Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: She’s a Crier

Episode Date: April 10, 2015

We have NEVER had a Second Date Update on this show quite like the one we had this morning... one of our listeners (Danica) get's so worked up during the phone call, she can Barely stop herself from crying. And that's BEFORE we even call the guy! Hear it in the Second Date PODCAST.(Image Courtesy: Courtney Carmody. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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not getting a call back. Danica, how are you? Um, you know, I'm alright. Alright. Are you okay? Um, well, I mean, I just feel like, you know, I feel like I screwed up a little bit on this

one, so, you know, I don't want to cry. I just, I feel really, you know, I feel pretty emotional. And I just, I just feel like it was my fault. Oh, sweetheart. Oh, calm down. Are you nervous to be doing the second date update right now? Is that part of the reason that you're emotional? Or are you this emotional about the date that you went on?

It's like everything. I mean, it's obviously not trying to call and be all emotional on the radio. I just, you know, when I start, I just, you know, sometimes I can't stop. Take a few breaths. We're here to help you out. Alright? Oh, gosh.

So tell us about the date. Well, that's the thing. I was supposed to meet him for dinner, and my dog, my dog Monkey, I had to walk her before I left, and she wouldn't go to the bathroom. You know, like, she wouldn't go. And I couldn't leave because she'll go in the house.

So I ended up being five minutes late. Five minutes late? That's not even bad. It shouldn't be a big deal to be five minutes late. Did something late? That's not even bad. It shouldn't be a big deal to be five minutes late. Did something happen to your dog? No, my dog is like, she's fine.

I thought maybe you were upset because something happened to your dog. I'm just thinking that, like, you know, I should have been there, and I should have been on time, and I just, you know, I think it shows so like poor. I'd like to be tardy. Yeah, but you were five minutes late though, Danica.

It's not the end of the world. It's so bad though, you know? Alright. Hey, Danica, five minutes is not really a big deal. 15, 20, 30 minutes late, that kind of gets annoying. Five minutes late, trust me, I doubt he was really that upset about it. Well, I mean, 30 minutes late, that kind of gets annoying. Five minutes late, trust me, I doubt he was really that upset about it. Well, I mean, five minutes is fine for a normal date,

but what if it's like the one, you know, the one you think is your dream man? Did you think this guy was your dream man? I met him online, and he is like everything that I want in a man. Okay, wait, hold on. Did on did you i mean did you ever even i don't i'm not like this i'm not like this take a deep breath again you're gonna be okay danica did you talk to him for a long time before your guys's first date well i mean obviously we talked a couple times which is just his profile is like everything.

All right. Sorry to laugh. Well, it's a lie. Yeah, keep it down, Jose. Sorry, dude. It's okay. I mean, I know it's kind of funny to some people, but it's just kind of how I react. Well, it's not necessarily laughing at you crying about the situation.

It's more it was five minutes late. Yeah. And for most people, they would not get that worked up. If that's how you express yourself, that's how you express yourself. I guess so. Did you end up, did you, were you this, were you this visibly upset when you actually met him? Well, I was, you know, yeah. I mean, I was driving and, you know, of course, I was like, you know, getting emotional in the car and I was mad at my dog, you know, of course, I was, like, you know, getting emotional in the car,

and I was mad at my dog, you know, and, like, that's hard. And then I got to the restaurant, and, you know, I realized I hadn't even combed my hair, or my mascara was everywhere. And so I was just trying to be, you know, I tried to play it off. So it was obvious that you had been crying. Yeah, I mean, yeah. I used myself in the bathroom to, like, go, like, get it together, you know. Yeah.

And I came out, and I sort of just lost it again, you know. I mean, I just think it was so, he was so sweet, and I started telling him about Monkey, and it was... What did he do when you started crying? He, like, looked really surprised. He's a sensitive person, so I'm sure he was upset for me, but he was being strong. So you guys continued the date after you were crying about your dog? Yeah, you know, I mean, I told him what had happened with Monkey, and, you know, it made me feel better. We had eaten, and then the date was sort of, you know, sort of over anyway.

Okay. How did it end with him? He gave me a hug, like a really super loving hug, and he just made me feel better. And I said, you know, maybe can I get a do-over? Like, this isn't me. this isn't how I am and I texted him like a bunch of times you know not that that many but you know like enough that I probably thought I would hear back from him by now so I don't understand why he wouldn't let me just have a do-over yeah butica, if I went out on a date with you like that and you started bawling on the date, it would probably freak me out.

Yeah. Other than that, I would start crying too, and then we'd just be a mess, just the both of us at the table. Well, you know, I mean, sometimes I get emotional, and that's just, like, who I am. But, you know, I feel like, I mean, I don't love him, but, you know, I like like, I mean, I don't love him, but I like this guy a lot. Whoa.

