Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: Stress Test

Episode Date: November 10, 2023

How long would you wait for a first date to show up before bailing? The listener in today’s Second Date waited 60 minutes for them to show their face and you’ll be shocked at what happened once she finally arrived!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late-night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Emi Olea, host of the podcast Crumbs. For years, I had to rely on other people to tell me my story, and what I heard wasn't good. You really f***ed last

night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smashed it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Second date update. It can be pretty frustrating when a first date doesn't go the way that you planned. Yeah. Like when you go to the movie theater, you find the tickets are all sold out. Oh, bad planning.

You go to the concert, the band forgot their guitar. Oh, what? I don't think that ever happened. You go go skydiving they're out of parachutes but they do have a big bundle of those helium party balloons so you know you give it a go yeah but it's just not working out the way that you hoped i don't think you're gonna be calling us after that skydiving thing that's what happened to one of our listeners justin not skydiving but just his date didn't go the way he wanted it to. So Justin, welcome to the show, man. Hey, thank you for having me. I'm glad you didn't say she jumped first.

We'll get to what you did on your date in just a second. But first, tell us about the person that you were meeting up with. Who, what, where, when and why? Well, that's a lot. Well just who I guess Well, her name was Robin, she's beautiful Yeah, he has these really really sexy green eyes. I mean like Wow Yeah Brooke Brooke has some sexy green eyes over there like little lima beans oh oh yeah like a like a mountain dew i can't see them oh my god how did like an almost compliment turn into an insult no they're nice i get you i get you us green-eyed girls we're you know we stick together we're a rare breed yeah you are yeah like real green eyes not contacts or anything yeah i have like what is going on?

I feel you, man. Okay. So, wait, where did you meet her? Where did you meet Robin? We met on a dating app, and we decided to do, like, a dinner date. Awesome. Nice. Okay.

Were you feeling a lot of pressure going into this? Because it sounds like there was a lot of buildup. A little bit, but, like but I try not to get too nervous because I feel like on dates we all just get nervous and we're trying to impress the other person, but the other person's probably feeling the same. So I just try to mellow out, be cool, just go there, have a good time, make sure everybody's comfortable.

That is a good life lesson right there. They always say be yourself. I feel like a lot of times when people try too hard, that's the ruined stuff. Right. So you go to the restaurant for the date. How does it go? I ended up getting there a couple minutes early because I really like this girl, and I'm always like five, ten minutes late.

So I made sure I was there 15 minutes early. How nice. Bro, don't set that precedent. You're going to be late the rest of your relationship. But get this. So I'm there about 15 minutes early, and then i get a text that she's running late so i was like oh and there of course that's how it always works yeah but you know like i completely understand so i was like not a problem

yeah i just ordered a drink while i was waiting all right i finished my drink and by that time she texts me again that she's still on the way oh my god how long was that oh it was a while like i'll tell you like i saw another couple come in after i had been there sit down finish their meal and leave i think it had been like at least an hour before she got there 45 minutes but she she did show up right and she stayed in contact she And she stayed in contact. She did. She stayed in contact.

She showed up. You know, people have rough days. I understand. Okay. And that can be hard, though, after you've been waiting, like, cold for, like, an hour for them. But at least you got to sneak a couple drinks in. I know, but you know the restaurant staff is like, oh, this guy is gay. Oh, yeah. That's probably why he stayed.

And all the other couples around are looking over like, oh, God, who's the loser getting stood up? And as a server, you know, this guy wants to make money off this table, but you can't go up and go, hey, when are you going to just call it quits and let me get another table? Right. You can't do that. So how did it go when she finally did show up to the restaurant? Well, I was happy just to, like, you know, have somebody there to be with me because I was tired of being alone. Oh, bro, that sounds so sad. Is that what you said to her?

I'm so happy. I didn't want to, like, make her self-conscious. I don't know what kind of day she was having. She's finally here. Let's just have a good time. That's hard, though. Like, was she super frazzled? She seemed a bit flustered.

