Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - Here's Why Men LOVE Being Called "Daddy"

Episode Date: June 16, 2025

"In a sexual context, "Daddy" can be associated with power dynamics, where one partner takes on a more dominant role and the other a more submissive one." Ohhhh let's discuss, shall we? With love, Nixalina. ​For more awesome content to read including beauty, fashion or dating & love features, please do head over to my digital platform www.nixalina.com. Don't be shy, come say hai! Head over to my Instagram or Tiktok @nixalina to slide into my DMs.

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for me, but here we are. I'm doing it. Today's episode is called, Here's Why Men Love Being Called Daddy. Oh, hey, daddy. Okay. I have been thinking about doing this episode for a while. It's taboo in terms of there are going to be, it's polarizing. There's going to be half of you out there that's like, ill? Y'all got daddy issues? You need to go to therapy. So let me first say very clearly, the affectionate term of calling your male partner, and it's usually male, it can interchange to females, calling your male partner daddy has absolutely nothing to do with daddy issues, okay? Women can grow up in a really beautiful, healthy family unit. They can have a father figure who's present their whole life and still

love to call their partner daddy. But on the flip side, men love it when their baby girl calls them daddy. And trust me, I should know. So let's dive in, shall we? We're going to get all the boring shit out of the way and then we're going to get on to the fun stuff because I am, if not always, informative as well as sexual. So, according to the Historical Dictionary of American Slang, the earliest use of daddy in a non-paternal context was way back in 1681. Stop. 17th century, okay? And this was in reference to what sex workers would call their older male clients. This then moved into the BDSM community, which of course you know I am balls fucking deep in. And in the BDSM sexual practices, a daddy is referred to as the dominant

partner. He plays the role of the paternal figure for the submissive female partner. She enjoys being treated like a child by her lover referring to him as daddy both in and out of the bedroom when he punishes her for any bad behaviors say she was a brat that day say she didn't do as she was told say she removed her panties without permission when he punishes her it's with her best interests in mind. And it's always a protective element. For the man, being called the daddy is what makes him feel in the position of power and control, but it also makes him feel like he is the most crucial person in her life, right? Like he's the leader, he's the breadwinner, he's the homemaker, he's the protector, he's the masculine energy to her feminine energy.

And it kind of serves as an acknowledgement and a reminder in the relationship that the man is in charge. There's authority there, but there's also responsibility to protect and care and nurture for their baby girl. So it's kind of more like a rank and file, I guess you could say, like a, yeah, a figure of authority. And for women, and I am generalizing, there are always exceptions to every rule. For women, most desire a man who will take charge and lead the relationship, okay? So for a woman, it's not about any daddy issues. It's not about trying to replace a father the figure. It's about having her partner as her protector, as her daddy. So for my personal experience, there are three boyfriends I've had in my whole life that I have referred to as daddy.

Now you're like, what the fuck? Why was there not only one? Listen, okay, you call me baby girl, you called your ex baby. You called the ex before her baby, right? It's that term of endearment. It's not just like a one and done thing. And it's not disrespectful to call a future partner daddy if your ex was called daddy, right? It's the same thing. Like as if you're going to like stop calling me sweetheart or darling or baby when you've used all those terms before. It's the same same, right? So I've had three boyfriends that loved being called daddy. And you're going to be like obviously one is lolly obviously one was your magazine boss bdsm you know no no can you believe it no never called lolly daddy was he the first and the most even to this day the most

daddy figure in what i've had in the bit yes but we just never labeled it as that i was 21 man i was young and naive and yeah. But no, I've had three partners. And interestingly, those three partners had no idea about this world that I am so loving my whole life. They had no idea about BDSM, about submission or anything. And when I introduced the word daddy, it was always, it begins in the bedroom. And I would say it during sex and it would just felt right. Like it would just come out during sex like oh daddy right did that turn you guys on you're welcome oh daddy like that quietly and then I'm like let's see the reaction and then they like it and then I'm like okay and then it just fireball progresses as a woman who is aggressively

