Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Vetoed

Episode Date: April 15, 2016

At this point, we thought we've heard it all. Out of hundreds of Second Date Updates... we thought we heard every reason, excuse and lie in the book... well, we were WRONG. In today's Second Date Update, we get a reason for blowing someone off that we're STILL trying to figure out. Hear it in the PODCAST.(Image Courtesy: Matt McGee. Creative Commons)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Moving 92.5. Rook and Jubels. Second date update. Girls have two tricks that they like to use after a one-night stand. They either do the old leave behind. That's what I call it. Where, like, leave an article of clothing or something at the guy's house Hoping that he'll call you Like hey You left your bra here

You wanna come get it By the way If you've ever done A leave behind with me Whatever you've left Has gotten thrown Directly in the trash Or

Their other trick That they use Is a take away It's either a leave behind Or a take away Where they take like A sweatshirt Or a hat

Or some sunglasses Or something Hoping that the guy Will call them To get it back Yeah I've missed A couple sweatshirts, actually. Well, today's second dater, Katie, is on the phone. She took something from the guy that she wants us to call today,

but he still hasn't called to get it back, and she's confused why. Katie, how are you? I'm great. How are you guys? Good. So you took something from a guy hoping he'd call you back, and he hasn't called you, huh? Yeah, basically. Have you used this trick before, and it's worked?

I haven't, but a girlfriend of mine says that she does it a lot, and that it's harmless, and it's a good excuse to have the guy call you. Well, it depends what you took, okay? Because something very small, he might not call. He might not even notice it's gone. You take the guy's car, he's getting in contact with you. What did you take from the guy that you – so you guys had a one-night stand, right? Oh, my gosh.

I don't want to think of it as a one-night stand. But it's looking like it was a one-night stand. All right. So what did you take the morning after with you? I took just like a sweatshirt hoodie, but it was a one-night stand. All right. So what did you take the morning after with you? I took just like a sweatshirt hoodie, but it was really cold out. All right. It really was freezing next day. Did you ask him or did you just do it without him even knowing it?

I didn't, but he was kind of still sleeping, and I did say goodbye. I grabbed it, but later I did text him and I just, I haven't heard anything. So you texted him like, hey, sorry it was cold. I was leaving. I grabbed your sweatshirt. Hope you don't mind. And he hasn't said anything. Yeah, like I didn't want to wake you up. Basically, I said I didn't want to wake you up. It was freezing cold out.

And he knew I had to rush out early. So I just said, hope you don't mind. I just, and it was just basic. It didn't have a logo or anything. So I figured, you know. Katie, it might have been the sweatshirt that his great-great-grandfather handed down to him. Hoodies were big back then. Do you think it's the sweatshirt that is making him not call you back,

or do you think it's something else? I don't know what it could be. Maybe that or the fact that we hooked up so fast. Okay. Well, first tell us how you met him. Basically, where I work, the whole department finished a big project, so we just went out for like a happy hour. And this kind of co-worker, I don't work with him directly,

he had a group of friends that met him out, and I got introduced to him, and there was just instant chemistry, and we talked and laughed a lot and he said hey you know i'd like to take you out and i was like great and so after that he said oh maybe we can go grab another drink somewhere else and he lives close by so so i said oh well um you know do you do you have drinks back at your place and And he was like, oh, wait, let me see. Should we pick up something? And then he was like, no, actually, I do have a few things.

And I said, well, I'm not picky. I can drink anything. You're like, I don't care. Just get me back to your house. So you guys went back to his house. We had a lot of fun. Did anything interesting or strange or anything noteworthy happen while you were, I mean, you don't have to tell us about what you were actually doing. I think we all know.

But did anything weird happen that I think might make him not want to go out with you again? No, I mean, we really had so much fun. I thought we had a lot in common. So I was like, this is fast, but this is great. But now I'm thinking, I don't know. Now maybe he was like, whoa, that was too easy. Or maybe he was kind of like, wow, this chick just took, like, an item of clothing, like, that's so forward.

I don't even know. So you said goodbye to him on your way out. Did he say anything to you? What is the last thing that he said to you? Just, like, talk to you later. And he was like that he said to you? Just like talk to you later. And he was like, okay. Because he was like still asleep. And when you texted him, what did you say?

I just said, oh, I had a fun time. And I started to rush out, but it was really freezing cold. I hope you don't mind that I grabbed your hoodie on my way out, but I can get right back to you. And he hasn't said anything back to you after trying to text him and call him. You haven't got one word. Nothing. Not a nothing.

Well, we'll play a song. Come back. Call him and get your second date update. Okay? Okay. Great. All right. Hold on.

Guess it's true. I'm not good at all. But I still need love because I'm just a man. These nights never seem... Movin' 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the Morning. Second Date Update. Katie is on the phone with us.

