Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Prove It With A Pic

Episode Date: February 16, 2022

Women always say they want a man who's honest....  But for our listener on the phone today, it was his HONESTY that EXPOSED him in a hilarious way.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Just the choice to hop back onto Tinder. It's tough. It's rough. You only waited 15 minutes after you broke up with her. That was a long time. You want me to die alone and still be single forever? Look, he saw your bride, but he had a tear in his eye. And that's where one of our listeners, Paul, is at in his life.

He's newly single, and I know Brooke always says the best way to get over somebody is to get under 20 somebodies and make a video. Wait a minute, Brooke. Video, Brooke. Just don't Google search my name. Was that your goal, Paul? The goal was to move on for sure. I don't think he understands me.

He just didn't put batteries in the camera so that takes loss we're just messing around with you paul but how long has it been since your breakup yeah it was about a month ago and um that's fresh bro that's all right i know i don't want to talk too much about the breakup is that okay yeah well yeah that's fine how long did you guys date yeah give me give us a little bit about the girl you were with. We were living together for a long time, but, you know, we were arguing all the time. And just kind of, if I'm being totally honest, it ended up being kind of a bad breakup. It sounds like it if you don't want to talk about it at all.

But you're ready to get back out there and make it happen. Yeah. And so I thought I found something sort of promising. And I kind of had a weird experience. And so I wanted to get your take on it maybe. Do you found something or did you find someone? No, someone. Okay, that's a good thing. It's going to be hard for us to call things.

Not impossible though. I don't know, we could try. Tell us about this something that you met the other day. My name's Ashley. Okay. Is this on an app? Are you back on the apps? Yeah, we met on an app.

I'm not ashamed to say it. And we met for dinner at a pretty nice restaurant, actually. But, you know, we talked on the phone a little bit before that a few times. And so I kind of felt

like I knew her. Okay. That's good. Yeah. And so we were already kind of joking around. We got along, at least on the phone. And when we met each other, we were sort of playful from the. We got along, at least on the phone.

And when we met each other, we were sort of playful from the start. That's all a good sign. Right. I mean, did your breakup come up a lot in the conversation? No, no, no. I've heard other calls like this where people end up admitting that. And I can tell you 100% I did not. I didn't talk about the breakup at all.

Oh, good. Oh, honestly, that's really good. what did you talk about breakups in general well the first thing that happened is we were in there was like this it was a nice restaurant there was this sculpture in the lobby and we were taking photos in front of it that obviously means something like you know no it's just like maybe she wants to record meeting you. Yeah, I mean, it's not a big deal. We're taking sort of funny, goofy, whatever photos. It's not like real photos.

I don't take a picture with all guys. And any time I take a picture with a dude, it's solely so I can show my girlfriends what he looks like. But also, Brooke makes them sign a nondisclosure agreement. Well, that's just for the Google searches. Remember, we're going back to the... Do you know who I am? Sorry, but take us back to your date.

You guys took photos in the lobby. How was the actual dinner? It was really nice. We had a really nice conversation. We got to know each other. We're still laughing a lot. And, oh, and we had... This is kind of weird, but we had this little contest.

I guess because we're both on social media, and the contest was who could take the best filter for their meal. Oh, I see. Oh, nice. That's kind of funny. Who could make it look the best? Yeah, we were like, I don't care if the waiter judges us, but she won. Okay.

Oh, did the waiter judge or would you guys go by likes? No, we went by likes. And I think she used Valencia on herself. Oh, Valencia is so on herself i got a steak i got a steak and at first i went with mayfair and then i tried vintage but i feel like steak is it never looks good in photography steak is dark you gotta go x pro 2 that's the best steak jose is the resident so he would know but i mean steak photos aside tell us tell us more about this actual woman that you were with. Like, did you guys vibe?

Yeah, yeah. We were definitely vibing. And then, actually, after dinner, we went to a bar. Oh, gosh. She wanted to continue the night. This is great. I'm, like, happy. Just listen to this.

