Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Red Flaggy Much?

Episode Date: February 28, 2025

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Hey y'all, I'm Maria Fernanda Diaz. When You're Invisible is my love letter to the working class people and immigrants who shaped me. Season 2 shares stories about community and being underestimated. All the greatest changes have happened when a couple of people said, this sucks, let's do something about it. We get paid to serve you, but we're made out of the same things. It's rare to have black male teachers. Sometimes I am the testament.

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and all right, let's get to your brand new second date. Yeah. Second date update. The results are in. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Cause recent studies have shown about 50% of couples now meet online compared to just 22% only five years ago. That's crazy. That's a huge jump.

Yeah, it's like the pandemic like super. Yeah, it made it really normal really quick. Yeah. So now going forward, Brooke, if you want to spice up the relationship with your husband, you're going to have to make him a dating profile. Oh, okay. At least you get to pick his, you know, I think I could make him a really good one. I mean to be honest. Well I think jokes on you he already has one. Wait what? You're looking for a third right now according to him and we're not going to go into that because I want to talk right now to Jordy the listener who wrote into our show because apparently he met a girl

out in real life bucking all of the latest trends Did you hear the minority now? Jordy good work welcome to the show. Hey guys Where'd you meet this woman? So I met Harper at this German bar actually You know I was playing bocce ball. Do you guys know what that is? Do you guys know what that is? Like you have a ball on my rooftop of my apartment Yeah, it's like you toss big these like big colorful balls onto like a field And then you try to toss other balls towards the ball

It's an Italian game playing to the German bar, but whatever Yeah, okay, so you said her name was Harper. Yeah. Yeah, she was actually a waitress there. Oh I assumed that she was gonna be like playing in the stall next year Something like that right now. No, no, no, no She was super cute And I mean she was super helpful to because I actually had to have this like long cock with her to tell her to cut Off one of my drunk friends I'm sure that's happened to you and you just don't...

Yeah, totally. Maybe you have good friends. If anything, it probably makes you look kind of good to her because you seem like a responsible guy. Exactly. It's like watching Jerry Springer. It's like you look better than those people. Can I ask real quick, was there an indication that she was interested in you? Because cute waitresses get hit on all the time

They smile and they're do their job No, bro tries to get them to be the third in her relationship I mean Harper is a hot name, but again, sorry that is a conversation for another day Tell us how did you work Harper? That's not the right way How did you get Harper to agree to a date? There it is. Well, I just simply asked her on the way out. I was like, look, are you single? And she said, who's asking?

And I said, I am. Good response. I like that, I'm already using that. Yeah, and I just said, I'd love to take you out sometime. And she actually gave me her number Dude if we dial this in it's our loser line Is that your only meetup or did you guys actually have a date no no we had a date What did you do we went out for drinks little food, you oh, she probably just gave you her number to get ready. Right. So what did you do? We went out for drinks, little food. She looked amazing.

I mean, when she was out of her waiter outfit. You didn't need to mention the second part. I just said she was amazing. She knows. I mean, I did have one embarrassing moment on the date. We tried to order some quiche Lorraine, and I said quickie Lorraine. Oh.

I didn't take French in high school like excuse me yeah Don't want to be elitist by being able to say quiche What was her reaction she totally laughed it off It was a little embarrassing but after that like I think it kind of lightened the mood a little bit and from there The day was great especially if you can be self-deprecating about it Yeah, I mean like it could almost even turn into like your inside joke together. Yeah Oh, the next thing I speak German and then you just ruin it Yeah, so we actually like kissed at the end of the day. Oh, that was nice and

She was the one who texted me that night saying that she got home safe and let you wait to see me so like it seems super clear right are you sure you didn't read that wrong too? There's no way to read that wrong. No no it was in English. So you've had a solid first date you kissed her at the end of it. She's the one saying I can't wait to hang out again It's been like 10 days or so Something must have happened in her life like I already have a feeling this is not your fault

Oh, I can see that like we're I don't know maybe work out crazy. Yeah, there's a family emergency Kindled something and was just oh, yeah, who knows what's happened in those 10 days? That's a long time. Have you asked her? Like, what have you done? Yeah, I mean, there was one time where I thought one date was going to work, but then she asked about a different date. So I don't know. So a hot bocce ball player came into her work.

Yeah. Watch out. That's a scary. Might be. OK. Well, we can reach out to Harper for you and see if she agrees to going out with you one more time. If not, then you might have a backup option because Brooke and her husband, you know Oh, that's right

Sorry, but you know what we'll work on Harper first and try and get you your second date update right after this second date update right after this. Second date update. We're in the middle of a second date update with our listener, Jordy. And Jordy likes cute waitresses at German bocce ball bars. He likes to mispronounce quiche Lorraine, just to seem vulnerable and flawed. How did he say it? Kiki, somehow? Yeah, something. You said quickie? Quitch? What did he say it? Kiki, something? Yeah, something. He said, Quickie? What did you say, Jordy?

