Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: “Scarred” for Life

Episode Date: March 6, 2015

Jubal loves talking to single moms in these Second Date Updates... because usually single moms are the wildest! Is that the case with "Nicole"? Jubal HOPES SO! But we'll find out, when we talk to her. Listen in the PODCAST.(Image Courtesy: zpeckler. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Man, we've got some amazing guests lined up to close out the season, but you know, I don't want any of you guys to miss all the incredible conversations we've had so far. I mean, we talked to A. But, you know, I don't want any of you guys to miss all the incredible conversations we've had so far. I mean, we talked to A. Marie, Johnny Marr, Eve,

Jonathan Schechter, Billy Porter, and so many more. Look, if you haven't heard these episodes yet, hey, now's your chance. You gotta check them out. Listen to Questlove Supreme on the iHeartRadio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The girl on the phone for a second date update today met her date in a very unconventional way. In person. At a party yeah that doesn't happen very often anymore normally it's like craigslist misconnections or tinder or plenty of fish but she actually met somebody in person and went out on a date with them weird uh and now she's not getting a call back nicole how are you i'm good how are you guys good so you actually took the risk and met somebody in person while you were at a party, huh?

Tell us about that. That's weird. Well, I mean, I didn't know that I was going to meet somebody in person at a party. I just, you know, went to a friend of a friend's house for a party and got there and she said, hey, I've got this guy you should meet. So I was like, oh, that was my lap. And you actually met him and talked to him face to face, huh? In the flesh.

Wow, that is crazy. Tell us a little bit about the guy you want to call today. Well, his name is Travis. And like I said, I was introduced by kind of a friend of a friend. And I am a single mom. I have a five-year-old. Okay. Her dad and I split a couple years ago.

So I don't date very often. I mean, I guess I've really only kind of been back on the market for a little while. So when I met him, I didn't really expect to meet someone, you know, and I didn't expect to like somebody. You weren't out like trying to find somebody to date. It just happened that you... No. Okay. But as soon as I met him, we clicked. I mean, just instantly, the conversation was really great at the party

and i knew that there was somebody that i would want to go out with okay so you guys obviously exchanged numbers and went out what did you do on your date we went to dinner pretty typical first date nothing crazy um but just had a really great conversation you know it was never awkward you know sometimes you go on a date and it's just there are those moments where you're just like oh god get me out of here right never felt that way and did he seem interested in you i mean like because you seem super jacked about this date well hopefully i didn't seem overly eager i didn't think that i did i mean the date went great he picked me up and so when he took me home after the date asked him if he wanted to come in for a nightcap. Was your kid at home?

She was asleep. Okay. And is he a dad, and he's cool with the child thing? He knew that I have a daughter. Yeah. He's not a dad. Okay. But he didn't seem to be uncomfortable

with the idea of dating a single mom. Right. He wasn't shocked when there was a babysitter at your house. No, no. He already knew. Okay. That happens sometimes. And what was it like when you guys got back to the house?

It was great. I mean, we had a couple drinks. We were talking. One thing kind of led to another. We kissed. Nice. It was really fun. You know.

Did your kid wake up at any point and interrupt you guys? No. If she did, I didn't see her come downstairs. All right. Oh, no. Well, that's always kind of awkward, you know what I mean? Like if you're hanging out with somebody who has a kid and you guys are making out and it's like, hey, I want a popsicle. Mommy's busy.

Yeah. So you didn't have any of that kind of stuff happen? No, nothing like that. Okay. How did you end everything with the guy? He said that he would like to see me again and said he'd give me a call. And then he didn't. Okay.

So after a couple of days, I thought, you know what? Maybe he's waiting for a sign from me that I'm interested. Right. So I texted him and, you know, just said, hey, had fun, would love to see you again. And he responded saying that, sorry, he'd been busy. Things had been a little crazy, but that he would also like to go out again. And so we kind of made a plan to touch base and find a time the next week. And that was about two weeks ago almost.

