Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: We Built This Thing Together

Episode Date: June 5, 2024

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night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smashed it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Second date update. Sometimes in the dating world, you realize the ideal person that you have built up in your mind isn't necessarily the ideal person for you in real life. Oh, yes. Rip that right out of Brooke's wedding vows to her husband. What?

Jeff! That could be the case for our listener Rob today. That is so rude. Well, you said him. Who says he met a different type of woman than the one he would normally go for. And he described her in the email as someone who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, is 100% vegan, and must be in bed every night by 8.45pm.

Dang! That's a disciplined woman. How did you let this party animal slip through your fingers? Yeah, I don't know. I just found it endearing. I thought she was kind of wholesome and not really the type of girl that I would normally go for.

It's interesting because it could be wholesome or it could be that she's done all those things so much that she can't do them anymore. You know what I mean? I didn't consider that on the party life. Okay. Well, what's her name? Her name's Maggie. Maggie.

How'd you meet her? We met online, but I just thought her pictures were so natural. She was very naturally beautiful. Oh, that's sweet. The pictures weren't Photoshopped, and she wasn't out at the club. It was just kind of pictures of her hanging out with her friends, and I just thought it was nice. Or it was such good Photoshop you didn't notice.

Can I ask, are you any of the things she is? Like dry, you know, no smoking, vegan? No, not at all. Okay. Okay. Yeah, I definitely drink and I definitely eat a lot of meat. It could be an opposites attract sort of situation

where you like mesh together over time. You can smoke cigars and eat bacon. I mean, it could be the reason she's not calling him back. Not to like rush to judge. Well, what'd you guys do when you guys went out? Well, it was weird. We went on two dates back to back over a weekend.

Well, that makes sense because she has to be in bed by 845. So there's not very much time for that first one. Wait, how did that work? Well, so she doesn't like to drink. So we got ramen and then we went and got ice cream. Oh, yeah. You took the vegan to ice cream? Well, I learned that they actually have vegan ice cream now.

Oh, no, Jeff. Oh, cool. So you checked it. Impossible ice cream, Jeff. I mean, ew to me, but for her, that's great. Yeah. Like coconut milk ice cream. Oh, yeah.

Okay. Sounds great. Sure. Yeah, and it actually tasted pretty good. Oh. You even shared a spoon. Nice. She was probably impressed that you put some effort in to find a place that could fit her.

So how did date number one end? So there was no kiss at the end, but it was like a long hug. And then she actually suggested that we go out again the next day. Oh, wow. Okay. That's good that she suggested it. Yeah, no kidding. So what'd you do the next day?

So the next day, I was like, you get to pick where we want to go. So we went to a vegan restaurant. Cool. Ooh, okay. Oh, my God. I'm not vegan, but one of my favorite places to eat is a vegan restaurant in my neighborhood. It can be scary. Like, I'm a foodie, and even someone going to a vegan restaurant, it's kind of intimidating.

Well, maybe it's like the ice cream shop where they have the one vegan option for the people. They have one meat plate for the meat eaters. That's not usually how the vegan restaurant works. Off menu, we have a really bloody stage. How was it? They had a bunch of cauliflower stuff. Yeah, that's popular.

It was okay. I didn't mind it. They have buffalo and cauliflower bites. How was the connection between you two? I mean, after that date, we definitely kissed. Okay. Yeah, your first two dates sound like they went great. So what's happened since then?

Well, so then after the date, she starts texting me, and it's a lot of texts. And, like, it's texts like, I can't wait to see you. There's a lot of love gifs and memes about love and she was really accentuating the love aspect of everything and you know, it was a little bit much. I don't get

why he's on with us if it was freaking you out. Is she now not calling you back? Yeah, well, what happened was she sent me a Spotify song. It's a song by Starship called We Built This Thing Together. I don't know if you guys a Spotify song. It's a song by Starship called We Built This Thing Together. I don't know if you guys know that song. Yeah.

We built this thing together. Nothing lasts forever. Nothing's gonna stop us now. The old guy in the room. That's a good song. I know that song. Everyone knows that song. Is she trying to force a couple song already?

Those usually happen more organically. Oh, yeah, like, what have we built? We were on two dates. Yeah. Wait, did you say that to her? Well, I said, oh, that's a nice song. I'm not really into the song, though. I'm not really a big fan of it.

And that totally changed things for her. Yeah, you slammed her taste in music. No, she was trying to convey something. It's like when I used to make mix CDs and put in secret songs for different dudes I liked and be like, yeah, I know that one hit. You're right. And we'd be like, dude, once she gets

a song for her, I profess my love. So I'm hoping it goes okay. You basically turned her down by not liking the song. Which is good, honestly. Maybe she needed to get back to reality. But you said that changed things between you two. Yeah, I mean, I wasn't trying to put her down by not liking the song. Which is good, honestly. Maybe she needed to get pushed back to reality a little. But you said that changed things between you two. Yeah, I mean, I wasn't trying to put her down. I was just a little confused by it.

