Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - Dude, It Ain't A Flex to Pay For Sex

Episode Date: March 10, 2025

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hi it's nixalina everyone welcome this episode is called dude it ain't a flex to pay for sex i love that can we just appreciate that for a moment like the wording's brilliant it ain't a flex to pay for sex how i've not thought about doing that before i do not know this is what happens when I have shower thoughts, my friend. And also, what a fucking topic. Can't believe I've not covered this yet. Because I am fucking disgusted about how many men these days, especially where I live, seem very proud to pay sex workers for sex. It has become a badge of honour. I'll give you a few examples. One of my exes, he cheated and he seemed to think the cheating was more acceptable because it was a hooker. What? Wow. Yeah. Yeah. Because it was someone

he paid to fuck, it didn't mean there was an emotional attachment, a.k.a. not really an affair, a.k.a. not really cheating, a.k.a. should be forgiven. I'm like, in what fucking planet did you crawl out from where you believe I'm going to go, oh, you fucked a prostitute. Oh, don't worry about it. What's for dinner? What do you want me to cook? Spaghetti bolognese, your favourite. What? Sorry, what now? But it's true. The lack of shame and the lack of any understanding in his brain. I could see the little cogs ticking when he couldn't fathom that I weren't going to forgive this. I'm like, you still fuck someone, mate. You fuck me for free. Pay me, you cunt, because the sex ain't worth it anyway. You pay me.

don't pay her pay me and I'll go buy some fucking shoes right that's one example another example my friend not me my friend had a lodger um I don't know what he did I think it was a lawyer well-paid dude and had a wife and kids in a different country soon every other weekend she was seeing women leave in the morning in like athleisure gear or leaving in an oversized t-shirt and some shorts underneath. His oversized t-shirt, lest we add. And then she'll find condoms in the bathroom toilet. And long story short, it was fucking prostitutes. She actually made him move out because she didn't want hookers in her house. And she'd obviously accepted him as a lodger because he's a married man who's got a wife and kids in the UK like you

don't think you're gonna get that kind of shit where she's got absolute strangers like you don't know these people they're coming in and out of your house and ew she just didn't want anything part of it I just I was gobsmacked another example you I could go on this would be my third one third and final we don't need more than three and I love a trilogy one of my recent exes actually proudly presented life about paying for sex. Not only did he frequent KTVs more times than I cook Sunday roasts, not only did he do that, he told me about it. In fact, nay nay, we argued about it because he felt he should be able to go KTVs. He should. He should be able to take his single friends there but he won't do anything but he did used to do stuff i've seen the messages i've seen

the fucking messages from the exes who were screaming at him because he'd go to a ktv and use the same girl and this friend of his told the girl and she found out about the ktv girl like it was a whole thing i saw i read it all but then he wants to go ktvs with me and i'm like over my dead fucking body because you obviously don't go there and just enjoy a watch and a sing you go there and you get your dick sucked or you fuck them over the counter don't you and if we'd ever go out we went to an event and there'll be a private room i wandered in with him looking around oh yeah this is nice you know what he said to me there was a bar area around the back tiny bar in a fridge and he's like oh if i was in this room i'd have a woman bent over here by now

fucking uh in a private karaoke room I'm like oh did you just say that out loud but it's true he was proud of it he felt it made him the big I am and the worst point of call I can't even believe I can't believe he even said this like a month after we separated I saw him and um i was sober he weren't and for whatever reason benost a man his uh his brain cell decided yeah brain cell singular thanks for noticing decided to come out with this treat he said to me he wanted to go to thailand with the boys wants to go thailand wants to go phuket because and he said, you need to understand this, Nix. All men really want is the paid girlfriend experience in Thailand.

You know, they're not just sex workers. They're actually a girlfriend experience. You get to pay for it. And that's what men want. They want to enjoy. I can't get through it. It actually was deadly serious when you told me about this. They want the paid Thailand girlfriend experience for the weekend.