Okay. Have you followed up with him? No, because at this point, I kind of feel like I let him know that I'm interested. And so I guess I'm starting to wonder that maybe he's just not interested in now doing all the legwork. Okay. Everything you've said has been so positive. Maybe he's not looking for a relationship. Did he, like, indicate that? I definitely got the impression that he was as

interested as i was so it's been about two weeks do you want a second date with this guy or do you just want to find out why he just like stopped talking to you honestly you know i think at this point i more just want to know what happened you know this isn't like i don't date much and so i if i just want to know if i did something so if we we call him, get him on the phone, and he's like, oh, man, I liked her so much, I've just been busy, and I really want to go out with her. You want me to say, hey, go to hell, man. She doesn't want a second date with you. That's what you want me to do? No, no, don't do that.

But, I mean, if you wanted to go out again, yes, I would totally go out with her. All right, well, I won't screw that up for you then, okay? Thank you. All right, well, play a song screw that up for you then. Okay. Thank you. All right. Well, play a song. Come back. Call him and get your second date update.

Okay? Okay. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update. If you're just tuning in for the second date update,

Nicole is on the phone. She wants us to call a guy named Travis today. They met at a party, agreed to go out, had a great date, went back to her place. She does have a kid. Paid the babysitter. They hung out for a little while, made out. He said that he wanted to go out again. Even texted her saying like, yeah, I'm real busy this week. But we should definitely go out and then has not talked to her since. So she wants to call him today and find out why. And Nicole, I think I know why this guy isn't calling you back.

OK, what do you think? Well, talking to you, okay, you seem very put together, right? You got a kid, but you're still, like, doing okay. You know, everything seems, you seem, you seem, you seem, you seem like not a train wreck. Right, yes. And I think that's the problem, okay? I feel like he went out with you and he was hoping just for a hookup.

And then he's like, oh man, she's actually like smart and she knows stuff. And now she's out of my league and I don't want to call her back. Well, I mean, I guess I could take that as a compliment. Yeah, you should. You should. I'm saying that from our normal second date updates that we do, you sound too good. And I think maybe that's the problem. He's like, yeah, she's too good for me and I don't want to call her back.

Well, I hope that's the reason. Well, I'm about to dial the phone number right now. Get him on the phone and see if we can find out why, okay? Okay. All right, here we go. Hello? Can I speak to Travis, please? Yeah, this is Travis.

Who's this? Hey, Travis, how you doing? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Oh, okay. Hi. Hi. How you doing? Fine. Any idea why I might be calling you? Honestly, no. I'm calling you because you recently

went out on a date with one of our listeners. Okay. And you're not calling her back. So she emailed us to see if we could get you on the phone and ask why. What? I'll say it one more time for you. You recently went out on a date with somebody who listens to our show, okay? Okay. Okay. And you're not calling her back now and she would really like to see you again.

Okay. But since she can't get a hold of you, she asked us to do it and see if we can find out why you're not calling her back. Okay. Her name is Nicole. Do you remember going out with Nicole?

Yeah. Okay. You guys met at a party and hung out back at her place? Yeah. Well, according to her, you've said that you want to hang out again, but you've told her that you're busy, and then you just kind of stopped talking to her. Is there any specific reason?

Well, yeah, I'd like to hang out with her again. I just haven't had time. Okay. So your excuse about being busy, that's true. You really do want to see her again? Yeah, sure. Okay. Thank you.

Sure. All right. So you say that, but why haven't you contacted her at all? Listen, I don't know what to tell you. You got me. So you say that, but why haven't you contacted her at all? Listen, I don't know what to tell you. You got me. I didn't call her back. Okay.

Can you tell us why? Well, she's a mom. She's got a five-year-old kid. And I'm just, no, I'm not ready I'm, I'm not ready for anything like that. Okay. Why'd you agree to go out with her in the first place then? Well, I thought at first that maybe it could work out, but then, you know, after the date, I realized that there's no way. So you're saying after the date, you realized it. Does that mean that something happened during the date to make you change your mind?

I don't know. I think you do know, Travis. It's a long pause. Look, Travis, this is like something that we do for our listeners. They want to get better at dating, so they ask us to call people and find out why. So if there's anything that you're withholding from us, I'd appreciate it if you could just be honest with us, and then we'll tell her to help her out. You know, when we were hanging out at her place,

it was just weird. It was weird? Yeah. Okay. So here's the thing. We talked to her. She said that she paid the babysitter. You guys hung out and made out a little bit.

