Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Multiple Misunderstanding

Episode Date: July 6, 2016

Today's Second Date Update is a lesson to all the ladies on how to definitely, definitely, DEFINITELY get a call back after a first date... All you need to say is one magic word. And he'll be desperate for another chance to see you again. Just like the guy on the phone with us today. Hear it in the PODCAST.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Moving 92.5. Ruck and Jubels, second date update. A lot of people think one of the keys to dating is if you're ever like challenging a girl to a game, playing pool, bowling, something like that, you let them win. No. But that's not how you do it. You beat them down handily and then you gloat in their face. And that is the best way to score a date with a girl. And that's exactly what Henry did, who's on the phone for a second date update right now.

He challenged her to a race, beat her, and then gloated. And now he's wondering why he's not getting a call back. I think I might know why, Henry. That's not exactly what happened. Okay. Well, why don't you explain to me what happened then? Because your email said that you met her while you guys were running and you challenged her to a race and beat her. Right.

So it was a 5K. And we met while stretching. I was stretching. We were both alone. Both alone stretching? That sounds very intimate already. Yeah, I guess, you know, I guess it was kind of intimate. Did you make comments about her being very bendy and how you liked that? No, I steered clear of those sorts of comments. We were stretching and I noticed her. She was cute. We flirted. I was just, you know,

asking her if she was excited about the run. Had she done this sort of stuff before? Just, you know, basic flirting, getting to know you stuff. And she seemed really cool. I was like, oh, my God, this is really great. So I said, I'll bet you lunch that I'll beat you. Oh, that's kind of cute. Ooh, smart.

That's cute. Yeah, no, I thought it was pretty cute. I mean, it's just your way to make sure that you can buy her lunch. Yeah, the whole time I was going to buy, I wasn't thinking like, oh, I'm going to hold her to buying me lunch. It was just a way to ask her out. Yeah, I'm sure she understood that. So you ended up beating her and then? I beat her handily, of course.

And you're still bragging about it? I'm a good runner. I beat her handily. And you're still bragging about it. I'm a good runner. I waited for her, not in a creepy way, but I was just there. You know, everyone's having some water. I was there and we, you know, exchange numbers and we went out for lunch. All right. And how did lunch go? Really good.

I mean, I really liked her. She was really cool and funny it was easy and I paid for lunch again you know so so I didn't you know make her pay for lunch why'd you laugh after that that sounded weird like I paid for lunch if you know what I mean I felt like I felt like you guys might think that I made her pay for lunch because of the bet. You should have. No. Yeah, you absolutely should have made her pay for lunch. No. So you said the conversation and everything was going good. Like, what are some of the things you really connected on other than the fact that she can't run as fast as you can? Right.

I mean, there was one interesting thing I'll say. I mean, that she sort of stood out from other girls I've dated. We talked a lot about intimacy. Intimacy, like sexual intimacy? Yeah. Oh, nice. That's pretty sweet to have on a first date over lunch. Yeah, you know, soup and salad and talk about sex.

How'd that come up? Wait, yeah, exactly, because it's lunchtime, it's daylight. I mean, I don't know exactly how it came up, but regardless, she was really free and felt comfortable talking about it, and we both talked about it and and it was refreshing you know because i think you know i think in our culture like a lot of women don't feel comfortable as they should talking about that sort of stuff can we hold on though what exactly were you talking about like the craziest places you guys have ever done it we didn't get that far into it

but you know we just sort of talked about how we feel about sex. I got the impression that she was kind of wild. I mean, she basically said as much. Wow. So she actually said that she's wild. In so many words. I'm guessing you got a kiss at the end of the date then, at least. You know, we just, we hugged at the end of the date, actually.

Wow, she does sound like a wild one. That is crazy. Yeah. Well, again, it was afternoon, and, you know, first date, for me, I generally think, like, a first date, not much is going to happen in that way. But, no, it didn't feel like I was, like, hugging my sister or something, you know? Like, it felt like there was chemistry there. So you're saying that she's wild and you guys talked about all kinds of intimacy, all kinds of sexual stuff on her first date, and then you ended it with a hug. I'm guessing your talk wasn't really as hot and heavy as I'm picturing it in my mind.

