Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update UPDATE: Danica the Crier

Episode Date: July 22, 2015

Today, we got an UPDATE from one of our most memorable Second Date Updaters ever, Danica...the girl who could not stop crying. She did a Second Date Update a few months back with a guy named Mike. We actually get a SPECIAL UPDATE (after the call) on where they are today.Listen to the WHOLE thing below... OR....If you JUST want to hear the new update from Danica & Mike, fast forward to 19:16...See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Go to InTheLoopSingles.com today. How many second date updates have we done? Hundreds? Oh my god, thousands. It's like millions. A lot of second date updates. And whenever we're out like doing an event or at a comedy show or something like that people always ask me they go hey what happened to so and so yeah do you ever get an update on this person you guys should do a third date update you know all the time people always want to know what happens with the people in the second date updates a lot of times people break up or go their separate ways sometimes they do keep in touch with us and let us know what's

going on. But I was very happy to hear from a couple recently. You may remember their names Danica and Mike. Oh yeah, tell me their story again. I kind of forget. They were on about four months ago. It was a really popular second date update. Danica was the young lady who was very emotional and was crying during the whole thing. Oh yeah.

Poor girl. Yeah, like she showed up to her date a little late and just was like freaking out, just crying and then stopped. Well, a lot of our listeners are familiar with this one, but if you're not, we're going to play it again for you because at the end of it, we actually have an update from Danica and Mike. We do? We don't do this often.

Wow. But we've finally been in contact with some people and we do have an update on their situation. It's your second date update right now. Danica is on the phone with us today. She wants to do a second date update to a guy named Mike. Apparently they met online and went out and she's very upset that she's not getting a call back. Danica, how are you? I'm, you know, I'm all right.

All right. Are you okay? Well, I mean, I just feel like, you know, I feel like I screwed up a little bit on this one. So, you know, I don't want to cry. I just, I feel really, you know, I feel pretty emotional. And I just feel like it was my fault. Oh, sweetheart. Oh, calm down. Are you nervous to be doing the second date update right now?

Is that part of the reason that you're emotional? Or are you this emotional about the date that you went on? It's like everything. I mean, it's obviously not trying to call and be all emotional on the radio. I just, you know, when I start, I just, you know, sometimes I can't stop. Yeah. Take a few breaths. We're here to help you out.

All right? Oh, gosh. So tell us about the date. Well, that's the thing. I was supposed to meet him for dinner, and my dog, my dog, Monkey, I had to walk her before I left, and she wouldn't go to the bathroom. You know, like, she wouldn't go. And I couldn't leave because she'll go in the house.

So I ended up being five minutes late. Five minutes late? That's not even bad. It shouldn't be a big deal to be five minutes late. Did something happen to your dog? No, my dog is like, just, she's fine. She's fine. I thought maybe you were upset because something happened to your dog.

I'm just thinking that, like, you know, I should have been there, and I should have been on time, and I just, you know, I think it shows, like, poor. Hey, but you were. I'd like to be tardy. Yeah, but you were. I'd like to be tardy. Yeah, but you were five minutes late, though, Danica. It's not the end of the world. That is so bad, though, you know? All right. Hey, Danica, five minutes is not really a big deal.

15, 20, 30 minutes late, that kind of gets annoying. Five minutes late, trust me, I doubt he was really that upset about it. Well, I mean, five minutes minutes is fine for a normal date but like the way to fit like the one you know the jury is the one you think is your dream man did you think this guy was your dream man I met him online and he's like everything that I want okay wait hold on did you't, I'm not like this. I'm not like this. Okay, take a deep breath.

Again, you're going to be okay, Danica. Did you talk to him for a long time before your guys' first date? Well, I mean, obviously, we talked a couple times, which is, his profile is like everything. I'm sorry to laugh. Yeah, keep it down, Jose. Sorry, dude. It's okay. I mean, I know it's kind of funny to some people, but it's just kind of how I react.

Well, it's not necessarily laughing at you crying about the situation. It's more it was five minutes late. Yeah. And for most people, they would not get that worked up. If that's how you express yourself, that's how you express yourself. I guess so. Did you, were you this, were you this visibly upset when you actually met him? Well, I was, you know, yeah.

I mean, I was driving and, you know, of course I was like, you know, getting emotional in the car and I was mad at my dog, you know, and like, that's hard. And then I got to the restaurant and, you know, I realized I didn't even comb my hair or my mascara was everywhere. And so I was just trying to be, you know, I tried to play it off. So it was obvious that you had been crying. Yeah. I mean, yeah. I use myself in the bathroom to like go like get it together you know yeah and i came out and i sort of just lost it again you know i mean i just think it was so he was so sweet and i started telling him about monkey and it was what did he do when you started crying he's like looked really surprised he's a sensitive person so sure he was upset for me but he was

like being strong so you guys continued the date after you were crying about your dog yeah you know i mean i got he once i told him what had happened with monkey and you know it made me feel better we had eaten and and the date was sort of over anyway. Okay. How did it end with him? He gave me a hug, like a really super loving hug. He just made me feel better, and I said, maybe can I get a do-over? This isn't me.

