Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - 10 Tips to Help You Glow-Up for a Healthier, Happier 2025 - Part 2

Episode Date: January 27, 2025

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This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex, and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast, and I am Nick Salina. Hello, happy Monday evening. Welcome back to the 10 tips to help you glow up. very healthy and happy 2025. Part two is coming at you. Full force. You're like, what? If you haven't listened already, you're tuning in now. It's all good. Go back last week. Listen to part one. We went deep. We went stoicism. We went quantum physics. We went meditation. We went

toxicity, food, savings. Oh, yeah. I covered it all. And now I got your final five pointers, and they're just as good as last week. Bear in mind, this is what I've personally lived through, experienced, and discovered for myself, which helps, okay? So tried and tested is what I'm saying. Right, without further ado, point six, walk, walk, walk, walk, walk, walk, and other exercises. So if you follow me on Instagram, if you don't, where have you been? Head over there now, hit the follow button at Nixalina, N-I-X-A-L-I-N-A. You'll see that I do a lot of walking. Everyone is usually like, how do I get your butt? How do I get your legs? How do I get your abs? And I'm not saying that to blow smoke up my own ass, my fat ass. But I do get these

dms quite a lot and i don't want to be the kind of girl that's like oh i go to the gym every fucking day and i do weights and i do this class and i sign up for this expensive class and i do pilates i don't what i do is i walk and netball i've done netball since i was 10 i believe netball really helps build up the thighs and the ass because of the the way the game is structured where you have to stop, start, stop, start. You can't run with the ball, right? So you're running, you stop, you're running, you stop. And it's just that compound, go, stop, go, stop, blast, fast, stop. And the jumping, I'm a defense, so I have to jump for rebounds all the fucking time. That really, really creates amazing leg, thigh, and butt muscles. However, on top of that,

I've played it my whole life. I've never had abs the way I have now. That's because I started walking so what I do is I walk to work every day unless I'm going to one of my different venues but I walk to work and I walk from work home so we're looking at 25 minutes in the morning 25 minutes in the evening and then I go to just my condo gym and I do an hour on the treadmill yep an hour you're like oh I'm tapping out yeah I was I was invested before an hour on a fucking treadmill. Bye-bye. Listen, I was the same. If you told me at the start of 2024, by the end of year, you are going to be doing an hour on a treadmill and you're going to love it, I'd be like, fuck off. But my God, I love it. And I don't run. So here's what I do. And it's something one

of my personal trainers from years gone by taught me, and it's still good. And so I have a professional right backing what I'm saying is what I'm saying to you but I put it on the highest incline so my highest incline of my condo gym is 12 ramp it up to 12 and I set the speed at like a fast walk I'm not running I'm not jogging I'm walking but it's a fast strong walk right and I do that for the hour. And that's it. I put my phone up on the side. I watch YouTube documentaries, true crime. I do my research. Like I said last week, you know, do my little stoic philosophy or, you know, Google book, I don't know, publishing how to do this or anything, anything, anything, anything. And I just do that for an hour. And you'll be so shocked at how fast an hour goes. And once you do

and towards the end say like 45 minutes my legs are burning like a motherfucker and i'm like no okay well i've done 45 minutes let's do the 50 okay well 50 minutes i might as well do 55 and then you know even the final five minutes you can cool down if your legs start to burn too much bring down the incline halfway just you know if my highest incline is 12 i do six bring it down final five minutes no incline i'm just walking as if flat ground it's fucking amazing it will change your body i don't do any more weights squats anything i should and i would love to and i used to love x like i used to do ground zero a lot kettlebells dumbbells loved it i'm not saying don't do that the reason i'm focusing on walking is because it's an easy win for you to

start the change that you want to see in 2025. I'm not sitting here going sign up to this really expensive gym. I'm not and I'm not being sponsored for it. I'd rather you start walking. You also if you're walking outside you get nature. You get grounding. You get earth in yourself. That does nothing but good shit for you and your body. You are in a win-win situation my friend and you're saving money because you're walking rather than getting the fucking bus or getting the cab. You're walking. Saving money, tick. Nature, tick. Fresh air, tick. Moving your body, tick. No expensive fucking gym class that you got, tick. If you find that treadmill, if you have access to it, great. If not, you don't have access to that treadmill, you do an hour walk

