Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: That Name Sounds Familiar

Episode Date: April 11, 2025

For SURE, the most ANNOYING part of dating apps….. is all the wasted energy you put in, getting to know someone really ONE… Only to never ACTUALLY meet up with them in person… And our listener on the phone says he has a method to eliminate that headache…. You’ll hear it in your Second Date Update!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. My name is Brendan Patrick Hughes, host of Divine Intervention. This is a story about radical nuns in combat boots and wild haired priests trading blows with J Edgar Hoover in a hell-bent effort to sabotage a war. J Edgar Hoover was furious. He was out of his mind and he wanted to bring the Catholic left to its knees. Listen to Divine Intervention on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, before we get to your brand new second date update,

today it's Brooke and Jeffrey, and you did find the second date update podcast. We gotta go back, because we asked y'all on Wednesday for the weirdest, most ridiculous question you've ever been asked on a first date, and I love some of the responses. Yes! What's one that we got?

All right, I gotta read Matthews, who said, "'Y'all asked and I'm gonna answer it They asked which toe is your favorite. I'm cringing while typing this I've never even thought of a favorite. I mean isn't it obvious that it's a pinky My pinkies are a little weird from running My sister has a weird foot where her middle toe looks like she's flipping you off. It's longer than the other ones. Do we think we lost our game to listeners?

I don't know, but I like toe talk. Yeah, I do like toe talk. Maybe we'll do that again next week. Thanks, Matthew. Oh great, now we're going to do a bunch of creepy guys on the toe talk. Basically, we just normalized your weird question. Yeah, let us know your favorite toe, everybody. Yay, we just normalized your weird question. Yeah It's time to start your Friday with a brand new second date update And this one definitely has a new method for dating that hopefully can eliminate all the swiping in the endless chat So we'll see if it works starts right now

Second date update If you ask me and Brooke you'll probably agree with this, the dating world needs more ultimatums. No, Jack. Yes. No, ultimatums are not ever good, ever. I think maybe we need them, because the more listeners we talk to,

everybody seems so indecisive. All right. They're so wishy washy, like, oh, maybe I'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl, or maybe I'll just stick with my wife Old to made him suddenly sounding good, huh? Stick to your wife That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay all their cards down on the table and say this is it Take it or leave it?

Oh, yeah, apparently that's how our listener Dustin rolls ultimatum style Well, that's the vibe I got from his email Dustin welcome to the show. Hey, how's it going guys? You sound like such a nice guy for being such a badass ultimatum maker Yeah, tell me if I was wrong, but it sounds like you like to play the dating game a little bit more straightforward Yeah, totally. Let's go man. I mean, I don't have that much time Here's my new rule now when I talk to people it's like if I don't meet up with them right away It pretty much just kind of sizzles out.

Okay, I mean, I can see how that could happen. Kind of. If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for weeks and months and maybe never even end up meeting that person. What is right away to you? What does that mean? Yeah, I think like 48 to 72 hours,

we should at least have like some kind of plan to hang out, but like if that plan's not established, then it's probably never gonna work out. Okay. That's actually kind of a rule of thumb. I kind of plan to hang out but like if that plan's not established and it's probably never gonna work out. I kind of like that rule like it's respecting everybody's time. Yeah dating runs on deadlines and so that's good. You gave Jessica the dating deadline? Well I don't know she I ended up just getting her number and then I pretty much like kind of took the conversation elsewhere off the app and started texting from there. I feel like that's an important step because otherwise the app you don't open it, you know, you don't reply.

Yeah, I don't check this. Another Tinder person. So once it got off of the apps, how did you and Jessica vibe? She's really really funny. So she pretty much was just saying like hey one time no chat. Okay, did you turn it into an in-person date pretty quickly? Yeah, we went out for pizza. saying like, hey, one time no chat. Okay. Okay. And did you turn it into an in-person date pretty quickly? Yeah, we went out for pizza. I love pizza. And how was it in person?