This isn't how I am. And I texted him, like, a bunch of times. You know, not that many, but, you know, like, enough that I probably thought I would hear back from him by now. So I don't understand why he wouldn't let me just have a do-over. Yeah, but Danica, if I went out on a date with you like that and you started bawling on the date,

it would probably freak me out yeah either that i would start crying too and then we just be a mess just the both of us at the table well you know i mean sometimes i get emotional and that's just like who i am but you know i think that you like i mean i don't love him but i mean i like this guy a lot whoa i'm worried about you danica because this is just the part where we find out what happened on the date, and you haven't even really been able to keep it together. I'm totally getting it together now. Listen, I totally am all right right now.

Okay. I don't know that. We'll play a song. Do we have to? Come back. Call him and get your second date update, all right? Okay. I need you to be strong when we come back okay i am i'm totally gonna i'm totally gonna like wash my face and like get it together

okay okay because if you cry twice to him i guarantee that's gonna scare him off i'll tell you what i'm not gonna cry even if i get a little shaky i'll hold the phone away from my mouth no one can hear if at any moment you just hang up the phone, I'll pretend like the connection dropped out. If you want to cry for a bit, and then I'll get you back on the phone after, okay? Okay. Alright, just hang on. I can do this. I can do this. Okay, hold on.

Remember, before we play the next part of today's second date update, stick around, because we're actually going to talk to Danica and Mike again right afterwards. Apparently, they have an update for us on what happened since we recorded this a few months ago. But first, let's hear part two of their Second Date Update. Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the morning.

Second Date Update. You know, normally during a Second Date Update, it's the second part of the phone call when we get the couple on the phone together and they talk that tears come out. It's already happened a lot. And I'm actually hesitant to do today's second date update because I don't know if Danica, who is on the phone with us right now, can handle it. Danica, are you doing all right? Yeah, I'm, you know, keeping it. I'm going to try and keep it together, yeah. Okay, yeah, you definitely need to.

If you're just tuning in, Danica wants to call Mike. They met online, went out for a date. She was five minutes late for the date, but was very emotional about it. She was crying on the way to the date. When she got there, she tried to clean herself up, and then once she actually sat down with the guy, she lost it again and ended up crying during the date. And she isn't getting a call back.

And I'm assuming, I don't know yet, but I'm guessing that's the reason why, Danica. It would be very weird for me to go out with a girl and have her cry on a first date. I know. I mean, I know it seems weird, but that's why I'm going to apologize to him and tell him I'm a normal person, you know? Can I make one suggestion? Because I'm a person, I cry at every emotion. If you start to get emotional, pinch yourself.

That's my trick. Because it, like, helps you get out of your mindset of going down that path. And then it hurts because you pinch yourself and you cry more because of the pain. Ow! Yeah. Why did you pinch me?

I'm willing to try anything, to be honest. I will do it. Do you feel strong right now do you feel like you can do it I do I took some deep breaths washed my face okay

I'm gonna dial the phone right now get him on the phone and get your second date update okay okay you got this okay

hello hi can I speak to Mike please Hello? Hi, can I speak to Mike, please? This is Mike. Mike, how you doing? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. I'm sorry, where are you calling from? Brook and Jubal in the Morning, the radio show. Okay. Did I win something? No, you didn't.

I'm calling you because we recently got an email from somebody who went out on a date with you. Uh, okay. And she's been trying to get a second date, but you haven't been returning any of her phone calls or text messages. So she asked if I could get you on the phone and find out why. Seriously? Mm-hmm. Her name is Danica, and I'm going to take a wild guess and say that you remember this date. Yes, I do.

So she emailed you to call me. Yeah, it's a segment we do on our show called The Second Date Update. That's a little awkward, but okay. What did you think of Danica, first off? I mean, Danica is a really sweet individual. I mean, she has a really, really great heart. I would just say that she is a very highly emotional person. We've talked to her about your date and it was obvious from our conversation that she's very emotional. Oh, okay. Right. So then you got a little bit of that. Um, I mean,

I'm, I'm a sensitive guy and, um, I, you know, I'm, I'm a Pisces, and I'm a Pisces. I pick up on people's vibes immediately. So I get it, but I mean, it was... I've never experienced anything like that date ever in my life. She told us about it, and now she was five minutes late, and she was very upset about that, and she had been crying before. Oh my God. I thought, yeah, she ran in the restaurant and had no idea what was going on. She had mascara down her face, and she was telling me about her dog named Monkey.