outside and you find somewhere with steps and you go up and down those fucking steps. all right? Get your ass to Fort Canning. Go up and down them. I've been doing that before as well. It's grind. It's fucking magical. Point seven. Open your throat chakra and speak your truth. Really? Really, Nix? Yes. So what's this about? This is about you speaking the fuck up. I know you're like, what's that got to do with, you know, glow up for 2025? Trust me, it says a lot if you say a lot. A lot of the time we have inner rage and inner anger and frustration and we feel, I don't know, betrayed by life or picked on or whatever because we haven't actually spoken up. We've quietly put up with shit. We've let friends, I don't know, use us or treat us

badly or cancel on us we've let our partners do the same we've let our bosses take their shit out on us and we you know keep it quiet and we're the good person because we shouldn't let's be the bigger person and not say anything no don't be the bigger person be the bigger person by speaking your truth you don't need to start an argument you don't need i'm not saying it let's all go in and call our bosses cunts by the way to be clear i have the best bosses in the world um i love them they're like my family so I don't have that problem I'm just thinking of past experiences or picking up on what you guys might be going through but we're not I'm not saying that it's not all going to smash up our desks or or go home to our partners and be like fuck you I'm off

no opening your throat up speaking your truth is more about you setting your boundaries in subtle minimal ways as they go someone does something you go hey like that's actually not very nice just so you know I didn't appreciate that that's it here you go actually um I thought you know it was kind of it wasn't fun that you kind of made me pay for everything so like next time um it's on you if that's okay hey um yeah I didn't like the way you grabbed me like that never touch me like that again if you touch me like that again I'm giving you a one-off then um which you don't deserve anyway but if you do like I'm out hey um you're kind of making me do all of the work but actually the the project is under your name so like can we take each responsibilities I feel

like I've been burdened with too much it's kind of not fair something that says I have personal boundaries you're going over them I don't like it I'm establishing my boundaries speak your truth And once you start, it's quite addictive and it's very hard to stop. Yeah, you'll end up in arguments because a lot of people, especially if they have toxic energy, will probably scream, rant and rave and won't like that you've established boundaries. You're so used to not being that person to them. Like, what? You've got a voice now? And so you be prepared for confrontation, sure. but if you know that it comes from within you where you know it's just and correct and right

and you're finally sticking up for yourself it will make you feel fucking amazing and once you start and you start those boundary settings and you start speaking your truth once again in a very calm and nice way we manage our emotions these days as per part one as per stoic philosophy we manage but if you're managing your emotions but you're able to say it and speak out you will feel so much better about yourself trust me first-hand experience it's it feels incredible hi allow me to pop right in here for a quick break and introduce you to today's sponsor which is the meat club an online food delivery service based in singapore these guys started out in 2014 because they were finding it difficult to source high quality affordable meat in singapore and i

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the Meat Club for sponsoring today's episode. And thank you for making my personal roast dinners taste even better. And with that, we'll head back to the story. point eight that to-do list fucking get it done you're procrastinating aren't you on your to-do list the to-do list that you wrote out on the first of january didn't you things i will do in 2025 i'm going to get a gardener nay i'm going to garden myself i'm going to redecorate that room i'm gonna go to the gym more i am gonna save money i tell you what i'm gonna get my hair cut yeah that's what i'm gonna do i'm gonna trim off my dead ends i am gonna take my kids finally to the ballet classes that i said i would yeah you got a to-do list even if your to-do list is just

a weekly one like mine get the cats groomed get the fuck grooming my cats right let me tell you is a ball weight times 25,000 and I dread it. I fucking dread it. I don't know what I was thinking when I adopted two very, very fluffy, very long haired little pricks and one's cream and the other one is white silver. I don't know what I was thinking. I thought, oh, so cute. Oh, you're so you you come home with me cute right hindsight fuck so i've had cat on the groomers right lit on my to-do list for about three months i'm putting it off because i want to fucking do it i've got moles i need checking right on my back and i'm terrified to go get them checked like and i know i'm a caucasian white ass living in singapore who fucking loves to sunbathe i know

