Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Oversharing is Caring

Episode Date: April 17, 2013

There are certain things you DEFINITELY don't talk about on a first date... and David pretty much covers them all. Listen to the PODCAST. (Image Courtesy: ZakVTA. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You know, since I've been single for a while now, I've had my friends' girlfriends ask if they can set me up with one of their friends. And I tell them no. What are they thinking? Because I know that that's going to just end poorly. Like we're not going to be friends anymore after that. So I say no. And you guys have been set up through friends before and you've done it right? Yeah. Everybody has. They always say it's the best

way to meet someone. That's how David met Rachel, right? That's right. He sounds super pumped up about it. David, your email said that you met through friends, you went out for a happy hour, and in your words, you had a few drinks or maybe too many drinks.

Well, I definitely had a couple before and a couple during. Okay. Is it one of those things, David, where we should multiply a couple by a few more and then we get to the real number? Well, you can never really tell how the bartender pours. Oh, that's right.

Especially when you're drinking before the date, David. Was she also on your same path of drunkenness? Well, she drank the same amount I drank when we were together, just I don't know what she was doing before. Okay. So what happened on the date? How'd it go? I thought it went good.

It was fun. She's hot. Ooh, nice. You got lucky. Yeah. Great style. She's red hair. I love how men describe dates.

I thought it went well. She's hot. She's got red hair. That tells me nothing about what happened, David. That's how it works. That's all the guys want to know. We're like, perfect. The men in the room are like, oh, I got it.

Sounds like a good date to me. Great date, bro. Did you have good conversation? Did you connect? Do you have similar interests? I probably talked about my ex a little too much. You talked about your ex on a first date? You know, it's one of those things I'm like, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, and just end up doing it.

David, how does that subject come up? Well, you can find a lot of ways to. If you're trying to, yes, you can. But I mean, she didn't ask you any questions about it specifically, right? No, but I just had been to that bar before with my ex. So that was not an uncomfortable transition. But unfortunately, that's how we got there. What did you say?

Like, hey, nice meeting you here. Me and my ex used to come here all the time. I mean, I didn't mean it to sound like that, but i bet that's exactly how it sounds so how did the day end did she get like pissed at you for this no i mean she seemed cool that's why you know i called her a couple times but then i you know i started getting in my head uh you know did i really uh mess it up by just talking about linda so much linda did you when you were talking about your ex did you call her by first name like that yeah my ex all the time yeah that sounds bad did you try to save yourself at all at the end of the date by saying hey I'd really

like to see you again I think you're amazing no I mean I kind of was buzzing pretty good so I was just was felt real good until you know i was like later like ah he tried to say that but all he said was usually when we do the second date updates there's like some mystery like why didn't she call me back there's so many options to choose from here now. I was drunk. I talked about my ex the whole time. Alright, if we get her on the phone in a couple minutes, how do you

want me to approach it? What do you want me to say to her on your behalf that will hopefully get you a second date? Say that I thought we had a good time and if I did anything wrong, I'd love to know because I'm about self-improvement. Okay. And Iprovement. Okay. And I like her. Okay. Hold on. We're going to play a song.

Come right back and then call her and get your second date update. Alright. Think about your ex the whole time. It's moving 92.5. Brook and Jubal in the morning. If date update. It's moving 92.5. Brook and Jubal in the morning. If you're just tuning in to today's second date update, David went out with a girl named Rachel. He talked about his ex-girlfriend Linda the whole time. Apparently, David was also kind of drunk when he showed up to the date.

David, what do you hope to accomplish when we get her on the phone? Best case scenario. I just hope I can i can just tell her it was just a innocent mistake uh you know being so buzzed when she got there and that i don't make a habit of talking about my ex so you know i don't want her to hold that against me and just kind of apologize for that you know if she was my girlfriend and my girlfriend told me this story i would say don't ever go out with this dude again yeah you? Yeah, you're going to have to do some really serious sweet talking here. I'm ready for it.

Okay. All right. Here we go, David. I'm going to get her on the phone right now, all right? Sounds good. All right. Hello? Hi, is Rachel there?

Yeah, hi. this is Rachel. Rachel, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning on Moving 92.5. Yeah, hi. How are you? I'm good. Who's this? Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning on the radio station Moving 92.5.

We do a morning show. Okay. And we're calling you because you recently went out on a date with a guy named David. And he's been trying to get a hold of you. Uh-huh. But you haven't returned his calls or texts. We're curious why. Why are you so curious about my date?

Well, we do a segment on our show called The Second Date Update. It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and don't call them back, they email us to get the reason why. Did he tell you about the date? He did. He emailed us and said that he really liked you. He enjoyed the time that you guys spent together. He said that he mistakenly maybe had a little bit too much to drink. Yeah.

