Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update PODCAST: Your Shirt Sucks

Episode Date: April 14, 2017

It's amazing how two people can have such different opinions about the same event. One of our listeners (Justin) described his first date with a girl as "fun", "interesting" and an "adventure"... His date, however, used words like "boring", "lame" and "worst night of her life".... How is that possible? Listen in the Second Date Update!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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A really good way to ensure that you're probably not going to get a second date is if you're a dude and you're out with the girl that you're taking out on a first date and she says, Hey, I don't really want to go anywhere else can we just sort of stay here and then you go no you're coming with me somewhere else whether you like it or not they love that uh-huh that's apparently what happened with Justin who was on the phone with us right now he wants to call a girl named Carla in his email he said that he planned a fun little date where they were gonna go like bar hopping to a bunch of bars and by the time they got to their third one, she wanted to leave. And he was like, no, we have to go to the fourth bar.

I planned four bars. And so that's why he thinks he's not getting a call back. Justin, did you do it like that or were you not as aggressive as I picture it? I don't think I was quite as aggressive as that. Okay. So why don't you tell us how it happened? So we're at the third bar and and we're having a great time, but she starts to complain that her feet are starting to hurt.

And I didn't think too much of it. You know, like, girls complain about that all the time. Is she wearing, no, was she wearing heels to this bar hopping date? Yeah, well, they were kind of like, not like high heel, high heels. Did you tell her prior to the date that this was what you guys were going to be doing, walking a lot? No, because I wanted to surprise her, because I thought that would was what you guys were going to be doing, walking a lot? No, because I wanted to surprise her, because I thought that would be more fun, kind of like an adventure, you know?

If I was wearing date night heels and I had to walk to three different bars, it makes you feel like you want to cut your feet off. Really, sometimes it hurts that bad. Well, I didn't think it was that, but they looked pretty comfortable for high heels. How many high heels have you worn, Justin? A couple,

but that's another story. All right. So she was complaining about her feet hurting, but you still made her go to another bar? Yeah, because the next one I knew was going to be awesome

and it's like one of my favorite places and I knew she would really like it. And so I'm like, come on, let's go. And she's like, oh, but my feet,

my feet. I'm like, no, come on, we'll go to the other bar. It'll be awesome. She's like, I really don't want to go because my feet aren't killing me. Why don't you get it? And I'm like, come on, take your shoes off and let's go.

So just pressuring her into going to the next bar. Yeah, I offered to even carry her shoes. Carry shoes? I like that. But if she says she wants to stay, why not just go, okay, maybe we can go to the fourth bar

a different time? I don't know. I was just excited. I was excited. I was in the moment. I wanted to show her around. I guess I probably should have thought about that

because she seemed pretty upset. She was kind of pissed off. So when you got to the fourth bar, was she just like done talking to you at that point? How did you know she was upset? Yeah, kind of. Like I went and I got fourth bar was she just like done talking to you at that point how

do you know she was upset right yeah kind of like i went and i got the drinks and she's like sitting there with her arms crossed and she's got her shoes and she's like looking around i'm like hey isn't this place great and she's like yeah whatever it was yeah it was she was like totally giving me the cold shoulder and i'm like okay maybe this didn't go as well as I had hoped. So how did everything end then after that? I got her a cab and I went in to give her a hug and then a kiss, goodnight, and she was just like, bye.

And she got in the cab and closed the door. Oh, that's it? That's it. No kiss. She didn't even give me a hug, not even a handshake. Oh, not even a handshake. So she was definitely upset that you drug her to that other bar. Yeah, she like grabbed her shoes out of my hands Because I was carrying them I get that she was upset You know her feet were sore

And stuff like that But that bar was awesome It's like the best bar I don't know how she was not having a good time How did that bar not win her over Seriously it's like so good It's like there's so much going on It's like just a party and I'm like

look around. Forget about your feet. Look around. Look around you. Take this bar in. Enjoy it for what it is. So you definitely screwed up by doing that. Okay, I know it sounds like bad but before that last bar that we were having like such a good time. We were

laughing. She was like poking fun at me and laughing. I was poking fun at her and laughing. She even looked at my shirt and she was like, that's a terrible color on you. And you liked that? Oh, yeah. I love someone who's honest. Most first dates, you don't know what to say.