I don't know if it was because she was late. I didn't want to, like, keep digging at it or dig into it. Yeah. You just want to move forward, move on. And were you able to? Well, I tried, but the vibe was just different from before. I could tell this is not going well. And so I was like, hey, why don't I get you a really nice cocktail?

Oh, that's a good idea. When they brought it out, she gulped it down like a shot. Oh, my kind of lady. Let's go. She was really stressed out. And when they brought it out, she gulped it down like a shot. Oh, my kind of lady. Let's go. She was really stressed out. Yeah. That's not a good look.

To some people, Brooke, speak for yourself. Yeah, I know. To Jose, that was a huge turn on. How did you feel about it? You just set the standard. I don't know. I really like her. I feel like she's like the perfect physical match for me. And on the text, she was so nice, funny and playful and charming.

She just seemed really distracted. Like she got food. She didn't even finish her food. So I don't know what was going on. I just could tell like, oh boy, this is not how I wanted it to go. Okay. So how did you end this date with her? So I asked if she wanted to just go for a walk because I love walking when I'm stressed

out and just, you know, fresh air and everything. That's kind. That's thoughtful. She said that she just kind of felt like she has to decompress today and wanted to go home. And I said, that's not a problem. Did she give any indication that she wanted to see you again or like retry? Because if it was me, I would feel really apologetic, right? Like, oh my God, I ruined this date. I was super late.

I've been totally distracted. Can you just give me a redo you know she didn't even say sorry when she came in ouch man i mean it definitely doesn't sound like you did anything wrong no it sounds like there was something going on with her but let's call her and find out and we'll try and get you your second date update all right that'd be great all right hold on second date update let's take this from the woman's perspective okay like she shows up an hour late she's in a sour mood yeah she's gulping down cocktails barely eating hardly even talking to the sweet man sitting across the table from her oh And after all of that, the guy still wants to see her again? That's how powerful it is to have

a pair of sexy green eyes. I bet Brooke wishes that she had a real pair. And they weren't hiding behind those giant, foreign-thick lenses that you got on. Okay, listen. My eyes don't work well, but they are green yeah i mean according to photoshop they are but look that's why one of our listeners justin wants to call robin after he

waited an hour at the restaurant for her to show up and the date never really even got off the ground once she did but those darn gorgeous asparagus green eyes they just had him wanting one more chance you went lima beans and now you're going asparagus. Oh, yeah, like a sexy diesel gas pump That's class that's what everybody does what do you think they look like Justin how would you describe those green eyes I don't know like magical little kiwi They're exotic little kiwi. Magical kiwi. Wait, aren't those brown on the outside? Yeah. Yeah. Kind of open. They're exotic.

I like it. Oh, Justin. The thing for me with this girl, she didn't apologize after she was so late. That doesn't rub you wrong? It does, but you know,

just taking all the history into consideration, I felt like maybe she just something personal happened. Like, I wouldn't mind giving it one more shot.

Okay. That's nice of you. The way you've been describing her, a lot of times really hot girls aren't apologetic. They're used to people waiting on them. Are you worried maybe this girl has like a ton of options and doesn't really care about you that much? Trying to project onto him. What? I think we just went in on a positive note. You know who you are. Try one more time. we have a lot of theories justin but we're really hoping for the best here i'm gonna

dial robin's phone number right now we'll see what's going on you ready yeah all right just picture those beautiful kiwi eyes here we go all right let's do this hello hi is this robin yeah who's this hey robin my name is jeff work on a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay. Okay. And this is? Jose. Yeah, okay. And that is?

Yeah, thanks, Jeff. This is weird. What is this? This is classroom roll call? This is Brooke. It sounds like you're busy, Robin. And it is? It! I am Alexis. That is Alexis.

I don't think she was asking for a round table introduction. Well, presents! And you are now part of this thing called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Welcome. Oh, so bad. Okay. What's going on? Did I win something or what's up?

