled out of a tailspin. So you straightened the airplane back out and you're flying full speed ahead.

How did the rest of the date go at the movies? Well, we got in the movie theater, got the tickets, no big deal. And then I really had to go to the bathroom. And I was like, hey, I planned the date. It's on me. So I hand her 20 bucks, get whatever snacks you want. Here's the cash and I'll be back. Yeah.

So we get to the seats and she's really quiet. Whoa. And I started thinking, I was like, you know what? I don't know how much popcorn and sodas are. I don't know if they've raised the prices on those or anything and maybe the $20 wasn't enough. Oh yeah. Maybe she had to use her own money.

Cause I think that is about $2,000 for all that. But then I was like, Hey, like, you know, if that wasn't enough money, like I can give you more money. And she was like,

no, it's fine. But then like, didn't say anything after that. And I was like, uh, okay. I mean,

that's the only thing you could think of that she'd be upset about is that you shorted her a couple bucks i mean maybe maybe she was still upset about like the chinese food thing from earlier but like we i thought we'd move past that but i was just like honestly that was the only thing i could think of at the moment so the movie started and we didn't talk for a couple hours but it was very clear there was a tension there and then movie's over and she was like, you know what? I'm just going to catch an Uber home. And that was kind of the end of it. Wow.

So she didn't even let you drive her home? No. Like, we had an awkward hug there for a minute. But, I mean, past that, I mean, she was just kind of out of there. I wonder what could have gone wrong. Yeah. I honestly don't know. Like, it turned on a dime, but I don't know if it was my fault or what.

Well, and if she was already starting to stew about something before a movie started, that's probably all she thought about for the next three hours, and you did nothing because you're not talking to make her be like, oh, actually, I can still like him. Yeah, I don't know, but that's why I emailed you guys, because somebody's got to figure this out because it's been driving me crazy. Okay. All right.

Well, we'll play a song. Come back, call her, and get your second date update. All right? Cool. All right, man. Hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning.

Second date update. Right in the middle of a second date update. And if you're just joining us, Tim is on the phone today. He wants to call a girl named Nicole. They met off a Tinder, had kind of an awkward moment when they went out for Chinese food and she didn't know how to use chopsticks, but they got over that and made it to the movies. And then at a certain point, he says her mood changed

and she became quiet and then sort of ended things after the movie. And after thinking about it, Tim, I think I know what went wrong. Really? Yeah, I think I figured it out. This has happened to me a lot. I've been burned by this so many times. I bet that after the movie started she realized you took her

to a PG-13 movie. And maybe her parents don't let her see that yet. I tend to date girls that are younger than I am. This has burned me so many times. They're like, I'm only allowed to see PG and this is PG-13. You are sick. Do you think? Maybe that did it?

I mean, I'm pretty sure she's older than 13, dude. I would hope so. I don't check ID on my dates or anything. All right. I just want to be sure because I know it's happened to me in the past, man. It's always an awkward thing. Anyway. Yeah.

Tim can't figure out why she's not wanting to go out with him again, so we're about to call her and find out why. And if she was honestly upset that you gave her a 20 and she needed more money for the food at the concession stand, do you really want to talk to her again? Because that seems so petty. I mean, no. I mean, if she's going to get upset about that little money,

then I don't think it's going to work out. But I mean, I don't think that's it. But I couldn't think of anything else in the moment, you know? Plus, she probably gets an allowance anyway. You are so wrong, Jay. She's not even thinking about that. All right. I'm going to dial her phone number right now, okay?

Sure. All right. Here we go. Hello? Hi. I was looking for Nicole. This is Nicole. This is Nicole. Hey, Nicole, how are you?

My name is Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning. Okay, what is that? It's a radio show. Are you selling something? No. Well, I am, but we can talk about that later. I'm calling you for something else. Okay.

