Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Stuck in the Door

Episode Date: February 7, 2020

People are always trying to find out if the people they met are the love of their life... or in this case, they're trying to find out if they are married. Find out what happens in this Second Date Update!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble.

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Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025.

I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from. Moving 92.5. Rook and Jubal's Second Date Update. You know, sometimes for the second date updates, people are trying to figure out if the person that they met is the love of their life. Or sometimes, like Claire, who's on the phone to do a second date update today, sometimes they're just trying to figure out if the person they met is actually married. And that's why they won't go out with them again.

What's up, Claire? Sounds like you've got a bit of a problem. Hi, yeah. Whenever I envision myself being on this segment, I always thought it would be the person calling me and like, why am I not calling back? So this is like super awkward. We always want to be the person on the other end, don't we? Yeah. So things have changed. I read your email and it says you think the guy that you went out with might be married? I mean, that's a theory that I have. I have no idea.

It's just been like a chain of events that have been leading up to this. There's got to be like something else going on because It's just been like a chain of events that have been leading up to this that there's gotta be like Something else going on because it's just not adding up. Yeah, do you want like the background of it? So everyone will know what happened? Yeah, tell us the story. How'd you meet the guy a few weeks back? Me and my girlfriends were at a bar just drinking hanging out and there was like a guy It's like, you know, chilling next to us. So we got it. Good. I thought you were going to say it was a guy and his wife.

No, very single seeming guys. And we just kind of hit it off. Like I was a little tipsy, but not like super drunk or anything. And what did you like about him? Like in those first moments? To be honest, like at first glance, I'm like, this is who you think of as, like, the tall, dark, and handsome. He's got to have a girlfriend. But then we start talking, and he's, like, doing impressions, like, real housewife stuff. Like, this is random.

I was like, this guy's so bizarre. But that's, like, what I like about him. Or he has multiple personalities, it sounds like. Exactly. It could be one or the other. So what happened that night? I mean, you guys hung out at the bar for how long? We hung out a few hours.

I mean, at the end of the night, we did have a little moment. We had a kiss. Just, you know, really quick. You still sound kind of like you have butterflies over it. I know. See, I'm totally that girl right now. Like, I hate this, but I don't know what else to do. Like, none of my friends have any good advice, so I don't know.

So was this before or after his wife came to pick him up no he left with the guys like they ubered home so basically I gave him my number and before I get like into bed I get a text and it's him and he says something kind of clever and funny and I'm just like going to bed thinking like how cute is he? And he already texted me. Totally. So I'm just feeling great. Nice. Yeah, because you think this guy's super into you, and you guys are going to hang out, I'm guessing. Yeah. So then he was traveling out of town with work and stuff.

He was super busy, so we're texting a ton. I would text him a picture of my breakfast or something stupid as hell. I thought you were going to say breasts. Yeah, so did I. I was like, whoa. No, no, no. That got a lot more boring for me, like the picture of my breakfast. I'm like, oh, it wasn't that hot and heavy

then. Oh, no. You know, we did get a little bit, you know, at night. If he was traveling, he'd be like, I'm lonely. We kind of, you know, I'm just going to leave it at that. Wow. Alright, so you guys had a text, and then when did he disappear?

He didn't quite disappear, but I'm just like, why are you always busy? And one night, he's like, okay, I'm in town. Let's meet up. So we thought it'd be, like, cute to meet up at the same bar that we had met at. So I'm, like, all excited, and we get there, and he's just kind of acting a little off. Like, very, I just thought, like, maybe he was jet-lagged. He just was being very formal. Maybe he was nervous, though, because that's a lot leading up to this one moment where you finally see each other again.

Exactly. And it's a little awkward. I mean, you know, no big red flag. I wasn't, like, concerned. I just thought it was a little weird. So we go in, and it's, like, this revolving door thing. He, like, leads me, and I go in first, and he goes in behind me. And the back of my jacket, something happens where it's, like in the thing and it like jams up. So you got your

clothes stuck in the revolving door. Yeah. So it's like super awkward and I'm kind of laughing it off, but we have to have like the people from the restaurant like come out and they like did something where they had to like help because he was kind of like caught in there too. How long were you guys trapped inside the revolving door? my head it was like an hour but it was really only like five or six minutes it wasn't that long okay long enough to be an awkward start to your first date or great because they say when your life flashes before your eyes it really brings people together well i hope but that's not really what happened so basically you know we get all unstuck.

