Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: You Light Up My Love Lamp

Episode Date: February 12, 2024

The listener on the phone today wasn’t afraid to show off his sensitive side on his date, but the way he did it sent up some red flags in studio! Hear what happened in your Second Date podcast!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble.

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Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025.

I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards' Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from. Second date update. How do we feel about people bringing gifts for the first date? It depends.

Is there an inside joke or are you talking about just a generic friend? I don't know. I have friends who love it. I actually went out with a dentist once who tried to gift me a bmw on the first date i told you they were creepy but i said ew no wait wait wait wait are you talking about cars yeah it was only a three series though and the leather seats weren't even in the right color oh mama didn't raise no fool i know my worth okay and i dismissed them right afterwards are you driving a kia like i am right now that's just one of the cars that i'm driving oh i think he is okay to choose which car on which day but from the email we received i heard gifts were exchanged on this first date

which is a little bit unique and so let's talk to the guy enrique welcome to the show hey what's happening guys thanks for having me i was thinking about enrique glacius i wasn't actually i was just Let's talk to the guy, Enrique. Welcome to the show. Hey, what's happening, guys? Thanks for having me. I was thinking about Enrique Iglesias. I wasn't, actually. I was just thinking about this guy. And Enrique, this is your first time on the show. It's kind of like our first date.

Do we get a gift, maybe? Sure. I love giving gifts. Oh, you do? Is that like, that's your thing? Is you're the gift guy? It's your love language. Okay, but if it's anything less than a three series, then we're not interested.

I'm telling you right now. Go ahead. Alexa's like, great, I just bought a new car. So did you warn the person you were going out with that gifts were going to be on the table? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, you know, we met online. So that's the first thing.

Okay. And what's her name? Josie. Oh. Josie. I like how you say it. All right. You're talking to Josie online.

Yeah. And? All right. And? Our love language just came up, and we found out that cars and gifts are our number one love language. Oh. Oh.

You're both the gift givers. Yeah. Okay. So we decided to bring each other a gift on our first date. Nothing too crazy. Oh. Both of you were going to bring gifts? Yes. So this decided to bring each other a gift on our first date. Nothing too crazy. Oh, both of you were going to bring gifts? So this was agreed upon, not a surprise. Okay.

Did you set a price limit? No, we just said something very simple. Okay. Something to be reminded later on, you know? Yeah, this makes it better. It's good. So take us to the date. How did it go?

What happened? And what'd you bring? But let me tell you something before that. We live kind of far away. It's like, I drove like two hours to get to her. Oh, wow. That's long. So she brought you gas money.

You should have. Not so much. But anyway, we met at this Mexican restaurant for dinner. And we sat down. And so she gives me her gifts first. Oh, what is it? Let's open it. So since we had some conversations, I'm a big Spider-Man fan.

She got you some spiders? That's cool, dude. Right? No, no, but she gave me this little Spider-Man action figure. Awesome. That's cool, man. So she's paying attention. She's remembering.

If you put it on a shelf, you'll always know. Yeah. We give her a checkmark for her gift. What did you get her? attention she's remembering all right maybe like put it on a shelf you'll always know like yeah we give her a check mark for her gift what did you get her so it might sound a little crazy okay but let me explain what it's called a long distance love lamp a long distance long distance love i've heard about these what is that that's a little much yeah i'm a little overwhelmed already tell jeffrey what it. I know what they are. Something like, you know, we're far away, right? If I touch mine, hers will glow.

You see? Yeah. It's kind of like, oh, you know. She knows you're thinking of her. Okay. And you're touching it. It's a way of touching each other and turning each other on. Well, no.

Exactly. I'm faking it. Not exactly. No. Oh, my God. It doesn't have to be like couples that get it. It's like family. Like families get it. Oh exactly. It doesn't have to be like couples that get it. It's like family. Like family.

Does it say love lamp on the box when you hand it to her? Because that I think is going to be key. No, no, no, no, no. If I had the lamp out of the box, you know, I had it like, you know, wrapped up. Good. Okay. So it's just the lamp that she gets. So you're just handing her a lamp.