I'm worried about you, Danica, because this is just the part where we find out what happened on the date, and you haven't even really been able to keep it together. I'm totally getting it together now. Listen, I totally am all right right now. Okay. I don't know that. We'll play a song. Do we have to?

Come back. Call him and get your second date update, all right? Okay. I need you to be strong when we come back, okay? I am. I'm totally going to wash my face and get it together and regroup. Okay, because if you cry twice to him, I guarantee that's going to scare him off. I'll tell you what.

I'm not going to cry. Even if I get a little shaky, I'll hold the phone away from my mouth so that no one can hear. If at any moment you just hang up the phone, I'll pretend like the connection dropped out. If you want to cry for a bit, and then I'll get you back on the phone after, okay? Okay. All right, just hang on. I can do this. I can do this.

Okay, hold on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the Morning's Second Date Update. You know, normally during a second date update, it's the second part of the phone call when we get the couple on the phone together and they talk that tears come out. It's already happened a lot. And I'm actually hesitant to do today's second date update because I don't know if Danica, who is on the phone with us right now, can handle it. Danica, are you doing all right? Yeah, I'm keeping it. I'm going to try and keep it together. Yeah, you definitely need to. If you're just tuning in, Danica wants to call Mike. They met online,

went out for a date. She was five minutes late for the date, but was very emotional about it. She was crying on the way to the date. When she got there, she tried to clean herself up. And then once she actually sat down with the guy, she lost it again and ended up crying during the date. And she isn't getting a call back. And I'm assuming, I don't know yet, but I'm guessing that's the reason why, Danica.

It would be very weird for me to go out with a girl and have her cry on a first date. I know. I mean, I know it seems weird, but that's why I'm going to apologize to him and tell him I'm a normal person. You know, can I make one suggestion? Because I'm a person. I cry at every emotion. If you start to get emotional, pinch yourself. That's my trick. Because it like helps you get out of your mindset of going down that path.

And then it hurts because you pinch yourself and you cry more because of the pain. Why did you pinch me? I'm willing to try anything, to be honest, and I will do it. Do you feel strong right now? Do you feel like you could do it? I do. I took some deep breaths, washed my face. Okay.

I'm going to dial the phone number right now, get him on the phone, and get your second date update. Okay. Okay. You got this. Okay. Okay. You got this. Okay. Hello? Hi, can I speak to Mike, please? This is Mike.

Mike, how you doing? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. I'm sorry, where are you calling from? Brook and Jubal in the morning. The radio show. Okay. Did I win something? No, you didn't.

I'm calling you because we recently got an email from somebody who went out on a date with you. Okay. And she's been trying to get a second date, but you haven't been returning any of her phone calls or text messages. So she asked if I could get you on the phone and find out why. Seriously? Mm-hmm.

Her name is Danica, and I'm going to take a wild guess and say that you remember this date. Yes, I do. So she emailed you to call me yeah it's a segment we do on our show called the second date update that's a little awkward but okay what did you think of Danica first off I mean Danica is a really sweet individual

I mean she has a really great heart I would just say that she is a very highly emotional person we've talked to her about your date and it was obvious from our conversation

that she's very emotional oh okay right so then you got a little bit of that I mean I'm a sensitive guy and um i you know i'm a pisces i i pick up on people's vibes you know immediately so i i get it but i mean it was i've never experienced anything like that date ever in my life she told us she told us about it and now she was five minutes late and she was very upset about that and she had been crying before and oh my god i thought yes she ran in the restaurant and had no idea what was going on

she had mascara down her face and she was telling me about her dog named Monkey, and she literally started crying hardcore at the table. At first, did you think the dog died or something? No, that's exactly what I thought. I'm in shock, A, because of the way she's reacting to it, but then she was so honestly upset that it was making me upset, you know? And I felt so bad for her, but I didn't know what to do. So she's freaking balling,

and I'm sitting here like I'm, you know, she kind of got me teary-eyed, and, you know, and here we're like a mess sitting in the restaurant, like everybody's staring at us. Oh, my gosh. Wow. Yeah, that would be awkward. Oh, man. That would definitely be awkward. you know, and here we're like a mess sitting in the restaurant, like everybody's staring at us. Oh my gosh. Yeah, that would be awkward.

That would definitely be awkward. Yeah, it's the most awkward experience I've ever had in my life. And I feel bad for her. I mean, she's got a great heart. Yeah, it sounds like she's a very sensitive person. I don't know what I would do if I was in your shoes. I'm a sucker when girls cry. Why do you think I can't ever break up with girls? Because they always like to cry as soon as you say, I don't want to be with you. And i'm like all right well so i don't know what i would do if

i was in your shoes yeah you know and like finally when we left i mean i was pretty much in like a really weird mood afterwards i mean when you when someone is like deeply deeply emotional for like an hour like i was i kind of a wreck, quite frankly. I would have felt emotionally spent after that too. I mean, yeah, that's the right word to use, totally spent. Oh my gosh. All because she was five minutes late to your date. Because she was late and because, yeah,

because she couldn't get her dog to use the bathroom or something. Like that's the craziest part. Mike, I have to tell you this right now. Danica is actually on the phone listening. Are you serious? Yeah, I am. Hi, Mike. I'm so, I, first I just want to say,

listening to you the way that you just told our story was so sweet. And you're such a nice guy. And I don't know what to say. Why are you crying now, Danica? You're going to get me tripped up here. Why are you crying? Because I'm just trying to, like, you know, like, I'm actually trying not to cry. And that's, like, making me cry more.