I'm just like, okay, we're just going to have a drink and, like, get this back on track. I'm like, I'm done with my glass of wine. I'm going to, you know, get ready to order one more. And before I can even, like, say, like, you know, another round, he's like, check, please. Like, he kind of interjects. It was weird. So you guys had, like, a 20-minute date, basically. 25 if you're counting, like, the door debacle.

Like, yeah. I think we should count that in just to make it a little longer so i asked him i was like hey is everything okay and he's just like if nothing's wrong he's just like i'm exhausted like work is actually like really insane we go our separate ways and yeah like it was just not like the date that i that i had like built up in my head so how many times have you guys talked since then since then it's not like the date that I had built up in my head. So how many times have you guys talked since then? Since then, it's been like eight or nine days. And he has been so, so busy. And in that time, I have not heard back.

That totally sucks because I bet you were on board. Like, finally, I met a guy that I'm super interested in. Yes. And it's like they either have the looks or the personality. I'm like, this is a full package. And I can totally, I'm on interested in. Yes, and it's like they either have the looks or the personality. I'm like, this is, you know, full package and I can totally, I'm on the same level of like, it just felt so easy and then it felt so forced.

And I'm like, there's something I'm not seeing or I'm missing or there's, I don't know. Like, is he married? Does he have a girlfriend? Like, he's just like two different people from the first time I met him and I'm just like turning into like that girl that is like obsessing. Okay, well, turning into, like, that girl that is, like, obsessing.

Okay. Well, we'll play a song, come back, and then call him and get your second date update and hopefully get an answer, okay? All right. Thank you, guys. You're welcome. Hang on.

Moving 92.5. Rook and Jubal's second date update. You know what they say? When one door closes, another one opens in its place. That's motivational. Unless, of course, it's a revolving door and you get stuck in it, because that means you won't get a call back for a date. And that's what happened to Claire, who's on the phone today to do a second date update. She wants to call a dude named Jordan.

They met at a bar and then texted for a while back and forth. He was on the road, busy with work, I guess, and then he finally got back to town and they arranged to go on a date. But now he's not

calling her back and she thinks that the reason could be one of two things. Either he's married or because she got stuck in a revolving door at the restaurant

and the staff had to come help them get out of it. So we'll find out which one it is in just a second. Claire, we're about to call him. Do you have any final thoughts before we do that? Don't even ask me because I'm already nervous,

so I just wanted to do it. But if he's married, I mean, that's something that's not you. So at least you won't feel so bad about that. Unless, of course, he got married after your date. He's like, I went on a date with her, and then I realized I couldn't be single again, so I got married to the first person I could find. Then it's you. Oh, come on.

Well, thank you for putting that in my head. That's the only scenario that I can think of. No problem. Always spinning things positively. All right. I'm going to dial this phone number right now. Here we go. Hello?

Hi, can I speak to Jordan, please? Yeah, this is Jordan. Hey, Jordan, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Sorry, I'm not familiar with what company is Brook and Jubal. Yeah, Brook and Jubal in the Morning. It's a radio show, actually. Why would a radio show be calling me?

I'm confused. Well, because we actually got an email about you from one of our listeners. I don't think I really know any of your listeners. I don't even know who you are. Well, that's a very good point. Yeah, it is a great point. But you do actually know one of our listeners, and you went on a date with her, actually. Really? Her name is Claire.

Yeah, I went on a date with her, actually. Really? Her name is Claire. Yeah, I went on a date with Claire. Yeah. Well, Claire told us a little bit about how you guys met and how you texted back and forth for a while, and then you finally met up, and then you kind of cut the date short and haven't texted her ever since. So this is a segment I'm going to talk about

kind of what happens. We like you to yeah claire would also like you too and people do this like they talk about the date what what went wrong to you yeah sometimes not all the time i guess but claire really liked you a lot so she's wondering too she's like totally clueless and it sounds like your date was pretty lame. I mean, it wasn't even the date. There's so much more to it, guys. I don't even know where to start, really. Can you tell us anything? I mean, I can say that it was my fault.

She shouldn't feel bad about anything because it's 100% on me. You're married just like she thought, aren't you? She thought I was married? Yeah. She says that's the only thing she could, aren't you? She thought I was married? What? Yeah. Yeah, why? She says that's the only thing she could think of because you guys texted back and forth a lot.