Oh, you want to know the crazy part about that? Yes, obviously. That's the only part I want to know. I'm sorry, I wanted the boring part. Let's start with the crazy part first. Okay, start there. She looked really different from the photos that were on the profile. Really?

That was good difference. Not like a cat face. I mean, she was still like super cute, like for sure. Okay. But like different, different. Like different. Okay. Like, wait.

Say it again. Hold on. No, do you mean like she colored her hair a different color? Maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before? No, nothing like that. But that would have been like totally cool. OK, yeah. Face overall, though, you liked what you saw in person.

Yeah, she was cute. It was just different than what I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses So it could be misjudged through that. Oh, yeah Sunglasses now cover like 70% of the face So now that we've covered the crazy mother's no eyes Now that we've covered all the crazy parts of the day bring us to the boring, you know mushy stuff

Oh, yeah. Yeah, that's my favorite Jose wants to know how the rest of the date went. Everything was normal about the date but then there was like this one part that was really weird. Oh okay going back to crazy again. It wasn't like super crazy but it was just like one of those another different things than I thought. Okay. What happened?

Well on her profile like she talks about like Pilates and a bunch of like Pilates stuff is on her profile, she talks about Pilates and a bunch of Pilates stuff is on her profile, right? Okay. Yeah. So I thought that was kinda cool about her, but every time I would talk to her about Pilates, I swear she would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.

Huh. Weird. So it's either like, She didn't wanna talk about it? No, it feels like she either lied on her bio or you're talking to a different person Using girls but Alexis you put stuff in your profile that you don't actually care much about it's more of like I love sports I don't like sports. She was a collegiate athlete. She's more athletic than you, Jeff.

But she also says that she enjoys baseball, even though she thinks it has a half time in it. I enjoy the half times in the game, Jeff. That is accurate. They're not half time stretch in the second inning, Jeff. I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into Pilates as much as she claims on her Pilates. Sometimes there's just easier props to put on there. And I will say there is a phenomenon right now that if you aren't a die-hard fan of something you're not allowed to say that you like it. Oh, you got a stand or nothing?

So how long has it been since you last spoke to Jessica? It's been like six days. Oh no. Which is a long time when you're moving so quick. Yeah Pacing going and it's dead. I don't understand because we both had such a great time She said she had a great time. I had a great time, you know Let's try and keep the great times going And we give this girl another ultimatum

I am it's either go out with Dustin now or lose him forever Poetties or not. Yeah, it just sounds more scary if you say well to me We're gonna come back and do it with your second date right after this. Hold on Today's second date update begs the question. can you fully trust what you see in someone's dating profile? Because our listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who looked a little different than her picture. Not bad though, just different.

Like a good different and even though her bio talked about Pilates a lot, she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date. Which is kind of strange, but to be fair, my old dating profile said I'm Jewish, but any woman who met up with me would discover I'm not kosher and not good with money. So probably equally confusing. That's a really good point, Jeff. Yeah, I mean, you can't trust it fully from the dating profile The good news is Dustin despite the differences really had a good time with her I felt like they vibed in ways he hasn't in the two years that he has spent on this app before

I really want this to work out for you Dustin Just because you have put in the time and the effort and you seem like a good guy. Yeah. Thanks a lot, Brooke I really do appreciate that about you a good guy yeah thanks a lot bro I really do appreciate that about you well her fingers are crossed right now when she said that so tell everybody everything okay I feel like there is some part of Brooke that really is rooting for you today just I think this is gonna be a simple like miscommunication or something you know I mean yeah possibly I mean I don't know as long as you guys get me another Day yeah, all right. All right. Well. Let's dial Jessica right now

We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back Connor right now here we go Hello hey is this Jessica? Yeah, who's this? Hey, Jessica. She's so cute. I know. It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive and perky when we're talking to them, because we're doing a second date update. Most of our listeners are like, who is this? Yeah. I'm sorry, what is this?

Yeah, sorry, I threw a lot at you. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets. We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey and the Pets.