Is this a joke? No, it's not a joke. I hear people you for something else. Okay. Is this a joke? No, it's not a joke. I hear people laughing. Yeah, that would be Jose. I tend to do that. I'm calling you because one of our listeners sent us an email about you. Okay. This seems like a prank or something. It's not a prank. I promise you. Actually, the guy who emailed us speaks very highly of you. His name is Tim. Tim who? Tim. He's a guy that you met off of Tinder and you went on a dinner

and a movie date. Oh. Okay. Okay. Why did he email you about me? Because we do a segment on our show called The Second Date Update. So Tim is wondering why you're kind of giving him the cold shoulder.

This is a weird thing. I mean, he called you. Why wouldn't he just call me? I guess he's been trying to call you, but every single time he texts you or tries to get a hold of you, you just tell him that you're busy. But why call a radio station? Because hopefully we can be a little more persuasive

and find out the answer since you won't really talk to him. He's totally in the dark on this one. He has no idea what went so wrong. Well, he wouldn't know. Nothing he did. It's not his fault. Okay. If it's not his fault,

then can you tell us what went wrong? Um... Why don't I just tell you what he told us about the date? He said that you guys went out for Chinese food and there was sort of an awkward moment because you don't know how to use chopsticks. Yeah,

that happens. Did that bother you a lot? It sounded like it might have been kind of embarrassing. It was totally embarrassing and I felt so stupid but he was actually really cool about it. I'm sure that if I named a few other guys, if I had gone out and been in that situation, they would have made me feel really stupid.

He was actually really nice about it. All right. I can't believe you guys, like, left the restaurant because you couldn't use chopsticks, so. I know. Well, I was embarrassed. I just felt like I couldn't get it, and I was starving. All right. So it wasn't the chopstick thing?

No, not at all. Okay. All right. Well, he also told us that when you guys went to the movies, like right before the movie, you got very quiet and then didn't really say much the rest of the date. And then after the movie, you just took an Uber home and didn't even give him the opportunity to drive you home? Yeah, I wanted to get out of there.

Yeah, it sounds like it. You did a good job. What happened? If you say it's not his fault, I mean, that sounds like a pretty rash decision. Oh, God. All right, so we're in line to get our food at the concession stand okay and um he gave me money before he took off to go to the bathroom and we were like next in line so the cashier kept looking at us i know he saw me with him by the time I got to the front, I was by myself. Okay.

Okay? So he says, are you ready? He says, oh, that's so sweet that you're taking your son out. I wish my mom would take me to the movies. Shut up! Shut up! The concession worker thought that your date was your kid? Yes.

Wow. Wait, are you like way older than him? like five like five years did you want to slap that dude oh my god i wanted to slink away i felt like throwing up i was i was so embarrassed i just felt horrible like who does that to somebody what did you say back to the concession worker i didn't say anything he just kept going on about how he wants to spend more time with his mom and he misses her and he was loud okay but i mean but the thing is concession stand workers at movie theaters are usually like 15 years old or 16 or something i mean maybe he just didn't have a good grasp on age it didn't matter i mean he said it and I just couldn't get it out of my mind.

Oh, man. Very nice way to start a romantic evening. Yes. And I'm thinking, do other people think that? I mean, do I really look that much older? Full theater. I mean, you know, it's just I felt stupid. Like, I don't want to be a cougar.

That's gross. You're not a cougar. It's only five years. If I were you, I would have grabbed my son and made out with him in front of that concession stand worker. You show him who's boss. I guess I should have. Yeah.

I mean, that's not really fair. Like, you blamed it on your date. You ended up not calling him back, and this guy really liked you. I know, but it just kind of dampened the whole evening. I felt stupid. First the chopsticks, and now I'm his mom. You're the old lady who doesn't know how to use chopsticks. Right?

So that's why you don't want to go out with him again, because you're afraid that people will think he's your son. Yes. Oh, man. Nicole, nothing brings me more pleasure than to reacquaint you with your son. Tim, because he's actually on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. What? Yeah.