What was her reaction? At first she was like a little confused, you know. Oh, she didn't know what it was. Yeah. You know. Oh yeah, you handing her a lamp. What was her reaction? At first, she was, like, a little confused, you know? Oh, she didn't know what it was. Yeah, you know. Oh, yeah, you gave me a lamp? It's not your typical first date gift. Talk about an old school gift. I like lamp.

Okay. Right, right, right. So then I had to explain to her the same thing I just told you guys right now, too. Okay, you got it. She was like, oh, wow, like, that's so sweet. And she was like, nobody never gave me a lamp before. Oh, she liked it. Alexis, if a guy gave you a love lamp on your first meetup.

No. I mean, see, the fear. I didn't even get to finish asking the question. I already shouted no at him. Can I start to say I don't really, not a fan? It's just, what if you have another guy over when it's going off? Like, that's my fear. Like, it's just like, you can't.

I didn't even think about that. You go under her and there's seven. You have to be exclusive. Like, I don't want a guy over and this lamp is flashing in the corner. It looks like a real light show in her room. We had a lot of long conversations. I'm being so open. I'm not seeing nobody else.

I really, really dig this girl. She was, oh my gosh, she's so hot. You're putting all your cards on the table with this. Yeah, man. I give her a lap. You're putting all your lamps on the table with this. Whatever you're doing man. And, you know, I give her a lap. Okay, sorry. You're putting all your lamps on the table with this. Whatever you're doing.

How did the rest of the date go? All right, so the date was awesome, okay? Okay. We talked for hours and, you know, we kept having some drinks.

Okay. And I went to her house. Oh. You went to her house and installed the lamp. You know, I made sure the lamp was on. Okay. Okay. Have you used the lamp. You know, I made sure the lamp was on. Okay.

Have you used the lamp since your last date? Yeah, every single day, especially nighttime. Okay, have you gotten the light back? Yeah. Or is it just you lighting her up? Well, this is the thing. At first mine was glowing all the time.

Now it's not really lighting up that much anymore. The lights have gone out on love, Jeff. Oh, man. Yeah. But then I text her, and she doesn't really, like, respond or, like, talk forever. I was going to ask about the texting, because the lamps aside, if you're not texting, that's a big problem. Yeah, that's true.

You can try to do a horse code via lamp. Lampless and loveless. It's tough doing a long-distance relationship thing. Your date does sound pretty lit to me, but we're going to come back and we'll call Josie for you and try and get you a second date update. Get that light glowing again right after this, all right? All right. Thanks, guys. All right, man. Hold on. Second date update. Brooke said something pretty profound in the first part of the second date call. I did?

Kind of hit it right on the nose when she said, And now their love light has gone dark. Sinking deep into the abyss of eternal loneliness. Like a lost ship in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean that's lost all power. And as the crew is jumping overboard Into the icy waters the boat takes on more water and all hope and I'm just paraphrasing what she said it was something along those lines I'm actually hopeful that this love story doesn't end as tragically as the one you're talking about but

Your love story that you painted in the first part. I'm just trying to paraphrase because Enrique and his date Josie agreed to exchange gifts when they had their first meetup. And she got him a Spider-Man toy because he's into Spider-Man. He got her a long-distance love lamp, which is where if you touch yours, their lamp lights up on their end to show that you're thinking of them. And apparently they were using it back and forth for a little while. At least in the first few days, it was going off like a strobe light at a Tiesto concert. Lately, not only is the lamp dimming, so are Enrique's hopes for a second date. Enrique, any thoughts that you'd like to share over some sad, depressing music?

Now's your chance. It's a little sad right now where you're playing. I'm sorry, but that's just the image that Brooke paints with her words. Oh, it's me. It's always me. I'm just bringing them to light. I'm like the light that's happening in your eyes.