my skin needs more attention i've been putting it off putting it off but i've been putting off my pap smear ain't i putting that off because i don't fucking like how it feels and i don't want to know the outcome i've been putting off preening my plants on the balcony and every time i go out for a coffee and i see 20 dead fucking leaves and i think oh they look so much better i just need to preen them. I put it off. My to-do list, I procrastinate, don't I? And I know you all do it with me. So get it done. Get it done. And start off small. Each weekend, each spare evening you have. Right, what can I do on that list today? Right, it's going to take me half hour to preen all my plants just get fucking done right let me find a cheap groomers oh let me find a groomers

that comes to my house so i don't have the ball ache of getting those furry little shits in a fucking pet friendly expensive grab take them somewhere one of them's gonna cry the whole time the other one's gonna piss herself quite literally piss herself so that i can give them a bath and cut their fucking nails because if you think i can cut their nails by myself you've got another thing coming gizmo is giving me two black eyes so far if i try to cut her nails i would be punched to death but there i go what's the solution a home-based groomers right what is it do i have a cheaper one book them in off my to-do list it hasn't happened yet but i've done it off my to-do list once you stop procrastinating you start getting your fucking to-do list sorted up feels

it feels so magical it feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders and then you get the urge don't you you get the flavor to keep going oh right well this weekend i'm going to send out those emails i'm going to sort out my gas and electricity situation i am going to go shopping and finally get the the work clothes oh i don't have enough work clothes well let's take some time let's go find them find them online what's the worst that can happen free returns. Great. Let's do it. Oh, well, this makes me feel better. I look better. I feel better. Great. What else can I do? You get addicted to the movement of forward, the movement of getting stuff done, the movement of being productive. And it spirals to what? More productivity.

Savvy? Okay, let's move on. Point nine, invest in your appearance. I do have to talk about this because your appearance does affect how you feel inside. Now listen, this is how I know. My best friend in the UK, she's very much like, put on your fucking makeup and do your hair no matter what. I know you're crying. I know you're upset. I know you're heartbroken. Put on your fucking heels and fucking own it. And I won't. I don't listen to her. I've known her since I was 21. We turned 38 this year. I've never listened to her. Still going strong, not fucking listening. But when I do, say a day I'm sad or whatever, and I go, fuck it, you're up early, get in the shower, straighten your hair, put the makeup on, wear those heels, I feel so much

better. I feel like, fuck, I can command the day. I do look good. Hang on a minute. I do know my self-worth and it changes my posture. It changes how I sit, how I talk to people at work. When I say invest in your appearance, I don't mean go and blow fucking hundreds and hundreds on a new haircut or a new suit or, God, thousands on heels like I fucking used to do. Like, well, I say me, my ex-fiance used to do okay and I'm selling them because I just don't relate to that woman anymore you know I don't know who she is that person I was don't I don't like her I got wrapped up in a world I don't like which once again mindfulness and meditation and reflection help me get here but yeah I don't mean that I mean invest in you do you need to color your hair for a youthful look

do you need to you know cut off the ends do you need to buy some new makeup it doesn't have to be expensive it could be a new lipstick for fuck's sake it could be a new concealer because you feel like you've got under eye bags because you're not sleeping because the kids are ill and they're keeping you up at night could it be you just need to go through your closet and get rid of all the clothes that don't fit you anymore because every time you try and put them on and you can't button them up you feel down about yourself well yeah those trousers fit you last year all right it's been a year they don't fit you anymore let them go buy a fucking pair that do fit you i don't care if it's a size up if it's a size up it will look better on you and make you look slimmer because