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We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning, which you're on right now. Yeah. Congratulations. Hi. Okay, hi. Good morning. And this segment is called Second Date Update.

I don't know if you've heard it before, but it's a thing where if somebody blows you off and you're not sure why, we can try to call that person for you to maybe figure out if there's a reason for it. Okay, I didn't blow anyone off. What? Yeah, I mean, I guess he's not talking. She said six, I mean, he said six days,

so maybe that's not blowing someone off to you. Maybe that's not enough time. Yeah, because six days ago, you went out with a guy who at least according to him felt like you had a really good connection Afterwards he feels like you've been pulling away a little bit. His name is Dustin. Oh My gosh, hey you forgot about that one, huh? Oh my gosh I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't know what to do.

Oh, okay. I think it's pretty simple. You should text him and go out with him again. No, I mean, like, I don't know how much he told you or what you know, but I actually matched with Dustin a year and a half ago. What? A year and a half? Wait.

He said that you guys just met on the app and that you... Yeah, so when I got a text from him like a week ago, I was kind of confused because I was like, this is weird, it's kind of out of the blue, but I was just like, oh, whatever, and I was just like, long time no chat. Oh yeah, he said that you made a joke, that you were joking

because you had just been chatting with him. It wasn't a joke, it really was a long time. Oh my God. Wait, I'm confused. So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and a half on an app at all is what you're saying. Right, it was just a year and a half ago, you never replied to one of my texts

and then all of a sudden I get a text from him. And then you guys went to pizza. Right. You did meet up. Right. We got pizza. And I was kind of like, I wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk to me now. But I was like, I remember he and I got along really well on Bumble. And so I was just like, yeah, sure. Let's get pizza. And is it true? Coma for a year and a half and he doesn't remember.

He went from the app to that. Yes, he met a year and a half ago. That seems like a big miscommunication. What about the date? But it has to be the same person. It's the same. He kept talking about Pilates and how like, he kept asking about it and I was like, Pilates, like I don't have that in my bio.

That's the other girl. Yeah. Oh no. But then I was like, oh my gosh, Jessica is a really common name and- Same name. Oh no. But then I was like, oh my gosh, Jessica is a really common name. Same name. And I was thinking about it and I was like, oh shoot. You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica?

Or texted the wrong Jessica in his phone? Yeah, I mean like, it could have been another Jessica from Bumble. Okay, wait, wait, wait though. If you have him as Dustin Bumble. He probably has multiple Jessica Bumbles. That makes so much sense. Did you have fun with him? I did. Yeah.

No, I had a lot of fun with him. Even though you had to keep dodging his questions about Pilates. Yeah. I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I was kind of embarrassed. But like we were really enjoying ourselves. So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he

matched with a couple weeks ago he said that yeah yeah he added that you were super cute oh it's not like it was a disappointment I think that's important to know I also say you're both in this spot because he's like I don't know where to go from here and she just said I don't know where to go from here Yeah, they're both in limbo. This is kind of perfect. Well, yeah, I guess that's it. Sorry And now she doesn't even have to I guess the other option is if you are interested Dustin has been listening to this call on the other phone line If he hasn't fainted already Dustin you there the holy shit, I can't believe this happened I'm such an idiot

You guys were talking about it I was looking through my phone and I saw all the different Jessica Bumbles. How many Jessica's have you been talking to? I don't know. I mean, I'm embarrassed though. I mean, I'm, I'm so sorry. Yeah. When you kept bringing up Pilates, I was like, wow, why did he keep bringing this up? Like, did you want to see a move? I wasn't sure what why did he bringing us up? Like did you want to see a move? I know I know now I just I thought it was very interesting at the time. That's all He was only asking because he thought that you were super interested in it, but that was a different Bumble, I mean now you need to maybe tell him. What are your hobbies and interests because he has no idea. I actually love soccer and I love hiking

and I speak a little French and. Yeah, I think I remember that from a year and a half ago. Oh man. Or was that the other Jessica Bumble, like Jessica Bumble number four? Oh no, she's from France. Oh, that's right. You could have saved so much time and headache in your life if you would have just gone out a year and a half ago

