Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update UPDATE: Bumpin' Carts

Episode Date: May 15, 2025

Today is proof that just because we think a relationship is doomed doesn't mean anything... because one of the most unexpected couples we've had on our show are BACK for a Second Date Update UPDATE!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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For sure. Hey, welcome to Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning and you have found the Second Date Update podcast. We're so happy you're here. And yesterday we do need to do a update on the ball. Yes Because we did put a poll up on a Spotify Based on yesterday's second date update and what was the poll? We said your date has something on their face Do you say something keep it to yourself or put something on your face? Feel better. Yeah. Yeah exactly Do you say something, keep it to yourself, or put something on your face? Make you feel better, you know? Yeah, yeah, exactly. 84% of you said you say something.

Wow. Yeah. Maybe because it would bug me. Yeah. 10% keep it to yourself, and 5% put something on your face. Yeah, see? Rating together, right?

Yeah. I love that. All right, let's get to this update, update. That's, of course, where we get a check-in from a couple that's been on the show before so we are gonna play the full Original second date and then at the very end is when we're gonna hear from them again So stick around to the very end of this one. It starts right now It's the date that we never thought would actually happen. Oh, but against all odds it did thought would actually happen but against all odds it did. Yay!

Whoa! One of our most popular second date calls from the past calendar year gets a surprising update. Oh! Yay! It's just proof that only because we think a relationship is doomed and there's tons and tons of red flags and all the signs are pointing directly to the toilet. Yeah, that doesn't count for anything That's right

True love prevails even when we condemn it in the most unexpected ways You're gonna hear it when we get a second date update update right after this second date update We got an email from a woman who says people in her area aren't really using Bumble or tinder anymore Not even my favorite app clinger where personal space is just a myth Find your fellow co-dependent But she says she's found a more unique way to meet guys and we've heard of these types of movements

before where people are like trying to move away from the apps in favor of other methods so let's talk to her and find out what she did her name is Mandy Mandy welcome to the show hey guys you sound cute and fun and like you did something fun to meet some guys. She said, hey. How did you get that from hey? You did it? You sound perfect for Clinger, Brooke.

So, may I tell us about this guy that you met and how you met him. What's your strategy now? There was this TikTok movement going around and I wanna say it started in Spain and it's where singles meet up at a grocery store. So like you'll have a store and you'll have a time and they usually see a huge turnout

like 60 to 70 people take part in it. At a grocery store? Wait, who organizes it? Like how do you find when the meetup is? I feel like- I'll see you guys at check stand five. Like I'd be the person not invited to the grocery store for some reason. People will just kind of post the store name and time and they'll get reposted and reposted and then people just show up.

I've seen like not exactly this but like I've seen people go on and they'll be like I think this bar would be fun for singles go this Friday night and it's like a popular bar and it goes viral. But we're doing grocery stores instead you can just say yeah exactly But that doesn't make sense like if you're gonna do it you share it well You're like I'm going to watch any video where it says hot singles might be here. I feel like you're into it So a bunch of people go to the grocery store hoping to meet someone right someone right? Go to the meat section because that would be really funny. No, no, I'm thirsty. Mandy tell us how it works.

What happens once you're in the store? Then here's where it gets a little like saucy. So you go and you get a pineapple. Oh, okay. No, no, it's not like that. Oh, then why is it that fruit? You know, I wondered the same thing like you couldn't have chosen a different fruit, but whatever okay You put it upside down which I know

Like ramp it with that other Shut up, I'm loving this idea more and more keep going Are you just the confused one here? Brooke, shut up. I'm loving this idea more and more. Keep going, Mandy. So, then you put it upside down in your cart, and then you go over to where the wine is, and you grab a bottle of wine. Okay, is there a little bowl where you put your keys in? Okay, you got an upside down pineapple and some wine. Yes, and you check out, move around, see if they have the same items in theirs. And if you see somebody who kind of tickles your fancy,

says speak, give them a light bump with your cart. Your cart? Oh. And then the pineapple tips over. So now we're bumping carts, huh? I will say this, this can be subtle because even if you don't see someone at first, you could just wander around.

Looks like they're looking at groceries. How long do you have to wander in there? I have a question though. If you you bump someone do they bump you back like They could you know just oh, sorry, excuse me and walk away Okay, that's so bumping carts is the equivalent of swiping basically Okay, so who did you bump upside down pineapple wine cup to? Right?

It would be a coincidence. You got it Jeff, we're all following. Who was it? That is how I met Mark. Mark. Okay. Okay. And then how do you turn that into a date?

