Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Wrong Day Wrong Date

Episode Date: January 17, 2018

Imagine you're scheduled to go out on a romantic date. You get to the restaurant and your date's not there yet. So you sit down at your table and you wait 10... 20... minutes. Eventually, the waiters start looking at you strange as you sob into your empty wineglass. Well, a very similar scenario happened to one of our listeners. And NOT ONLY did she want a redo with the same guy, but she wanted it at the exact same restaurant.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Because she did what people normally don't do. She did her research. Like, not just on the date, the person she was going with, but the actual place. She showed up the day before, interviewed everybody at the restaurant, waited around, checked it out to make sure that it was the proper location to have a date. That was psycho. Isn't that right, Amanda? No, that's not exactly what I did.

Oh, my God. Thank God. I was trying to spin what you did. Oh, my God. Thank God. I was trying to spin what you did and make it better, but I guess not. Yeah. Thank you for trying to make it better, but no, that's not exactly what I did. Yes, I did go to the restaurant the day before, but that was on accident. Oh, okay. You didn't go to make sure that you had the best lighting at the table so that you looked fantastic no matter what happened on your date, right?

No, but that's a great idea. No, I totally screwed up. I showed up at the restaurant and I was waiting for a really long time and I kept calling him and texting him until I finally got a response. And he wrote me back saying that we actually had planned a date the following night shut up so he screwed up your schedule and showed up to the restaurant a day early that's true you should have kept blaming it on him and been like no i'm pretty sure it was tonight i can't imagine the emotions you were going through though yeah after 30 minutes i was pretty upset yeah yeah you're like hating this guy so much. And then you realize it's your own fault.

Did you say anything rude to him when you texted him? You know, when I didn't hear from him, I kind of just wrote like, dude, are you showing up or not? Because I'm going to leave. Yeah. Okay. That's not too bad. And so did you make it the next night?

Yeah, we did. Okay. Good. Everybody showed up the next night? Yeah, we did. Okay. Good. Everybody showed up the next night. Awesome. As planned. And it was a little weird when I showed up the second night in a row because all of the servers and the hostess remembered me.

She's back. Yeah, it was awkward because the night before I kept checking in with everyone wondering if they had seen this guy or if he was there. Like I have this picture of a police officer that shows up trying to track somebody down. Like, have you seen this man before in here ever? Exactly. So wait, how did you deal with that though? I mean, were you able to laugh or was it just weird?

I mean, it was a little awkward, but I had to laugh it off. I had no other choice. Okay. And was he cool with it? Yeah, he made fun of me. Okay. As he should. As he should. Right. So was he cool with it? Yeah, he made fun of me. Okay. As he should. As he should. Right. So how was the actual date? The actual date, I thought, went well. We had a lot of things in common, listened to the same music. A lot of our hobbies are the same. Conversation was good,

but I haven't heard from him since. So when you were leaving the date, what was your thought? Like that you were for sure going to see him again? I don't know. You know, to be honest, just dating is terrible and people ghost and you don't know what happens to them. But yeah, I thought it went really well

and we had a lot of chemistry but I don't know if he feels the same way because he's not calling me back. Or you've had plans with him for a while now but you're not very good with your schedule so you got it all screwed up. Yeah, he's waiting. Yeah, he's not calling me back. Or you've had plans with him for a while now, but you're not very good with your schedule, so you got it all screwed up. Yeah, he's waiting. Yeah, he's been waiting on your call. Yeah,

maybe that's you. Oh my god. Did you guys kiss or anything? No. I wanted to kiss him to see if we had a deeper connection, but we just kind of hugged and said it was really nice to meet each other and thank you for a nice evening. And no plans to go out again, like you guys a nice evening and no plans to go out again like you guys didn't say we should totally go out again

no i didn't make any plans i was kind of hoping that he would be the one to call me and plan another date but i don't know maybe he thought i was gonna screw that one up too and then show up twice so screw it okay well we'll play a song come back and then call him and get your second date update. Okay Okay. All right. We're gonna do it next Okay, like after the song like don't go Hey Amanda you there Yes, I'm here. Hey, you know at the end of the first part of the Second Date Update You made the comment that dating sucks

Totally Yeah That's why I'm thinking When we call this guy And find out if he'll go on another date with you or not If he says yes, just skip everything Get married right away That way you don't have to worry about dating anymore

Great idea And then if he says no Just the next guy you go on a date with Just meet him at the courthouse, get married, get just stop with the dating, you know? Okay, great. It's like arranging your own wedding. Yeah. Great idea. I'll keep that in mind. Okay, cool. If you're just joining us for today's second date update, Amanda is on the phone. She wants to call a dude named Jacob. They went out to eat dinner together. The problem at the beginning of the whole thing was that Amanda showed up on the wrong day to the restaurant and then blamed him for standing her up. But they worked it out. They ended up going

there the next day to eat dinner. She says they had a great time, but now he's not getting back to her and she doesn't know why. I'm just worried that this is going to go poorly and you're just going to give up on dating altogether. Like, could this be the last straw for you? You know, I don't know. I've had such bad luck in the past that I might as well know the truth. Marriage, marriage, marriage. If you give up on dating, just get married, Amanda. That's the way it works. Yeah, because marriage is so much easier than dating.