She wants us to call a guy named Nathan. They went out, had fun at a bar, ended up going back to his place, hooking up. When she was leaving, she grabbed his sweatshirt on the way out, sort of a thing to take away from the scene so that he'll call her and be like, hey, can I get my sweatshirt back?

You know that trick. Well, he hasn't called her, and she's wondering why. Katie? Hey. I don't really have any speculation for you on why the guy's not calling you back, but I do have a question for you.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how was he in the bedroom? I went on a second date, and I... That's a good point. I guess, yeah. If he was lousy, then you would be like, I don't care if I ever see that guy again. And good, at least I got the sweater out of the deal. I slept with this guy, and all I got was this lousy sweatshirt. Katie, well, let's make your phone call then.

Yes. All right, here we go. Hello? Hi, can I speak to Nathan, please? Yeah, this is him. Hey, Nathan, how are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. I'm good.

Okay. I don't know why you guys are calling me. Well, we do a segment on our show called The Second Date Update. It's where you go out on a date with one of our listeners, and if you end up blowing them off after your date, they email us to get you on the phone and ask why. So you recently went out with somebody who listens to our show, and they've been trying to get a hold of you.

Oh, okay. Any idea who might be trying to track you down? I'll be honest with you, I don't. Is it Robin? Robin? No. It is not Robin. I don't. Is it Robin? Robin? No. It is not Robin. I'd love to hear about Robin. She sounds lovely, but no, it's not Robin, whoever that is.

It's a girl named Katie. Okay, yes, I know Katie. Okay. Sounds so nonchalant about it. You should probably go through her initials just to make sure that Katie A. It's a girl named Katie who has your sweatshirt. Yeah, yeah. I remember Katie.

Katie's a, that's great. Yeah, Katie's great. Yeah. Number one on your list. It doesn't sound like you think she's great because you haven't called her back for a second date or even to get your sweatshirt back. And she's been trying to get a hold of you. Is there any reason why you aren't giving Katie a call back? No, I just, I really honestly

think she's great. I just, I can't really pursue her or really go on a second date with her or anything. You can't pursue her. Why is that? I'm just not allowed to see her right now.

You're not, Like, your parents? How old are you, Nathan? Seriously. No, I'm 31 years old. Okay, what do you mean you're not allowed to see her? I feel like you can do whatever you want, Nathan. I mean, I'm just in a situation right now that, I'll just be honest with you guys, I'm in an open relationship right now.

Okay. Wait, doesn't that mean you can see her'm in an open relationship right now. Oh. Wait, doesn't that mean you can see her? That's what I was going to say. If you're in an open relationship, that means you can see whoever you want. That's true. But the thing is, the girl that I'm dating right now doesn't want me to contact her or see her. So open relationships, I'm trying to understand this a little better. Do you date somebody else, sleep with somebody else? Can you tell us what's going on with this other girl?

The girl that I'm kind of in this relationship with is totally cool. She goes out on dates and we talk about it. It's totally fine, but specifically Katie, I can't see her. But what's the reason that you can't see Katie? Yeah. Like your girlfriend's cool with... Well, is it your

girlfriend? Can I call her your girlfriend? No, actually we're partners. We're partners. We're partners. Okay. So your partner is cool with you seeing other girls, just not Katie? What? So we have some guidelines that we follow. And when I came home, I showed her on Facebook Katie and what she looked like.

And we both have to do that once we come home from a date. And I did show her that. And we do have one veto that you cannot call. And she actually used it on Katie. So she vetoed Katie. You're not allowed to see Katie in your open relationship. I'm not allowed to not only see her, but I'm not allowed to contact her. Nothing.

That was the one thing. So I'm just following these guidelines. And I still have my Vito, too. So if she goes out with somebody, I have the Vito, too. Okay, well, good for you. Yeah, there it is. Does Katie know that you have an open relationship with a partner? I usually don't tell anybody that unless I pursue more of that relationship or that person.

So if you're having, like, a one-night thing, you won't tell somebody that you're in an open relationship, but if you actually want to continue to, like, see them more often, you or that person. So if you're having like a one night thing, you won't tell somebody that you're in an open relationship, but if you actually want to continue to like see them more often, you'll tell them. Yeah. If it comes up, I do, but usually no,

I don't tell them. Let me ask you a question, Nathan. Thank you very much for being honest, by the way. I appreciate that. Is Katie hotter than your partner? I mean,

they're both different types, but I definitely think Katie's beautiful. Do you think that your partner is threatened by Katie? Jealous. Probably a little bit. I bet you she's a little intimidated. Has she done this before? No.

This is kind of the first time that I've ever had any type of block, and I've been in this open relationship now for about five, six months. Oh, wow. If I was Katie, I'd be so weirded out at the thought of like some guy I slept with rating me on Facebook with the girl that he's a partner with.