It's really superficial. You're talking about your job or the weather or something. But she came right out and told me my shirt looked horrible. And I thought, that's refreshing. Yeah, I guess it is. I guess you're right. It was just, like, such a good time. How many times have you tried to get a hold of her since your date?

Like six or seven times. Like, I texted a lot, and I called her a couple of times, but mostly just texting. It's like you're forcing this and the last bar all together. Well, I mean, I don't understand why she wouldn't

want to get back to me. We had such a good time and that bar was awesome. I can really tell you. I will say, by the fourth bar, if your feet hurt, sometimes that's all

you can think about. So maybe it really wasn't you. Maybe she was just legitimately in pain. All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call her and get your second date update. All right. Yeah. Awesome. Okay, man. Hang on. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Second date update.

You know, most people, if they were out on a first date with someone and that person insulted them in the first 15 minutes, they'd be like, alright, I probably don't want to see them again. Not Justin, though. The guy who's on the phone to do a second date update today, he went out with a girl named Carla. Shortly into their date, she said, I hate your shirt. It looks terrible on

you. And instead of going like, wow, that was rude. Maybe I don't want to see this girl again. He was like, oh, I love you so much. I feel like it's going to be the first time we do a second date update where I'm truly not worried about this guy's feelings. Like, we could call her, she could say something really mean, and he's going to be like, awesome.

I know. She wasn't mean. I don't think you... She wasn't mean. I mean, there's a difference between mean and honesty. It's sort of like when someone's like, I'm punching you, but I still love you. It's like, yeah. It's like that. It's sort of like if someone's like, I'm punching you, but I still love you. It's like, yeah, it's like that. It's like that. The big difference is that she is honest.

And that is like so rare to come by, especially like so immediately in a date. The world needs more people like that. To a point, Justin, I feel like she's one of those people that's like, I just have no filter. And those people say that because they're using that as an excuse to just not say, I'm just kind of an a-hole. No, I think she's saying it because she cares. That's what I think. Okay. Cares so much she didn't call you back.

I'm going to dial the phone number right now and see exactly why she's not getting back to you, okay? Okay, cool. Here we go. Okay, cool. Who is this? Jubal from Brooke and Jubal in the Morning, the radio show. Oh, do you have the wrong number? I'm pretty sure I don't have the wrong number. Did you recently go out on a date with a guy named Justin? Yeah, why do you know that? Because Justin listens to our show and asked me to call you.

What? Why? Because he told us about your date, said that he really enjoyed going out with you, but you won't return any of his phone calls or text messages, and he wanted to see if we could get you on the phone and find out why. So I don't answer his texts, and then he calls a radio show to get a hold of me. Oh, my God. Yep, that's exactly what happened. Any interest in telling us why you won't call Justin back? I can't believe that he wants me to call him back.

Why is he so interested in me? He said he really enjoyed your date and wants a chance to go out with you again. Oh, my God. What is wrong with this guy? What is wrong with this guy? What's wrong with this guy? Is it hard to believe that somebody would want to go out with you again, Carla? I mean, I don't think that it was that great of a date. Why is that?

I just, it was long and painful, and I think I was getting kind of cranky at the end of it and then it was a very abrupt goodbye when I left and then uh yeah and then I haven't responded to any of his texts or calls by long and painful let me ask you this he told us about your date he said that he drugged you to a bunch of bars and by the third one you said your feet were hurting and you didn't want to go to the fourth bar but he made you go to that one. Did that piss you off? Yep. Okay. What?

Why wouldn't you just leave at that point, though? Like, call a cab on your own, get an Uber. I know. I was going to leave after the third one, but he really wanted to go to this fourth one, and he was just like this little sad little kid that really wanted to go to this fourth bar. And he kept saying how great it was and i was like well what's great about it he's like you guys see it's just so awesome and i you know i felt bad for him he had this whole plan i felt like i'd let him finish his this master date

plan that he had so okay that was nice it sounds like you absolutely hated being out with this dude i mean it was like fine you know he bought me a bunch of drinks, so that was nice. That was fine. How was the final bar? Was it as great as he had promised? It was a normal bar. And he wanted to show me this old jukebox that they had. He acted like it was the only bar that had a jukebox.