You didn't even have any interaction with her kid because she said you didn't even see the kid. No, I didn't see the kid, but I knew the kid was just on the other side of that wall. So just knowing. There were stuffed animals all over the place and Barbie dolls. So you were cool with it until you got there and you're like, all right, I know there's a kid here. This just became real and you didn't want to hang out with her again. Well, it was more than that. I mean, things started like, you know there's a kid here, this became real, and you didn't want to hang out with her again? Well, it was more than that.

I mean, things started, like, you know, progressing between us, like, you know, physically. I just couldn't get it out of my head that the kid was, like, right there. So the whole time you're making out with her, you're thinking, like, all right, this is going to go to the next level. The only thing that's in your head is a kid. Yeah, exactly, and I tried to put it out of my mind. I tried to play through it, and like, I

go under her shirt, and then I see her scar, and that was it. Wait, say that again? When we were kissing, I lifted up her shirt, and I saw she had a C-section scar. A C-section scar.

Yeah. So is this about the kid or about the scar? That was just a reminder that she has a kid. Can I ask, I mean, what is it, though, about the kid? Like, I don't get why you're so shocked by all this when you knew about it going in. I don't want to be in a position where I have to play dad. I don't want to be making out with someone and have a kid walk in. I don't want anything to do with it. It didn't want to be making out with someone and have a kid walk in. I don't want anything to do

with that. It didn't seem to stop you at the time. What? Hi. Nicole here. Hey, Travis. Nicole's actually on the other line. Are you kidding me? She's been listening in this whole time?

Sure have. And I think it's interesting that you'll tell these guys, complete strangers, what's going on, but you won't even answer a text for me. Nicole, they were asking questions. Yes, I answered them, and I didn't answer your text.

And what do you think is more uncomfortable? I would think responding to a text is easier than having a conversation. I mean, it's not like I was asking you for an explanation in person. I just sent you a text. What am I supposed to say to you? Your C-section scar freaked me out?

I don't think you have to go that far, Trevor. You could at least give me the courtesy of saying, hey, listen, this just isn't for me, instead of just, hey, I'd like to see you again, and then nothing. You know, like, why say you want to go out again if you don't? Hey, listen, this just isn't for me, okay? Ladies and babies, this isn't for me. I'm sorry, I was trying to let you down easy by just ignoring your text. I thought you would get the clue, but this isn't for me.

Yeah, I don't think this is for me either. Oh, that's a shame, because I was going to see if you guys wanted to go out again. I will pay for it. Oh, will you? Yeah, why don't you go and get us three tickets to Disney on Ice? Disney on Ice. I think that was a no.

So I guess neither one of you want to go out again. No, definitely not. And you know what, Jubal? You're right. I'm way too put together. See? Told you. All right. Well, Travis, put together for this guy. See? Told you. Told him.

All right. Well, Travis, thank you for your time. I appreciate it. All right, guys. No more single mommies for you. You got that right. Okay? And don't call them single mommies because that sounds creepy.

Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Jon Stewart is back at The Daily Show, and he's bringing his signature wit and insight straight to your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Dive into John's unique take on the biggest topics in politics, entertainment, sports, and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

The forces shaping markets and the economy are often hiding behind a blur of numbers. So that's why we created The Big Take from Bloomberg Podcasts, to give you the context you need to make sense of it all. Every day in just 15 minutes, we dive into one global business story that matters. You'll hear from Bloomberg journalists like Matt Levine. A lot of this meme stock stuff is, I think, embarrassing to the SEC. Follow The Big Take podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.

People, my people, what's up? This is Questlove. Man, I cannot believe we're already wrapping up another season of Questlove Supreme. Man, we've got some amazing guests lined up to close out the season, but, you know, I don't want any of you guys to miss all the incredible conversations we've had so far. I mean, we talked to A. Marie, Johnny Marr, Eve, Jonathan Schechter, Billy Porter, and so many more.

Look, if you haven't heard these episodes yet, hey, now's your chance. You've got to check them out. Listen to Questlove Supreme on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.