I just can't believe she's not calling you back already. I know. Did something weird happen at the bar? Was there any awkward points? No, no. I mean, like, we got a little tipsy. And, actually, after the bar, I ended up kissing her, like, right outside the bar? Was there any awkward points? No, no. We got a little tipsy and actually after the bar I ended up kissing her right outside the bar.

Oh man, this is like the perfect date, bro. That's cute. Is that the end of the date? The kiss? Yeah, a little bit after I took her home. I felt pretty good leaving her. But now it's been more than a week and it's not like I haven't heard from her at all. She's sort of like half answering me like i don't know like i guess

she's really busy or something but and then i asked her about the date and i was like oh wasn't that such a good time and she kind of won't respond to that at all which is really weird because i thought we had so much fun yeah she probably saw that photo that you took of your steak it was like ew this guy came true i mean but seriously do you think that maybe during the date like at least in the back of your mind you were comparing ashley to your ex because it's hard when you're fresh off of a breakup to not do that yeah i mean now that you mentioned i guess it was in the back of my mind kind of but why would that affect his time with her i mean like it sounds like they had a great time and he didn't even talk about his ex.

I know. Maybe he just secretly drew her name in the steak juice on his plate and didn't even realize what he was doing. Okay. That would be weird if he didn't remember that. No, no steak juice. Okay. The only liquids I remember are the ones we shared after a kiss. Gross.

Ew. That's gross. That's gross. That's a weird way to describe a kiss. I'm not going to ask any more details. We're just going to play a song. I don't know. Maybe that's why she's not calling it back. We'll find out.

We'll come back. We'll call Ashley and we'll ask her about the juices I get in the second date update next. We're in the middle of talking to Paul for our Second Date Update, and he went out with a woman named Ashley recently. They took some photos together at a restaurant,

hit up a bar, even kissed underneath a streetlight. And I only bring this up because he specifically told us, please don't bring this up. The ex-girlfriend was in the back of his mind the whole time. That is not what he said at all. Everywhere he looked, there she was.

Her face on the waiter's face. No way. Her name on the restaurant menu. Her scent in the second stall to the left. Oh, that is so insane. menu. Her scent in the second stall to the left. That is no, no, no. Cassie, is that you? No.

Paul told us he doesn't think he talked about his ex that night, but as I've learned from working with my co-host Brooke, you can't trust what a man thinks. Paul seems totally healthily moving on from his relationship, his ex-relationship. Rush is mad because she can recognize Michael from a stall away. Well, I could, but yeah.

Ew, bro. Gross. I don't know. Paul, did I encapsulate the date the right way there? I don't know. Don't say no, Paul. Say no. You were thinking about your no because i'm not really thinking about her i really it's old news i'm really focused on ashley right

now yeah i can't figure out why she isn't responding to me really i can't either because i mean from your description that date sounded amazing it was and you're not looking to get into another relationship you just want a date, right? Well, I might be. Yeah, I know. I do want a new relationship. Okay. I'm moving on. Oh, okay.

Okay. Yeah, great. You've pushed him into that. Now he's a relationship guy. Yeah. It could be the problem. I'm not going to bring that up when we call her right now. No.

Okay, we're just going to ask for another date. Is that cool with you, Paul? Yeah, totally. Then you ask for a relationship on your own time. But here we go. I'm going to dial her number now. Let's do this. Hello.

Hi, is this Ashley? Yes, who is this? My name is Jeff from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay. You can always tell how they feel about the show based on that. Exactly. That's alright. Hi, Ashley.