It's hard to tell him that most bars have that. There's only bar that had a jukebox. It's hard to tell him that most bars have that. There's a lot of bars with jukeboxes. You know, Carla, I feel like you and I could be friends. We both seem to have the same zest for life. It's a stupid jukebox. I just wasn't into it,

wasn't having a great time at the end. But he just, like you wouldn't get the hint. I think I even told him his shirt looked terrible. And he goes, oh, you're so honest. That's cool. That's cool.

He told us all about that. He was like, I love her honesty, man. She ripped on my clothing. Yes, it was so, like, is this a joke? And then when he ended up texting and calling me, I couldn't, I, like, dropped the phone the first time I saw him calling. I was like, what are they thinking? Why didn't you just

send him a text? I mean, because obviously he wasn't getting the point. If you would have texted him back and said, no, I don't ever want to see you again,

you would have been like, oh man, there she is being honest again. I love it. I know, I know. Like, who knows how he could have read that

and then he would have, yeah. Carla, thank you very much for telling us a little bit about your date with Justin I appreciate it Talking about the date ended up being more fun than the actual date Oh, sad

Well, since you were honest with us I feel like I should be honest with you And let you know that Justin is actually on the phone Listening to this conversation No, he's not Yes, he is Why? Because we think it's funny That's true Is he real on there? No, he is. Why? Because we think it's funny.

That's true. Is he real on there? No, he's not. I don't understand. I, like, we, like, so clicked. I know, like, the last part wasn't so great, but the first part was really great. I mean, like, I took your advice to heart. I got all these new shirts and everything. No.

I just don't think that we did click, though. But you totally got me, and that's what I was like. You were so authentic. You were so honest. I was just like, that's amazing. That's the kind of person I want to date. That's the kind of person I want to be around. Well, that's very flattering, but I just unfortunately do not feel the same way.

And that jukebox is like an authentic, like from 1963. It plays like old 45s. I mean, you can't find that anywhere anymore. And it's functioning and it's amazing. It's just not a match. I'm sorry. Like you've got, I mean, I made fun of your shirt. I feel like I was, I just looked bored the whole time. I was texting with friends while you were talking. Like, what were you not getting that I wasn't interested? Like you had to force me to go to the fourth bar. I was ready to go home. Carla, I feel like you didn't even give him a chance from the beginning. It sounds like he walked into the bar and you were already done with him. No, I mean, it started off fine. The first bar, we had a couple of drinks and it was kind of small talk.

And then we got to the second bar and it was that's when boredom fed in. And I was just bored, but I felt bad. And I felt like I had to do, you know, the whole bar crawl for him. I don't know. I guess I just read this wrong. I thought we were a great match. I thought we had like a really good chemistry and I'm just, I don't know, I'm like shocked.

Yep. You're right, Justin. We are a perfect match. Really? No. Justin, I'm being sarcastic again. Come on. You gotta follow along with the conversation. At this point,

I think it's a great time to ask Carla if she would like to go on a second date with Justin. Carla, I will pay for a second date. Would you like to go out with Justin again? No. Am I not picking up on the sarcasm now? I thought you were being sarcastic at first. No. Am I not picking up on the sarcasm now? I do not get it, you all.

I thought you were being sarcastic at first. I was thinking, no. Thank you very much, but no. Justin, sorry, man. Well, I guess thanks for trying. I guess you have to get better at following sarcasm. No, you don't, dude. No, you don't. You don't have to get better at picking up sarcasm at all. know, following sarcasm. No, hey, no you don't, dude. No you don't. You don't have to get better

at picking up sarcasm at all. Thanks, man. No! I was being sarcastic! Jesus. I'm not getting it! Literally. I'm kidding.

Brooke and Jubal in the morning. It's too much sleep. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want.

And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast.

Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast.

And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards, Robert Evans,

It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.