Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - Does Size REALLY Matter?

Episode Date: June 29, 2020

Does it actually matter if the penis is really small, or XLL? Is it an issue for women as much as it seems to be for men? Do we really care about the size of your dicks? Let's Discuss. 

Hello everyone, it's Nixlina coming back at you with the Sex in Singapore City, the podcast. How are you doing? I realised the other day in my extensive thought process that I don't really discuss sex on the Sex in Singapore City podcast. I discuss ideas around it. I discuss sexting. I'd done one episode called all of your sex questions answered but that's kind of as far as I got delving into the sex world and I thought maybe people feel a little cheated because I haven't actually really dived on in pardon the pun so I figured let's um let's get cracking and let's do it so you're gonna have a lot more sex-based episodes the aim of the game

isn't to embarrass anyone it isn't to make any right or wrong statements sex is subjective across the board from start to finish however i have a lot of experience and opinions and ideas and i also want to i guess offer the sex education that singapore apparently says it needs i don't know i never went to school here i haven't grown up here i haven't you know blossomed into millennial hair but it seems that sex ed is still slightly on the lacking side so fuck it I'm gonna do it for you so this episode I feel like I would tackle the hardest one hey the hardest one and deal with penis size does size really matter it's a question that has evaded us all for generations

and generations I need like some theme music you does the time passing three generations and tumbleweed going through my vagina after my partner listens to this and never fucks me again we all know that guys have somewhat of a reflective issue about the size of their knob the bigger the penis the more of a man you are the bigger the penis the more you can make girls scream during sex the harder it gets the longer it looks i mean i don't i'm not going to delve into the male psyche about their attention on their penis and their relationship with their penis because that was that could be hours and hours and hours of podcast and quite frankly i'm not fucking interested in that what i'm interested in is whether the size

of the penis affects sex that much that we always want a bigger knob does size matter if it's a small dick, does it make sex shit? Does it turn you off from having a partner? Does a too big knob turn you off? Is there a happy medium? Do girls really even give a shit about the size of someone's penis? These are the things I'm going to talk about. So let's get cracking, shall we? Some personal experiences. Once again, if my partner's listening to this, sorry I have had both too big and too small and there was a guy at uni who was in stature a lot smaller than me um just a very petite guy um very attractive you know that kind of cool kid the guy that everyone wants to hang out with the guy that everyone wanted to be around

um but yeah tiny so we had drunken sex one night just the one time and whether it was because he was drunk or the size like basically his dick just kept falling out whenever we had sex so whenever he like pulled out or was trying to pump there was no pumping because the dick was just out um yeah that lasted i if i can remember correctly for like five minutes before he kind of just like gave up got off and then and then left the room awkward and you know who you are if you're listening to this because i know that you look at my instagram quite a lot as well i remember that night thank you very much i'm not elaborating um yeah that wasn't fun right i think his dick was pretty much too small

that the sex wasn't working and we couldn't really have sex you know and i'm i haven't had kids i haven't had like basically I've got quite a tight vagina oh my god it's all coming out now man I wish I had a drink to do this I'm stone cold sober um yeah I'm quite tight right so it means that basically it'd have to be really pretty small to to fall out of me was i bothered yeah was it awkward yeah did it make me want to have sex with him again no not really did i worry that it was somehow me that my vagina was so fucking big that he he couldn't stay in yeah i did worry about that for a bit but rest assured i'm not at all um that's probably my main experience with a dick that fell out it's too small and on the opposite spectrum there's been

um one or two guys where they've i've dated them and they have an enormously large dick compared to what you think that they'd have and when we had sex i was in pain pain i mean pain and it would take ages to get it in like even with lube and stuff it was just it just physics is biology is too fucking big tiny hole big dick i mean yeah I managed it but I wasn't enjoying myself at all um and I think at the time it's my mid-20s I probably thought perhaps sex was supposed to hurt anyway it was like you know I didn't by that point I didn't have many good experiences with like sex where it was like mind-blowing and all my needs were met and all that jazz but um and most of the guys in my mid-20s didn't really take time to get

