Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Passion Partners

Episode Date: August 3, 2016

One of our listeners called us because he couldn't see why a woman he met on an online dating site refuses to go on a second date with him... So we went ahead and gave her a call... And it turns out she was so UPSET after their date that she NEVER will do online dating again. Find out what went so wrong by listening to the podcast.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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and he already knows that the girl he wants to call is not interested in going out with him romantically ever again. Oh, so this is going to end well? Yeah. Why are we doing this? Because she texted him that and let him know that she doesn't want to go out, but he still wants to do a second date update. We'll get to what she texted in just a second. But Rick, why not just give up the fight, man?

I don't know. I feel like there was some, I don't know, just some unfortunate things that happened on the first date that really aren't an indicator of whether or not we should be together. Okay, listen. Some people can't take a hint. That's not a hint. That is very direct. Yeah, listen. Some people can't take a hint. That's not a hint. That is very direct. Yeah, but I need a second chance.

I want to convince this girl that she should go out with me. We had a nice time and she was really, really hot. So I just wanted to see her again. I love that that's always the first thing a guy says. Well, I mean, that's, you know,

we didn't spend that much time together. You know, I didn't get to know her that well. All right, well, tell us a little bit about her. What's her name? Her name's Kelly. Kelly. And where did you meet Kelly? We met online. Okay. She's really beautiful. And it seemed like from her profile, as far as I could tell, she was a really social girl, had lots of friends. And we went back and forth for about a week and a

half, just texting each other. And we decided to meet up up we went out and got some drinks and she said that it was her first time meeting up with somebody from online which i don't know i kind of didn't buy oh you think she's lying about it well no i just think that that's something that everybody says when they're meeting up with someone for the first time nobody likes to admit that they're online dating like man i've been on this site for three years now still can't make anything work yeah all right so she told you it was her first time dating but how did everything go with you Like, man, I've been on this site for three years now. Still can't make anything work. You're my 30th date. Yeah. All right, so she told you it was her first time dating, but how did everything go with you two?

Like, why do you think she doesn't want to go out with you again? Well, I don't know. There were just a couple of moments that were just kind of unfortunate. Like, I made a joke that she did not get, and I don't know, I have a pretty dry sense of humor. Wait. Uh-oh. She didn't get the joke or she didn't like the joke? are two different things she didn't get the joke okay what was the

joke we were having a great conversation we were laughing going back and forth and I just said god this is great I think we should go ahead and make it official don't you totally deadpan oh no that's not very funny yeah the delivery was a little off. Yeah. So she didn't laugh at that joke, huh? Oh, no. Yeah, no, she didn't think it was very funny. And I told her that I was joking, and she kind of laughed it off. Oh, my God.

She probably thinks you're lying about the joking line, and you think that she's lying about never online dating. You guys are really. Yeah, we're a couple of liars. We're made up. Yeah. I'm surprised this didn't work out. Did you recover from that joke, or was it awkward the rest of the night after you said that?

I mean, she kind of chuckled after I said I was joking, and she shrugged it off, and we continued to have an okay evening. And then she went to the bathroom, and we were kind of getting ready to say goodnight, and she came back, and I paid the bill, and she said... This is kind of embarrassing, but she said... She's like, I paid the bill. And she said, this is kind of

embarrassing, but she said, she's like, I don't know if you know this, but your shirt's inside out. And that's awesome. She was, she was right. My shirt was totally inside out. I don't know. No, wait, to be fair, was it a t-shirt or a button up? It was a t-shirt. So you had your shirt inside out the whole time. And then you made an awkward joke about you two making things official like 30 minutes into your date. Yeah, so this is why I'm saying I think I deserve another chance because there were a few hiccups that could have been avoided. I just don't think that those two things warrant a

I never want to see you again text message. Well, actually, she didn't say outright that she didn't want to see me again. We said goodnight that night night and we text back and forth for about a week and i don't know i just felt like she was kind of keeping me at arm's length you know like she wasn't really giving me an opening to you know ask her out again and right and i finally did just outright and she said you know i think maybe we'd be better off as just friends oh all right like a real nail in the coffin have you guys talked since that text where she just said let's be friends well i responded saying really you know why come on let's let's just uh let's grab some dinner and

she didn't respond to that so um well that's not a good friend. I always feel like when people send that text message, it usually means that they're just not attracted to you in that way. Then maybe everything else is great about you, but they just have no sexual attraction towards you. Yeah, maybe. I mean, someone who's gutsy enough to tell me my shirt's inside out, you know, I mean, she could have let that slide. She didn't have to tell me that. Yeah. You know? You think she'd give you just a straight up answer on what's wrong with you?

Yeah, exactly. Which is nothing. Oh, okay. Mr. Confidence. I like that. All right. Yeah. Well, we'll see if that's true.