Oh, God. Danica. Because, like, I really care about you. And I really thought that, like, you know, after all we talked about online, you know, I just knew, like, you're such a good person. And then I came and I ruined everything. And I'm totally a terrible, I just felt so bad. No, no, no, no, no. Stop, stop, stop, stop. You're not a terrible person.

You didn't ruin anything, okay? I am sorry that I couldn't deal with the situation properly. I apologize. But, you know, it's like we talked so many times and was like building up towards the date, and then I show up and I'm late, and that's so inconsiderate, and I felt so stupid. No, no, no, no, no, no. It's okay. It's okay.

You were late. I mean, it's, that happens. It's not any reason to, you know. It doesn't happen to me. Oh, my gosh, honey. No, no, no, no, no. Don't cry. Come on, Danica, don't.

I'm trying not to. I'm trying not to, I swear. I just want to, I just want to say that, and I know you've been avoiding my calls and my texts, and I understand. I have, and I'm sorry. Okay? I'm sorry about that. No, why did you do that?

Come on, man. I mean, look, you know, I'm an emotional guy, too. I mean, how am I supposed to, how are we supposed to function as a normal couple if I'm so sensitive and in tune with you and you're, you know, you're connected to your heart, right? I mean, how are we supposed to balance that? We'd be a walking mess. It's like a basket case of emotions running around the street.

Are you saying you're concerned, Mike, that her being so emotional and you being so emotional, all you guys are going to do is sit around and cry together? I mean, you know, I'm not saying

that I'm going to sit around and cry, but I mean, you know, I'm saying that I'm going to feed into her feelings and I'm going to want to, you know, nurture that. But I just feel to feed into her feelings, and I'm going to want to, you know, nurture that.

But I just feel like that's focused, that's kind of the energy is too focused on one thing. You know, I don't want it to be a negative situation. I don't think it's negative, though. I mean, I don't think it's negative. Like, I think that you were, like, such a good, like, you showed me, like, what a good guy you were. Like, just, you know, sit there, and you were so sweet to me and so comforting, and, like, that's exactly the kind of guy I need. Hey, hey, hey, look, you are sweet, okay?

And that's why I was there. I just, how are we set the function if we can't even have a conversation without you crying, you know? Mike, would you be interested in trying to have a conversation with no tears? With Danica? I mean, if that's possible. I can see if it's possible and ask

you if you'd like to go out with Danica again. I'll pay for a second date for you guys. It's possible, I swear. What to go out with Danica again. I'll pay for a second date for you guys. It's possible. I swear. What do you think, Danica? Do you think we can go no tears this time? I promise. I am like...

I've all cried out. We can be happy and we don't have to and if I'm late or you're late, it's going to be okay? Well, I'm not going to be late. Oh, my gosh. And here's the thing. Here's the thing that you don't even know is that when I'm happy, like, I'm so happy.

Don't display you have major mood swings. Don't do that. I go from super happy to tears in a matter of seconds. All right. Well, Mike, so you'll go out with Danica again? Let's give it another try. All right. That is awesome.

It's going to be amazing. It already is. I can't believe it's happening, Danica. You may have found your right, your dream man, all right? I told you. I told you, Brooke. This is so awesome. Don't screw it up, okay? No more tears. No. No more tears. I'm you. This is so awesome. Don't screw it up, okay?

No more tears. No. No more tears. I'm totally going to keep it together. Okay. Congratulations, Danica. You got your second date. Oh, my God.

Thank you so much, you guys. You're welcome. Oh, my God. I'm so excited. Mike, thank you very much. I look forward to hearing back from you guys after you go out. Okay, yeah. We'll keep you updated.

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well, then maybe the one you feed is for you. I'm Eric Zimmer, and I bring real conversations with real people to help you feed the best part of yourself. No hype, no fluff, just wisdom that works. Listen to The One You Feed on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, y'all. I'm Dr. Joy Harden-Bradford, host of Therapy for Black Girls. This January, join me for our third annual January Jumpstart series. Starting January 1st, we'll have inspiring conversations to give you a hand in kickstarting your personal growth. If you've been holding back or playing small, this is your all-access pass to step fully into the possibilities of the new year. Listen to Therapy for Black Girls starting on January 1st on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

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