I'm in the friend zone. It's like one time I kissed the guy on the cheek. Ooh, she's a naughty girl. No, trust me, It was more than that. I know it might not sound like a lunch date hugging, but it was pretty hot. All right. But if it was so hot, then why do you think you're not getting a call back? I mean, I don't know. I texted her after. I didn't hear back. I waited a couple days. I texted her again, and I I didn't hear back. I waited a couple days. I texted her again, and I still didn't hear back. So I'm worried that maybe she felt, like, obligated because of the race,

because I bet her that if I win that she would have taken me out for lunch. Oh, like she felt like she had no choice but to go out with you because before the race you were like, if I beat you I've got to take you out to lunch. She's like, damn it, I didn't want to actually go out with this guy. She has to. I know, but I feel like it can't be that because, again,

she was able to open up with me about personal stuff. I felt a real connection. So it just seems like it couldn't be that. Well, we'll play a song, come back, call her and get your

second date update then, okay? Thank you, sure. All right, hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. If you're just tuning in the morning. Second date update. If you're just tuning in for today's second date update, Henry is on the phone with us today.

He wants to call a girl named Leslie. They met at a 5K before the race. He was like, hey, I bet you if I beat you, I have to take you out for lunch. And then she giggled and was like, okay. And then he ended up beating her, and they went out to lunch, and apparently they had a romantic. Lunchtime date after their race. And at a certain point, that romantic lunch date turned straight up down and dirty. When he says the conversation turned to all sorts of sexual things.

Something that usually doesn't happen over lunch on a first date. So he's very confused how he would have this open of a conversation with a girl and she would not be calling him back. Henry, are you ready to give Miss Dirty Talk a call? I'm ready. And find out why she's not getting back to you? I'm ready. And are you thinking of her as like this could be a potential girlfriend or are you just really curious on whether

or not she truly is wild in the sack? Uh, both. Okay. Alright. That's commendable. I'm going to dial her phone number right now, see if we can get her on the phone and find out why she's not getting back to you, okay? Okay, thank you. Hello? you hello hi can i speak to leslie please yes this is her hey leslie how are you this is jubile from brook and jubile in the morning uh hi hi how are you? I'm okay. Who is this?

Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning, the radio show. What exactly is this regarding? It's regarding somebody that you recently went on a date with. What? Yeah. You recently went out on a date with somebody that listens to our show, and you haven't been calling them back, so he actually emailed us to see if we could get you on the phone and find out why you've been blowing him off.

Who is it? His name is Henry. Oh, Lord. You remember Henry? He said that you guys met at a 5K and then went out for lunch after? Yeah. Okay. Is there a reason why you're not calling Henry back? He says he's tried to get a hold of you a bunch. There definitely is a reason.

Do you mind sharing it with us so that we can tell him? I don't even know what happened. It was like when I met him at the road race, he was really funny. He was telling some jokes, And I thought that was kind of cute. And he said that he made a little bet with you before you guys started running. Yeah, he did. That was I mean, it was kind of cute. It was a little cocky, but it was it was cute. All right. Well, it sounds like you liked him a lot. So what was it that turned you off? Well, it was a normal date at first. You know, we sat down and we were talking about my job. And then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, the conversation went from my job to sex.

Oh, what? Yeah. What do you mean? How do you even make that transition? I have no idea. All of a sudden, he started asking about me and my sexual experiences with other people and other women. And I was like, what? Where did this come from?

And just out of the blue, nowhere, he just goes down a weird sexual path on you. Yes, out of nowhere. He just goes down a weird sexual path on you. Yes, out of nowhere. It just caught me off guard. I didn't know what to do, so I just went along with it. Oh, my God, you did? Yeah, I mean, what would you do if you were in my situation? He just started talking to me about multiple partners, and I was stuck.