Well, once we bumped, then we exchanged information. We actually got together and we went to a wine bar. And it was really nice. Like we just got to sit down and really talk. And he's really funny. And he's an animal lover. And which is great. That's good. Yeah, exactly. And I mean, he's just he seemed very genuine So did you get the vibe that you guys were gonna do this again? You're gonna see each other. Yeah Yeah, and that's the weirdest thing like he walked me home, you know, we can and then Don done and then done No, and then he was gone. He was he ran away after the kiss

Oh my god, I have wine breath he was he ran away after the kiss Maybe he had to go get another pineapple So have you called him or texted him are you waiting for him um wait no I did I called him And I texted and I've got nothing How long has it been since you and mark went on that date? It's been about two weeks. OK. That's a while. Yeah, long enough that he should have reached out.

Yeah, or something. OK, well, let's call him in, find out what he has to say. We're going to come back and do your second date update. You got a pineapple or something? Do we have to do it? I put in my Instacart order already. So we'll be back. We'll do it right after this.

Hold on. Second date update. You're in the middle of a second date update update And we're gonna find out how the couple is doing right after you hear part two. I Am never gonna shop for groceries the same ever again after this call with me You and me both I am going to be just eyeballing eagle eye who's in here Mandy told us about a strange new dating ritual that apparently started with singles in Spain and now it's come over to the US where people will show up at a grocery store, like a lot of people,

they take all the pineapples, put them in carts upside down and meet in the wine section, then start bumping each other to show interest. And this is, wink, definitely 100% not a swinger's thing. Even though it sounds like it's a literally every person on the planet, except for our listener, Mandy, because she ended up meeting a guy named Mark there. They went out, had a really good time, and this was her first grocery store bump sesh but we never asked what

about mark did you discuss that has he bumped before he said he had a girl had gone out a few times after they had a bump second how successful this is what people like when it's busy and it just sounds like a hundred shopping carts crashing in the corner of one store? Even more fascinating is how confused the produce man must be. Yeah! Like, they wanted my pineapples and now they don't want them but they're back and they're mad. We're missing cards, what's going on? There's clearly a lot of questions that we have.

And she's a rookie, she can't answer them. Yeah, the only person that can is the tropical fruit stud that we're About to call here hopefully we'll squeeze some answers out of him Okay pineapple mark, we'll just call mark until we get more from him, but Let's just dial him see if he picks up first. Here we go. Hello? Hey, is this Mark? Yeah.

Hey, Mark. Not sure if you're ready for this, but you are on a radio show right now. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Yeah, what's up, Mark? Yeah! Boy boy have we been dying to talk to you oh my god seriously so many questions who is this again I'm sorry sorry it's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning I didn't mean to like scare you we're a whole show bro yeah we have a radio show we do a podcast yeah I'm Jeff and you heard everybody else so I'd like to ask. We know who he thinks matters. So we want to ask you a little bit

if it's OK about your dating life. Because we heard that you met a woman the other day at the grocery store named Mandy. Oh my god. She told you about that? Yeah. You don't got to be embarrassed, bro. We think it's really interesting.

Yeah, she told us all about like the TikTok trend of going to the grocery store at the same time. Wow. Yeah, I have a couple of friends that they're doing this trend and they told me you should see what it's about. Yeah. I did that a couple of times. I met Mandy and I don't know, I thought she was cool.

Okay. All right. That's good. That's a good start. Cool enough to take out on an actual date to a wine bar, we heard. Yeah. We went out. It's just towards the end of the date, like a weird thing happened.

I don't know if she told you guys about it. Weirder than the grocery store thing. Well we heard you kiss. Yeah, the kiss. Oh yeah, that's right. Oh, you were supposed to like bump we're than the grocery store thing well. We heard you kiss Was it not a good kiss I walked her home, and we kissed and it was really great Oh, but I take her to her door and she reaches into her purse yeah Hold out an envelope, okay? I get to my car and I open this letter and it says thank you for this lovely date. Oh. And then under it, it

says here is my pre and post date expenses. Huh? Huh? Wait, it's an invoice? Yeah. To what? Oh! Wait. There was the makeup, there was the pedicure, things like that. She needed her toes painted to go to a wine bar? Mm-hmm. Like I thought, I didn't know that this was part of it. That's insane.

Her Venmo was on there, there was a Venmo barcode. She put her Venmo handle on it. I get to drink it to maybe a guy you don't like more than someone where it actually went well. Oh, that's a good point. Like why would you? Like you're wasting my time. Even still, why would you do it? Especially because didn't you pay for the wine bar? You don't like more than someone where it actually went well

Especially cuz didn't you pay for the wine bar? Yeah, well I paid for everything. I thought okay. I'll treat her to a date That's normal. I just didn't know there Or maybe he didn't have enough money to pay for the Venmo thing so What is she having to buy new makeup for the date? Please, please. My belly ran out. Everything does run out at the same time. Don't give me starvation. It's annoying.

