Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - I Wanna Normalise Giving Blowjobs (Open Up Ladies)

Episode Date: January 9, 2023

Is there a running theme that women don't realllyyyyy like giving blowies?   Are blowjobs a much-needed part of a great sex life between you both?   Do I personally believe in blowjobs? Let's open up (oi oi) and discuss!   ​​For more awesome content to read including beauty, fashion or dating & love features, please do head over to my digital platform www.nixalina.com.   Don't be shy, come say hai! Head over to my Instagram or Tiktok to slide into my DMs.

This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex, and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast, and I am Nick Salina. Hi, it's Monday night of Nick Salina. How y'all doing? You're good? hope everyone's had a great weekend, hope everyone's staying happy and positive for the working week. I've clearly had way too much coffee today. This little episode, I realized I haven't really done much sex, sex, sex based stuff. So without further ado, this episode is, hey honey,

give me a blowjob. Oh, okay. You're like, okay, Nick Salina, we're going to talk about blowjobs. I'm tuning in. Yes, we are. Why are we talking about blowjobs? Okay. Because there seems to be a current theme ongoing. This is a sweeping statement, by the way, so take it with a pinch of salt. This is a current theme that women generally don't like giving blowjobs or it's a special occasion event. You know, like my boy mates would be like, oh yeah, it's my birthday, time for my blowy or you know steak and blow job days in March I might get my yearly blow job there seems to be this thing that women don't like giving blow jobs okay so I want to talk about it obviously because I talk about all the stuff no one wants to talk about

which you all love obviously hashtag number 26 on charts just just put that in there number 26 yeah that's me so blowjobs here's the deal right from my point of view do I sit all day at work and think oh my god I just want to give someone a blowjob oh oh I want to do tonight suck some dick no I don't do I like giving blowjobs to my partner because I appreciate that when he goes down on me I love it, love it, love it, love it. So that I should always return the favor because if I expect that kind of, you know, attention and dedication to my area, then he deserves attention and dedication to his. Yes. Yes, I do. For me, blowjobs is part of like a normal sex life. Like I, I hand them out like, you know, Halloween treats on the 31st of October.

Um, well, this is a TMI episode. Damn. Sorry to my producer for listening in. I appreciate you very much. So yeah, for me, blowjobs, I don't hate giving them. I enjoy giving them. And I'm actually really good. I'm genuinely pretty fucking good. That's not just me picking myself up. Like, I've had a lot of feedback. Oh, God, I hope my fucking dad never listens to this episode. Jesus Christ, I'll be written out the will. Okay, so blowjobs, let's address it. Why is there then this stipulation that women don't want to or maybe don't like giving blowjobs? And as a guy's point of view how do you get more okay one of the things that really puts me off and i feel like this is the same with my girlfriends is when a guy like pushes my my face down onto the dick

to the point like i choke i get that i get it sexy and dominant i get all that shit but if i'm gagging like i might vomit onto your bellend i'm not gonna want to keep doing that am i right there is a certain level there where you can push the boundary but if she's like getting tears in her eyes and thinks she's going to be sick and she's coughing and hacking and gagging that's not going to be the most enjoyable experience for her so you're probably then going to put her off giving blowjobs because the difference between like going down on a girl and a girl going down on a guy is obviously yes your tongue and your jaw gets quite tired but other than that you just sit there with your face you know immersed in a vagina whereas we have to actually have something stabbing at

the back of our fucking throat and guys often get a little bit too carried away and like start trying to face fuck you and it it hurts it does hurt unless you've got a tiny tiny dick and then in which case great they're fine but yeah it it's not it cannot be fun sometimes when you're not enjoying it I've had a couple of guys where I I felt actually physically sick after I was trying to give him a blowjob and he took over with his hands on my head and it felt like I was gonna like pass out because his dick was like choking my throat that's not gonna encourage me to want to put it in my mouth again is it so I feel like when it comes to giving a blowy the guys are going to get more if they give the girl space and freedom to give the blowjob the way she wants

to give it, right? Let's not force this issue. That being said, I do think girls should be more like embrace giving a blowjob, especially if you like receiving all yourself, because it's a give and take thing right so if you love having a guy go down on you then understand he'll love it back as well so actually it's it's kind of a two-way street here as for the like the technique of giving a blowjob you see this it's so hard because we're kind of not brought up where we understand to really know what we're doing and I feel like a lot of the times women and it works both ways I get that but women get scared like I'm not doing it right you know like what do I look like from this angle you know what if he hates it and I feel like that really puts you off like the fear of