Yeah, super easy. Yeah. Right, right. All right, I'm going to dial his phone number right now, see if we can get him on the phone. Here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Jacob? This is Jacob.

Hey, Jacob, how are you? My name is Jubal from a radio show called Brooke and Jubal in the Morning. Okay, can I help you with something? No, just calling for no reason. Just to talk. Yeah. Word. All right.

I'm a little confused here. Do you need a donation or something? We do need that. Maybe at some point. That's actually true. No, I'm calling you because we got an email from one of our listeners, and it was about you. About me? Yeah. How so?

Well, her name is Amanda, and you guys went out to dinner the other day. Yes, we did. Yes, you did. Okay. And she showed up to the restaurant on the wrong day and then started to blame you for it. You remember that? Yes, I do remember that. Okay.

Well, Amanda told us a little bit about your date when you guys actually did go out, and now she's wondering why you won't call her back. Really? Yep. bit about your date when you guys actually did go out and now she's wondering why you won't call her back really yep um so she contacted you and told you all about our date yes it sounded like a lovely date from what she described well if i'm being 100 honest this is a huge surprise to me because she did not seem very interested in me really Really? Really. She told us the opposite. She said that she was really interested in you, but she thought that you weren't feeling it. Really? Really.

Okay. Interesting. I mean, why would she try to contact you for another date if she wasn't interested? Well, this whole thing is news to me. I did not know that, and that was not the impression I got. Okay. That's to be sure. Wait, you haven't gotten, like, a text message or a voicemail or something from her?

I think I got a text message from her, but based on kind of how things went, it sort of seemed more like a courtesy, you know, hey, thanks, that was great. But not like she was really serious about wanting to see me again, especially after what, you know. Well, this could be one of the easiest second date updates we've ever done then. Yeah. Guys, we should just hook you up right now then, obviously, because you guys both like each other and didn't know it. Well, I'm not sure that I actually really want to go out again, to be honest.

What was she doing that made you think she wasn't interested? Well, the first sign I got was when the waiter came at the table to take our drink orders he walked away and she said wow that that guy's jawline looks uh just like my exes oh and i i kind of was like did she just say that and then she just launched into it and the date she was just talking about her ex and kind of going on and on in this way that made me feel like, I mean, it was actually kind of sweet. It just seemed like she was still kind of hung up on him and, you know, like she seemed like a good person, but just honestly not over him. Yeah. When you're making comments about the waiter's jawline being similar to your ex, it sounds to me like that's all she's thinking about.

Yeah. Well, not only that, she, she kind said, like, you know, we were working a lot. He was going to night school, and then he had to move for a job. And it wasn't anything bad that happened, but he moved. And so, you know, I think they still have a cat together. He has a cat or something. Oh, my gosh. She went into great detail about her ex. Oh, I learned it all.

Yeah, I learned it all. It's almost like you're on a date with that dude. Yeah, I might as well have been. He might as well have just pulled right up. Were you asking her questions about it, or was she just... I didn't ask her anything about the ex. That's for sure. I wouldn't. That wouldn't have been my style.

I don't know. I guess I kind of left the date thinking this girl's really not that into me, and she's got some history that she's not cleared up with so i went home and uh i guess when i was home i was thinking about it some more and so i checked out this guy um her ex um on facebook just because i was curious and well yeah you've heard so much about him why not it's like you're pulling up a celebrity's facebook page you facebook stalked her ex i I know, I know.

Even when I was doing it, I was like, this is a little, this is beyond. But I was curious, you know. I feel like I should have just friended the guy and knew enough about him. He seemed like a nice guy, you know, good-looking guy. But nothing really special I thought. It wasn't like, I mean, he certainly didn't do it for me. Okay, so you didn't friend request him then, huh? Yeah, I mean, good enough looking guy, but.

But you're just not really what you need. I can't believe that we've gone from talking about your date to analyzing the looks of her ex on Facebook. I don't get it. Yeah, you know, it was a strange night and this kind of happened and was ready to move on. Okay. We're not really ready to move on yet. Neither is Amanda because she's actually on the other line listening and wants to talk

to you. What? Yeah. She's on the phone. Yes. She's on the phone and she wants to talk to you. Hi. Hey, Amanda. She's on the phone and she wants to talk to you. Hi. Hey, Amanda.