That's what men truly want. so he's sitting there in his house telling his recent actual girlfriend who who was free i'm free by the way you don't have to pay me for the girlfriend experience i don't upgrade to wife experience and i'm asking you to drop 10k a month no no it's free it's how it works like normal people he's sitting there telling his actual ex-girlfriend about how he wants to pay for the girlfriend experience in Phuket. I was just mind blown. Also, lest we not forget to touch upon the fact this guy claimed to be so broke he couldn't even pay me rent. So he couldn't pay me rent, but he could blow $150 on a whore. Right. And the poor guy, the poor fucker,

you've got to pity him at this point, actually publicly signed up to a massage Facebook group. How embarrassing. And the Facebook group tagged him. I cringe for him. Welcome new members. So he's on a Facebook group trying to find sex workers that are disguised as massage girls. I mean, don't get me wrong. I've never used one, but I'm sure they do massage, right? They are masseuses at some level, ain't they? I don't know. How embarrassing. I got secondhand shame and embarrassment on his behalf. I just thought that's the cringiest sing forever that will now live forever on the internet it's fucking brilliant but but take a strip it back to the crux of this episode there was no shang for him or any of these men that

i've detailed i've only detailed three scenarios that i personally know about it's a badge of honor these days my ex felt he could cheat with a prostitute and that means it's not cheating my other ex felt he could sign up to massage parlors go to ktvs and brag about being able to pay for these women it ain't a flex bro it's it makes you the like lowest of the low now listen i am not shaming the sex industry i of all people i'm not shaming the sex industry and I actually do have some deep deep empathy with these women that end up in the sex industry some of them have no choice some of them love it like it's your body honey you do you and some of them cash it in I'm like girl fucking own it my main issue is when men see it as some sort of

lifestyle choice especially if they have a woman at home and they flex it like oh I went away for the weekend and like yeah like splashes cash because you know it's so cheap yeah and I got my got my head sucked oh well done you pay to get your fucking head sucked what a fucking man you are not. This is sarcasm. Okay? I used to live in a world where paying sex workers was something men did on the sly and were ashamed and maybe it's because they couldn't find a woman. Maybe they were tired of being alone. Maybe they didn't want the ag of dating. You know stuff like that single men and I'm like okay okay but for some reason it's now turned into something that's almost normalized verging on something to be proud of what and lest we not

forget to point out there are female versions for us ladies and gentlemen there are male prostitutes there are male masseuses you know that can finish you off and you bet your whole life savings if i said to either one of those exes oh i'm just gonna go to a massage parlor and um i'm gonna get the guy to finger me until i come and then i'm gonna come home and um walk the dog is that all right you bet they would be fucking livid they would split up with me. What, you've been fingered by another guy? Oh, did you have sex in the massage parlour as well? Yeah, but only the tip went in and then I gave him a tip after. Is that okay? Fucking jokes of men, honestly. Honey, if it's good enough for you, it's good enough

for me. No, I've never done it like that. No, I've never gone for paid sex, but it's out there. It's out there for us. I just, you know what? I get sex without an exchanging of cash. I have men knocking at my door who actually want to be around me. I have men wanting to date me. I have men in my bed enjoying the experience because they're with me, not because they can chuck 150 bucks at me after and I give them a shit blowy or I lie there in silence as they pound me waiting for my next client to turn up.

I mean, come on. Do as you wish, ladies and gentlemen, as you wish, but do not think paying for sex is a flex. It makes people think ill of you. And the only other people that think you're the fucking man is other men paying for it as well? You're like a band of brothers. That's cringe. Do you understand? Okay. Okay. I hope I've made my feelings clear. Do as you wish, dudes.

Just don't fucking brag about it. Good. Glad we cleared this one up. I'm just, even of the shit I come out with. Did that actually happen? Of course it happened. Of course he signed up to a Facebook group. Of course. Ew. I feel disgusted being attached to such types of man now. I am horrified for me. I'm like, you lowered your standards, girl. What the fuck was that about? I'm like, I don't know. I must have just been drunk the whole time right blab it on let me check this one out do you pay for sex do you have you ever cheated but paid for it do you have a man or a woman who's paid for sex behind your back has it ruined your relationship tell me everything are you a sex worker and you want to talk to me about it hell

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