being judged or being told that you're shit or you know him sitting there like oh my god this is awful like that really makes you not want to even try but actually if you are together and you have a healthy relationship as we all know good communication through sex is key and we should definitely be talking more together like okay um honey bit slower or like you know can you move a little bit or can you do a bit faster um it's okay it's not it shouldn't be embarrassing you should be able to say like I'm not really enjoying this but if you do this you whatever because, you know, as far as I'm aware, most guys wank off regularly. As far as I'm aware, you know, most girls can get themselves off. If you can't, vibrate her. If you can't do that,

talk to me. But, you know, you kind of know what gets you off, right? How is your partner supposed to know unless you tell them? There's no point grinning and bearing something that's not working for your end. She would rather know what you want. You get better blowjobs. She can tell that you're excited and happy and then that makes her want to give more you know so this is like an upward spiral of more blowjobs I don't even know why I'm dedicating a whole episode to blowjobs it's like these guys out there must be like yes nicks we're here for the blowies I just I heard a lot of people talk recently so it was on my mind like oh you know don't get blowjobs no don't get those those don't happen or oh I only get one once a year and I was like I can't fathom that because

for me giving a blowjob is part of my like normal sex life with my partner I like yeah for me it's it almost happens every time yeah this is definitely too much information but I've gone way past that route so I would like to kind of I guess tap into people that don't make it part of their normal sex life and I want to know why and I think it's fear of judgment I think it's fear of not knowing what they're doing um perhaps past bad experiences like honestly I've had some of the worst like I remember one specific guy this was just before I met my ex in 2016 I thought I was going to pass out because he was so aggressive and I honestly afterwards I wanted to punch him in the face and I was gagging and he kind of just didn't so yeah he's really

aggressive horrible horrible guy so for me like I get why that would put you off but I kind of want to normalize giving blowjobs I feel like I feel like guys should get more I can't even believe I'm saying this. You boys deserve more blowjobs. I just want to make everyone happy, I guess, in the relationship and sex life. And as we all know, I'm here to talk about the stuff you don't want to talk about. And I can see and hear that giving head for men by their partners is, you know, a topic that is quite taboo, but also bothersome. So yeah, I want to normalize giving blowjobs. I feel like there must be reasons why women don't want to do it. As I said, I don't sit there all day going craving, giving a blowjob. It's not high on my priority list. I don't think, oh God,

I just, oh, it's been a week and I haven't managed to suck a dick yet. That's not it at all. If you're wired that way, great, honey, hats off to you. I'm not, but I certainly like it being a part of my healthy sex life with my partner because I like to give and receive and I feel like damn if you're gonna go down on me for half hour every time then yeah like you deserve it too right it's it is what it is it's 50 50 it's give and take um and I just think being comfortable with each other and being able to communicate about all sex in general but about the blowjobs in a nice way you know and I don't be a dick about it but understanding like if she's like I hate it when you push my head down don't push her head down like the aim of the game here is to get more

not less if she's telling you like it makes me gag it makes me feel sick you know like like I said it's very different to licking a vagina it actually goes into your throat and it's horrible and if you have a gag reflex that's very tender and light, then it makes you feel sick. And that is not a turn on, is it? That's a turn off. That doesn't make you then want to carry on for a two hour session. So listen to her and accept like her boundaries. And yeah, then you then you might get more. Ladies, if you want to give more blowjobs, but you're scared or you're worried about techniques or you just want advice or help as always my inbox is open um please dm me you can even email me anonymously nicksalina at gmail.com I'm here for all the things like this subject

which is you know embarrassing awkward taboo and shameful in some people and I'm here to let you know it's not it's okay but giving a blowjob is a very healthy part of a very loving sex life honestly it really is and foreplay is a really healthy part of a sex life as well and you should both be enjoying each other's bodies as much as you wish i'm all for giving blow drops i'm all for making them part of your sex life um so yeah let's do it let's let's open up communication let's make each other very comfortable and let's all live our best sex life's selves, shall we? That is the end of this episode. Thanks for listening to the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast, produced and hosted by me,

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