Hi. Hey, so we're doing something with you today called the Second Date Update. One of our listeners has reached out to us hoping to get in touch with you. Oh. His name's Paul. Okay, then why would you call me i mean we've been

texting he's getting the vibe that you're not really romantically interested in him anymore is he wrong no he's not wrong i'm definitely not interested in pursuing it any further okay you're blunt you're allowed to feel that way that's totally fine but it would help paul maybe if you could help explain to us why i don't know i mean he seemed really nice at first and at the restaurant it was super cool i don't know if he told you or not but there was this blue sculpture in the front and so we were like taking pictures yeah which we all thought was a really good sign because obviously you thought he was cute enough to take a photograph of. I mean, he was the one who suggested it.

Oh, okay. Okay. But I thought it was fun. You know, I didn't really think a lot of it. I was just like, oh, you know, if I want to post something, you know, he'd be fine with that. That's cool. All right. And then you also did the social media thing with the food he said at dinner.

Oh, yeah. And that was actually pretty fun because I'm really good with the filters. Like, I knew I would win, so. Yeah, okay. Of course. Foodie. dinner oh yeah and that was actually pretty fun because i'm really good with the filters like i knew i'd win so yeah okay of course booty but so where did it go from being fun to not fun well i mean fast forward and we kissed under that like light or whatever and i was like i'm definitely going out with this guy again for sure oh. So cute. Yeah, I was really excited. It was kind of that wondering when he's going to text, you know. That is such a fun space to live in.

It is. It's like the best part of dating. Or when you, like, see him typing, and then you're like, exit the convo. Yay! And then I'll see you in there. That's a really good review. What's changed since then? Well, I decided to look at his social media the next day okay that's natural anyone would do that

just see this ugly steak picture he told us it didn't turn out good well i mean mine was way better but okay he had posted all of the pictures of us like in front of the statue oh no i get it you're an influencer and so it's part of your job but it was just weird because I wasn't really expecting him to post them right after we just dated for the first time right and without telling you like it's just kind of

like if he checked with you like oh my god do you mind if I put those up on Instagram I don't think any first dates why would you take a picture if you wouldn't want anybody to see the picture? It's a first date. For memories, not like everybody. I can actually, I do the same thing.

You go on a date, you take a pic, and then that way, you know, in two, three, four, five months, if you're dating, you can have like a compilation. That's true. This is our first date. It's a little cringy. Okay, so you don't like that he posted the photos of you without permission. Well, I could have gotten over that because I could have been like hey maybe take those down right but the caption was what got me oh i'm scared what was it he'd captioned it my ex said no one would ever love me but how do you like me now oh. I thought it was over.

I thought it was ready to move on. Yeah. You guys aren't to the love phase yet either. It's just like. I don't think that's what we're emphasizing, Jeffrey. The whole thing is terrible. Someone should have reported that. So he posted that just for his ex?

I mean, he didn't even mention an ex the whole night. And so it just kind of, I felt so used. It feels like a revenge date. That's pretty bad. You didn't say anything to him after you saw that? What am I going to say? Like, hey, crazy, don't do that. His socials, all she can do is just go,

all right, well, good luck over there buddy i mean if you do have anything that you would like to say now's a really good opportunity for you because paul's been on the other line listening this whole time he wants to talk yeah he wants to talk to you paul you there oh i can't believe he needs to hear this oh i'm here oh hello um yeah it seems like maybe you got some unpacking to do about that x i just i wanted everyone to know that i was over her right and that it's done yeah that's the best way to show it well that's my way that's just my way of doing things i want it like i want i wanted her to see it obviously yeah you made that with the captions you think that posting that

makes you come off like a confident, attractive guy? Like, you could see how maybe Ashley seeing that would be a little bit turned off. Yeah, like, you're not over her. Well, I didn't expect her to see it, and I, like, I mean, I don't even care if she saw it, because I want my ex to know that I've moved on, and I'm not interested in her anymore. Okay, so,

Paul. Okay. Usually the best way to do that is to just actually be over her and not call her out and if she wants to come but i am and that's why that's why i wrote that okay so so you're saying like if your ex-girlfriend were to text you tonight and say hey i saw that photo with you and that girl you need to drop that floozy i want you right now let's get back together she uses floozy which no one uses you're. Let's get back together. If she uses floozy, would you know when you use it? You're saying that you wouldn't do that.