anywhere or any foreplay i was like a little bit of foreplay which will be another episode by the way dudes where it was like rubbing my fucking clit like burning in the skin wasn't doing anything else for me and then it was straight in with the knob so i kind of really wasn't even fucking ready in the first place let alone if it's ridiculously big and then there was one guy beyond these two these two I kind of dated each for like three months I think um yeah not at the same time this is just thinking of dick sizes here people in the last 10 years and then there was one guy who I dated just went on one date with but I knew him from my university days and probably would have slept with him had I not known how big his dick was his dick was like notorious through my uni

campus i mean he wasn't a man whore just a lovable rogue man whore who got away with anything he wanted and he tried it on with me once at uni and no because he'd already sent me a photo of his penis and it was just so huge it scared the fucking living daylights out of me and then we dated once again in london we just i think we went for dinner somewhere or i forced him to go to an aquarium or something and like yeah if I had I probably would I had a great time I really fancied him I probably would have sex with him at some point but I already knew how big it was so there you go I've already had at least three experiences three different dicks that were too big that I then didn't really want to have sex okay that's my personal one and then one where

it was too small we couldn't really have sex um which was also terrible calling all of my girlfriend's anecdotes to memory one of them recently slept with a guy that stick was so small she couldn't even like feel it was in you know and he's like pounding away is that good for you babe she's like yeah um she don't know if it was good for her she couldn't fucking feel anything And then I'll have other girlfriends who, same like me, have experienced dicks that were way too big and it was a turn off. So, for me, what I can gather is either extreme isn't good. If it's too fucking small, no. If it's too fucking big, no.

i understand you watch all these pornos or whatever and there's these guys with massive dicks and it's like a horse's schlong and but that's i suppose that it's not real life but it is isn't it someone's someone out there is their knob it is real life for them but for me would i am i aspiring to find a partner with a massive knob no no i'm not you know like It's not like I've found my partner whose knob isn't huge. I'm not saying that at all. This is, by no reflection, a comment on my partner's dick size, okay? He's got nothing to do with his dick size, and I'm not saying whether he's huge or tiny.

What I'm saying is, is I don't go out of my way in a sexual quest to find the largest knob I can. That being said, for women that can orgasm through penetration, which I can, oh my god, this is really coming out that i cannot so i'm assuming if you can come an orgasm through penetrative sex the larger the longer the dick the more it hits the g-spot the better the orgasm the faster your orgasm and kind of the better sex right so that i mean that's where the big dick scenario comes from is the pleasure for a girl but i don't know many women i wouldn't say the majority that orgasm through penetrative sex often it's foreplay and oral sex which will be another episode as well by the way so for me i should i be able to orgasm through sex i'm assuming

that yeah the dick size would matter but all i look for is pleasure in sex where i'm not in pain but i'm having a good time and if we're gonna touch upon oral sex like oh having to deep throat of large penis is it's not the one once again this is all personal other girls can do it i'm just like i don't want to have to give head i feel like i'm fucking choking all the time because then i'm not gonna want to do it and then i'm gonna be one of those girlfriends who don't give blowjobs and that's not me but I can't always don't feel like I'm gonna vomit onto his dick because it's that big and he always tries to face fuck me every time he gets the hint of a blowy do you know what I'm saying

so I guess the answer to the age-old question is that size does matter but actually it's not because it has to be big it can be too big and it can be too small it's the extreme sizes that actually we're kind of not really after i love a very average size dick one that gives me pleasure one that doesn't scare the crap out of me every time the trousers are dropped down one that i can actually fucking see when it's not hard one that's just you know yeah i feel like it's a good fit and I've had many many many many many bad sex experiences here right but that sounded like I was a whore I didn't mean oh I slept with thousands now I just had many bad experiences where sex has been painful or like I just couldn't go through with it because it was