We're throwing out a lot of theoreticals. We don't know the true story. The only one that does is Mandy who is on the other line listening to this call right now Mark and wanting to talk to you. Hi Mark. Oh girl. you. Hi Mark. Oh girl. I didn't realize that was what bothered you. So you admit that you invoiced him for everything before and during the date? Well I went out, I got my makeup done, I got my hair done got a new outfit

You shouldn't put that much in for a man just say But I didn't ask you to do any of that you were insistent that you wanted to go out and That you wanted to go with pay But to give me The receipts it was, it was impersonal. I didn't feel right about it. I walked away feeling good thinking, oh cool. I got a cute envelope with a note and said I had a receipt.

What are you doing? I mean, a letter does kind of make it more personal in a way. Does it? She took the time to write it. You know, I've done it before and I've never had any real complaints Maybe in the pineapple community the standards for payment are a little bit different I had to admit though if I went on a date with a girl and it went well I wanted to see her again and she billed me 50 bucks. I'd be like, okay

Oh no She knows I'm financially stable, I can afford it, I can take care of it I don't think she's thinking about that when she asks I just like these are expenses about just being an adult that you just have to incur. Like this is just life expenses that you gotta take on yourself. Mandy, do you- But don't you feel that we're getting a little screwed over by the amount of money we have to pay? It's like kind of a shared thing you both put in your effort and your money.

Mandy, is there a way may be going forward you could see Not doing the invoice or at least giving him a discount If it's gonna make you feel more comfortable if we go out again, you know, we can go Dutch It means she pays for half and he pays for half. Of what though? He pays for one foot, she pays for the other foot. I thought it meant you paid for your own crap. Like when the bill comes you split it. Oh, okay. That's not how modern pineapple dating works, Brooke.

Get up with the times. Mark, it sounds like she's trying to be reasonable with you. Offering a pretty significant discount on the rates that you have to pay, so... I would give her another chance This is like when you tell a company you're gonna cancel and they give you that last offer exactly Is it too late to go Dutch on the first bill or we just talking about the second bill? You know, we're not in charge of the entire financial landscape All we're in charge of is paying for the date that you go on

Because we will offer to fund it for you mark if you'll see Mandy one more time If you're willing to talk about Splitting things down the line down the middle between you and I in the future Then I don't see a reason not to Yes spreadsheets Excel you need to keep receipts mark, Excel, you need to keep your seats, Mark. If you get a haircut, you gotta remember. See how many pumps the foundation she's using? Gotta count numbers.

This is some sexy talk that we're having on the show right now. But Mark, is that a yes from you? That's a yes from me. Yes, Mandy. That is shocking. Did not see that coming, but congratulations Mandy, you got yourself another date. Well, thank you guys very much. Mark, once you get Mumi the house for the first date, we can schedule a second date. Oh, wow.

Mandy, I thought you were nuts, but now I'm thinking I want you to do my financial. I mean seriously. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Honestly, I'm not sure anybody here expected to get an update from these two. No, no, not at all. Here we are. Mark and Mandy are back on to give us an update update on their situation. And the last time that we spoke to you guys, there was a question of will Mark be responsible

for paying half of the pre date stuff? What happened there? So he did actually then know me for his half of the pre-date stuff. What happened there? So he did actually Venmo me for his half. Hey, what a gentleman. Sweet guy. And we kept dating over the next few months, and he has paid like a gentleman should for my pre-date expenses.

Wait, for over two months he's been doing this? Yeah, for the last few months he's been doing it. Wow. Oh, of course. Mark, are you there? I kind of hear you in the background. He's been doing this yeah, yeah the last few months. He's been doing it wow Mark are you there? I kind of hear you in the background. Yes. Yes. I'm here guys. Hi That's good to hear from you mark. Has it been worth the cost. Oh, yeah, no she's totally worth it. Yes Okay, but he has told me she has some concerns Certain dates are more expensive than others. And since it wasn't consistent, I did offer to send him an itemized bill, but he really

he wasn't happy with that either. So Okay, well, so there's still a little bit of tension it sounds like with the financials in your relationship. Were you guys able to work through that? Well, so she and I talked it out. She offered me a monthly subscription package. What?

To your old girlfriend? So I pay a flat rate of $89.99 a month to cover all of her predates. Oh. That sounds like an introductory rate. Be careful. It's six months. Wow.

Cheap. Yeah. You know, as long as the Venmo payment gets there by the third of the month, I do give him a two day grace period before he incurs interest. Well, you know what?

Look, if you guys are happy, then that's great. I know every relationship works differently. Who are we to judge how other people are able to find happiness in their life? So that's awesome. Thank you. I'm very, very happy with Mark. Make sure you lock him into an annual no cancellation policy, too.

Oh, yeah. You got smart Alexis. Get him on a five-year deal so he can't go anywhere. You said romance is dead. This is just beautiful. Glad you guys are doing well. Make sure, if you want, follow us on YouTube at Brooke and Jeffrey. You can find all of our second-aid updates right there.

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