And he told you about Linda. Yes, he did. Oh, God. Is Linda the reason that you won't call him back? Well What else did he tell you about Linda And our first date? That's pretty much it

He said that he brought his ex-girlfriend Linda up a few times And he knows that that was probably stupid Did he mention that he took me to a restaurant That he used to go with her to? Yeah he did say that Okay Did he mention what else he used to do with her there? What?

No. What? Rachel, what did he say? I'd say for a first date, he definitely overshared information. Apparently this restaurant was one of the restaurants that they would have sex in the bathroom.

What? Oh my God. And one of? I didn't think it could get worse than bringing up your ex on a first date. What? Yeah. I mean, it was just, who got that? Who talks like that on a first date?

Oh, I'm mortified. I didn't ask. Oh, my God. How did he bring that up, Rachel? I think he started drinking before the date, to be honest with you. Yeah. He showed up a little bit loose. And he just started talking about the restaurant and how they used to meet there.

And the reason it was a favorite is because they'd had sex in the bathroom. How did you respond? And I had to pee, and I wasn't going to go in there after I heard that. I had to hold it for the rest of the date. It was miserable. Of course you're scared to go in the bathroom. You're scared he might follow you in there. Exactly. He proceeded to tell me

that he had a goal with Linda to do it all over the city in all different places and all different positions. Sort of give me the walking tour. Rachel?

Rachel? Oh, shoot. What? I was at Starbucks. Oh, no way. Rachel. Yes. David is actually on the other line listening.

What? David's on the phone. He's listening to me right now? Yes. Hey, Rachel. I'm sorry. I'm a little bit in shock right now. So he heard everything?

Yeah. David, you said you don't remember saying that stuff? No, I mean, I screwed up, obviously. I would not say something like that. I'm just sorry. I don't think that's good behavior, especially for a first date. No, it's not good behavior for a first date. It made me feel horrible.

Like, you're talking about another woman by name and all the places you did it with her and what you did with her and and you seem to be enjoying it i was not i mean you didn't you didn't read me at all it was awful you were i mean you've had drinks before our date had you not and you smelled like yeah i'm just to loosen up and you're very not a drink too fast you're very loose i mean that's not me like that i mean normally like that's just that's just a mistake that I apologize for that I hope, like... You're supposed to be there, you know, taking care of me and entertaining and getting to know one another. And you're drunk.

You don't remember anything? Well, now, Rachel, I think it was probably pretty entertaining. No. It's doable. Yeah, very entertaining for him. That's not laughable. It's just... It's horrible.

Oh, yeah, it's horrible. But, you know, like, plus time, horrible could work out and be laughable it's just it's horrible oh yeah it's horrible but you know like a plus time a horrible could work out and be laughable trust me me and my friends laughed about you david funny what would make you think and i know you i know you were drunk but what would make you think it's okay to talk about doing things with your ex-girlfriend in the bathroom? I imagine it's something she must have said that got me going in that direction. Oh, don't blame it on me. I didn't even know what cowboy style was before I did it. I think I don't want to Google it.

That's amazing. I don't blame it on me. It's a couple different things. David, are you ready to date? Are you not over your ex? No. I'm over her. I'm over her. Over, on the side, Are you not over your ex? No. I'm over her. I'm over her.

Over, on the side, underneath, all over the place. I'm over her, which is why I like trashing her. Rachel, there's a long list of reasons you shouldn't call David back. Was there anything that you liked about him on the date? When it was over. But if you listen to him now, though, he's sober. He sounds really apologetic. It's not like he doesn't, you know, agree.

He does not sound really apologetic. David. No, I am. I am. I am really apologetic. I just am kind of, you know, you're telling me things that are awful that I did that I don't remember doing. So I'm just.

No woman is going to stand for this. Unless it's women. I've known a woman that has stood for it. Unless it's one of Jubal's ex-girlfriends. Just don't generalize women. I mean, we all have our things, you know. David. Don't generalize women.

Try to state your case here. Look, I made a mistake, and I'm sorry. And most men won't apologize for their mistakes. And I think you're super hot and had a good time, and I would love to get a chance to prove to you that I'm not an idiot. I'm pretty sure I already know the answer to this, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Rachel, would you like to go out on a second date with David? We'll pay for it.

It takes a certain kind of man to say that sort of thing and to apologize so i i'm going to give you an answer david here's your answer wow all right i thought she was gonna call her back i'm not gonna call her back david did you did you learn something at least maybe about yourself on dates and not drinking beforehand yeah i mean everything i learned is in that sentence just just don't do that next time david two words for you two words for you in your dating future right okay bikini baristas get after it he's right broken jubile in the morning we're so done with new year

new you this year it's more you on bumble more of you shamelessly sending playlists especially that one filled with show tunes more of you finding gemini because you know you always like them more of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble.

Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch

your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline Podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025.

I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever else you get your podcasts from.