Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - His Small Dick Energy was a HUGE Problem

Episode Date: April 7, 2025

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This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast and I am Nick Salina. Hello and welcome back to another episode of Me, Nick Salina. Hi, happy Monday evening. I hope you all had an awesome weekend. I hope you've all got an amazing week coming up. This episode is another one where I've not covered it before.

Yay! And the reason I've not covered it before is because I've never had to. Yeah, because I've been lucky in life. It is called, His Small Dick Energy Was a Huge Problem. That's right, ladies and gentlemen, tonight we're talking about small dick energy. now firstly it's crucial to understand that small dick energy is not about the size of someone's penis it's about their behavior and perceived lack of confidence and their insecurity and their inner rage which usually stems from the fact they don't have a big manhood i want to be very clear

I am not body shaming here right this really isn't about a small dick and yet weirdly it is it's about the man and his fucking shitty personality attached to said small dick so as per let me recount one of my personal experiences on this topic I am I've been lucky in life. I've had decent, decent sized penises. I guess I'm quite attracted to the alpha male type. I am. I am attracted to like the big dick energy where it's just a very masculine man, very self-assured, very confident. I'd say my ex-fiance embodied a lot of that. In fact, a little bit too much. Bless him. But, but, but, along my journey of, you know, men and their penis sizes, one or two have slipped through the cracks. And listen, alright, before

I delve in and rip him a new arsehole, I don't care about the size of your dick. I care about what you do with it. You could have the biggest schlong in the world and you'd be shit in bed if you're selfish, if you don't service me, if you don't make me happy in bed, if you don't bother trying. Sometimes these big knobs, they feel like because the size of their dick, they don't have to put any effort in. Nay, nay, that's not what we're about either. I really don't mind. And so, You know, if you're a grower, not a shower, also don't make a call, you know? I've got to be honest, lads. You all care more about the size of your fucking dick than any woman does.

And that's part of the problem with today's topic. It's the male pride and ego attached to what you are naturally born with that leads to the problems in your fucking mentality, ergo then how you treat your woman. So small dick energy refers to lack of confidence, insecurity, usually a tendency to act in ways where they're attention seeking, overly assertive, lack of self-awareness, unwarranted rage and jealousy, obsessed with their appearance, overly dramatic, refusing to relate to anything feminine and most often trying to brag about being a player. All of this, right, that I've just listed out is overcompensation for said small penis. Now my personal experience with this, it was a huge

fucking problem let me tell you why let me regale some examples of the major small dick energy issue I had with one of my partners he was so fucking possessive and jealous of me jealous of me in terms of always accused me of cheating if I so much as looked at someone in the street he even once accused his friend's boyfriend of fancying me like he was so insecure he took me to a party I spent all night sitting on his lap all over him like and I loved him like I blew smoke up this guy's ass let me just make that clear I told him he was handsome every morning I told him I loved the way he dressed I pandered to him I tried to support him through work like I was obsessed with this guy right and I couldn't breathe without being accused of doing something wrong so we're

at this party I spend the whole evening sitting on his lap like I just want his physical attention I'm kissing him whatever and we're talking to one of his girl mates and her long-term partner we leave the party we haven't even gotten a cab he's like oh my god he fancied you he was flirting with you oh my god and I was like what are you talking about we were literally with the couple as you and I as a couple we're talking to your couple friends yeah no he fancied you and you were flirting back with him I was like I was sitting on your lap what is wrong with you and it was like that the whole fucking time the whole relationship I couldn't breathe without being accused if I went away on a girl's weekend he'd be like are the guys there and I'd have to

film the beach and then there'll be guys on the beach how dare other men exist and he'd be like oh you're gonna cheat on me let me be very clear never did cheat on him and I don't cheat and I this is how loyal I was after the fact after we split I still didn't go with anyone and he was immediately jumping into any vagina he could find isn't that always the way so yeah that jealousy and rage it's like they feel deep inferiority when they have this small dick personality and they take it out on you and this is why it's a huge problem their own fucking issues they take it out on you another example is he always used to attack how I look all right when he first met me dream girl dream girl right I'm perfect my face is perfect my body's perfect

even the way I dress is perfect and then like three months in overnight everything changed and he used to say stuff like oh your vagina is peculiar like you want to expand on that what and it wasn't like it was it isn't okay I'm fine ladies and gentlemen but he would make jabs like he'd tell me my face is sagging he would tell me I'm old and he just he just doesn't seem to have any respect for for females in general but it was like he had to bring me down to make himself feel better and he would always refuse sex so he had me begging for sex which was a control tactic because anytime then I'll be like I'm done I'm done I just can't do this anymore he would uh he would immediately get hard on and want to have sex with me

he would say things like out of the blue a random random Saturday right at my at my condo which he's moved into he would sit there on the sofa and say do you miss your ex's big dick I'm like pardon What? Bearing in mind, I've told this guy I love him, I love him, I'm in love with him. He's moved into my house rent-free because he says he can't afford the rent. And it comes up, I was like, what? Sorry, what? He also went through all of my journals when I was away.