So, here we go. We're all here for you. We'll get through this together, okay i'm hopeful yep just like those sailors were when they left the dock just call her dial josie for you right now here we go Hello? Hey, we're looking for Josie. This is Josie. Hey, Josie. I don't know if you know us.

We're a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Hey, Josie. Hey. Hi. We got a lot that we'd like to talk to you about. One of our listeners says that he went on a date with you not too long ago. And had an amazing time. Okay. Am I on the radio right now?

Mm-hmm. Yeah. Pretty cool, huh? Yeah. Welcome to the show. You're the star of the hour. And your co-star, hopefully, is the guy that you were with named Enrique. Oh, yeah.

I know Enrique. Okay. Okay. Good. Well, we know a little bit about Enrique and your guys' date because he told us some details from it. It sounded pretty good on our end. Yeah, it sounded flirty, fun. You guys had maybe a lot of margaritas, which is always a positive.

That was Brooke's favorite part. We thought it was interesting that you guys decided to exchange gifts before you even met each other. Yeah, that was fun, actually. Oh, you liked it? Okay. That's awesome. How'd you feel about the lamp that he gave you? I actually loved the lamp gift. I thought it was so thoughtful.

I thought it was a really sweet gesture from him. Oh, wow. Okay, some people were thinking it may have been too much too soon. Well, we are kind of long distance, so it meant more. Wait, you still consider yourself currently long distance with him? No, not currently, but we were long distance. Oh, okay. I was hoping that you were still thinking that.

But you said that you liked the lamp gift, and we heard that you guys were using it, at least for a little while after the date. Yeah. We're not sure what's changed since then. Well, I think he's a cheater. What? Whoa. A cheater? Wait, what?

What? Why do you think he's a cheater? Oh, I know he's a cheater. What? What makes you know that? Well, we share locations on our phones so we can see where each other are. Already? Wow.

Oh, you guys are in a relationship. Well, that's very close with each other. Okay. It's pretty strong. And, like, we knew, like, when to call each other and all that stuff. And then a few times, my lamp will light up, and I will look at his location, and he was out somewhere else, not at his house. Oh, so someone else is touching the lamp. Exactly.

Why would a side piece touch a lamp? Yeah, if that was true, he would be out with the side piece, most likely, not leaving her at his place to touch and mess around and touch the lamp. Yeah, if that was true he would be out with the side piece most likely, not leaving her at his place to touch and mess around and touch the lamp. Exactly. That's why I think he's either married or have a living girlfriend there. Oh, and you're the side piece

in that case. He bought the lamp. He did it to himself. Does he have like seven lamps in his apartment? I think you're misreading something here because he wouldn't call a radio show and ask us to publicly ask you out again if he was cheating that would be i mean unless he's really dumb that would be really it's really really big to jump to conclusions like that and look the love lamp that he gave us for our studio is lighting up which i think means that he wants to talk to you right now because he's actually on the other line listening what yeah yeah so we don't really have a love lamp i made that up but he is on the other on the other line i don't think that's oh

my god no i don't want to talk to a cheater what just give him a chance hear him out there might be some misunderstanding yeah yeah josie josie I'm not cheating on you, okay? I swear. I'm not cheating on you. I don't know, dude. I'm not buying it. God, it's so hard. It's so hard to state your case when someone says you're a cheater because when you say

you're not a cheater, it sounds more like you. Yeah. It's like I'm innocent. That's what a cheater would say. What's going on with your lamp, dude? And I don't want to hear any excuses like excuses like oh your dog is touching the lamp or it's all by mistake it's faulty or whatever it is because i'm not gonna buy it what if it is a dog oh girl joseph i am the one touching the lamp i am the one i take it with me everywhere i go

if i go to a cafe if i go to a bar are you kidding bro, bro? Wait. I'm the one. Guys, I like this girl so much that I carry this lamp with me everywhere I go. Wait, you go to a... Wait, hold on. You go to a coffee shop and plug the lamp in just to touch it? Yeah, why not?