I said, Quickie-Lauran. Quickie-Lauran. I like that, Quickie-Lauran. And he really likes to receive texts saying, I can't wait to see you again, because that's exactly what his date, Harper, said to him after they went out. So why is she not jumping at the chance to hang out again?

Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to Jordy you think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even worse than you do Maybe that's her thing. Yeah, maybe That's hot yeah, I don't even know how you mispronounced That's hot yeah I don't even know how you mispronounced DeJure Yeah how do you You can't mispronounce it I mean look, Harper's a really cute waitress She probably has a lot of

guys asking her out Oh my god, I bet she's saying no 50 times a day It's so annoying, but that's why you're so special Is that she said yes to you and you guys had a great date Yeah, but like look guys If that's it if that's the thing where she has another guy like just convince her that I'm a good guy You know in the five minutes we've spent with you totally will vouch for you. Thank you. You're welcome

Yeah, a lot of good guys insist how good they are So I'm just gonna trust you on that and we're gonna call Harper. Let's see if she answers okay All right, I don't know you I mean you seem nice from a little bit web we spoken Hello? Hey, is this Harper? Yeah, who's calling? We're a radio show calling called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hi, good morning. Hi, Harper. That half of the room isn't very excited to talk to you obviously, but I don't think she's excited to talk to us. This half of the room is very confused. She doesn't want, obviously, but I don't think she's excited to talk to us This half of the room is She's very confused She just don't want to come in too hot, Jeff

What are you all calling for? See? Yeah, we're working Yeah, this is something we do called a second date update And one of our listeners named Jordy asked us to reach out to you Ooh Ringing his bells? Hello? I said ooh

What do you want me to say? You remember Jordy? Okay We're just trying me to say? You remember, Jordy? Oh, okay. We're just trying to help him out because according to Jordy, he says he's been putting in a lot of effort trying to figure out a good time that would work for you to meet up. Just because he felt like you guys bonded, connected. Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning? No, there was just like a lot of effort that's kind of a problem. What? Too much effort? What do you mean? Yeah, well, can you elaborate? I mean, like on the surface

when I met him, like I was working and then we went and hung out and like he was a good guy and kind of like what I was looking for. Yeah, like he's what you were looking for. I mean, yeah, like I thought so Okay, so what changed so we hung out and it it wasn't until after that. I realized something was off What like I had every intention to go out again? Okay. Okay. What's the problem? Yeah, he gave me three options to hang out all in a row, like Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Like, why is he so available? What?

Wait, what are you, hold on. Did he want a three-day date or he was just like, pick a day and we can do that one? No, he was like, these are all the days that I'm available. And I have this belief, me and my friends do, that there's a guy between the age 24 and 32 ish if they have that much time to hang out it really means that he's a loser.

Oh wow. Wait, a loser? Yikes. Wow. You're calling him a loser because he gave you multiple options of times where he wants to hang out because he likes you Yeah, because like they're all in a row and it's like okay. He should be grinding away planning for his future Lady maybe not working or like working on a promotion or getting some

Like in my mind you're a waitress so he's probably just trying to give you options because it's probably hard to align schedules. Like he probably figures you work on the weekends. I mean that sounds like an excuse he'd use I guess. It sounds like he's doing it for you because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who tell us guys don't put in enough effort, they want the easy thing, they don't really care. Majority sounds like the total opposite, like he's willing to do whatever just to see you Plans the other days that you say you can't yeah, but he didn't say that he was like I'm wide open and I'm like well What else are you doing with your life?

pursuing me Okay, sadly this makes sense, but doesn't mean we agree with it. I don't know that it does make sense to me. He's not a loser. Like you liked him. You liked everything about him. You said that he tracked all your boxes basically. Yeah, I mean he did.

He actually had decent hygiene, which... Okay. A plus. A big box. But he's too available for you. that's why he's so good he has got time for it you don't want to date someone who wants to hang out every single day right I'm like they need to have a life well sure and especially in the beginning getting to know who they are and it just seems like he's just

wide open to do whatever okay but we're trying to build who we are as people what would you want his response to be when you say hey I can't wait to see you again what should he have written back to you he shouldn't have he should have just let me hang for a bit okay now that was a red flag okay well I don't I don't want to tell you this because it's not that he's like super available to talk to you At any time that's not what this is he was so busy. It's like we had to call him so many times Just in the middle of his extremely hectic day. He's taken a little bit of time to jump on the phone right now to talk to you Cuz Jordy's there. Hey Harper. Oh

So you've been on the phone just a little bit. Yeah Hey Harper. Oh. So you've been on the phone? Just a little bit. Yeah. Just a little bit? Barely. I heard you call me a loser who has too much time on his hands.

Well yeah, they asked me to be honest and I was honest. We actually didn't say that. They asked me what was that. I mean, that's what Jordy wanted. He wanted to know. He did want honesty. You think I'm a loser because I want to go out a second time? Like that part doesn't make any sense.

