Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: The Truth Will Set You Free

Episode Date: February 8, 2023

One of our listeners failed miserably when trying to come up with an excuse for WHY he missed his date… You’re gonna want to hear it and why TELLING THE TRUTH wasn’t an option.. in your Second Date podcast! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Women are always saying that they want a stand-up guy. And then a man gives them exactly that. Stands them up. And suddenly, oh, now they get all upset. What is it, ladies? You want a stand-up guy or don't you? Not a stand-me-up guy, Jeffrey. There is keyword me up there.

You clearly don't know what you want. That's why Nick is emailing us. Obviously, Alexis. Nick stood his date up, and now suddenly she's being all weird about it. Nick, we just can't win, can we, man? Apparently not. Oh, yeah, right. You're calling because you feel bad, right, Nick?

Well, yeah, I think you hit the nail on the head. Like, I goofed on this one a bit. You should, bro. Why'd you stand her up? Okay, well, yeah, we'll get to why. First, tell us about this needy lady. Who is she? Needy.

God, she just wants someone to actually be there when she has a date. And pay attention to her. She didn't even say that. Yeah, just show up, I think, was the requirement. What's her name? Sally. Sally. Sally from the Valley.

And how did you meet Sally? You don't have to rhyme, Jeff. We met on an app. Like, how do people meet otherwise these days? That's true. That's true. I mean, every once in a while, it's like Instagram. Yeah.

Yeah, that's a different app. No, but even when you meet people in real life, you're like, okay, now talk to me on Instagram. Yeah. What. That's a different. No, but even when you meet people in real life, you're like, okay, now talk to me on Instagram. Yeah. What'd you like about Sally? Well,

I don't mean this in a shallow way, but like there was this picture she had of her in a red dress. And there's something about a girl in a red dress and the way that Sally looked at it. I was like, I need to talk to this girl. Okay. I don't think that's shallow. I mean, that's how it's all done, right? Especially when you

only have a picture really to go on. That was nicer than I expected. Yeah, totally. I thought he was going to say boobs. He did, but elaborately. Those were inside of the dress that he liked so much. From reading your email, Nick, it sounds like you went on one date, but you stood her up on date two.

Oh my gosh, Nick. Well, what happened on date one? Well, date one was pretty cool because we went to like an old school rap concert. I thought it was a good choice. It'd be fun. I thought we had a great time. We actually kissed while we were dancing. It went really well.

You had a great time the first date. Obviously, she thought so too. What did you plan for the second? Well, a more traditional date. I thought, okay, well, hey, let's get a place where we can talk more. Let's do a proper date. That was her idea, huh? He said, I thought. He said, I thought, Jeffrey.

Okay, sure. What a gentleman. You want to talk to her. That's nice. So you guys were going to meet at the restaurant? Yeah, we were going to meet at the restaurant. And then I fully admit this was my fault. So wait, you messed up.

What happened? So I had to go by my ex's house, and I had to pick up the cable box because I had to turn in the cable box because we're no longer together in that way. Okay. And I ended up spending a little more time there than expected. Oh, bro.

It sounds like you were hooking up with your ex. Yeah. Truth be told, we did hook up. It was my ex. It was kind of like a farewell. We're not getting back together. But literally, you're on the way to meet Sally. Yeah.

You couldn't have done it the night before? Yeah, for real. I don't know what to tell you. I'm just being honest about it. Brooke, does it really matter if it happened the night before? Does that make a difference to you? Yes. I think it makes it better.

Okay. So what's the appropriate time period? Like an hour before the date would have been okay? Yeah. I mean, just so he can be clean and not be thinking of the last person that he was with. He never went, though. He never met up with her. Yeah.

It sounds like he never even met her. So he did her a favor by not showing up. Exactly. That's a gentleman move. A very gentleman move. Did we hear the excuse that he used? Like, what did you say to Sally? Oh, yeah.

Oh, I couldn't think of something. And I told her that I took a nap and my arms fell asleep and I wasn't comfortable driving because my arms were still kind of asleep because I weighed on them. So dumb. When you said took a nap, I was like, that's not bad. Why didn't you just end there, dude? No, because then I'd be awake and I'd have to go. So you didn't want to go at that point.

I see. I didn't get that. Because of what you said, he felt dirty. He didn't want to go from one to another. Yeah, so he went with classic coma arms excuse. He won't have that. I think that was a solid choice. And what did she reply? I mean, she's already

sitting at the restaurant at that point. She didn't. Yeah, she knows it's an excuse. It's obvious you made that up. It's kind of rude that she didn't respond back to you. Oh, she's rude. She's rude. Oh, geez, man. Okay, so you got what you had coming to you, which is getting

ghosted, and now you want us to salvage it, I'm guessing? Okay, well, Brooke, yeah, as I was saying ghosted. And now you want us to salvage it. I'm guessing. Okay. Well, Brooke. Yeah. As I was saying, Hey, the best way is just be honest about it. Like what I got to lose at this point. No.