Possibly. Yeah. Well, we're doing a segment called the Second Date Update. Okay. The way that it works is one of our listeners reaches out to us and we call the person who they went out on a date with and has been ghosting them. And we're trying to help him figure out the reason why. So the guy you went out with recently, his name's Justin. Oh, Justin.

Yeah. Yeah, you can just tell him I'm not interested anymore. You're not interested in Justin? He sounded like a really nice guy. No, I mean, I've got my reasons. Okay. Well, look, that's okay. You're allowed to choose who you want to date and who you don't. But for Justin's sanity, he's trying to figure out what went wrong. Because he told us it took you a while to show up to the restaurant, even.

I mean, yeah, it did. And I do feel bad about that. That seems like it's more on you and it's less of what Justin did. Or are we, are we wrong about that? No, it's totally what he did. Oh, what did he do? So like I had some stuff to get done and so I was like running late, but also like sometimes I do this with guys I meet online,

just kind of to see how they're going to react. Wait, wait, wait. The one hour late thing was a test? Is that what you're saying? Yeah. I mean, I didn't plan it ahead of time. But once I started being late, I was like, okay, well, how's he going to react to this? And the dude sat there for an hour and waited for me.

What is that? It's a gentleman. That's called patience and kindness and forgiveness. I mean, you were texting him the whole time. You kept telling him you were going to be there. You were leading him on. It's not like he sat there for an hour and hadn't heard from you. I only texted him twice and kept saying, like, I'm heading there.

And all he had to do, he had many options here, right? He could have rescheduled. He could have left. I mean, something that showed he had a backbone right so you're are you seriously saying that you're mad at justin because he waited an hour for you to show up no i'm not mad at him i just he's not the guy for me i'm looking for somebody who's confident he's gonna stand up for himself like i didn't even say i'm sorry when i got there and he's too nice yeah it's just kind of pathetic and it's just like a little puppy dog waiting for like his master to show up i thought

women yeah i thought we loved puppies i mean yeah i like an actual puppy not a man who's a puppy i okay i understand that you want somebody who's confident but to me it's not that he wasn't confident it's just that he was forgiving those are two separate things and i think like god the world needs more of that type of attitude right now more than anything i mean no spare me i think the world needs more men who like have a backbone and are waiting for somebody to show up well ouch i think it takes a lot of backbone robin to be on the other line listening to this conversation the whole time and not freak out. Yeah, that's the patience.

That takes strength and courage because Justin's actually been there the whole time wanting to talk to you. Isn't that right, Justin? Yeah. Ooh. Oh, Justin. This proves my point. Okay. This proves my point.

Just one word he proved her point. Dude. Come on, Mr. Confidence. Yeah, let's go. Show her. Robin, the reason I was waiting for you for so long was because you were late. You confirmed.

You said you were coming. I didn't want to be rude. If you want a guy who's mean to you, who's rude to you, good luck. I just hope you guys don't have any kids because all they're going to create is more havoc and monsters in the world. Mike. Now you're just kind of like lashing out. So, no, it's kind of pathetic.

Now he's lashing out. I thought that that's what you wanted him to do. No, I want him to be confident and to like stand up for himself, but like not just saying stuff to piss me off or to look strong. Like, no. Okay. You wanted to be confident without being told to be confident. Yeah, like a happy balance yeah it really is it's weird it's hard to explain but there is some kind of balance it's like mean but not mean nice but not too nice is there any way justin can win right now robin no i mean no oh it's done i mean i hope i

hope that this like teaches him a lesson though because girls really do want a little more confidence but that's the thing. I'm not trying to go out with a girl. I'm trying to find a woman who's matured. Oh, that's pretty good. Spoken with real confidence right there. Let's go, Justin. Honestly, Robin, I never got not confident from Justin

this whole time we were talking about him. I did. Really? I mean, you should hear the way that he talks about your green eyes. Honestly, I've looked at Robin's green eyes in the flesh, and, you know, now I'm starting to think maybe they are contacts. Oh! You think she's a phony green-eyed girl?

