Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: One “Tiny” Problem

Episode Date: January 21, 2015

One of our listeners, Monica, said something during her date that completely turned him off to her. The problem is... she has no idea what it was. So how can we find out? By calling the guy in a Second Date Update!(Image Courtesy: Nolan O'Brien. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Follow the Big Take podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. Moving 92.5. Ruck and Jubels. Second date update. I have found that a great place to meet women is in a very empty parking garage. Yeah, they like it when you just creep up from behind them and be like, hey, boo, what's up? That's actually where Monica, who's on the phone with us today and wants to do a second date update, met the guy that she went out with and wants us to call today. Monica, how are you hey i'm

great how are you good so you met the guy that you want us to call today in a parking garage what's his name first of all his name is joe his name is joe and how does that happen how'd you guys meet in the parking garage did he stalk you from car to car yeah you don't value him and what happened well i being the absent-minded girl that I sometimes am, have lost my car in the garage. I could not for the life of me remember where I parked it. We've all done that once or twice. That sucks. Or you saw him and then planned it, the old damsel in distress routine. I know that works. Oh, that was me. I wish I was that creative. I'd probably do that more often. But no, he saw me kind of wandering around and it was obvious that there was that creative, I'd probably be more often. But no, he saw me kind of wandering around, and it was obvious that there was something wrong,

that I was lost or something had happened. And so he was just being kind. He asked if I was okay. Yeah. And I told him I was fine, but that I couldn't find my car. And he was like, oh, well, let me help you. I mean, this is a big garage. It'll take way less time if there's two of us looking.

I lose my car in the parking garage all the time. Like, I have to plan for it like an extra hour because I know I'm going to be looking for my car forever. How long did it take you to find it? It took like 15 to 20 minutes. What? He found me like halfway through my search. So once he was there, we definitely got it done faster. And did you, like, strike up great conversation when you were looking for the black sedan?

Well, he was just really charming about it. He ran all the way across the garage and was calling out numbers of cars that I told him that were similar to mine. That's pretty cute. And he was actually the one who found my car, so it was really helpful. So he found your car and then blocked your driver's side door and was like, you don't get to get in the car unless you let Papa take you out on a date. Finders feet. At least that's how it happened in my head. Is that how it happened?

Your head is definitely in more of a movie situation. Okay. More in a messed up place. So he's pretty chill. I mean, we just, you know, we kind of chatted a little bit and I obviously was very thankful, very grateful. And then I kind of just, I don't know, I thought he was really cute. So I kind of just threw it out there. You know, I said, you know, you're probably seeing somebody and he said, no, I'm not. Do you want to have coffee? And I was like, well, yeah, that sounds great. Good for you for making the first move on that.

So how was coffee? How was the actual date that you went on? Coffee was wonderful. We had so much more in common than I would have expected. We talked a lot and just, I mean, he made me laugh like crazy. He's very sarcastic and he called me out on my stuff. So that was, you know, I like a guy who's honest and who can kind of banter back and forth. And coffee is always like a safe date. Did just in case you need to like get out quick because it's not going well, did you guys stay for a while? Yeah, for like an hour and i liked that he threw out coffee too and not like a bar or a drink or something yeah you know i like that it seemed

like he really wanted to get to know me like that's where you go to get to know somebody you go to a bar or drink to go home with them so his intentions were good so is that all you guys did get coffee and we just got coffee that day we were there like an hour and we're kind of wrapping things up and I just threw it out there. I said, hey, do you want to see each other again? And he said, definitely. That sounds great. I'll give you a call. You're my hero, Monica. You were the one

that approached him to go to coffee in the first place. Now you're approaching him for the second date. I hope that didn't throw him off. Do you think that could throw a guy off, being too forward? No, we're pretty lazy as a whole, so if you can do any of the work we'd really appreciate it and how long has it been since you've heard from him two weeks two weeks any awkward moments on your date at all i mean besides the fact that i'm obviously kind of lame and couldn't find my car the first time second time was great mean, we even laughed about that.