Not for her. They're like the same level somehow. I'm sorry. Brooke, how are you feeling right now accusing him of such horrible things earlier? I didn't accuse him of anything. Just the visual of him walking down the street with a lamp. Enrique, you don't have to take that from her. It's really cute, Enrique.

I'm sorry. No. All right. But wait, wait. You guys know how you want to go with your phone. You're trying to plug your phone somewhere, right? Yeah, totally. So that's the same thing. Same thing. You're just at the airport with a big

old lamp. You ask the bartender if you can unplug the jukebox for just a second so I can touch my girlfriend two hours away. Yeah, well, something like that. Okay. Josie, what do you think? I'm not buying this. What? Dude, no man would ever say something that embarrassing unless it was true.

Thank you, Brock. And we're giving him a really hard time, and he's doing a great job defending himself. I'm actually kind of believing him on this. Listen, I swear my grandmother's grave, I take that lamp everywhere I go. I wanted to show this girl how much I liked her, and I want to stay connected with her. There is a love lamp in his grandmother's grave, too, so that he can show some love to his dead grandma. It's going off.

She's running over in her grave. It's going off. I'm just kidding. Josie, it feels like you two are, like, meant for each other. If you would just trust him. Oh, do you guys really think I should believe him? Yes. Yes.

Enrique, if you carry the lamp with you everywhere, do you have it with you right now? Could you turn it on? Yeah, I mean, I could just go in the trunk of my car and get it right now, and I could plug it. I don't think we have time for that. I don't know. My Highlander has a plug-in for it. Okay, Brooke will drive her Highlander over to where you are, and you can plug in your lamp to her car.

I don't want to upgrade to a car like that. Honestly, you're kind of on to something. Now the lamp is on while he drives? This was a terrible idea. I'm just saying, I believe him, Josie. I think the whole room believes him that he carries this lamp around to prove that he's that into you. And he's not a cheater.

He wouldn't call in and do this over the radio. Well, I do disagree with Brooke on that point, but everything else that we said, I think it's true. And we'd like to send you two out on another date that we would pay for if you're up for it, Josie. What if he took you to his house to prove that he doesn't live with anybody else? Yeah, look, come

over to my house and you can see the lamp and I'll definitely have the light on again, you know, with your lamp and everything. We'll make something fun out of this. Come on, Josie. You guys can FaceTime. It'd be quite easier. I feel like we might be winning you over a little bit here, Josie. One more chance. Come on now.

That's actually pretty sweet, I have to say. You are quite the charmer, Enrique. I have to tell you. She even rolled her R with that. Yeah, well, Josie, por favor. Enrique I have to tell you Oh wow she even rolled her R with that Yeah well Josie por favor

Oh my god He's busting out the Spanish now Okay So is that a yes Josie? Yes Everybody touch her lamp Brooke that's my leg What are you doing?

Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Uh-oh. What? Spoiler alert. What? Not to ruin the surprise, but Jose just bought all of us love lamps for Christmas. Yay, you're welcome, because gift-giving is my love language. I'll tap for you.

I'm not plugging mine in, probably. Yeah, come on. Brooke and Alexis, if you guys decide to go on vacation in Europe again, make sure you have the right adapters so that you can plug that baby in and get some Papa Bear love across the sea. I think Alexis already has like seven love lamps in her room from other dudes. I think she's fine. I don't think they're in her room.

I think they're in the garbage. Again, none of them get plugged in. I know there's a lot of judgment about the love lamps, but it was actually perfect for this couple. I'm really happy for them. They seem like they might actually be a good fit. I mean, this is the type of thing that gives you hope that there's someone for everyone. Yeah, seriously.

No matter if you're the guy walking down the street holding a lamp. You found love too, my friend. And that could be you. If you want to email the show, we'll call that person not calling you back. Make sure to listen to all our second date updates on our podcast at Brooke and Jeffrey, wherever you get your podcast. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble.

More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover,

that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money Podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zittron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. with guest appearances from Behind the Bastards' Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show.

Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.