I left him to cat-sit in my house because I kind of assumed he was sort of living there anyway. And he used that time to fish through my bookshelf, find all of my old diaries that I've wrote. and fixated on my ex-partner who cheated on me and I obviously loved him and I mentioned you know I'd be whining about sex you know and I'm like oh my god I love him the sex is amazing this guy's got a massive dick rah rah rah so my current small dick partner read that and then obviously got like deeply more insecure and I just like also what do you want me to say to that question yes I do I do miss his big dick is that what you want to hear like what a stupid question but it was stuff like that all the time now I'm all chill with

these random pop-up thoughts but if that's your constant fucking narrative it's a problem he would never like walk around naked and yet I would happily I'm very confident with my body I lived being naked. No shoes on, naked body. Like, it's just who I am. I think it's why I can't live with anyone. I mean, like, housemates. I need to be naked, okay? But he wouldn't. He couldn't. Ever. And he never showed any vulnerability. Ever. Ever. Because that shows weakness. Because he can't be weak. He can't be vulnerable. He can't be feminine. He can't be, you know in touch with his emotions because that won't make him a man because his masculinity is all he has and it's personality overriding his issue with his own member and you see

that's the problem you know like you see a guy driving some fucking ferrari or jumped up porsche or whatever and everyone goes oh i bet he's got a small dick it's that overcompensation yes it's a stereotype yes yes yes there are many ferrari owners who have got massive schlongs i'm sure of it right whittles talking about stereotypes there are also lots of men who have naturally small penises who are fucking gorgeous human beings we're stereotyping but there's always a stereotype for a reason ladies and gentlemen and having lived through it. Luckily, I only lasted six months with this one. Having lived through it, my God, it's a real thing. And this constant need to boast, for instance, the Ferrari,

buying this, buying that, it's always this over-the-top compensation for what you're lacking inside, right? And he was the same. All we talked about was finance. Finance, finance, finance, things finance stuff going away he bragged about being able to pay for hookers nay he bragged about negotiating pay with hookers and being smart enough to only pay them at the end once he's finished and negotiating their pay down what the fuck is wrong with you think of the mental fucking issues there he bragged about negotiating with me rent I moved in rent free because I'm such a good negotiator I'm like no you pretended you're poor as fuck moved yourself in and then decided you weren't paying me half the rent and your stuff's already in my house so I just let it go what

but it's like inner manipulation inner need to put one up on someone like he will be calculated to to try and win in some way where he deems life wins he's he screwed you over and you don't know about it he's manipulated you don't know about it and that gives him joy do you know what i mean like so fucked up he is he was also extremely aggressive towards any perceived criticism anything. You had to blow smoke up this man's ass and you dare have an opinion? You dare have an opinion? That difference is to him. No, absolutely not. You're fucked. He was also very overly focused on external validation, external attention from other people. He had to be loved at work. He would be like, I got a promotion because I played the game. I have to

flirt to get my way up the ladder you don't understand what it's like you have to be the best the most smartest in the room he would even ask me if I thought his co-workers were smarter than him because I need to be the smartest man in the room so he said these words come out of his mouth I'm like what luckily I'd already split up with him by this point surely you just do your job and if you do your job well and you're the best you can be at your job who gives a fuck if your co-worker smarter than you what is wrong with you let me tell you what's wrong with him small penis energy y'all see what i mean this is it's a huge problem and this is why we need to talk about it because your perceived attachment to the size of your dick ruins you as a human

isn't that mental considering no one fucking really cares I mean come on he landed me I mean he fucked the whole relationship up because he you know who he is but he landed me he moved in with me I was in love with him like we were you know we were on if he'd been a normal man we're on a trajectory of a long-term thing couldn't couldn't do it and I gave no fucks about that dick size and I don't think any woman really does okay all right look is a bigger dick better during sex yes yes yes it is yep it is of course it is let's call a spade a spade but sometimes they're too big I've had too big yep I've had too big where it hurts and it doesn't go in imagine like I can't I can't I'm like I just you're hurting me I can't

put it in it's too big who wants that who wants to have painful sex every time because you it's huge no thank you it's a middle ground right and just as small dicks you know on one end massive dicks are on the other end of the spectrum and i don't you know i don't think either are good but this ain't about the size it's about the man and the personality and what small dick issue does because you grow up in this male world where you're in the fucking changing rooms at school and everyone's like shouting they go oh my god he's got a small penis like it's actually nothing to do with women i've got to be honest we don't care y'all are out here fucking each other up dudes i'm talking to you because you're having penis offs on the site no one cares

okay but what I do care about is when you let your issue with your own member make you treat your woman like a piece of shit because that's the only way you feel better about yourself and that is the crux of why small penis energy is a huge problem did I make my point clear I think so as always hit me up do you agree do you not agree have you had a small dick energy kind of man have you had a big dick energy kind of man what are you into can you relate have you been belittled picked up put down your appearance your personality you know what he would even take the piss out of how I treat my cats he got jealous I'd come home and cuddle my babies and he'd be like you don't come home and treat me like that what are you talking about I come home

and I'm all over you bro he got jealous because I'd want to walk through the door and my cat's at my foot and I pick her up first and I don't immediately run over to him and get on my knees and suck said some small penis no no no he got what sorry what there are so many more scenarios I could be here all day detailing just how abhorrent this human was but yes let me know can you relate I'd love to hear your stories as always I'm on Instagram and TikTok sliding to my dms is at nixelina n-i-x-a-l-i-n-a and with that i will see you all next week thanks for listening to the can't keep my mouth shut podcast produced and hosted by me nixelina i'm recorded in the splice cast studios in singapore i'm available to listen to on spotify

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