You said you were constantly busy and then you met up with her real quick and the only thing she can think is that you have some sort of secret going on, like girlfriend or a wife or something that she doesn't know about. She thinks I'm that horrible of a person? Well, it's an option.

Yeah, who knows? Yeah. She doesn't know how horrible you are she just wants to find out how horrible i'm not horrible i i just feel bad guys like i feel really bad about this so you did do something bad no i didn't do anything bad i mean like okay so i don't know she said we met out one night she was with a bunch of girlfriends and i was with a bunch of guy friends and there was this girl there this blonde girl that was beautiful that i was really into and i was really excited like i really was excited about this girl okay um so that happened we had fun whatever we changed

numbers okay and so when the date happened i was super nervous i was like i'm going out with that girl finally and i got in the restaurant and then there was a stranger there she approached me and hugged me right away right away she knew my name and i was like super seized out like i didn't know who she was why she was hugging me and she you know was like oh my god it's so good to finally see you again and i was like what what so so the girl that i was talking to that night that I was, like, interested in wasn't the person I thought it was. So. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Are they two different people or did you just not remember what Claire looks like for some reason?

So Claire in my head was that blonde girl that I talked about. It wasn't Claire, the girl that I met at the restaurant. For lack of better words, like, the person I've been texting wasn't the person i thought it was what do you so you thought claire was this other girl until you showed up to meet her for your date yes but wait but you kissed claire the night that you met her to be honest i don't remember that but you know i mean we were okay so you were obviously pretty drunk when you met claire i didn't meet Claire, though. I mean, or I guess I did meet Claire, but I didn't. You made out with Claire.

Yeah, oh, my God. I mean, that's, like, I guess I did kiss someone. I kind of remember, but in my head it was that blonde girl that I talked about. It wasn't Claire, the girl that I met at the restaurant. It was not even close to her. I mean, it wasn't her. You mixed them up. Oh, my God.

All right. Okay, I understand that there could be some shock in expecting one person and getting a different person, but you guys still had, like, a two-week conversation where you really connected with Claire. I mean, I don't know. It was like I thought it was this other girl. I mean, this other girl was beautiful, this blonde girl.

Oh. I'm not saying that Claire's not beautiful. She is. It's just like I was like I got catfished or something. Like in my head, it was this one girl. And then when I meet Claire, it was like I couldn't even get past the fact that it wasn't this blonde girl. It's just a mess. You basically catfished yourself.

Yes. Yeah, I absolutely did. But I'm not a mean-spirited guy. Like, you guys got to get this. Like, I absolutely do. And I did that, but I'm not a mean-spirited guy. Like, you guys gotta get this. Like, I feel horrible about that. Jordan, I hate to add another surprise to the whole thing,

but Claire, the girl that you met, is actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Oh, come on. This is, Jordan, stop. Like, this is so hard for me to stay quiet. Like, what are you doing? Okay, Jordan, stop. Like, this is so hard for me to stay quiet. Like, what are you doing? Okay, Jordan, please, just tell him the truth,

because, like, I know you're joking, you know you're joking, and this is, like, embarrassing to me if you're, like, doing this. No, this is the absolute truth. Why do you think it was so awkward? Like, why do you think I left after one drink? Because you weren't who I thought you were. It's my fault. I'm not making this up. See, they're taking this seriously. They're taking you seriously right now. You're wasting

people's time. I think he's serious, though. Yeah, he sounds serious to me, Claire. I'm so sorry, Claire, but I thought you were your friend, the blonde girl. No, Rachel, you barely talked to her. Stop. I talked to her a lot. I don't remember talking to you that much. I mean, I don't know what...

It's awkward. I know this is horrible, but I don't remember talking to you that much. I remember talking to you... This is not real. This is not real. No, this is fake. Are you kidding me?

Are you being serious? Tell me right now. Be serious. I am being serious. I'm absolutely being serious. Do you swear? We were all drinking. like, be serious. I am being serious. I'm absolutely being serious. Do you swear? We were all drinking. Of course I swear. I'm not lying. I'm not making up some excuse. Oh, I like, you know, the blonde girl. Like, I thought you were the blonde girl.