No, no, no. It's just a little red flaggy to be able to hang out three nights in a row. And like my perfect guy would never do that. He shouldn't have all the time in the world for me, you know? I'm sorry. My perfect guy shouldn't have all the time in the world for me. To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out with you three nights in a row. I gave you three options.

See? You're just being a little way too chill at this time in your life. You know, now's the time to work hard and we're going to chill later. Yeah, well, no. Girl, your servant Stein's in a German bar. Like, I mean... She's grinding. I'm just saying, like, pot kettle, like...

She probably makes more than I do here. Yeah, there are. Well, it's just like, what are like... Brooke, she probably makes more than I do here. Yeah, there's... Well, it's just like, what are you doing to do the same thing? Well, you don't even know me, so how about you shut your mouth? Yeah, Brooke, shut your mouth! Why, who are you complaining about for people bringing you alcohol? No, I'm not complaining!

I think being a server is a great job, but she's like, expecting him to like, do all these big great things, like... Multiple jobs. What are you doing to plan for your future? Stay in your lane and keep not tipping people This is about Jordy Jordy she's concerned that you're too free and you're too available prove to her that that's not true How much you got going on you don't want a date Yeah, I mean it sounds like that would be more attractive to you I mean, I just don't know why you want to play these games like we met in real life I thought you were a good person okay? And how busy are you right now? I mean I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy. I mean

Okay like look I'm looking to get busier. I'm looking to go right there. He goes. This guy going, work. All right. See, red flaggy much? Oh, god. I think he sounds like a nice guy.

But that's not what she wants. She doesn't want that, Brooke. But you did want it that night. Look, look, Harper, let's rewind and pretend I didn't call you for two weeks. Are you turned on now? No. It hasn't been two weeks. Are you turned on now?

Weeks it's only been ten days I mean the reality is you sent me a lot of freaking texts with like a lot of freaking dates And now you have me on a radio show The thing is we made him do it Yeah, we got all the time in the world. He didn't even want to be here He didn't have time to know But he was kind enough to take a little bit of time out to do this with us just so that I could ask you If you would like to see Jordy one more time, and we would pay for that date I don't even know if he's free honestly Jordy. Are you even free?

Not anymore. I'm all booked up I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's playing with me, and I'm not gonna Oh Talking like now Look at Jeffrey in the morning got a text in to seven eight five nine two that says with that outlook I hope she's ready to die alone I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't actually want a boyfriend. Yeah die alone. And the outlook that I think they're referring to is the theory that if a guy says he's available to hang out with you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a loser and must have absolutely nothing going on is correct that because when girls are to hang out with me and I tell them I'm

sorry I got two jobs I'm streaming video games every single night it also deters yeah he also matters what you're busy doing I got my D&D club on Friday and Saturday night so I can't hang out, but I make tons of money Guys just give up it's gonna be easier to be just quick because actually they're gonna feel more attracted to you that you've given up on Too late she speaks for all women and now we know how it works. Jackson, defend yourself! Hey, I just got canceled on by two guys! Aww, Alexis! Who saw that coming?

But you know what, if you need help with your dating life, go ahead, email the show, we'll call that person who isn't calling you back, and go check out all of our podcasts. We are the home of the second date update. Wherever you get yours, have Brooke and Jeffrey. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hey y'all. I'm Maria Fernanda Diaz. When You're Invisible is my love letter

to the working class people and immigrants who shaped me. Season 2 shares stories about community and being underestimated. All the greatest changes have happened when a couple of people said, this sucks. Let's do something about it. We get paid to serve you, but we're made out of the same things.

It's rare to have black male teachers. Sometimes I am the testament. Listen to When You're Invisible on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, sis, it's Dr. Joy from Therapy for Black Girls. We've had 400 episodes of conversations, growth, and healing, so we're celebrating. Join us for a special episode with internationally recognized

yogi, Chelsea Jackson Roberts, as she shares wisdom on mindfulness, movement, and motherhood. I waited later to have children and I still have exactly what I knew that I wanted. You don't want to miss this special episode. Listen to Therapy for Black Girls on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Calling all Yellowstone fans.

Let's go to work. Join Bobby Bones on the official Yellowstone podcast for exclusive cast interviews, behind the scenes insights, and a deep dive into the themes that have made Yellowstone a cultural phenomenon. Our family legacy is this ranch. And I protect it with my life. Listen to the official Yellowstone podcast now on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Alec Baldwin. This past season on my podcast, Here's the Thing, I spoke with more actors, musicians, policymakers, and so many other fascinating people, like writer and actor Dan Aykroyd. I love writing more than anything. You're left alone. You do three hours in the morning, you write three hours in the afternoon, go pick up a kid from school, and write at night. And after nine hours, you come out with with seven pages and then you're moving on. And actor and comedian Jack McBrayer.

The most important aspect is the collaboration with people that I like, I trust, are talented. That has been the most amazing gift to me about this crazy business that we've chosen. Meeting these people who have such diverse talents and you're able to create something together. people.