I wouldn't get back together with her. We might hook up and be totally honest. Okay. Very good. I'm being honest with you guys. I can't be honest with you guys. You said you're completely moved on. You're not interested anymore. I'm not. I'm not interested. That's not interest.

It's just normal. paul you need to talk to you need to talk to ashley i feel like you owe her apology because like that does feel like you just took her out to prove a point to your ex yeah i don't i don't know what else to say that actually because that i'm over my ex like there's like there's proof online that i'm over my ex okay why do i feel like she's tagged in the photo she's not tagged in the photo she unfriended me but but actually this is not looking better is it no and i don't understand they just asked you a hypothetical and you said you'd still hook up with her. Yeah. I'm practicing radical honesty. It's the thing I've been trying to do. Radical honesty.

Wow. I mean, Ashley, where are you going to meet a guy that's willing to be completely honest? It's extreme. This is a catch. And I would love to send you out with Paul one more time and we'll pay for it. It feels like honest Paul is going to to be we're six months into a relationship and oops, I hooked up with a stripper all on it.

Oh, but he'll tell you. I know. He just wanted to say it. He's going to take a picture and post it on social media so that you'll know. I'm being upfront. I'm being honest. I'm being raked over the coals for it. That's true.

It is good to be honest. It just doesn't sound like you're being honest with yourself about how ready you are to move on from your ex. I'm ready, and I like you, Ashley, and I will never lie to you. Aw. He's right. It's a big statement, Ashley.

I don't know. The last guy who was quote-unquote honest with me about his ex went back to her. Yeah. Let's be real, Ashley. that steak pick was really bad. He does have a lot of work in against him. Are you single? Ashley, my food picks are the absolute worst.

Five hour energy picks. I only know how to do them in black and white. Hey, are you moving in on my girl here? Because that would be really rude. Are you talking about Ashley or your ex-girlfriend? Who are you talking about? Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Oh, huge missed opportunity for us on the show here.

How so? The guy's posting all sorts of stuff on his social media, and we don't ask him to put up a photo of us doing his second date? No. Free exposure. Yeah, and really shows the ex that he's over her, social media and we don't ask him to put up a photo of us doing his second date free exposure and really shows the ex that he's over her because we didn't talk about her like non-stop no yeah good luck man see this this is why we don't have our blue check mark on tiktok okay well i do cringe every time i hear a guy being vulnerable and honest on this show because you know that Brooke's just waiting to pounce on him,

saying, I told you, you shouldn't do that. Honey, he was not being honest with himself. Yeah, he was being brutally honest. Yeah, he misses his ex and can't stop thinking about her. Okay, so he should be a liar. Well, I just... It's not the way you're going to get another date is by using your

date as revenge to the person you're just with. We'll go over this later. You say he shouldn't have posted pictures without her permission. He shouldn't have. I say she shouldn't have looked at his pictures without his permission. We can do this all day. That's what social media is.

You have to be friends first. Not necessarily. Obviously not in his case. All I'm saying is we could argue about this forever. There's no one is right in dating. I think you're going to end up single at the end of this conversation. Okay, well then maybe I could appear on a second date update one day.

Just don't tell the truth. I'm never going to. Not in Brooke's presence. It's not it at all. If you ever want to get a second date update, email the show. We'll call the person who isn't tell the truth. I'm never going to. Not in Brooke's presence. It's not it. It's not it at all. But if you ever want to get a second date update, email the show. We'll call the person who isn't calling you back. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes.

More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble.

Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help.

That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all,

make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Catch Jon Stewart back in action on The Daily Show and in your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition Podcast. From his hilarious satirical takes on today's politics and entertainment to the unique voices of correspondents and contributors, it's your perfect companion to stay on top of what's happening now. Plus, you'll get special content just for podcast listeners, like in-depth interviews

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