Did you hear that? That was a sick burn on you, Robin. Oh, you got him, Justin! How old are you? It's the rose. Wow. I mean, do we ask at this point? I mean, there's definitely some sort of fiery passion going on.

You have to ask by saying you don't want to send him on a date. Then she'll say yes. Do it. So, Robin, this is the time where I'm supposed to ask if you would like to go out on another date. But we don't want you to go on it. I don't think he even wants to show up to it. He wants to leave you hanging there. That's the type of guy, confident person that he is okay and if you're willing to

show up to that then we'll pay for thanks for the reverse psychology uh i'm still good i will find my own days i mean it's hard all this testosterone in the room really strong actually jeffrey jose and i screwed You know what, Robin? He should be the one that asks you. As the strong, independent man that he is. Go ahead. Go ahead, Justin. Hey, Robin. I'd like to officially ask you out on a date to a restaurant

that's not even open. It's been closed by the health department. By the health department? Is that another burn? Yeah, you want some food poisoning, Robin? Yeah. You know, I don't know what the hell is happening here. I'm like back in elementary school.

Like, what's going on? Because you're failing again. Oh! Failing. Okay. Yeah, okay. You're creating a monster here. It's not helping, Justin, at this point.

This is getting very unsexy. I finally agree with you, Robin. Thank you. Thank you. Told you. You can say what you want, but that's another sick burn. Oh, okay, Justin. She needs to get into comedy. Justin, if you want to open for me, bro, anytime you want.

You're a good roaster. I'm just saying, I'll take you up on that comedy. I just need a clown like Robin to, you know, inspire me. So you want me to ask her to open then? Why am I still on this phone call? I don't know. I want to go ahead and hang up. I feel like you would have left if you really wanted

to leave, but you want to stick around. I mean, he's digging himself a grave. It's funny. Well, he stuck around for you and you're doing the same thing. I don't know. Does anybody agree? I guess that wasn't really a great comparison, so I just sick burn myself working jeffrey in the morning you know it's kind of interesting we taped this a few weeks ago and when we were done with the phone call robin hung up and we went back into the office to do our work we came back in studio a while later

and justin was still on the line waiting for us. He just wanted to wait to say thank you. I call it kindness. Some call it weakness. My goal was to defend him. I wanted to be on his side the whole time and it's just like the last even

30 seconds of the call. He's just too sweet. He's 1,000% has no bad or mean bone in his body. Even when he was trying to be mean, it didn't come out very well. And I still don't like the girl. Like, I hate Tess. I think Tess sucks. Yeah, that's true.

You know, especially Tess that make people wait for an hour at a restaurant. Yeah, that's pretty bad. You're wasting people's time. I know. It's already, like, dating is already a hard enough game as it is. Now she's playing games on top of the games. Yeah. No.

Clearly, women just don't want to have a nice, respectful guy anymore. That's not true. I mean, it's kind of true. Girls want both. They want a little sweet and a little bit of a jerk. Exactly. Not a jerk. You can be confident and also be kind.

Those two things really, truly can't live together. That's true. Confident and kind. Like, Brooke, I love you, but shut up for now. Yes, just like that. That was a little aggressive. I think that was a good point. You are so pretty with makeup.

Take it. Those are like backhanded compliments. All right. Well, look, if you want to get a second date update, you can always email the show and we'll try to call the person who isn't calling you back

and I'm sure it's going to be disappointing to Brooke in some way. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. We're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them.

More of you dating with intention's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which

means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition Podcast. Join late night legend john stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines exclusive extended interviews and more now this is a second term we can all get behind listen to the daily show ears edition on the iheart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts i I'm Emi Olea, host of the podcast Crumbs. For years, I had to rely on other people to tell me my story. And what I heard wasn't good.

You really f***ed last night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smash it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.