We'll play a song, come back, call her and get your second date update, okay? All right. All right. Hold on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. All right, if you're just tuning in for today's second date update,

Rick is on the phone, and he wants to call a girl named Kelly. We talked to him about his first date, and it sounded kind of like a disaster. But, Rick, I think actually you got something way better than getting another date with this girl. Really? What's that? You made a friend. That's right.

We'll be more friends. Rick made himself a friend because after their date, they were texting back and forth a little bit. And one of her texts said, you know what? I think we're better off as friends. And that's the last time she's talked to him. So she's not really a good friend that you keep in touch with a lot, but she is a new friend, and I think you should just rejoice in that, Rick. Oh, gosh.

I think that's a no from Rick. I don't think he's excited for some reason. Yeah, got plenty of friends. Really just like a second date. Okay. And were you really into her at the end of your first date, or is this one of those want-what-you-can't-have type of situations? No, she's great. I really would like to see her again.

Okay. That's the truth. Okay. And just to recap, there was an awkward moment on the date when he made a joke that they should make things official. She didn't get the joke, so he thinks that could be reason number one, why she just wants to be friends with him. And then he also was wearing his shirt inside out the whole time. And she waited until the date was over to tell him that. So that's another reason that he thinks she doesn't want to go out with him again. All right, Rick, I'm about to dial her phone number. Here we go. Okay. Thank you. Hello. Hi, I was looking for Kelly. Yeah. Hi, this is Kelly. Hey, Hello?

Hi, I was looking for Kelly. Yeah, hi, this is Kelly. Hey, Kelly, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Uh, hi. You familiar with the show? The show? Oh.

No, she just apparently knows another Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. You sounded like you knew who it was. Brook and Jubal in the Morning, it's a radio show? Oh. No, she just apparently knows another Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. You sounded like you knew who it was. Brook and Jubal in the Morning, it's a radio show? This is the radio show? Yeah. I don't think it's who you thought was calling. Yeah, I'm wrong. No.

The reason that I'm calling you is because one of our listeners actually emailed us and asked if we could get you on the phone. Okay. His name is Rick. Rick? Yeah, and Rick's kind of a friend of yours, like a new friend. You guys went out on a date together. Oh, my God. Rick?

Yeah. Oh, my God. Is that a good one? We do a segment on our show called the Second Date Update. It's where if somebody goes out on a date with somebody and then gets blown off, they email us to see if we can get that person on the phone and ask what went wrong. He emailed you guys? Yeah, and he's curious why you don't want to go out with him again. I already told him we could be friends.

Yeah, he did tell us that, but he's curious why he's being put in the friend zone right away because he would love to like go out on an actual date with you again oh my god and you know that friend thing was a lie because according to him you haven't texted him again after wanting to be friends well yeah so can you tell us why you don't want to go out with him again? You know, I was so hesitant to do online dating because, one, I liked meeting people the old-fashioned way, but my friends were like, no, it's so much fun, you have to do it. But they all had horror stories of how everybody lied on their profile. Yeah. I've never heard anyone say it's so much fun.

So you gave in and did it, and you met Rick. Did he lie about his profile? Is that what you're getting to? Yeah, he is the liar. Whoa! What did he lie about? Did he look different? No, he looked exactly like his photos.

So that was nice. That's good. He represented himself the same in the photos. Okay. It was like everything else in the profile kind of seemed like a lie. So was he like an entrepreneur, but it turns out he lives in his mom's basement or something? Kind of similar. I'm a very active person. And what really drew me to his profile was his interest. He said he loved hiking. He loved rock climbing, snowboarding, and photography. Yeah.

And these are all things I am very passionate about. And? I was hoping to meet somebody where we had similar interests that we could do these things together. Right. That's a pretty sexy profile. I'm not going to lie. I would be turned on by those things, too. Yeah. And when the conversation happened and I would bring up like I talked about going snowboarding once a year with my family and something I look forward to every year.

And I take my snowboarding very seriously. And he had nothing to say about snowboarding. What? Well, maybe he just didn't have anything to add into the conversation. That doesn't mean he doesn't board. But then I brought up hiking because his profile says, I love hiking. All caps. I love hiking. All right.

And I said, hey, when's the last time you went hiking? And he just threw up his hands in the air and shrugged his shoulders and said, I don't know. And you said it was in all caps on his profile that he loves hiking? All caps. Exclamation point. All right. It's such a weird thing to lie about. Well, that's like the basic thing to say, right?

I love hiking. I love outdoors. Yeah. If you want to seem like an outdoorsy type of person, you just say you like to hike. Yeah. It was just so strange. He had nothing to add about this, so I kept asking more questions about the rock climbing

and mountains he liked, and he would just stare at me with like a blank stare. Then I talked about photography. Yeah. And asked him what's his favorite camera, and he said, I don't know. I just use my phone. Super passionate, obviously. him what's his favorite camera and he said i don't know i just used my phone super passionate

obviously yeah so i have no idea what's going on with his profile if he just copied somebody else's or or if he thought it was good bait to get women to respond to his profile yeah it seemed like adventure dude yeah yeah i don't. It was just so bizarre. Like, such a weird thing to lie about. Well, this is going to be a good experience for you, too, because he's actually on the other line listening and would like to talk to you about his interests. Yeah, he's actually on the other line. He's on the other line?