I had no idea what I was doing. It was like an out of body experience. We talked to him and he said that you guys both mutually started talking about all kinds of sexual stuff. No, no. He definitely brought it up. And all I wanted to do was get out of there. That was all that I was thinking about. Like, how can I end this lunch so that I can, like, leave as fast as possible?

Why didn't you just, I mean, why didn't you tell him that those are totally inappropriate questions during a lunch date and you're just not comfortable? I mean, I just, I guess I was so in shock about how the conversation just took a turn sexual. That is so weird. We talked to him and like I said, he was just like, oh, she started talking about it, and then we both started talking about it. I had nothing to do with it. And actually, at one point, he said, and I quote, oh, I'm totally into that. I'd be down for that.

And I didn't even say anything sexual at all. I wonder what he was thinking he'd be down for. Wouldn't you love to ask him? Oh, my God. No, I don't ever want to talk to him again. That's a shame because Henry's actually on the other line listening right now. Oh, my God. Henry.

He's on the phone? Yes, he is. Henry, how are you going to explain yourself? What were you doing? I don't understand. I'm sorry, but you were absolutely talking about sex stuff. And, you know, I mean, I hate to say it, but... Henry, I'm sorry, but I never brought up sex.

Are you serious? Yeah. I mean, what about all the bi talk, you know? What? Whoa. The what? You said you were bi. And so I was like, oh, you're telling me you're, like, opening up or something.

I'm like, okay. Oh, my gosh. No, I never, I never said I was bi. Where did you get that from? You said you were. You said you were bi-coastal. And so I just, you know, I mean, I started. Oh, my gosh.

What? You said you were bi-coastal, like, four times. Yes, I said I was bi-coastal like four times. Yes, I said I was bi-coastal. Bi-coastal is not bisexual. Bi-coastal means I work on both the East and West Coast. Not bisexual meaning I have multiple partners. There's definitely a huge difference.

I mean, I thought it was like a slang term for that. No. I mean, who says bi-coastal? Who says bi-coastal like that? A lot of people say bi-coastal, Henry. People that are bi-coastal. Are you serious, Henry, right now? Oh, no.

I don't know what to say. I thought that's what it was. So you, like, launched into a line of questions about her sexuality because you thought that she was confessing to you that she was bisexual? Yeah, I guess that's what I thought. Oh, man. Oh, sweet, Henry. Yeah, bi-coastal is a very popular phrase for people that work on both the East and the West Coast. And so was it after she said that that you were like, ooh, I'm into that?

She just jumped into it. She kept talking. She kept talking about it. So I thought, oh, she wants to talk about our sexuality. Okay. Henry, you are such a dumbass. I mean, come on. I don't know.

Everything that I just... I really genuinely thought it was like a slang term. I'm not an idiot, and I thought you were trying to ask me if I was into it. Oh my god. I'm not like homophobic or bisexual phobic or something. Obviously not. You're actually very pro-bisexuality, judging from your conversation. Henry, either way, I mean, mix-up or no mix-up, you don't ask about sexual

experiences on the first date. Oh, come on, Leslie. You can see that it was a mistake. It's almost endearing. Thank you, I guess. Hey, Leslie, would you like to go out on a second date with Henry? We will pay for it. On whatever coast you want to go out on a second date with Henry? We will pay for it. Yeah, come on. On whatever coast you want to be on, you freak.

You know, Henry, I just, I don't know that I can really look at you seriously anymore after our first date. I'm sorry. Aw. Well, I'm sorry, too. Sorry, Henry. I wish you the best, though. And now I hope that this was an educational experience for you, and you can take this into your next dating experience.

At least you learned a new word today, Henry. And just out of precaution, I just want to... A tricycle is a bike with three wheels in case anybody ever brings that up. OK. Yeah. Yeah. I'll pass the vocab test now. Moving 92.5 percent. We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes.

More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will, too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer.

If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense

of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada,

to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. with guest appearances from Behind the Bastards Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.