Aren't you happy, Brooke? It is true. Brooke does say if you have to be a hundred percent honest with whoever you're dating. You say that a lot. She doesn't need this information. This isn't going to make her feel better. Look, I like her and i want to continue this and i think it's better to have like just start out with honesty i hopefully she'll respect that

and but like i'm leaning that way but i'm open to suggestions if you guys think there's a better strategy brooke is the one that's gonna guide you i mean i you know i was like hooking back up with my ex when i met my husband. Oh, the truth comes out. Really? Did he know that? I mean, he knew that my ex was coming into town at one point. We weren't together. Your marriage is a sham, Brooke.

No, I mean, he knew. But then the ex came, and I was like, ah, he sucks. I really like this other guy better. Brooke, we've been doing this show for a really long time, and I did not know that there was overlap with your husband and your ex. I mean, we weren't together on either side. Michael, are you listening to this right now? He was coming out of a relationship, too.

You know, things are messy. So a couple of black and white girls got together and got married? Nobody cheated. Not one person cheated. Okay, well, we'll be back with Brooke's orgy stories. That's not what it is. Oh, my God. And also getting a second date update for Nick.

Brooke's got a lot of stories about sore arms, too. Oh, stop it. You guys are terrible. Right after this. Hold on, Nick. Second date update. We just heard an admission of guilt. Oh, boy.

Yeah, we did. No, you didn't. Not from Brooke. That wasn't what I was. I mean, yeah, we did hear about some weird stuff going on there. That was so weird. She wasn't guilty. I was talking about from our listener, Nick, who says he wants to come clean about the real reason that he didn't show up to his second date with Sally.

And look, I don't feel comfortable saying this. Like, even if you want it to happen nick that's going to be your choice and it has to come from you and your mouth i agree because we were joking a lot so you should probably think really hard if this is honestly the best way to go about it because i know you're telling us you think honesty is important but for you to admit that you blew off sally that night to hook up with your ex one final time you know that sounds bad right yeah yeah yeah i do okay i don't know maybe brooke is right maybe you just say i was spending time with my ex instead of saying like that sounds like you're trying to get back together with her that's what the whole relationship will be like i mean

i think you just try to leave that part out as much as possible move forward talk about what you want to happen not what happened that's good i mean we never know how these calls are going to go before we make them so nick you have to pick the right time if you want to do it but i'm not going to say it no one in this room is going to say it it has to come from you oh yeah i totally agree you good with that nick yeah yeah i'll just play it by ear i'll see how the conversation goes. Just don't play it by your arms because we can't count on those bad boys. Oh, yeah, because he said that they were dead.

That's why he couldn't drive. All right, man. We're wishing you luck. I'm wishing myself luck. We're going to make this call right now. Here we go. Hello? Hey, is this sally yes what's up sally my name is jeff from the radio show called brooke and jeffrey in the morning how you doing oh i'm good okay what's up hi sally whole show is here we all want to talk to you about a guy that you went on a date with the other night.

Well, you went on one date with him and then not another date with him. His name is Nick? Yeah. Oh, doesn't sound like a surprise to you at all. I'm surprised that you guys are calling me about him. You should know I'm not responding to him and i'm definitely yeah well well i think he understands that he admits that he messed up by not showing up that night to dinner okay good for him yeah i mean i'd be angry too were you already at the restaurant when he texted you that he wasn't

gonna make it yeah i was already sitting there first of all he didn't going to make it? Yeah, I was already sitting there. First of all, he didn't even call. He texted. First problem right there. Yeah. Second of all, you're already late. You texted me after the fact that you're already late. I'm sitting looking at this restaurant looking like an idiot. And then you text me this ridiculous excuse

about your arms falling asleep and you not being able to drive. Yeah. That was pretty lame. I'd be super mad too. I will say that does happen to me all the time. Your arms go dead and you can't drive?

It's a man problem. But that doesn't mean that Nick feels good about that. He still is very, very, very regretful of how that night played out. So did he tell you that that was a true thing or was that a lie? Because that's an unbelievable story.

I don't know what the truth is. Only Nick knows what the truth of that night is. We're just trying to help him get back in touch with you. He did. I mean, he said he was an idiot for messing up the second date with you and that he had a great time when you guys went to the concert the first day and i think he really saw potential of you two together i mean that's why it's even more annoying because we did have such a great time we even shared a

kiss like i did want to see him again yeah so i'm open to hearing what he has to say but i'm pretty just irritated right that's understandable. We get that. Yeah, and I mean, you have to think about this. We understand how frustrating and disappointing it must have been from your end, but from Nick's end, like, in order for him to organize this second date update, it's a lot of work

to email us, to have to talk to our producers and arrange a time to come on the show and reach out to you. It shows that he really does care about you. I mean, you guys can have him reach out to you. It shows that he really does care about you. I mean, you guys can have him reach out to me. That's fine. But I'm not giving any guarantees to anything. Okay.