Yeah. Okay. Yeah, you were being honest. So what do you want our help with? Do you want another date or do you not? So, we had two really great dates together, and the only thing that was weird was when we were apart. Okay. I know what you mean. I've been in situations where like so maybe we can so you want to live together yeah let's

call and see if she's willing to spend 24 hours a day with you from now until forever till you both die yeah i just want to see where she's at and i hope i didn't offend her and i just want you to check for me i see i see yeah maybe if she knows how you feel, she can lay off the love gifts and the songs. Yeah, I don't know how to tell her that politely. If she is that kind of person, I don't necessarily want to change her, you know? We'll let Brooke tell her to cut that crap out.

We'll do the second date update for you right after this. Hold on. Second date update. Man, we're back to the 1980s again. Is this a song? The Decade of Love. Wow.

16 Candles. Dirty Dancing. Wow. Ghost. All the best love movies. Okay. I can honestly say that we built this thing together. Nothing lasts forever.

Why are we back to the 80s? Nothing is going to stop us now. Yeah, that's a song. that we built this thing together. Nothing lasts forever. Nothing's going to stop us now. Yeah, that's a song. Unless Maggie doesn't answer the phone, then that would kind of stop us and we'd be screwed. Are you all forgetting it's a song that she sent to him? It's from the 80s? This is the song from the 1980s that kind of soured the relationship.

After Rob went on back-to-back dates with Maggie, both of which went great, but this Spotify song ruined it because Rob said, eh, I'm not really a fan. Yeah. I mean, it's pretty cheesy. But Brooke had a good point. He was trying to say, I don't really like this song.

Maybe Maggie took it as he doesn't like my love. He's rejecting our relationship. I'm sure. That's how I would take it. Yeah love. He's rejecting our relationship. I'm sure. That's how I would take it. I'm sure. But that's not the case. That's why Rob has reached out to us, hoping we can re-spark this, get this going again,

maybe do a little ghost love scene situation. Right, Rob? That's right. Pottery class, no alcohol, very vegan. That is. They can do it. That would be perfect. That's what we should offer to send them to. Yeah, pottery.

If we can get her on the phone. I like it. Shirtless, though, and you have to be behind her back. Are you wanting to apologize to her for your response? Yeah, I mean, the way you put it, I guess I kind of see it like I was being a little rude. So, yeah, I would like to apologize. Okay, cool. Well, we don't know for sure if she took it that way.

That's just Brooke's opinion, and you know how valuable that is. That's why you had to throw a dig in there. I'm just saying, we don't know for sure if she took it that way. That's just Brooke's opinion. And you know how valuable that is. That's why you had to throw a dig in there. I'm just saying, we don't know. That's all I'm saying. That's totally what you're saying. Let's find out once and for all. I'm going to call her right now. Here we go.

Hello? Hi, is this Maggie? uh yes this is she um who is this oh okay we gotcha don't yell we gotcha sorry i mean i'm i'm happy that you answered is what i meant to say because we're a radio show we're called brooke and jeff in the morning, and we've been dying to talk to you. Okay. For what? I mean, why? What's going on? Because we're doing a segment here called a second date update,

and it's where we try and help out our listeners if they've kind of stalled out in their dating life with somebody. We're trying to help somebody named Rob. Oh, yes, Rob. Okay. I see. Oh, my God.. Okay, I see. Oh, my God.

Rob said you had two great dates together. Yeah. Back-to-back dates in one weekend. Yeah. He actually told us that he felt really good about it. How did you feel? I felt really good about it, too. I felt like we had this instant connection and potential to really go somewhere.

I was really, really excited to keep things going with him. That's so sweet. That's good. Okay. Was there something that made that change? Because it does sound like you're talking in past tense. Well, I mean, I'm the type of person who wants a guy who's going to be my Prince Charming and just come in and ride in on the horse and profess his love to me

and just go all out. And then we ride off into the sunset together, you know? You like grand romantic gestures. That's what you like. Yes, exactly. That's totally fair. It could be a lot, though, for some guys to process that

after just one weekend hanging out, you know? And not a lot of guys are romantic at all. Well, they should be. And I made that very clear on my profile. Oh, really? It's on your profile. What did you say on your profile? I want someone who's sweet.

So if you're wanting to court me, I want you to send me messages and let me know that you appreciate me because that's my, my love language is affirmations, words of affirmation. So I love giving those out and I want that back in return. Got it. Okay. And you feel like Rob was not fulfilling those needs for you. Correct. It especially came down to where, you know, I sent him what i felt was our first like love song or potential first dance and i just envision us already there you know so that would be a lot for anyone so we did hear about that text and the song being sent to him honestly here is what i worry about for you maggie along the way in your life you've come up with this idea for a fairy tale romance in your mind. Okay, Jeff put on that therapy hat right now.

I see. It's totally okay to have these ideals in your head, but you have to be able to adjust to other people. Because no one is going to match up perfectly with everything that you've set out for yourself. Well, she was already adjusting. I mean, she was already going out with somebody who She was already adjusting. She was already going out with somebody who wasn't a vegan. She was already going out with somebody who drinks when she doesn't drink. But she said the problem was he didn't like one song.