Yeah. Hey, Kelly. Wow. Hey. Hey. Wow. Hey. Wow. Big misunderstanding here. Yeah, sounds like it, Rick. It's one way to word it. So you heard everything. Everything I said was true, right?

Can you explain why you put all those things on your profile? Well, I put them on my profile because I'm interested in them. But it doesn't sound like you do any of them. Well, no. I mean, not as much as I would like to, but I work 60 hours a week. I work really hard. And, yeah, the last time I went hiking was well over a year ago with some friends. And I had a great time, but I don't have the opportunity to go with them every time that they go.

Rick, you said you never went snowboarding. And then your profile says it's a passion of yours. I mean, I guess passion is a little strongly worded. But, I don't know, I think passion is a little strongly worded, but I don't know. I think it's really cool. I watch YouTube videos. So there you go, Kelly. He is passionate about it.

He's watching YouTube videos of snowboarding. See what I mean? He's a liar. Rick, I can't believe that this is the first time this has been an issue for you in all of your online dating experience. Like, no one else has brought up the fact that you say you love snowboarding and have never actually gone? No, because most girls are just interested in talking about themselves. You know, Rick, I'm not like that. I enjoy talking to the other person.

I enjoy getting to know somebody else. So I think you owe it to other women you're going to be dating to represent yourself accurately. I think you should change your profile that you like Netflix. Yeah, there you go, Rick. I'm passionate about watching snowboarding on YouTube. That would be a better way to put it. I'm not going to change my profile. I said that I love snowboarding because I love snowboarding and I love hiking. I don't go every day or every week,

but every time I've done it, I really enjoy it. I'm not going to say on my profile that I'm interested in algebra, which is what I do every day. See? I think you're not giving people a chance to get to know the real Rick.

I mean, I understand that there's a lot of pressure when you fill out those dating profiles to sound like a really cool person, and sometimes when you put yourself on paper, you realize how boring you are. But there's got to be something that you're passionate about that other people are passionate about, too.

But does being passionate about something mean that you have to do it? Well, generally, yes. I think so. Yeah, not really at all. At least you should try it once if you're passionate about it. You can't say you're passionate about it and have never done it. Okay. So you come off a liar.

Okay, Kelly. I think, okay, I get what you're saying, but I think that calling me a liar is a little harsh. Don't you think? I mean, yeah, okay, maybe I do need to try something before I say that I'm passionate about it. I mean, maybe you could take me snowboarding. I would love that. Hey, there you go. So, Kelly, would you like to go out on a second date with Rick?

We'll pay for it. Not the snowboarding. That's expensive. But, like, we'll pay for you guys to go out and maybe set up a snowboarding date. I'm a little hesitant because he lied, but I'm also very interested to see him on a snowboard.

Alright, so is that a yes? You will take Rick to experience his passion for the first time ever. And you guys are paying for this. We'll talk about the snowboarding thing. Yeah, we'll get you out there In that case I would be honored Oh my god

Rick is gonna hate it The first day of snowboarding is like the worst day of your life You will never have a more hurt butt ever No this is gonna be awesome I'm really looking forward to getting out there And discovering more about my passion Broken Jubal in the morning I think everybody who does online dating learned a very valuable lesson today

from the second date update, and that is lie on your profile as much as you want, because it doesn't matter. You'll get another date anyway. If you missed it, Rick wanted to call a girl named Kelly. They went out on a date.

They met online. It turns out that the reason she didn't want to go out with him again was because all of the things that he listed as interests on his profile, he didn't know anything about. Not at all. He said that snowboarding was a passion of his, and he's never even been snowboarding. He's just seen videos on YouTube and thought he could list that as a passion. So she's like, he lied about everything. And I like when we called him, I mean, when she had confronted him, he stuck to it.

Like, he didn't just say, you're right, I made it up to meet chicks. He said, no, it's still a passionate night. I don't have to do it to love it. Yeah, still watch it and enjoy it. Anyway, they did decide to go out again, and maybe she can take him snowboarding someday. Yeah. We'll see how that one goes. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't

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Man, we've got some amazing guests lined up to close out the season, but, you know, I don't want any of you guys to miss all the incredible conversations we've had so far. I mean, we talked to A. Marie, Johnny Marr, E., Jonathan Schechter, Billy Porter, and so many more. Look, if you haven't heard these episodes yet, hey, now's your chance. You've got to check them out. Listen to Questlove Supreme on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.