there was issues or whatever and it's actually for me the sex the good pleasurable part of sex is actually about the chemistry between the two people because maybe my penis is my penis the only penis i have is on my fucking forehead maybe my vagina doesn't really suit a massive dick but maybe someone else's body is naturally wider and she can't really have sex good sex with a smaller dick you know like it's maybe she needs a bigger dick and and maybe sometimes it's about the emotional connection and the chemistry between the two people so like I'll get more wet for instance because I'm in love with this guy because I'm having like I have feelings for him so it's easy to have sex with me because I'm already naturally wet but if I'm like on a one-night

stand and I'm dry as fuck and I don't really know this person or you know like it's that awkward first time where you like dated a few times that still don't really know them then perhaps it's awkward they can't get it in or because i'm not really wet enough you know like it's subjective right i feel like you know when you know when you found someone that's the sex is great and then you're like oh my god i can't believe what i was doing all those times before so to any guy out there who's decided his dick is too small or has a real complex at the size of it please rest assured most of us give no fucks about the size of your dick if it's too small that the sex is shit yeah i mean yeah that's a problem but i've heard many

boy mates discuss like vaginas being so wide that they don't feel anything when they're fucking a girl for example that's also a problem right because they're not having good sex because they can't feel anything because there's like no vagina walls around their penis because it's so fucking huge so it's not like i mean i'm not even digging out on penises here it's the but works both ways and there are going to be women out there who hunt for the biggest knob going because they get the best orgasm from it because they love the status of having a big dick they love how it feels great that's not wrong either but there are also women out there like me that just are in it for the pleasure and actually find huge dicks intimidating difficult to get in in the first

place and painful so i don't really i don't really understand why guys are always out for this like massive penis brigade because how are you that interested and my partner has brought it up many of times like about the size of dicks and stuff and i say the same to him i don't care it's i'm not like that way inclined and i think most most most women are that way we just want to enjoy sex and be emotionally connected to our partners but while i'm saying this i have to always say once again sex with small dicks and you know bad experiences like that is also not so great so the answer is yes size does matter just the extremes of it so if you're looking at just penises on their own does the size of

your penis matter no not really not really it just depends on whether your dick is particularly too small particularly too big for that person that you're trying to have sex with savvy tell me i'm wrong i'd love to hear comments i'd love to hear anyone say hey actually i fucking love big dicks i love it and i don't date men unless their dicks are huge because that's the other thing right what if you get sent a dick pic like what i got would you go would you still date the guy if you're like oh that's too small or oh god that's too big do you if you really like the person do you still go through with the day or or is the size of the penis that much of an issue that you'd even not date them i mean like i i couldn't have had sex with this guy it would have

fucking ripped me a new arsehole in fact there wouldn't even be an arsehole it just ripped me a whole hole because that's how big he was i would have probably passed out potentially died okay i'm being dramatic but you get the gist so yeah anyone out there who has a does size matter opinion and i think a lot of you will let me know do you like big dicks do you like small dicks do you give no fucks about the size of a penis is it about the motion in the motion is that what my partner says it's not about size it's what you can do with it it's not about that something's motion in the i don't fucking know basically is it not a problem about size at all and actually it's just how you operate it during the bedroom maybe your dick is a bit small

but you can really thrust and give the best sex ever i don't fucking know anyway on that note i'm out and stay tuned as always every monday every single monday you'll get a new episode of sex in singapore city the podcast fingers crossed i will return to the studio soon and go and see my buddy ken at spy studio singapore so i can record some more i'm open to also get some more episodes in with my co-host paul foster on she said he said i would love to know his opinion on whether penis size matters I'm sure he might have something very different to what I'm saying and I will be keeping up the sex episodes for you as well as of course with all the rest of the stuff about dating cheating and all that jazz anytime you want to offer me a podcast idea an episode idea just

holla my instagram is at nixalina n-i-x-a-l-i-n-a and my podcast can be found on all major podcast playing apps thank you very much and i'll see you guys next week bye