submissive in fact someone told me I was that quite recently and I was like yeah it's a valid point. I am all in on this narrative. It turns me the fuck on. Not only does it turn me on in the bedroom, when it moves and progresses into the rest of the relationship, that relationship just gets even stronger. Okay. So I would literally call them daddy instead of their fucking name. In fact, one of them, he didn't like it when I called his name. So I would be walking around the house like um and I'd call his name he'd say what did you call me and then I'd be like oh sorry daddy he's like that's better it's so hot and he said to me um once when we was out together he's like I'm fucking addicted

to you calling me daddy I was like I know right he's like thank you for bringing that into my world you're welcome and it's these types of men that have never have never had it before and that's what i love and it never fails right men fucking love being called daddy even if they're beta males even if they've been in previous relationships where they're like they're not even the alpha they're not the dominant they fucking love it because it's the masculine and the feminine energies colliding and it's just like, you know, fucking volcanoes erupting, fireworks. Stop. I will not stop. So when I introduced daddy into my relationships, it really emphasizes the power dynamics and it makes, it makes them feel like they are the man. And listen, don't get this

twisted, dudes and dolls. I'm such a dominant woman, right? I am. We all know I am. Fuck. I'm successful. I'm career driven. I'm so headstrong. I'm assertive. I'm quite aggressive, especially when I've been hurt or I've been, oh, I stand for something. I can go, you know? It takes a lot to snap me. But when you push me, you'll regret that decision. But I'm very, very dominant. That being said, when it comes to my man, I'm the absolute opposite. In my home space, in my private home space with my partner, I am the fucking opposite. Being dominant turns me off. And not only that, I don't like telling my man what to do. I'm not a controlling partner. I am the opposite. I'm the caregiver. I'm the nurturer. I'm the homemaker. You know, I'm the

one that will like jump up, make coffee in the morning, cook you dinners, put you first, share my food with you, pretend I'm not hungry so you can finish my food because I can tell that you're more hungry than I am. I am the one that, you know, oh, live with me. Don't pay rent. That's fine I'll pay like I am it's to a fault right this isn't I am too giving I am too nurturing I am too trusting I am but when I love I love my man with everything and the only people that really understand or know that are my past partners I love unconditionally stupidly sometimes and I love too quickly and I love so deep and part of that package combined with my sexual submissive I don't want to use the word kink because it's just actually part of my personality but my sexual

submissive aspect that then builds up to having a man who is full daddy I would get the ick if my man was beta like if I was trying to wear the trousers if I was always having to go at him or like oh hard pass my darling ill no I need a man to be a man and here's the thing right the reason why men love being called daddy and they fucking love it outside of the bedroom as well I mean saving their number on my phone daddy level telling me show me show me that I'm now saved as daddy right this stuff they love it because it helps their masculinity come to the surface and I'm telling you guys if you're listening like nope never done that just you wait wait till you find a woman that loves that and gives you will be as addicted as every one

of my partners who I've done this with and it becomes normal life like one of my exes one of my exes we had friends over for dinner and um he was talking about me and it's a couple and they're really close friends and he's like well yeah blah blah she always like daddy but he was talking like in general conversation it wasn't even sexual but he just let it slip because we didn't have another name for each other well I was pup I was his pup he was my daddy so and then I looked at him like shut up but it's so difficult not to say it out loud because it's just the narrative. Like, I didn't call his name, you know? And it also, like, I love being able to embody my kind of girly side at home. And, you know, I love having someone

control me because in my art, the rest, like, all the other spheres of my life, I am in charge. I'm a fucking marketing director. I'm in charge. I'm an entrepreneur. Everything I do, I curate it or I've created a career for myself, and it just is exhausting, okay? What I want and what I need is a daddy at home to take care of me. And listen, when it comes to sex, it's fucking fire. If the guy is into it, just watch it spiral. Test the waters, ladies, test the fucking waters, and just watch. and if you get a glimpse into it fucking roll with it and it makes your relationship so much

stronger it because it just it's not about just like this weird sexual thing it's the role they play and what I found especially when I unlock this in my partners is like they don't realize how much they want to be that strong protective male and everyone that I've done this with I said there's only three they all wanted marriage they all wanted babies like we were like a hell like it was a healthy relationship right it wasn't like a a fling or one night stand like we were in healthy relationships we were family planning and all that bollocks all three of them and it really like it didn't even phase them with that like oh would it be weird if I'd actually become a daddy no that does not touch the sides with our relationship and it's even things like that'd be