How's it going? Wow. Okay. You looked up my ex, huh? Yeah, I guess I did. I did. Guilty. Yeah. You know, I've actually resisted, really been trying to avoid it. And, I don't know, is he, like, he had a picture of him fishing. Is that still what he's doing? What are you doing? I just, you know. Yeah. I don't really remember what the picture was.

But, I mean, do you kind of, do you hear yourself right now? I can kind of, does anyone else? Yeah, we do. We're just letting you have the conversation, so. What do you mean? You honestly don't hear, like, hear what you're doing? Yeah, no, I'm just, like, I'm interested i i just want to know what he's up to like does he have a status update you know like what is he up to

amanda you are you're clearly not over this guy i know i am i'm totally over him i just look i've been with him for a really long time and i'm just curious to what he's doing. His profile picture had another girl in it, but I don't know if it was that sister. What? Did she have brown hair with like blonde highlights in the front? Oh, my gosh. Oh, no. Amanda, it doesn't matter. It's your ex.

It doesn't matter. Yeah, it does matter. I want to know because I want to know if it's his sister or if it's the girl he was dating before me. Oh, my gosh. Amanda. Yeah. Listen, I'm sorry. I should not have brought that up. I don't was dating before me. Oh my gosh, Amanda. Yeah, listen, I'm sorry. I should not have brought that up. I don't think you should have.

Amanda, you do not need to be dating right now. Yeah, look, you're not in charge of my life. I thought dating would be a really good thing for me. So, you know, I dated this guy and now I'm not and I'm trying to find someone new. Okay. Yeah, but you're still focusing quite a bit on the old dude, Amanda. Yeah. That's what we're trying to say.

It's not fair to you, to the new dude. It's not really fair to anybody until you heal whatever's going on there. If you were dating someone for over a year and then you found out that some other girl was in his profile picture on Facebook, then you would be really upset too and probably want to know who it is. Okay. I agree with you completely, Amanda. I'm on your side, 100%.

Probably not when you have your date on the phone, too. I don't know. Like, maybe if you were talking to your best girlfriend. I'm just curious, and I want to know. So, Jacob, could you please tell me more about what you saw on his Facebook profile? Oh, no. Yeah, you know what? That's a hard no, Amanda. You know what? That's a hard no, Amanda.

You know what? I have a better idea, Jacob. How about this? Would you like to go on a second date with Amanda? We will pay for it, and then you guys can talk all about it. You know what? As fun as that sounds,

I'm going to decline. No? Thank you very much. Dude, you guys could gossip about the whole thing the whole time. Oh, that sounds fun. No, Jacob, you know what? You owe me for this.

Okay, I know that everyone is laughing about this right now, but you were the one who looked, and I think that you owe it to me to tell me what you found. Oh, my gosh. Wow. Okay. So why don't you just do yourself a favor and look at his Facebook profile, or are you blocked or something?

That sounds a little bit. Yeah. Why aren't you on there, Amanda? I don't want to talk about that. I'm just curious about what you know. Well, Amanda, how about this? How about this? How about you just set up like a dummy account

and then try to follow him? That's what most sane people do. I don't appreciate your lame advice. Thank you, but no thank you, Jacob. When we hang up on this radio station, I am going to contact you and I am going to expect that you give me some answers about what you found.

Oh my god! Oh, you need some good girlfriends right now, Amanda. Shut up and stop telling me what to do. Oh, my God. Yeah. Amanda, it's your life. Live it the way you see fit.

And I guess you'll be reaching out to Jacob because there's nothing we can do about that. Yeah. Yet. Yeah, I will be reaching out to him and he better answer the phone, Jacob. Oh. I'm scared. That really makes me eager. I love a good threat.

All right. Well, Amanda, looks like no second date for you. Hopefully you can get the information that you want, though. And I guess we did find out that dating really does suck after all. Yeah, that's a problem. Broken Jubal in the morning. Okay, everybody texting in at 78592 right now, calling the girl from today's second date update crazy,

needs to stop. Yeah. Not because we disagree. Just it's really full of people just saying she's crazy and I'd like to read some different texts. Talking about today's second date update. If you missed it, Amanda wanted to call this dude named Jacob. When we got him on the phone, we found out the reason he wasn't calling her back was because she seemed pretty obsessed with her ex. Yeah.

And through the second date update, she still seemed pretty obsessed with her ex because he said that after the date, he pulled up the dude's Facebook page just to, like, see who he was because he heard so much about him on the date, and she started asking tons of questions because it sounds like she's blocked from seeing any of his content online.

I feel bad for her, though. I mean, everybody's been in a situation where they're, like, pying after some ex. It hurts, man. Yeah, and it goes through everyone's head. I just don't think a lot of people actually go through with that kind of stuff. I know.

She talked about it too much. She doesn't have any self-control is part of the issue. Maybe some self-esteem issues on top. I mean, there's a lot of things going on. I get that. Her ex sounds amazing, though. And I want to learn more about him.

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