Brooke you're so right. I'm again. I'm just such an idiot Women do like hearing that so that's a good thing for you to start saying so now that we've cleared up the big misunderstanding And you realize who each other are you like each other at least it seems that way from our perspective We'd like to offer to send you out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for it if you say yes Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant to be Come on Dustin, um, I want to hear something from Dustin. And depending on what he says, maybe I'll say yes. What is it out of all those Jessica's?

Which one do you like best? Oh, tough answer here. He's like Jessica 18. Well, to be honest, look, to be honest, Jessica, you're the only Jessica. I had a real connection with all the other guys. I never even hung out with. Look at that. You're the only Jessica. I had a real connection with all the other guys I never even hung out with look at that Did that answer your question Jessica it did yeah, I'll go out again Well congratulations you two you're going out again, and it's probably a good lesson for you Dustin

You got to put the year that you matched with the person next to their names in your contacts I'm always like, I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any more matches like this is it I think after this I'm not gonna use the dating apps for a while After two years, bro, you need a break I think after this, I'm not gonna use the dating apps for a while. Yeah. There we go. After two years, bro, you need a break. Yeah. Yeah. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

See, that's why we do the second date updates. Jessica said she didn't know what to do. She was caught mid-date with a guy who thought that she was somebody else. God, that is so. Yeah. That's my worst nightmare. I mean, it would be a turn off, obviously.

But it was like super awkward, like how do you even bring that up? The thing is, she wasn't a total stranger. They'd matched 18 months before that. And like we heard, they seemed to be actually pretty cute together. I mean, sometimes it's all about timing, you know? Maybe 18 months ago, he would have thought, oh, I just got on the dating apps. It's gonna be awesome And then now he's two years in he's like wait. It's not Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is texting the other Jessica right now the one that he ghosted a week ago How dare you even bring that up?

Let's remember. He is a guy and we're addicted to the chase Hopefully he can just focus on the current Jessica and the good thing that they have going on right now. Why would you even put that in his head if he's listening? If you're listening, change the other Jessica's to do not text. Just for now. Just delete their number. That's even easier. No, you never know. Okay.

Yeah. Never say never. But remember, you can listen to all of our second-aid updates on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts at Brooke and Jeffrey. I'm Israel Gutierrez and I'm hosting a new podcast, dub dynasty, the story of how the golden state warriors have dominated the NBA for over a decade. The golden state warriors once again are NBA champions. Today, the warriors dynasty remains alive in large part because of a scrawny six foot two hooper who everyone seems to love.

For what Steph has done for the game, he's certainly on that Mount Rushmore. Come revisit this magical Warriors ride. Listen to Dubb Dynasty on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Camila Ramon. And I'm Liz Ortiz. And our podcast, Hasta Abajo, is where sports, music, and fitness collide.

And we cover it all. De Arriba, Hasta Bajo. This season, we sit down with history makers like the Sucar family, who became the first Peruvians to win a Grammy. It was a very special moment for us. It's been 15 years for me in this career. Finally, things are starting to shift into a different level. Listen to Asta Waho on the iHeart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get

your podcasts. Presented by Elf Beauty, founding partner of iHeart Women's Sports. Yo, K-pop fans, are you ready? It's your boy Bom Han, and I'm bringing you the K-Factor, the podcast that takes you straight into the heart of K-pop. We're talking music, idols, exclusive interviews, and even the real behind the scenes K-pop stories. Plus, you're the fans, you're part of the show, and you can get a chance to jump in, share your opinions, and be part of the conversation like never before. And trust me, you never know where we might pop up next. So listen to the K Factor starting on April 16 on iHeartRadio Apple Podcast or wherever

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We are the greatest culture makers in world history. Listen to Fighting Words on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.