it's designed to fit your shape not squeezing you into a pair that don't fit you anymore or the reverse you dropped a load of weight and it's all baggy on you which I had last year I dropped a lot of weight very quickly you know what I'm like heartbreak hotel it's what happens and all my clothes just look like baggy shits which will look bad invest in your appearance I love to go through my closet clear out shit that don't fit no right what am I what do I have to work with right let's make new outfits from what I have And you could do that if you've got no money. You know, you don't have to go and buy or go to thrift stores for fuck's sake. There's so many treasures in there. But invest in your appearance

so that you feel your best. That's what we're going for. Your outer appearance matches your inner confidence and strength. And if you don't have that inner confidence, your outer appearance helps cultivate it because you know you feel good does that make sense lots of people like oh you should never worry about your appearance I don't give a fuck about what other people think about how I look I never have I never will it's about how I feel about myself and when I do bother I feel the difference which is why it's a pointer that I'm delivering to you guys And finally, point 10. Do it and do it alone. Now, what do I mean by this? I mean everything I did, I did alone. That is my personal achievement and what I did last year.

So, I did the book alone. I wrote for nine years alone. I set up my blog in 2010 alone. I'd say I'd set up my podcast alone. And whilst, yes, I do it alone, my producer definitely heavily had a hand to play because if he hadn't found me, I wouldn't be sitting here today. So, shout out to Splice Studios. If you guys are like, I do get this a lot, to be fair, we're going off topic, but a lot of people are, I want to do a podcast. I want to do a podcast. just message Splice Studios you'll find them tagged in my reel which is my Spotify wrapped 2024 reel okay it's bright yellow cover I think they're tagged in there for ease if not DM me and I'll send the contact all good but yes everything I've done I do it alone and the

achievement end of doing it alone is 10 times greater than if you were relying on someone else I do the healing work alone yes I have therapy yes I have a support system um I'm not saying live in fucking hermit isolation I'm saying empower yourself to do the work yourself or whatever you need to do and that cultivates such a glow up for you inside for you knowing your worth I'm telling you when I bagged those three publishing deals last year that I got a loan I have no literary agent I pitched my book myself I wrote the book myself at the time I'd had no external editor even look at it to get those three things off me I'm like it's me I did it all me me me fucking me and when I look at the stats of my podcast when I look at my Instagram growing I

I'm me. It was me. If I had no help, no agent, you know, back in my corner, would I love an agent? A hundred and ten percent. Would I love a personal assistant? Yes, please. Would I love to have like a team of people helping me? Yes. Would I love a personal makeup artist? Yes. But if you can't, like me, have all that, if you can't afford it or it's just not part of your lifestyle and you are doing it alone, then do it alone. Go for those hikes alone. Go eat dinner alone. Go to therapy alone. Go and try art class alone. What do you want to do? You want to take up archery? What's your inner thing? I'd love to go to, I don't know, classical singing lessons. I'd love to join a choir. I'd love to do archery. Whatever it is, go and do it. Do it alone.

once you start living in your own truth by yourself it's um it's very hard to break that trust me it makes you kind of indestructible i don't know if that's a good or bad thing but yeah you when you exist happily and at peace by yourself that's kind of like the ultimate ultimate end goal, isn't it? Of just higher vibration living. Nothing can affect you once you get there because you do it alone. Someone walks out your life, okay, well, I know I'm good alone. Doesn't stop me doing what I'm doing. Doesn't stop me cashing in the paycheck every month. Doesn't stop me being a good mother or being a good whatever it is. You could do it alone, you know, whatever you need to do. And on that note, I hope you have enjoyed

my 10 stages to make in 2025 your year let's make 2025 our bitch yo okay let's do it i really hope you've enjoyed them um if you have more to add because there isn't just 10 things we there's more than that message me we can always do a part three we can keep going i could do like my listeners extra five steps on how they get in their glow up you know i'd love an input from you my dms are always open right always at nixlina n-i-x-a-l-i-n-a I know I keep saying that but just so you know so you can get hold of me and on that note I'm going to stop talking because I've run out of breath finally I finally am speechless no I'm not really I could keep talking y'all know me anyway on that note end of the episode and I look forward to hearing from

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