like one of them said to me he was watching some car crash or something he's a bit fucked up okay he was watching a car crash on his phone and he turns to me and he says this is why you always have to hold daddy's hand when we cross the road I'm like okay and without fail he always held my hand. He would put his arm in front of me, wait till the road every time for months and months and months, the whole time we were together. And he would always make sure he leads the way. He always led me into rooms, opened the doors for me, protected me in that way. And I just fucking, I love it. I love it. And men love it too. I believe wholeheartedly that when men feel that they are slightly emasculated in a relationship, which is of course is the opposite of embodying

the daddy role, that it actually fucks up that relationship. To emasculate a man is kind of like to defeminize a woman and if I felt I wasn't able to live in my feminine energy I would definitely blow up that relationship it wouldn't work for me because I am so feminine because I am so submissive if I wasn't allowed to enter my submissive girly baby girl phase I just the relationship would be fucked for me okay and I believe and y'all gonna debate me on this but I believe any man who feels emasculated, any man who feels she wears the trousers, any man who feels, I don't know, he can't take control or he's always being nagged and told off and he's not in the driver's seat and always being told what to do, that eventually

chips away at him, right, as a dude, at him and his own connection to his own power and inner masculinity in his own control and it eventually just blows up right so for me the daddy and baby girl I say baby girl you can be called anything like I used to be daddy and pop what was the other one no I think it was daddy and baby girl again actually um yeah that dynamic it just, oh God, it just makes the relationship so much stronger and it helps both parties flourish. And of course, my darlings, you can be a daddy and not be a man. It's a power dynamic. I'm coming from my space as per, which is the man and the woman, but this can transcend my darlings to all relationships. I mean, ultimately, it is an affectionate term of endearment, right? It's

interchangeable, honey, baby, like it's just your sweet way to address your romantic partner. It is nothing to do with father issues. I need to reiterate that because everyone's like, oh my god, ew, you must have, no, no, my darlings, do some research, okay? Arm yourselves. if you are slightly into the BDSM world and when I say BDSM okay if you're slightly into the dominant submissive aspect you are going to fucking love it and interestingly as I've said earlier all the men I did this with didn't have a fucking clue about any of it I unlocked it in all of them and I'm so proud of that I'm like yeah I know you'll love it now yeah I know and they just it's addictive they can't get enough and it just makes oh god and it's like oh daddy's

coming home you better be in lingerie I expect the house to be clean I know this sounds like I'm reverting roles into no but it's like yeah not that that's it's more of a role play like I expect the house to be clean expect you to be in lingerie I'll be home at this time and then I'll be cooking you dinner baby and oh my god and it's it's like it's not taking the piss either way like they'll run me above they'll still I don't know fly me on trips they'll still look after me and I look after them so it's not like they're taking advantage if anything it's meeting me where I want them to meet me and vice versa also fucking hell the sex oh calling daddy when you're when he's inside of you like oh come for me daddy oh stop it's so hot and they usually do come quite

quickly because they fucking love it as well and then they're like you're only mine no one else gets to fuck you you're mine i own you say you understand tell daddy you love him oh oh jesus christ i need to get laid tonight anyway have I said enough do we all get the memo if you're interested in this topic or you want to explore it with your partner please as always dm me instagram at nixalina n-i-x-a-l-i-n-a and I'll be very interested to see whether you've ever used this before or you've used it before and it's turned the partner completely off because that happens and it's like what did you just fucking call me and I mean that luckily that's never happened to

me because I am very attracted to alpha males right that's my baseline mo so I already know the kind of human I'm dealing with but yeah sometimes it turns men off or sometimes it turns the woman off if the guy's like just call me daddy she's like no I am not that girl to be clear and on that note thank you all for listening I'm opening the debate very intrigued to see what goes down in my dms and love to hear from you all and to all my daddies out there you're welcome and on that note I will see you all next week Thanks for listening to the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast. Produced and hosted by me, Nick Salina.

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