Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - I Wanna Talk About Giving BLOWJOBS

Episode Date: November 5, 2024

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Hi, it's Monday night of Nixalina. How y'all doing? You're good? Hope everyone's had a great weekend. Hope everyone's staying happy and positive for the working week. I've clearly had way too much coffee today. this little episode, I realized I haven't really done much sex, sex, sex-based stuff. So, without further ado, this episode is, hey honey, give me a blowjob. Oh, okay. You're like, okay, Nick Salina, we're going to talk about blowjobs. I'm tuning in. Yes, we are. Why are we talking about blowjobs okay because there seems to be a car a current theme ongoing

this is a sweeping statement by the way so take it with a pinch of salt this is a current theme that women generally don't like giving blowjobs or it's a special occasion event you know like my boy mates would be like oh yeah it's my birthday time for my blowy or you know steak and blowjob days in March I might get my yearly blowjob there seems to be this thing that women don't like giving blowjobs okay so I want to talk about it obviously because I talk about all the stuff no one wants to talk about which you all love obviously hashtag number 26 on charts just just put that in there number 26 yeah that's me so blowjobs here's the deal right So from my point of view, do I sit all day at work and think, oh my God, I just want

to give someone a blowjob. Oh, all I want to do tonight is suck some dick. No, I don't. Do I like giving blowjobs to my partner because I appreciate that when he goes down on me, I love it, love it, love it, love it so that I should always return the favor because if I expect that kind of you know attention and dedication to my area then he deserves attention and dedication to his yes yes I do for me blowjobs is part of like a normal sex life like I I hand them out like you know Halloween treats on the 31st of October um well this is a TMI episode

damn sorry to my my producer for listening in um I appreciate you very much so yeah for me blowjobs I I do I don't hate giving them I enjoy giving them and I'm actually really good I'm genuinely pretty fucking good that's not just me picking myself up like I've had a lot of feedback oh god i hope my fucking dad never listens to this episode jesus christ i'll be written out the will okay so blow jobs let's address it why is there then this stipulation that women don't want to or maybe don't like giving blow jobs and as a guy's point of view how do you get more okay one of the things that really puts me off and i feel like this is a same with my girlfriends is when a guy like pushes my my face down onto the dick

to the point like i choke i get that i get it sexy and dominant i get all that shit but if i'm gagging like i might vomit onto your bellend i'm not gonna want to keep doing that am i right there is a certain level there where you can push the boundary but if she's like getting tears in her eyes and thinks she's going to be sick and she's coughing and hacking and gagging that's not going to be the most enjoyable experience for her so you're probably then going to put her off giving blowjobs because the difference between like going down on a girl and a girl going down on a guy is obviously yes your tongue and your jaw gets quite tired but other than that you just sit there with your face you know immersed in a vagina whereas we have to actually have something stabbing at

the back of our fucking throat and guys often get a little bit too carried away and like start trying to face fuck you and it it hurts it does hurt unless you've got a tiny tiny dick and then in which case great they're fine but yeah it it's not it cannot be fun sometimes when you're not enjoying it. I've had a couple of guys where I felt actually physically sick after I was trying to give him a blowjob and he took over with his hands on my head and it felt like I was going to pass out because his dick was choking my throat. That's not going to encourage me to want to put it in my mouth again, is it? So I feel like when it comes to giving a blowjob, the guys are going to get more if they give the girl space and freedom to give the blowjob the way she wants to

give it, right? Let's not force this issue. That being said, I do think girls should be more like embrace giving a blow job especially if you like receiving all yourself because it's a give and take thing right so if you love having a guy go down on you then understand he'll love it back as well so actually it's it's kind of a two-way street here as for the like the technique of giving a blow job you see this it's so hard because we're kind of not brought up where we understand to really know what we're doing and I feel like a lot of the times women and it works both ways I get that but women get scared like I'm not doing it right you know like what do I look like from this angle you know what if he hates it and I feel like that really puts you