No, she said the problem was he wasn't romantic, Jeff. But the thing is, that's the conversation. You have to go off of the two great dates that you guys had together. That is not easy to do in the modern dating world. We never hear about that. That's special and that's something that you should actually hold on to.

Not that he didn't like a song that you texted him one time. Do you know what I mean? I can see. I mean, it was just my favorite song and I just we were getting along so well. You can't hear it. I think Jeff's playing it right now.

It's too easy for people to just ghost right now on these dating apps over one dumb little thing. And then it gets awkward between you two. You have to remember, two great first dates. Hold on to that. Cherish that. And work on it. You need to talk to each other about that thing. What did you drink this morning?

Brooke, I don't need your love hate right now. I'm trying to build a love tower. And's why i know that's why i need to tell you maggie rob is on the phone right now you like a grand romantic gesture here it is he is waiting to talk hey hey maggie how you doing wow hi. Hi, Rob. I'm good. How are you? Yeah. Good. I wanted to apologize for blowing off your song.

I didn't realize that it meant so much to you. But I hear what you're saying about being more romantic. We've only been on two dates. So maybe I need a little bit of a buildup, take my time a little bit. Okay. Rob's a little bit more of a slow burner, but he's willing to burn a little bit faster for you. Well, I mean, I do appreciate that. And I felt like I was very transparent on my profile.

I can't change who I am, and I do want someone who's going to be more forthcoming and romantic. You can still have that. I got to say, Maggie, real quick, just so you know, when he was on the phone with Only Us, he specifically said, I don't want to change who she is. Oh, that's sweet.

He did. So you hear that? She doesn't have to change. Rob has to change. That is so sweet. I think that's what Jeff wanted, actually. Okay. I think that's how life works.

She's just looking for some more affirmations that the connection is there. Here's an opportunity for you to say that to her right now on the radio on the grand stage. Are we going to have a romantic moment? I don't want to lie. The other thing is I don't know if I love you yet, but I can see that in our future. Definitely.

The best we're going to get, guys. There it is. He put his heart out on the floor for you. That's almost like a thank you after someone drops I love you for the first time. He's trying, though. Come on. Rob, I know you might not be inherently romantic, but I would appreciate if you could try a little more.

Brooke's been saying that same thing to her husband for the last 10 years. Try a little more. Brooke's been saying that same thing to her husband for the last 10 years. Try a little harder? Absolutely. I think every woman has said it in any relationship they've ever been in. Rob, if you could sing me kind of a love song, what would it be? It'd be that song, Maggie, by Rod Stewart.

Oh, my mom loves that song. Wake up, Maggie, I think I got something to say. That's just her name, right? Yeah. I think that's after Maggie leaves him. On a one-night stand? Yeah. Super romantic, though.

Guys, I'm trying, all right? I don't know. We just actually got Rod Stewart canceled. What's amazing is he's not scared away right now. I mean, that is honestly... I don't know if you're going to find that. We'd like to offer to send you guys out one more time, and we would pay

for it. Absolutely. Yeah, let's do it. That would be great. Awesome. It's true what they say. What do they say, Jeff? You can build this love together. Some things do last forever

Nothing's gonna stop us now Except we're running out of time To do the second date update So we gotta stop it Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning The word of the day is Compromise Say it with me

Compromise I'm just like still like You came across as like love doctor during that, Jeffrey. Yeah. Yeah. It was weird. It was just a side of you that we don't get to see very often. It was like a free therapy session. Yeah.

Yeah. You were really brutal for them this time, and I like that. Do I know all the answers to unlock the true meaning of love? Yes, I do. That's nice. But I keep those to myself for personal selfish reasons. The show wouldn't be as fun if you told everyone. We wouldn't have any more

second dates. The world would be in love. Jeff just gave everyone the answers. I do feel like modern dating has made it way too easy to completely write people off for saying one wrong thing or not replying back to a text fast enough. She's literally me.

That whole time, I was like, yeah, there's like three girls I ghosted this last week. Because they didn't reply fast enough. I'm just saying, give someone a chance, especially if you have that rare in-person connection. That's worth holding on to. For at least one more date. Compromise!

Sure. Speaking of giving people a chance, give our second date podcast a chance. Wherever you get yours, at Brooke and Jeffrey. And have a blessed day. Okay. There's the therapist guy. I like this.

No. Fine. Have a fine day. Whatever. We don't care. That was like two handmaid's tales or something at the end. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Ugh.

We're so done with new year, new you this year. It's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini is because you know, you always like them more of you dating with intention because you know what you want.

And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year. And find them on Bumble. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late-night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines,

exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Emi Olea, host of the podcast Crumbs. For years, I had to rely on other people to tell me my story. And what I heard wasn't good.

You really f***ed last night. It felt like I lived most of my life in a blackout. I was trapped in addiction. You had to grab the lamp and smash it against the walls. And then I decided I wanted to tell my own story. Listen to Crumbs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.