Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Set the Bar Low

Episode Date: June 2, 2017

Normally, if you went on a date with someone.... and afterwards, they told you that they were interested in going out again, that would be considered a COMPLIMENT... But for one of our listeners, that wasn't good enough... He never responded to her compliment... That is, until NOW... Months later, he's changed his mind... and you won't believe why he reached out to us for help... find out why in the Second Date Update here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You know, there's an art to dating. When you go out with somebody and you enjoy your time together, you kind of hang back after the date. Don't text right away because you don't want to seem overeager. No, I hate that rule. Well, it's a rule that people abide by. And Jason, who's on the phone to do a second date update today, is hardcore at that rule because he hasn't talked to the girl he wants to call in two months. What?

Yeah, he's doing the two month slow play, which I think is a little too long. But Jason, I don't know, man. I don't know exactly what your goal is here, but you want to call her now for a second date update. Why wait two months? Well, okay. So I think I'm in a little bit of a unique situation here. See, I went out with this girl, Kathy, two months ago and we went to a dinner and it was, it was, you know, it was okay. Oh, great. So now you're just rating it as okay. I waited two months. It was okay.

Figured I couldn't find anything better, so now I'm going to call Kathy back. Is that the plan? Well, no, I... Yes. Yeah, it sounds like that's the plan, Jason. Is that the plan? Is that horrible? Yes.

I just think that maybe after, you know, all this time, I came to a realization that this was actually what a date maybe is more supposed to look like. What? What does that mean, Jason? Because if I didn't call somebody back for two months and then I was like, all right, look, I got to get a hold of them, even though it's been a long time, I really liked them. I wouldn't describe them the way you just described the girl that you want to call. What's her name? It's Kathy. Kathy. I wouldn't describe them the way that you described Kathy and be like, yeah, it was, you know, it's good. Well, let me, let me tell you about our date. So we go to dinner

and things are going okay. You know, there were no like awkward surprises in the first 10 minutes and I'm trying to facilitate conversation and like, you know, talk about ourselves and, and every single step of the way, the conversation just dies, you know? And it's not like it's the worst date in the world, but it's like that there are these long stretches of silence where like, you just want to squirm in your seat and you don't know what you're supposed to do. It sounds like a fabulous date. No wonder you want to call her back. Well, see, that's sort of what I thought. I thought things were not going well because about 30 minutes in, she starts checking her

phone. So it doesn't sound like Kathy wants to date you either. So, okay. That's what I believed. And then the next morning she texts me and says, hey, thanks so much for last night. It really meant a lot to me. Hey, that's good. You're out with her.

There's a lot of lulls in the conversation. She's checking her phone 30 minutes in and you find out that she actually had a great time. So, I mean, I get that text and I sort of look at it for a few minutes and then I think, like, no way. There's no way I'm going out on another date with this girl. Like it was bad. Yeah. It was a bad date. It was so weird.

Yeah. And you're like, if that's your definition of fun, we have two different definitions of fun, obviously. So what made you change your mind? So it's been two months and I've been on dates since then trying to sort of figure out what is actually good for me. And every single date has been so much worse than that date. So much worse. So you want to call her after two months, not because she was so fantastic. She just wasn't a psychopath. Well, she wasn't a psychopath.

And, like, I didn't have a bad time. It wasn't great. But like, you know, maybe maybe they say that, like, you know, marriage is like a partnership, sort of like the boring married couple. Right. Well, like, you know, maybe this is that right off the bat. And I can know what to expect all the way down the line. Comfort. Normally, I would be really against this.

But I feel like online dating has given people too many choices that you don't ever know what was good. Like if it was pre-online dating, maybe you would have given her a second chance and the second time it would have been fantastic. And this date wasn't, it wasn't a bad date. You know, I enjoyed my meal and the company was okay. This is so awkward. It's amazing. You know, I'm starting to think that okay is what I need. I listen to your show, Two Second Date Update, and I've heard some of the people that are on here before, and I know how bad things can be.

This isn't that. I think this is way better than that. Yeah, just a little lag in conversation when you guys went out and she didn't like mess her pants and throw up on you. Honestly, it could be so much worse for me. So much worse. I love that our show is like taking a low bar and lowering it even further. Yes, to help. Well, it lets you know. It lets you know how bad things can get. Oh, that should be our new show slogan.