Yeah, I mean, I understand. But again, like if I would have gone on a second date with her, I would have told her that. But for the time being, I'm not pursuing her right now. Do you even want your sweatshirt back that Katie has? I know that you can't see her because your current partner won't let you date Katie, but do you want your sweatshirt back at least? I mean, yeah, I could take that thing back.

Or are you and your sweatshirt in an open relationship too? I'll let my sweatshirt see whoever he wants. Nathan, I can get your sweatshirt back if you want it back. Yeah, I'd love to get my sweatshirt back. Perfect. Well, I know how you can because Katie's actually listening and she's on the other line. No. I just don't even know what to say.

I'm weirded out and I'm pissed off, frankly. I personally wanted to call you and I was going to, but I am in this type of relationship or this situation right now. Yeah, it's a weird relationship. Like, you guys have been trying this thing out for five or six months, yet there have been so many, like, other people. Like, you guys are so promiscuous. Like, I mean. Whoa, whoa, whoa.

Katie, don't judge us and my relationship when you slept with me the first night. Okay, I didn't know this situation. Do you hear yourself? Like, it's so warped. Like, she's not even your even your girlfriend like i don't even know what you get out of it katie start thinking of this as a compliment okay because you're very attractive and beautiful and the partner that i'm with right now said to not go out with you anymore because she's intimidated oh yeah nathan you're. I should feel so honored. Wow, I feel so good about myself.

I'm just that good looking, right? I'm just that wonderful. Okay. You are. Thank you. Yes, you are. You really are. You're beautiful. And I'd love to go out with you, Kate.

It's just, again, like, I can't do anything. Me, personally. It's out of my hands. I don't even want to hear your voice anymore, Nathan. Like, you are the biggest a**hole. You're just a straight-up a**hole. Whatever this bulls**t is that you and this, like, other... What you guys have got.

I don't care. I don't care. You're a f*****g a**hole. That's it. Period. Okay, well, then I guess that brings me to my next question. Nathan, would you like to go out with Katie again? We'll pay for a second date.

I honestly would, but I can't. I think that you two maybe want different things, Nathan. No, you f*** up the individual, obviously. All right, well. Katie, I'm sorry. You did not get a second date, but at least you got a sweatshirt out of the deal, right? Yeah. No, I am burning this sweatshirt. That's still fun, too. Successful second date, in at least you got a sweatshirt out of the deal, right? Yeah. No, I am burning this sweatshirt.

That's still fun, too. Successful second date, in my opinion. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. It never ceases to amaze me how people can surprise me in their reactions to the second date update. It's Brooke and Jubal in the morning on Movie 92.5. All the text messages that we're getting in

at 78592 are ripping the girl who called us to get a second date update. Not the guy that she slept with on a one night stand that is currently in an open relationship. If you just tuned in, Katie wanted us to call this guy named Nathan. They met, hooked up, she took a sweatshirt, he never called her back. She was wondering why.

We got him on the phone. It turns out that he's in an open relationship and apparently his partner said, ixnay on the 80k. Veto. Sorry. He vetoed Katie. Apparently they have an arrangement where one of them gets a veto card and if they don't want you to be hanging out with that person

then you can't. So that's why he wasn't calling her back because apparently Katie was probably hotter than his girl that he's in an open relationship with. But everybody's ripping Katie because Katie got really pissed at him for leading her on or whatever. But it was a one-night stand. True.

And they didn't have a relationship. And he says that after time, if he wants to date somebody or see somebody again, he'll let them know that he's in an open relationship. Now, does anybody in the room disagree with that? Or do you think that Katie was okay for getting upset? I think she was justified in being upset because if I go on a date with a chick and I all of a sudden one date and I feel these huge sparks and the chemistry, then she tells me the next day, by the way

I like you, but I have a boyfriend I'd be like, what the? Do you think that he should have told her before they slept together that he's in an open relationship? I think knowing that that would have changed her decision to sleep with him he had to know deep down that if I tell her that, she's probably not going to want to sleep with me. That's why he doesn't tell people.

Of course she's not an idiot. He knows that that's going to ruin everything for him. So anyway, he can't see her anymore. She got pissed. And now everybody on the text message board is saying, how judgmental is she? It's nice to know that we have so many swingers listening to the show. Nobody's even like, oh man, what a weird relationship that guy's in. It's like, how dare she judge him and his lifestyle?

If he wants to sleep with whoever he is, he can sleep with whoever he wants. Texas at 78592, I'm curious, are you in a relationship like that? I want to see how many people listening actually have a relationship like that. Apparently a lot, or at least a lot that wish they were. Seriously. Remember, if you want a second date update, all you have to do is email the show, brookandjubel at moving925.com. We will call the person who didn't call you back.

Moving 92.5. Brook and Jubel in the morning presents Thousand Dollar Thanksgiving. Thousand Dollar Thanksgiving. We want to thank you for making... We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists,

especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show

is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How To Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry

plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards, Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.