Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Restrained From Love

Episode Date: May 25, 2017

One of our listeners got DITCHED at the beginning of a dinner date and sat ALONE for 25 minutes before she realize her date was not coming back. Now she wants an explanation from the guy... And his reason for leaving is unbelievable!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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The girl on the phone for a second date update today met the guy that she wants to call at a place where I've actually met a lot of women. The golf course. You have? Yeah. Like met a lot of women. The golf course. You have? Like you've hit on women at the golf course? Yeah, I just kind of hang out and hide behind the windmill. The giant windmill. And then when they come up to retrieve their ball, I just pop out from behind them like, hey, what's your name?

Come to the golf course often? Why are you running away? Where are you going? Where are you going? I just wanted to talk. You're not getting your ball back until we talk. Yeah. It's a really scared eight-year-old you just chased down. Never very successful for me, but apparently it was successful for the guy that she wants to call today.

Hannah, how are you? Good. How are you doing? Good. So you met the dude you want to call today at the golf course, huh? Yeah. We were at the driving range, and I had got the new clubs, so I wanted to try them out, but I spotted this guy, Derek is his name, and he was so cute.

I was kind of playing it a little coy, like I was having some issues, you know. Wait, wait, wait, wait. You played the dumb girl, I don't know what to do with my clubs move? No, not necessarily dumb girl, but I was more so playing it off like, these are new clubs. Like maybe you want to show me how to use them because I really, really wanted him to help me. Hey, excuse me, sir. Would you mind helping a lady out with her golf clubs?

I can't possibly seem to swing these big heavy things, but you've got those big hands and those big arms. Maybe you could wrap them around me and show me how to work one of these golf clubs yeah exactly okay okay sweet did it i mean it obviously worked well not exactly he came over and he helped me out because he works at the golf course right so he was obviously busy yeah he was busy doing other things. And he helped me for a little bit, but then he kind of left me alone and went and did his own thing. Okay, so he was an employee. I thought you were just hitting on a random guy there. Me too.

He was paid to help you. That's frustrating then when you're like, I'm going to flirt with this dude. And he just comes up and he's like, yeah, those clubs are on sale. Those clubs, I would recommend those for you. I'll see you later, ma'am. Have a good day. And you're like, wait, wait, I wanted to flirt. And he just comes up and he's like, yeah, those clubs are on sale. Those clubs, I would recommend those for you. I'll see you later, ma'am. Have a good day. And you're like, wait, wait, I wanted to flirt. And he's gone.

So did you just end up being an annoying customer at the driving range following this poor guy around on his shift? Maybe a little bit, but it ended up like working out in my favor because he came back around, you know, after like 45 minutes or so once he wrapped up whatever he was doing and he asked me out to dinner. Oh, you waited 45 minutes? Good for you. She wasn't just standing there, right? She brought like 10 buckets of Boston.

Yeah, that's persistent though. I like it. Yeah, it worked out. So fast forward to our dinner date. We show up at dinner and he is so cute. He's all dressed up and he's being very gentleman-like.

Okay, so... Very, very gentleman-like. He's trying to impress you. This all sounds great. Yeah, so at the beginning of the date, I was thinking going into it

and after I showed up and I saw him, how nice he looked, I thought this was going to be a great date. Like, this could possibly be a really great date. Yeah.

Awesome. It sounds like it wasn't, though this could possibly be a really great date. Yeah. Awesome. It sounds like it wasn't though, because you keep saying it could be. Yeah. I thought it was going to be. Yeah. Unfortunately, it just did not go at all how I had hoped. What happened? What was so bad about it? Well, we sat down and we ordered drinks. And before like we even ordered dinner, he he said i have to go grab something out of my car and then he said he'd be right back and this is where it gets really bizarre all right the

drinks came i kind of sat down my cocktail but i waited and i waited and he never came back like he ditched you in the middle of the date? It wasn't even in the middle of the date. It was right at the beginning of the date he ditched me. Dude, that is so messed up. I don't understand how people can do that to other people. Did you at least drink his cocktail too to try to numb the pain?

I wanted to, but no I didn't. I was actually just so bummed because I didn't even know why or what happened because I thought the date I was actually just so bummed because I didn't even know why or what happened because I thought the date was going to be so great, and then he just literally left. How long did you wait? I waited about, I would say, 25 minutes. Oh, wow.

That's about right. Yeah. I mean, once you get to the 15-minute point, you're thinking they're gone, and then by about 30 minutes, you know that they left you. At first, I thought it was weird after even 10 minutes of it, but I just continued to sit there. You know, I didn't really know what he was doing, but he just never came back. I mean, what was going through your head?

A lot of things. Maybe he like was smoking a cigarette or I don't know. But then after, like I said, that 10-minute point, I just started to get really bummed out because I kind of got that embarrassed feeling like is this really happening to me so did you actually eat food at the restaurant or did you just cash out and go no I cashed out and went and I actually had to pay for the drinks too which was embarrassing oh man why do you think he would do that to you I honestly don't know I thought things were going so great. We had great

conversation for the first like couple minutes we were there, but then he just ditched. So I have no idea. That's why I called you guys. Did you text him while you're waiting at the table? Like, hey, what happened? Where are you? I didn't text him within the first 10 minutes. But then, you know, after that, I just shot him a text because I started thinking, gosh, what if he, like, passed out or something? Right. So I texted him and I said, are you okay? And he never responded after that. Are you pissed?