Brook a Jubal in the morning, lets you know how bad things can get. But honestly, Jason, she's probably not going to be super excited that you haven't called her for two months. Yeah, I realize that may be a problem. I did text her like a day ago and said, like, you know, long time no talk stranger like just trying to like ignite like a conversation and i have not gotten a response which i don't blame her for but you know i really do want to like reach out and at least try to get a second okay all right well we'll play a song come back and then call kathy and see if she's willing to go out with you again since she's not the worst option. All right.

Thanks, guys. No problem. We'll get your second date update right after this. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning's second date update. If you're just tuning in for today's second date update, we have Goldilocks on the phone. Goldilocks goes by the name of Jason. He's been in the dating world, and most of his dates have either been too hot or too cold.

And he wants us to call Kathy for him right now. And Kathy is, well, she's not even just right. She's just okay. And that's why he likes her. He actually went out on a date with her two months ago and hasn't talked to her since. But now he wants to call her to get another date because, according to him, all of his other dates have been so bad that he's thought about it. And he's like, this one was actually probably the most decent date I've had in two months. So why not give it a shot and see if she'll go out with me?

Jason, I feel like you should tell her or we should tell her that you want to give it another shot because, hey, the first one wasn't so great. But first dates are hard and maybe the second date would be better. Yes, I think that's part of what I'm hoping. OK, that's the message you're trying to get out. Not like, well, she was good enough. Absolutely. I mean, I think I'm a little worried that it's going to come across as because, you know, I haven't texted her in two months. So the fear is that, you know, she'll think what i what i said yeah okay all right the fear is that

she'll understand the truth but i wouldn't i wouldn't even call out how bad the date was i mean it was on your end you said it was boring but she texted you the day after right yeah so i think i think i'll say something, I wasn't ready at the time. I liked you too much and I didn't know how to deal with it, so I went away for two months. Now we're just lying. Yeah. It might work. No!

All right, I'm going to dial her phone number right now, Jason. Here we go. You ready? Yeah, thanks, guys. Hello? Why can't I speak to Kathy, please? This is she. Hey, what's up, Kathy? How are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning.

From what? Brook and Jubal in the Morning. It's a radio show. A radio show? Yeah. Yeah, like the kind that you hear when you're listening to the radio and then there are people doing a show on there. Good description. We do one of those. Yeah.

Okay. And I'm calling you today because we actually got an email from one of our listeners about you. Okay. I know this is weird, but we do a segment on our show called the Second Date Update. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up not calling them back after they email us to see if we can get you

on the phone and find out what went wrong. Okay. Okay. Your situation is a little different though because the guy that wanted us to call you actually kind of blew you off, but he's regretting it now. His name is Jason.

Jason like a few months ago, Jason? Yep, I think we were talking about the same Jason. He's calling to get in touch with me now? Yeah, he emailed us and said that he really enjoyed your date and he doesn't really know why he took so long to get back to you, but he tried to text you the other day and now you haven't texted him back so he thought he'd enlist our help to see if we could get you on the phone

and find out if you would like to see Jason again or if you enjoyed your time with him. Huh, that's actually pretty funny. That was actually a pretty big night for me, weirdly enough. The date you had with Jason was a big night? Yeah, kind of. It's just weird that he's asking now.

I mean, like, why wait, like, two months? That's okay. That's what we said. What was so big about that night for you? Well, honestly, that night I kind of came to the conclusion that I was more interested in women than men. Whoa, what? Oh. Like, you came out of the conclusion that I was more interested in women than men. Whoa, what? Oh.

Like you came out of the closet that night? Well, I mean, that came like a week or so later, but that night I realized what it was that I actually wanted. Whoa. Good for you. Wow. Way to find your truth. How did that hit you all of a sudden while you were out with jason i just kind of felt like the whole time on our date i was just kind of bored like i felt like

i was really grasping at things to talk about and they just you know nothing was really landing and over the course of the evening i just kind of felt like I was more interested in like looking at our waitress than I was at Jason. Was this something you were thinking about like prior or it was literally everything happened that night? I think I had some, a little bit of confusion, but I just have been dating men my whole life. And I just, you know, I felt like this was what I was supposed to be doing. And then it was just that night. I was just like you know, I felt like this was what I was supposed to be doing. And then it was just that night. I was just like, what am I doing? Clearly, I'm continually to date guys that I'm not interested in. Why am I not interested in them? Maybe because I'm not

interested in men in general. Good on you, Kathy. But I'm confused, though, because he said that you texted him the next morning, like praising your night with him. Well, I honestly just wanted to thank him. Like I really woke up that next morning just feeling like a whole new person. And I wanted to thank him because I feel like that was the turning point for my life. Like I feel like I know who I am now. That's amazing. He read your text completely wrong. He thought you were texting him saying how much fun you had on the date.