And she literally, like, started crying hardcore at the table. At first, did you think the dog died or something? No, that's exactly what I thought. So I'm in shock, A, because of the way she's reacting to it, but then she was so honestly upset that it was making me upset. And I felt so bad for her, but I didn't know what to do. So she's freaking balling, and I'm sitting here like I'm, you know, she kind of got me teary-eyed, and, you know,

and here we're like a mess sitting in the restaurant, like everybody's staring at us. Oh, my gosh. Wow. Yeah, that would be awkward. Oh, man. That would definitely be awkward. Yeah, it was the most awkward experience I've ever had in my life.

And I feel bad for her. I mean, she's got a great heart. Yeah, it sounds like she's a very sensitive person. I don't know what I would do if I was in your shoes. I'm a sucker when girls cry. Why do you think I can't ever break up with girls? Because they always like to cry as soon as you say, I don't want to be with you.

And I'm like, all right, well, so I don't know what I would do if I was in your shoes. Yeah, you know, and finally when we left, I mean, I was pretty much in, like, a really weird mood afterwards. I mean, when someone is, like, deeply, deeply emotional for, like, an hour, like, I was kind of a wreck, quite frankly. I would have felt emotionally spent after that, too. I mean, yeah, that's

the right word to use, totally spent. All because she was five minutes late to your date. Because she was late and because, yeah, because she couldn't get her dog to use the bathroom or something. That's the craziest part. Mike, I have to tell you this right now. Danica is actually on the phone listening.

Are you serious? Yeah, I am to tell you this right now. Danica is actually on the phone listening. Are you serious? Yeah, I am. Hi, Mike. I'm so... First, I just want to say, listening to you, the way that you just told our story was so sweet. And you're so... that you just told our story was so sweet. And you're such a nice guy. And I don't know what to say.

I'm so embarrassed. Why are you crying now, Danica? You're going to get me choked up here. Why are you crying? Because I'm just trying to, like, you know, I'm actually trying not to cry. And that's, like, making me cry more. Oh, God. Danica.

Because, like, I really care about you. And I really thought that, like, you know, after all we talked about online, you know, I just knew, like, you're such a good person. And then I came and I ruined everything. And I'm totally a terrible... No, no, no, no, no. Stop, stop, stop, stop. You're not a terrible person.

You didn't ruin anything, okay? I am sorry that I couldn't deal with the situation properly. I apologize. But, you know, it's like we talked so many times and was like, you know, building up towards the date, and then I show up, and I'm late, and that's so inconsiderate, and I felt so stupid.

No, no, no, no, no, no. It's okay. It's okay. You were late. I mean, it's... That happens. It's not... It doesn't happen. It doesn't happen to me. Oh, my gosh, honey. No, no, no, no.

Don't cry. Come on, Bianca. Don't. I'm trying not to. I'm trying not to. I swear. I just want to... I just want to say that... And I know you've been avoiding my calls and my texts, and I... And I understand. I have, and calls and my texts, and I understand. I have, and I'm sorry.

Okay? I'm sorry about that. No, why would you do that? Come on, now. I mean, look, you know, I'm an emotional guy, too. I mean, how am I supposed to, how are we supposed to function as a as a normal couple if i'm so sensitive and you and and and you're you know you're connected to your heart right i mean how are we supposed to balance that we'd be a walking mess you know it's like a basket case of like emotions running around the street

are you saying you're concerned mike that her being so emotional and you being so emotional, all you guys are going to do is sit around and cry together? I mean, you know, I'm not saying that I'm going to sit around and cry, but I mean, you know, I'm saying that I'm going to feed into her feelings, and I'm going to want to, you know, nurture that. But I just feel like that's focused, that's kind of the energy is too focused on one thing you know i don't want it to be a negative situation i don't think it's negative though i mean i don't think it's negative like i think that you were like such a good like you

showed me like what a good guy you were like just you know sit there and and you were so sweet to me and so comforting, and, like, that's exactly the kind of guy I need. Hey, hey, hey, look, you are sweet, okay? And that's why I was there. It's just, how are we supposed to function if we can't even have a conversation without you crying, you know? Mike, would you be interested in trying to have a conversation with no tears with Danica? I mean, if that's possible. I can see if it's possible and ask you if you'd like to go out with Danica again.

I'll pay for a second date for you guys. It's possible, I swear. What do you think, Danica? Do you think we can go no tears this time? I promise. Like, I am like, I'm all cried out, you know? We can be happy and we don't have to be. And if I'm late or you're late, it's going to be okay?