No, I sent you pictures. Wouldn't you have just said, like, oh, I'm the wrong person? Like, you should have said something then. Like, hello. Because I think you didn't send pictures of your face. Why did you never send me a picture of your face? It's, oh,? It's her fault. Yeah. The reason I'm not sending you pictures of my face is because you never wanted pictures of my face. You weren't asking me for that. No guy ever really does.

Claire. Claire, can I just ask you? It sounds like he was wasted the night you guys met. Did you not realize he was that drunk? Well, I was a little drunk, too. But, like, Jordan, why didn't you, when you saw me at? Well, I was a little drunk too, but like, Jordan, I'm like, why didn't you, when you saw me at the restaurant, why didn't you say something? Because I felt horrible. Yeah. Because it was my fault. I screwed up. I dropped the ball. I

thought you were somebody else. I mean, I just feel like, just can't feel like you this whole time. You're thinking that I'm my friend Rachel this entire time? Is Rachel the blonde girl? Yeah. Yeah. I would love if you could connect me with Rachel because I thought that's who you were the entire time. Dude, do not right now. She's not even fun.

She's not even fun. She's not even fun. Well, that leads me to this question. Jordan, would you like to go out on a second date with Claire? We will pay for it. I really feel like you should. Like, now that the shock is worn off, maybe you can just look at her as Claire and it could actually work out. And all those text conversations, like, that wasn't, that was, like, me and that was you.

So clearly, like, we were laughing and we were joking when you, you know, it didn't matter what I looked like. Yeah, I mean, I guess we could do a second date. I mean, I think I owe it to you and I think we owe it to ourselves to actually sit down and have, you know, a meal together and see if there's anything there. Wow. Well, I don't want you to do it out of, like, charity. Like, do you want to go out with me? No, I'm not doing it out of charity, but, you know, I feel bad. So, yeah, sure.

Oh, wow. Yeah, I mean, like would that would be great yeah okay so congratulations claire you got your second date yeah obviously not the way that i thought but this is good claire i'm sorry that whole thing you know it went down like that no i think it's a good ending overall so i'm okay with it cool you know what i usually don't suggest. No, I think it's a good ending overall, so I'm okay with it. You know what? I usually don't suggest where people go on their second date, but I think you guys should go out on another group thing. Like, maybe Claire, bring your friend Rachel, even. Oh my gosh.

Yeah, don't ever hang out with Rachel. Broken Jubal in the morning. Text in at 78592 says, that was the most romantic second date update I've ever heard. Really? Is it the only one? I think they're being sarcastic.

If you missed today's second date update, Claire wanted to call Jordan. They actually met out at a bar, and they'd been texting for a while, but then when they went out on their actual date, he was very short, ended things very quickly, and then wasn't talking to her. We got him on the phone and found out why. The reason was he was super hammered when they went out on their actual date, he was very short, ended things very quickly, and then wasn't talking to her. We got him on the phone and found out why.

The reason was he was super hammered when they met, and he got her number thinking it was her friend's number. So when they were texting back and forth and everything, he thought he was talking to her friend, and then he showed up for the date and didn't recognize Claire, and basically he catfished himself. Yeah.

I mean, I can see where it'd be a little shocking when you're expecting a hot blonde and Claire shows up. Not that Claire's not attractive. Yeah. Okay. Not to take that away. It's just, you know, when you're expecting to get sushi and you get a bowl of pasta.

Not that the pasta's not good. The pasta's good. It's just not what you thought. Yeah. You just didn't have your mouth ready for the pasta. That's all. So he didn't have his mouth ready for Claire. Okay.

So not really, but. That got weird weird he was kind of upset by that he did say she was cool and everything he liked hanging out with her but he was expecting the friend so it was shocking but they did agree to go out again on another date but more like a pity date honestly i think it's gonna work out they connected without the physical stuff there, which is important. But the way that he said yes to the date was like, yeah, I mean, I guess I owe it to you since I did kind of make you show up to that date thinking it was someone else. And then I kind of blew you off. So I guess we could go out again. So, yeah, you're right.

Romance at its finest in today's second date update. Tearing up over here. Remember, if you want a second date update, all you have to do is email the show, and we will call the person that didn't call you back. It is Friday, so Young Jeffrey's Song of the Week is coming up at 8.10. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them.

More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel.

And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline Podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards Robert Evans,

It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever else you get your podcasts from.