off like the fear of being judged or being told that you're shit or you know him sitting there like oh my god this is awful that that really makes you not want to even try but actually if you are together and you have a healthy relationship as we all know good communication through sex is key and we should definitely be talking more together like okay um honey a bit slower or like you know can you move a little bit or can you do a bit faster um it's okay it's not it shouldn't be embarrassing you should be able to say like I'm not really enjoying this but if you do this whatever because you know as far as I'm aware most guys wank off regularly as far as I'm aware you know most girls can get themselves off if you can't vibrator if you can't do that

talk to me. But you know, you kind of know what gets you off, right? How is your partner supposed to know unless you tell them? There's no point grinning and bearing something that's not working for your end. She would rather know what you want. You get better blowjobs. She can tell that you're excited and happy. And then that makes her want to give more. You know, this is like an upward spiral of more blowjobs i don't even know why i'm dedicating a whole episode to blowjobs it's like these guys out there must be like yes nicks we're here for the blowies i just i heard a lot of people talk recently so it was on my mind like oh you know don't get blowjobs nope don't get those those don't happen or oh i only get one once a year and i was like i can't fathom that

because for me, giving a blowjob is part of my like normal sex life with my partner. I like, yeah, for me, it's, it almost happens every time. Yeah, this is definitely too much information, but I've gone way past that route. So I would like to kind of, I guess, tap into people that don't make it part of their normal sex life and I want to know why and I think it's fear of judgment I think it's fear of not knowing what they're doing and perhaps past bad experiences like honestly I've had some of the worst like I remember one specific guy this was just before I met my ex in 2016 I thought I was going to pass out because he was so aggressive and I honestly afterwards I wanted to punch him in the face and I was gagging and he kind of just didn't

so yeah he's really aggressive horrible horrible guy so for me like I get why that would put you off but I kind of want to normalize giving blowjobs I feel like I feel like guys should get more I can't even believe I'm saying this you boys deserve more blowjobs I just want to make everyone happy, I guess, in the relationship and sex life. And as we all know, I'm here to talk about the stuff you don't want to talk about. And I can see and hear that giving head for men by their partners is, you know, a topic that is quite taboo, but also bothersome. So yeah, I want to normalize giving blowjobs. I feel like there must be reasons why women don't want to do it as I said I don't sit there all day going craving giving a blow job it's not

high in my priority list I don't think oh god I just oh it's been a week and I haven't managed to suck a dick yet that's not it at all I mean if you're wired that way great honey hats off to you I'm not but I certainly like it being a part of my healthy sex life with my partner because I like to give and receive and i feel like damn if you're gonna go down on me for half hour every time then yeah like you deserve it too right it's it is what it is it's 50 50 it's give and take um and i just think being comfortable with each other and being able to communicate about all sex in general but about the blowjobs in a nice way you know and i don't be a dick about it but understanding like she's like i hate it when you push my head down don't push her head down like the aim of the game

here is to get more not less it's just telling you like it makes me gag it makes me feel sick you know like like i said it's very different to licking a vagina it it actually goes into your throat and it's horrible and if you have a gag reflex it's very tender and light then it makes you feel sick and that is not a turn on is it that's a turn off that doesn't make you then want carry on for a two hour session. So listen to her and accept like her boundaries. And yeah, then you then you might get more. Ladies, if you want to give more blowjobs, but you're scared or you're worried about techniques, or you just want advice or help, as always, my inbox is open. um please dm me you can even email me anonymously nicksalina at gmail.com i'm here for all the

things like this subject which is you know embarrassing awkward taboo and shameful in some people and i'm here to let you know it's not it's okay but giving a boy job is a very healthy part of a very loving sex life honestly it really is and foreplay is a really healthy part of a sex life as well and you should both be enjoying each other's bodies as much as you wish I'm all for giving blow drops I'm all for making them part of your sex life um so yeah let's do it let's let's open up communication let's make each other very comfortable and let's all live our best sex life selves shall we that is the end of this episode thanks for listening to the can't keep my mouth shut podcast produced and hosted by me

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