I don't know. I'm super thrown off because the way that we left things, it was so casual. Like, yes, I will definitely give you a call. Like, there was no game playing going on. And have you heard anything from a medal? No, I gave it a week. You know, I was like, all right. So I just wrote a text out there like, hey, you know,

I've got some time this week if you want to plan a day to get together, let me know. And I heard nothing back, like not even like a, you know what, I changed my mind. Which, you know, at the end of the day, like we went on one date, like I'm not going to be crushed forever. But I don't know. I need help. I need help figuring this out because if I did something wrong, then I think I have the right to know. Right. And you sound like a confident woman who's somewhat self-aware.

I feel that way. Thank you. You're Right. And you sound like a confident woman who's somewhat self-aware. I feel that way. Thank you. You're welcome. There you go. That's really nice of you to say. What if we call him and he answers the phone and I'm like, hey, is Joe there? And he's like, I can't talk right now. I'm in a parking garage watching this chick find her car. Well, then I

will thank you profusely because my radar was way off. Cool. Play a song. Come back. Get him on the phone and find out why he's not calling you back. All right? Thank you. Hang on.

Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. If you're just joining us for the second date update, Monica is on the phone. She wants us to call a guy named Joe today. They met in a parking garage when she was having trouble finding her car. From that turned into a coffee date. Says that they had a wonderful time.

Can't think of any awkward moments. At the end of the date, he even said that he wanted to see her again, but she hasn't heard from him in about two weeks. So we're about to call him and find out. Is there a reason that he's not calling her back? Monica, I think I figured it out. Okay. I think that you are yet another victim of the parking lot Casanova. Oh, really?

I read about this guy in the USA Today. He travels around from Chicago, Atlanta, Los Angeles, now Seattle. Did you read about him in the crime section? Yes. Yes. He goes to parking garages all over the country, hits on women, takes them out for coffee, and then leaves them in the dust. Well, I mean, if I'm going to be the victim of a crime, I guess this is the crime I'd want to be a victim of.

That's a good point. And he just left you high and dry. Didn't even take your panties, did he? What? It was a coffee date. That's usually what he does. That's what the parking lot Casanova does. Everybody knows that.

That's his M.O. According to USA Today. Yes, according to USA Today. But anyway, that's what I think. You're still unsure, obviously. So we're going to call him right now, see if we can get him on the phone and find out why he's not calling you back. All right?

Okay. Here we go. Hello? Hey, can I speak to Joe, please? Yeah, this is Joe. Who's this? Joe, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning.

I'm sorry, what? From who? Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning, the radio program. What's that? It's a radio show. Have you not heard of us? Uh, no, I haven't.

So you're a radio show, a station? Yeah, well, yes, I am not. I'm a person. My name is Jubal. I'm here with the show. It's me, Brooke, Jose, and Lydia. Hey, Joe. And we're calling you because you recently went out on a date with one of our listeners,

and they emailed us to see if we could get you on the phone. Okay. And? And her name is Monica. Wait, Monica called you guys? Yes, she did. She emailed us because she said she went out on a date with you, had a great time at the end of your date. You even said that you wanted to see her again, but you haven't called her back, and she's tried texting you

and calling you. So, she wanted to see if we could get you on the phone and find out if there was a problem with Monica. Yeah, there was a problem, which was really too bad, because she's a cool girl. Okay, can you tell us what the problem is so that we can let Monica know? I'm confused.

Well, to be honest, she said something that I just couldn't look past. And I kind of thought about it afterwards, and I just thought, no, I just can't spend any more time with this girl. What did she say? Well, so I am a new father. I have a four-month-old daughter. Congratulations. And thanks. Yeah, thanks a lot. But I didn't tell Monica about my daughter when we met in the parking lot. I don't know how much she told you. Yeah, she told us. She told us all that. So she didn't know you had a kid? No, no. She did not know.

She doesn't know. And basically, I don't bring it up right off the bat, you know, that I have a daughter. I'm not with her mother. We had a fast thing. It was kind of a mistake, if you ask me. But, you know, and I look at my daughter and I go, well, it wasn't that big of a mistake because my baby's beautiful. Right. And, you know, I'm taking care of her.