Like, I'm pissed for you. I don't think people should disrespect each other in that way. I'm really pissed off about it. But I think more so I'm just, like, really bummed out that it still happened that way because I thought he was a great guy, you know? Yeah, and he obviously liked you because he came and asked for your number. That's what you said, right? Yeah, and he asked me on the date. I didn't initiate that.

He did. All right. Well, we'll play a song, come back, call him, and figure out why he ditched you in your second date update, okay? Okay, thank you. Okay. Moving 92. Okay. If you're just joining us for today's second date update, Hannah is on the phone and she wants to call a guy named Derek. Now, before we

make the phone call and find out what went wrong on their date, I think it's time for a little bit of positivity training for Hannah. Hannah, I want to help you be more positive about something, okay? Okay. So your date left you like a couple minutes into the date. As soon as you guys sat down, ordered something to drink, he said he had to go to his car and then took off and you haven't heard from him, right? Right, exactly. Positivity is all about switching your focus, okay? Instead of saying that you got ditched, we're going to say you're just a master at speed dating. And that was a very good speed date that you went on. Oh, shit. Yeah, so that's what it was.

You didn't get ditched. You're just good at speed dating. That's all. You made me feel better already. Oh, my God. Awesome. I'm glad I could help. I do want to know, though, why are you even giving this

guy any more energy? I mean, he's obviously a jerk to leave someone that soon into a date. I really just want to know what happened. Like, why he left. What his reason is. Not that I want to give him another chance. I just want to know why the hell he walked out on me.

If he has a really good explanation, will you give him a second chance or is it just strictly that you want to find out now? Right now I'm leaning more towards no, because he could have reached out to me this past week, texted me if something serious happened. So it's going to have to be a really, really good excuse for me to give him another chance.

Maybe he was kidnapped and we're actually going to talk to the people holding him hostage right now. That would be something. Not even that that would be a good excuse. That'd be something. I'm going to dial his phone number right now. Here we go. Thank you.

Hello? Hi, I was looking for Derek. Yeah, this is Derek. Hey, what's up, Derek? How are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. What? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. The hell's Jubal?

That is an excellent question, sir. That's me. That's my name. I host a radio show. It's called Brick and Jubal in the Morning. I'm assuming you've never heard of it. Uh, no. Okay. Well, the reason I'm calling you today is one of our listeners actually asked us to get a hold of you.

Okay. Why? Because you recently went on a date with her and actually ended up ditching her without an explanation. So she was hoping maybe we could get you on the phone and find out why you left. Oh, s***. You obviously know who we're talking about. We're talking about Hannah.

Yep. Okay. She told us that she met you at a driving range, and then she said that you guys went out to dinner. And once you sat down, you said that you had to run to the car to get something, and that's the last she ever heard of you. Is that accurate? Yeah, it is. It is. It just... Can you just tell us why? She's curious. I mean, imagine how you would feel if you were on a date and someone just ghosts right away after you sat down. Wouldn't you at least wonder why?

Look, I didn't mean to ditch her. I just panicked. Why would you panic? What would you panic about? I saw my ex at a table like right next to us. Okay. And that was after we already ordered drinks and everything. We had already gotten there.

We sat down. Okay, but just seeing your ex, I mean, that doesn't give you any grounds to just ditch somebody, does it? I had to leave. Are you obviously not over your ex? Is that the issue? You don't get it. You don't get it. That's why I'm asking. You're right. I don't get it at all. Listen, I didn't want to tell her my ex has a restraining order against me. What? Whoa.

So you legally had to leave, not just you wanted to leave. Oh, dang. Yeah, like if I'd been there another five minutes, you know, if she would have called the cops, I would have had to deal with that. Wow. What did you do to get a restraining order? I didn't do anything. Of course you didn't.

We had a messy breakup. You know, she cheated, but then she said that I cheated, which was not true. I did not cheat. Okay. Then the week after, she went outside her house.

Her car was on fire. Whoa! And, of course, she thought outside her house. Her car was on fire. Whoa! And, of course, she thought it was me. Her friends thought it was me. What? So was it you? Hell no, it wasn't me. Okay, so she said that you set her car on fire.

Yeah, she claims that. Dude, that sounds crazy. The only reason that she ended up getting a restraining order against me was because the police placed me in the general vicinity. I'm doing air quotes. You can't even see it. But you were in the general vicinity when her car caught fire? Yeah, I guess so.

It sounds really coincidental to me. Like, oh, I'm her crazy ex, and we had a messy breakup, and now my car's on fire and you were around whatever you want to judge me i know what actually happened okay okay but even with that like why wouldn't you just tell her your date hannah like hey let's go somewhere else i just freaked out and left yeah but why not tell her after the fact though shoot her a text and be like hey restraining order sorry i mean i don't know how you would say it, but why not tell her? I'm not going to lie to her, but I'm not going to tell her during our first date, hey, I got

this restraining order. Yeah. I mean, you still could have explained something later on though, so she's not sitting there wondering what's wrong with her and why you would leave. Actually, yeah, I tried. I mean, I paid the valet 20 bucks to tell her. Okay. Well, I don't think the valet told her, yeah, you might want to go back and get your $20. Yeah.