Well, I'm not going to be late. Oh, my gosh. And here's the thing. Here's the thing that you don't even know is that when I'm happy, like, I'm so happy. Don't display you have major mood swings. Don't do that. I go from super happy to tears in a matter of seconds. All right.

Well, Mike, so you'll go out with Danica again? Let's give it another try. All right. Awesome. It's give it another try. All right. Awesome. It's going to be amazing. It already is. I can't believe it's happening, Danica. You may have found, you're right, your dream man, all right?

I told you. I told you, Brooke. This is so awesome. Don't screw it up, okay? No more tears. No. No more tears. I'm totally going to keep it together.

Okay. Congratulations, Danica. You got your second date. Oh, my God. Thank you so much, you guys. You're welcome. Oh, my God. I'm so excited.

Mike, thank you very much. I look forward to hearing back from you guys after you go out. Okay, yeah. We'll keep you updated. Today's second date update brought to you by Xanax. Broken Jubal in the morning. Today's second date update brought to you by Xanax. You just heard one of the most popular second date updates that we've ever done on this show with Danica and Mike,

who miraculously agreed to see each other one more time even after Danica would not stop crying. She's an emotional girl. It's okay. It's been a few months since we recorded that call, and we have them both actually on the phone right now because people have been asking for this for us to do updates on the second date updates. So, hey, guys, how are you doing? Hi.

Hi, how's it going? Pretty good. Thanks for coming on the show. So, first question I have for Danica is, last time we talked to you, you were having trouble holding it together. Very emotional. How are your emotions right now? Are you going to be okay?

I know. I'm an emotional person, but I mean, I couldn't be happier right now, so I feel pretty good. I'm always curious when people go out on a date after they've done a second date update with us, is it a more comfortable situation going into it, or was it more pressure because your whole story had been told to everybody and now it's kind of uncomfortable? I think he kind of gave us something to go from and talk about and laugh at, I guess. I think I was definitely more nervous.

Really? Yeah. I don't know why. I just, I don't know. Because you heard the way that she was crying on the phone. I don't know if I should have agreed to a second date here. You know, I have to say, though, I'm so thankful because if it wasn't for you guys, I don't know that we would have been where we are now, you know?

Right. So, Danica, you wrote in saying that you wanted to update our listeners on something. Yes. Okay. So, well, I mean, we're moving in together. Shut up! Really? That is so cute.

Awesome. moving in together. Shut up! Really? That is so cute! Awesome! I'm so excited and everything has really just, I don't know, it's moved kind of quickly, but I feel like we just get each other and I can't wait, you know. He's my best friend and he's just everything that I've ever needed or wanted in a

boyfriend. See, it's a second date update that actually worked out, you know? That's so cool. You guys really helped. I really, really did help the situation, I think. That's good. That sounds so happy. You know, Mike, you told our producer off-air that there's an update that Danica doesn't

know about that you wanted to share. Yes, I did. What? He's like, we're breaking up. Yeah. How about that? Oh, my God. There's somebody else. it's been great however

that's not funny though really don't cry danica i'm just joking you guys are obviously very happy with each other but apparently you told our producer producer boys that you had something that you wanted to tell us about so i feel like it's only appropriate and we would have never had a second chance without you guys and i mean i'm so excited that we're moving together i'm so excited to be with you and i think that this is really the first time that i felt so honestly connected to someone And I absolutely love you. And you would make me the happiest man if you would marry me. What? Oh, my God. Are you?

I'm so serious right now. Oh, my God. Are you? She's crying. There it goes. She's crying. Everybody goes she's crying i'm sorry i'm doing this on the air but i i i just feel like it's appropriate and danica i've never been happier oh my, I love you so much. Yeah, of course. She said yes! Yes. Oh my god.

Congratulations. Danica, are you alright? I can't talk. I can't think. You can take a couple minutes to breathe, Danica. That's fine. Congratulations, though. Holy crap. So is that a yes, Danica? Yes. Yes, yes.

I was going to say, oh, my mom. Something about her mom. I'm going to come over to your work as soon as we get off the phone. I'm sorry to do this on the air. Help me. I was going to say, do you have a ring and all that stuff? Did you already get that all taken care of? Yes, I'm going to bring it to her immediately oh this is so awesome congratulations you guys thank you for the update wow oh thank you guys i mean i feel like we should

invite you to the wedding yeah invite us i'm down I'm down to go. I love Jubal's wedding. Jubal actually cries at every wedding he goes to. So he'll be right there with you, Danica. Don't worry. Hey, Danica, I feel like your wedding should actually be sponsored

by Kleenex. Maybe we can figure that out. Moving 92.5. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and

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