I'm doing my thing. So normally I would think, like, you're not trying to date cause you have a four month old, but you went out on a date with Monica. So that's obviously not the case. Why aren't you calling her back? I've gone on a couple of dates actually. And I do this thing. It's kind of, I kind of kind of take the temperature of the group that I'm with. If I see another kid inside of wherever we're at, I'll say something like, Oh, you know, look at that kid, do you like kids or something like that. And this little boy came in and he was with his parents. And I said to Monica, I said, oh, that little boy is cute or something like that.

And just to kind of see what she would say. And she said something like, oh, I sure hope he doesn't sit over here. And I was like kind of confused by that. I was like, oh, why? And she was like, well, you know, kids are really loud and, like, they make a bunch of noise. So she was making true facts. She was making true points. Sure, she might have been,

but, you know, I could just tell from her tone that she's just not into kids, and I just knew that, like, I wouldn't be able to just have my daughter around her. Joe, did you ever specifically ask her, point blank, do you like kids, don't you like kids? Well, no.

I didn't ask her that, but I could just tell from her reaction to the little boy that she probably doesn't like kids, which was just really too bad because she's so awesome. Hey, Joe. Joe, real quick. Since you didn't ask her that question, why don't we actually have you ask her? Because Monica is on the other line listening right now.

What? Yep. How did you not tell me that you have a kid we talked about our families for like 20 minutes you guys have her on the she's been listening the whole time she just talked to you right there actually joe how did you tell me i mean why didn't you say something well first of all it was it's a first date and i don't know i don't feel the need to bring it up but what i did bring up like just trying to ask you kind of taking your barometer on like how you feel about kids it was on a date and a on a date on a nice like date where we were like having a nice conversation the atmosphere was so quiet and chill and i obviously didn't want like something interrupting that that's all I was saying.

I was saying that we were enjoying our time and our conversation, and I didn't want to be distracted by anything else. Well, it seemed pretty clear, though, Monica, that you think kids are just, like, little brats, and, like, I just don't want my daughter to be around that. You know, I can't have her around that. I can't believe you would say something like that. You didn't tell me that you had a daughter.

I wasn't being sensitive to the fact that you might have a kid. So yeah, I gave you an honest opinion about kids in that moment at that coffee shop with that kid who was already like screaming about wanting that frosted cookie out of the case. Joe, don't you think that's kind of an unfair barometer? I mean, you probably had the same feeling about kids before you had your own. No, I didn't actually. Like I've always really loved kids and I always knew I wanted to have kids. I do like kids. I want kids. You never asked me if I wanted kids.

Okay, you know what, guys? Like, this whole thing, you guys laughing in the background, her kind of barking at me, like, this is one of the reasons why, first of all, I don't listen to radio, and the other reason why I didn't call her back is because I didn't want to deal with it, you know?

Like, I don't want to deal with any of this, like, negativity and, like, questioning of what I'm doing. But this is your own problem. You didn't call her back is I didn't want to deal with it. You know, like I don't want to deal with any of this negativity and questioning of what I'm doing. You didn't say something. You've put yourself in this position. And the fact that you didn't call me back or even say anything like, hey, listen, I don't think this is going to work because you didn't give me a chance. I think this is actually a good sign for everybody involved. First date and you're already arguing about who wants kids and who doesn't. Which really, to me, says that you guys are perfect for each other

and should probably continue this. Joe, would you like to go on a second date with Monica? We will pay for it. No. No, thank you. I don't need your offer. Thanks a lot, but no thanks.

All right. All right. Monica, would you like to try to convince Joe to go out with you? No, absolutely not. Do I seem like a girl who's going to convince some jerk who apparently judges people based on no truth whatsoever? I mean, I honestly, like, feel sorry for his daughter at this point because I really, really hope that he can find some...

You know what? I don't need to hear this anymore, guys. I'm out of here. See you later, Joe. Okay. Well, there you go, guys. I'm out of here. See you later, Joe. Okay. Well, there you go, Monica. That escalated quickly. Yeah.

It's what you get when you meet somebody in a parking garage. You just never know. I don't know, Jubal. Maybe you were right. Maybe he is just the parking garage Casanova. Parking garage Casanova. I warned you about him. Honestly, I think I liked that answer better.

Let's erase the last 10 minutes and pretend let's go with that because I'm so curious. You better. You're happy you didn't give that guy your panties, right? Oh. Broken Jubal in the morning. Catch Jon Stewart back in action on The Daily Show

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