Not that your date was so boring it made you switch teams. Oh, my God. He thought that I meant, like, that I had a good time? Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I meant, like, thank you for helping me figure out my life. Right. Thank you for helping reveal my truth.

Nice. For all the laughs. I'm sure he'd be shocked to know that that's what that text meant. And you might be shocked to know that he's on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. Oh, no. Jason? Yeah, shocked is a good statement, man. Jason, I'm sorry.

I just, I can't believe this. You're telling me that I, like, because you went on a date with me, you realized that, you know. I mean, if there's anything wrong with you. Well, there is. There's a big thing wrong. Well, there's a thing wrong with Jason. You've been with guys before, though. I don't understand why, you know, why it was your night with me that changed everything. Like, what was I doing so wrong wrong you didn't do anything wrong i think it was just the culmination

of a lot of dating of men and realizing that i wasn't enjoying myself and i guess you were just the last date that i didn't enjoy that i kind of went well maybe it's because i'm not interested in men yeah but then why would you text me the next morning? Like, that is only something that you would do if you were interested in me. If I recall, I texted you that, you know, just thanking you for a great night. I didn't ask to see you again. I mean, you didn't text me back, so I figured, oh, great, we're on the same page. That was still, I mean, that was still kind of a lie then, right? You didn't have a great night with me.

What? Jason, are you actually butthurt about this? Yeah, of course I am. Like, I was not the reason that it was a boring date. I don't buy that as the reason she texted me that in the morning. I think she's, you know, I think you're trying to get back at me, if I'm honest. What? Jason, are you accusing Kathy of lying? I mean, I don't believe that that was the night she decided that she was, you know, playing for the other team. I don't believe it. So, Jason, you're saying that you are just God's gift to women, and there's absolutely no way that I could not be interested in you. Is that what I'm hearing?

I think that maybe you're upset that I didn't text you back. And so now you're trying to embarrass me on the radio. And that's pathetic. What? How are you turning her moment of truth into something that's about you, dude? I just think it's a pretty good story. You know what I mean? Like, she was on her phone the whole night.

And you're telling me that was the turning point of her life? No way. her phone the whole night and you're telling me that was the turning point of her life no way seeing my best friend because we had been having this conversation about you know am i interested in women i don't know i don't know how i feel and i had you know just such as an epiphany on our date that yeah i texted her and it was still appropriate to share with you i think it would have been amazing if you shared it with him. Like, hey, by the way, half an hour into this date with you, I just figured out that I am a lesbian. All right, let's finish up. You want dessert?

Dessert. I mean, maybe he could have been my wingman for the waitress. I mean, I don't know. Yes. See? Jason, I mean, you guys could still be friends. You did help her in a big moment of her life it was very pivotal yeah yeah I did introduce you to my friends like I'm open to that

well Kathy what would you say to going out on another date with Jason we will pay for it would you go on a second date with Jason I would say if he wants a wingman to help him find women and you guys want to pay for that, I would love to help him in that situation. So, Kathy, is that a no or will you go out with Jason and help him find chicks? I mean, I do have some friends that I could probably set him up with. You're saying you might have some straight friends who would be interested in me? Until they actually go out on a date, Jason. For now. I mean, honestly, at this point, I'll just take any date with anyone who wants to go out with me.

Oh, my gosh, Jason. Well, congratulations, Jason. Really? Is that what it deserves? Congratulations. You might have got a second date. I hope I don't bring anyone else to any big realization on my next date. Broken Jubal in the morning.

Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. $1.4 billion in NFL quarterback contracts. The untold stories behind the biggest deals in football history.

I'm AJ Stevens, Vice President of Client Strategy at Athletes First. Introducing the Athletes First Family Podcast, the quarterback series. My co-host Brian Murphy, Athletes First CEO, and I are sitting down with the agents who have negotiated contracts for Justin Herbert, Deshaun Watson, Dak Prescott, Tua Tugnavailoa, and Jordan Love. Listen to Athletes First Family Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. You are cordially invited to

the hottest party in professional sports. I'm Tisha Allen, former golf professional and the host of Welcome to the Party, your newest obsession about the wonderful world that is women's golf. Featuring interviews with top players on tour, tips to help improve your swing, and the craziest stories to come out of your friendly neighborhood country club. Welcome to the Party with Tisha Allen is an iHeart Women's Sports production in partnership with Deep Blue Sports and Entertainment. Listen to Welcome to the Party. That's P-A-R-T-E-E on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.