That's progress. Well, I can actually do you one better. And instead of having him reach out after, I'll have him reach out right now. If his arms are feeling okay. If he's up for it. Because he is on the other line and he wants to talk to you. So he heard everything I just said? Yeah.

You could have said a lot worse things. I mean, I would have. Unless he fell asleep on his ears and they're not working. Oh no. He's got the tingles again. Wow. Okay. Hi, Sally.

Hey. okay hi Sally hey I'm glad that we're talking that's sweet alright yeah well what do you even want to say to me what do you have to say for yourself well one I want to

say I'm sorry I know I goofed up and like yeah i'm i'm the idiot here so uh this one's on me okay that's a big move i like you sally i think we had a great time and i wouldn't keep pursuing this if it wasn't a genuine feeling i have for you okay nick listen just just stop for a second. Just tell me the truth. What really happened? Well, good question.

There's a compliment. I think she's talking about the dead arms thing. Yeah, he knows, Jeffrey. Yeah, let's start there. Okay. My arms didn't fall asleep that day. So that text's start there. Okay. My arms didn't fall asleep that day. So that text was not accurate. No.

I bet Sally's got such a shocked face on the other line. The truth. Look, I want to pursue this and be honest and I was debating, like, telling you, but if I do get to go out with you again, I don't want to be thinking about, like, what happened and how I do get to go out with you again I don't want

to be thinking about like what happened and how I goofed up I want to just say it in honesty okay Sally can we agree to do that if he tells you the truth will you guarantee you go out on another date with him what that is not what he's saying at all let's just put it down up front if he tells the truth then you give him another date I'll listen to what he said and we'll go from there. Well, Nick, this is your moment to come clean. Now I'm nervous. You should be. Okay.

What happened is I went to go pick up a cable box from my ex's place. And I inadvertently stayed there longer than I should have and it was like things happened and it meant nothing and it was like the very last time and it it didn't feel right going to dinner with you right after and then I'm like you know how sometimes you like when you make a mistake like that and you realize like one i wish i didn't do that you know i really like this other girl sally all i can say is wow yeah who does that what do you mean like who does the x hookup he didn't say anything about hookup yeah he did and they hooked up i'm not an idiot hello yeah i never heard those words okay jeff you can he said he stayed there longer and and that he wanted he said he did stuff you

shouldn't have he said stuff happened what do you think stuff is she's not a moron it's one thing to have a moment of weakness and hook up that's fine we weren't in no committed relationship that's not the issue okay the issue is you knew you were going on a date with me if this would have happened on any other day whatever but you knew you were going to come see me and you still had the thought process to go and hook up with your ex yeah well no i didn't go there to go hook up with her i went there to get a cable box yeah and she went there and the thing happened and here's how i was thinking and again obviously bad move and my mistake but like what i was thinking was like oh well okay i just hooked up with my ex now i'm gonna go out to dinner with her that seemed worse to me you don't

get kudos for that because you knew you were going on a date before you hooked up i mean threw herself at him what is he it doesn't matter i mean i can see her too. Like we said, you should have picked up the cable box the night before. It would have made all the difference. When you stop by your ex's, you know. Exactly. Whenever anybody touches a cable box, the mood just is set. Is there anything he could do, Sally, to, like, get in your good graces again? There's a million other idiots on those dating apps that I can talk to.

I don't need to put up with this. Oh, okay. Of all those other million other idiots on the dating apps, all those million other idiots probably have exes with cable boxes too. And you're just going to end up right back here in the same situation.

Nick actually has gone through this entire process. You know, he's fallen on his sword just for the chance to see you one more time. True. Good for him. Yeah. And let me say this. Just because there's a possibility that I'm going to run into another idiot with a cable box and an ex-girlfriend

doesn't mean that I'm not going to continue to weed them out because I don't want to end up with someone like that. Wow. You're very put together. Sally needs to be a dating coach. I know. That's good, Sally. Impressed. Yeah.

It really didn't work out. No. The way I was hoping. I wouldn't put it 100% on you, Nick. I would put part of it on Brooke and her dumb 100% honesty theory. Oh, my God. I told him not to tell all the details, Jeffrey. It was on him.

Well, I didn't tell all the details. Yeah, let's actually get some of those details. What really happened there? Yeah, Nick. Brooke and't follow the details. Yeah, let's actually get some of those details. What really happened there? Yeah, Nick. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Ugh, we're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists,

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