Tim. Oh, my God. Nicole, I can't believe that happened. This is so bad. That's the worst. Like, I think Brooke is right, though. I mean, like, those guys, all those kids kids there they're like 16 years old behind the counter they can barely scoop that popcorn

like they don't know I mean that's yeah that's nice of you to say but I mean P.E. obviously someone thought that I was old enough to be your mother yeah but they don't know anything

like they don't know the truth I mean like honestly we had a great time we really hit it off like I understand that I upset you but like if you just told me that I would have just been like like don't worry don't know the truth. I mean, like, honestly, we had a great time. We really hit it off. Like, I understand that I upset you, but, like, if you just told me that, I would have just been like, psh, like, don't even worry about it. See how sweet he is?

Now you sound like you're his mom when you say that to him. You know what I mean? I'm not trying to be his mom. I just said he was sweet. Yeah, but now you can't say anything like that because the only visual I get is a mom talking to her son. That's awful. Everybody's going to start thinking it.

Yeah, but maybe you're placing the wrong blame. Maybe it's not because you look old. Maybe it's because, Tim, do you look super young? I mean, yeah, I got that baby face going on, you know, when I shave. So, I mean, I think it's totally on me personally. See? I mean, everyone's being so nice about it, but, I mean, Tim, it's totally on me personally. I mean, everyone's being so nice about it, but I mean, Tim, don't you think it would be weird to go out? I mean, people are

going to think I'm your mom. Here's the thing, Nicole, like whenever you're seeing anybody, like they're going to be people who have a lot of things to say about a couple, but like, who cares? You know what I mean? Like, that's why I liked about your Tinder profile in the beginning, but that seems like you didn't really care what people think. And I mean, honestly, I think you're great. I think we had a good connection. So I think it could work. Aw.

Pretty cute. That was really cute. Yeah, I mean, maybe he deserves a spanking. He's been bad. Stop. Maybe, Nicole, you don't know that. Hey, Nicole, would you like to go out with Tim for a second date? We will pay for it.

We'll give him an allowance to take you out. Oh, that's horrible. I mean, if he is okay with dating his mother, then... Tim, are you okay with dating your mom? That is the weirdest question we've ever asked her at a second date update. Look, Nicole, it was just one kid at a movie theater saying one thing. I don't think it's that big of a deal as you think it is.

Of course I want to go on another date. Yay! Good man. Awesome. Well, congratulations, Tim. You got your second date. Thanks a lot, you guys. Yeah, no problem. You guys are going to have so much fun at Chuck E. Cheese. It's going to be great. Nicole, don't let him have too much root beer, though. You guys are going to have so much fun at Chuck E. Cheese. It's going to be great.

Nicole, don't let him have too much root beer, though. You know how he gets. Oh, that's horrible. Text in at 78592 that says, Good job to that guy, Tim. I'd go on a date with my mom, too. Poor Tim. Talking about today's second date update.

In case you missed it, Tim wanted to call Nicole. They went to the movies, and he wasn't sure why she wasn't calling back. When we got her on the phone, we found out that while they were in the concessions line, he went to the bathroom, and then the dude that was working the counter said to her, oh, that's cool to see mothers and their sons going out to the movies. So she didn't want to go out with him anymore because she felt awkward about the fact that she thinks she looks like his mom now. But they did agree to go out again, which is good.

I doubt that she'll be posting any pictures of them together on social media anytime soon. I like how this is awkward, but if the roles were reversed, if a guy looked like he was the father, he would take pride. He'd be like, oh, she's so young. I know, right? What is wrong with your guys' gender? He'd be like, no, Mr. Popcorn. I know, right? What is wrong with your guys' gender?

You'd be like, no, Mr. Popcorn Dude at the movies. That's not my daughter. That's my GF. I know. Looks like I should have one that age, right? And she calls me daddy. That's because I do for my first wife, but she's old, so I got a new model. That's how we do it.

Oh, man. Anyway, if you want to do a second date update, remember, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Moving 92.5. Ugh, we're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes.

More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer.

If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got. And just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it.

For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown

of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards, Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.