Because he never told her. At least I tried. That's true, I guess. But you didn't try that. Like, you must not feel that bad about ditching her. You didn't call her. You didn't apologize. Like, at least a sorry text.

You didn't even have to explain yourself. All right, fine. I'll text her later today. All right. I'm going to say I'm sorry. And I don't know. We'll go from there, I guess. Well, why not?

You know, don't worry about texting her later. You can just tell her right now because she's actually on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. What? Yeah. Hannah, you there? I don't even know what to say. I don't blame you.

Why the hell is she here? Because she wanted us to get a hold of you so she could talk to you because she was wondering why you weren't calling her back. You answered this phone call, but you couldn't bother texting me at all? I mean, you heard what I said. You know that the situation is messy. What would you have done? I would have at least taken you with me when we went out of the restaurant, not just completely ditch me and then leave me with no explanation whatsoever for a week.

I mean, don't you think that's kind of a jerk thing to do? It's not my fault that there's a restraining order against me. You heard that? Since everyone with a restraining order. I don't really know if it is your fault. I mean, you were in the area where the car was on fire, so. Were you there? No, you weren't there.

You don't know. I don't know for sure because, I mean, you're the one that walked out on our date, so that doesn't make you a really truthful guy as is. Look, you're thinking about this all wrong. Look, from my perspective, I didn't ditch you. I ditched my ex. How romantic. Okay, but you still didn't

explain anything to the girl you're on a date with. And you didn't take me with you. You just ditched the both of us, technically. But Hannah, I mean, be honest. Like, if he would have told you, hey, my ex is sitting there. I have a restraining order. Let's go to another bar. You're not going to say okay to that. Yeah, I mean, you're right in that sense. But at the

same time, being truthful about it up front, I would have appreciated more than just being completely blown off and look like an idiot at the restaurant by myself. That was a high pressure situation. And I think that I handled it better than most guys. Yeah, you're right. Just running away from everything. That's how I handle problems, too, man. Don't worry about it. I'm just shocked.

I really would have appreciated a text or a phone call afterward. But, Hannah, it's a legit excuse for leaving. You've got to give them that. And for the first couple minutes, we had a great time. We ordered drinks and everything. It was awesome. Yeah, if you forget about the ex-. And for the first couple minutes, we had a great time. We ordered drinks and everything. It was awesome. Yeah, if you forget about the ex-girlfriend and the arson stuff,

the date was awesome. Hey, Derek, would you like to go out with Hannah again on a second date? We'll pay for it. Now that she knows, like, everything about me and, you know, if she's still willing to go on a date, then, yeah, I would. All right, what do you think, Hannah?

A guy that has a restraining order out for arson and ditched me on a date and then never texted me or called me back, I'm going to have to say no. Yeah, shocking. It's so weird. You have no idea what you're missing out on. I bet. She does.

I think she does know what she's missing out on. Derek, thank you for being honest with us. Sorry about your situation. Whatever. Okay, he's gone. Hannah. Wow. So the restraining order for arson wasn't a good enough excuse to woo you back into another date, huh?

Definitely not. Okay. Well, I want to let you know I do have a friend who was arrested for grand larceny If you're interested, I can hook it up Oh, that sounds even more exciting Yes, I will do it Fantastic So weird that a guy could ditch a girl on a first date

And then tell her that the reason he ditched her Was because his ex-girlfriend was there And she has a restraining order Because somehow her car got lit on fire after they broke up. And she wouldn't go out with him again. Weird. I thought for sure that was a love connection. In case you missed the second date update, that's exactly what happened.

Hannah wanted to call a guy named Derek, mostly to get an explanation on why he left. Like right when they sat down for dinner. We got him on the phone. He said he left because his ex-girlfriend was there. He has a restraining order because after they broke up, somebody set her car on fire. He says it wasn't him,

but he happened to be in the general vicinity. And he never said that it wasn't anyone he didn't know. Yeah. You know, like, and I can't believe how many people are texting in saying, I believe him. She should have said yes. I know.

A lot of people are on his side. I don't know. If I were going out with someone, they ditched me, and then I found out the reason they ditched me was restraining order for whatever reason, I probably wouldn't go out with them again. There's no benefit of the doubt on that one. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show, and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Move at 92.5.

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For years, I had to rely on other people to tell me my story. And what I heard wasn't good. You really f***ed last night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smash it against the walls. You really f***ed last night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smash it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Laurie Santos, and to welcome the new year, my podcast, The Happiness Lab, is releasing a series of happiness how-to guides to help you in 2025.

I'll distill the wisdom of world-class experts into easy-to-digest, actionable tips. Struggling with tough emotions? We have a how-to guide. Worried that you're not enough? We got you. Self-obsessed and want to get over yourself? There's a guide for that, too. The Happiness Lab's how-To Season starts January 1st. Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.