Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - Let's Discuss - Female Ejaculation and SQUIRTING

Episode Date: December 2, 2024

Did you know - It IS possible for women to squirt and ejaculate at the same time, and every woman DOES have the physical capacity to squirt. For more pearls of wisdom on this topic, let's dive in shall we? With love, Nixalina. ​For more awesome content to read including beauty, fashion or dating & love features, please do head over to my digital platform www.nixalina.com. Don't be shy, come say hai! Head over to my Instagram or Tiktok @nixalina to slide into my DMs

This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast and I am Nixalina. Hi, it's Nixalina. Welcome back to another episode of Can't Keep My Mouth Shut. My mouth can't keep it shut. And this week, we're discussing an episode of which I have never covered before. And you know what? Eight seasons in, it's actually pretty hard, pun intended, finding topics I've not covered.

Because what are we looking at, 150 episodes or something for five years now? It's a lot of sex, dating and love chat, isn't it? But this episode, I haven't. And it is called, Let's Discuss. female ejaculation and squirting hello yes talk about squirting so so so so if y'all have watched any porn it's very I have fair don't hate it quite like porn me um oftentimes there's there's a lot of squirting and mostly it feels like it's this imaginative thing that only porn stars can do and I want to dispel that and talk about very real ejaculation and squirting and I thought

we'd start by that sort of education on it really because if I'm honest I think most of us would think female ejaculation and squirting is the same thing and it's not it's different can you believe that it's actually two different things which is why I thought let's start there shall we so female ejaculation is when the female's urethra expels fluid during sex okay so this can happen during arousal but it's not necessarily associated with having an orgasm right so usually it is through an orgasm but it can happen at any point you know like when a guy fingers a girl and he's like oh you got really wet it's probably a bit of female ejaculation so that the ejaculation is the release of urine. Yeah. Oh, I know. Two minutes in, we're talking about piss for fuck's sake.

I hope no one's eating dinner. Female ejaculation is a release of both urine and a substance from the female prostate, right? So it's the schema glands. It's the glands inside. And the ejaculate fluid is different from the fluid that lubricates your vagina during sexual arousal or like when you get wet so you can it's difficult to get your head around so you can ejaculate when you're getting aroused but it's the fluid is different to that oh she's so wet sexual arousal fluid but you can also ejaculate when you arouse and not necessarily when you're having an orgasm, but often you do ejaculate when you have an orgasm. Does that make sense? I know it's very difficult. Perhaps Google this for a little bit more in-depth research should you need. Do you like nicks? I don't get it.

Squirting, on the other hand, refers to the urine which is expelled from the vagina during an orgasm. And not everyone with a vagina can squirt during an orgasm, might not ever squirt, and that's also okay. We're going to get to that later. But this type of orgasm, a squirting orgasm, basically includes a rapid ejection of urine from the bladder, right? So more piss. If it makes it easy to understand, it is possible to squirt and ejaculate at the same time,

right? It's possible. you can do both ejaculation from the vagina it may include a small release of like like milky liquid um that that doesn't gush out you follow it squirting on the other hand it's usually a much higher volume and gush okay got that hi allow me to pop right in here for a quick break and introduce you to today's sponsor which is the meat club an online food delivery service based in singapore these guys started out in 2014 because they were finding it difficult to source high quality affordable meat in singapore and i

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you so much to the meat club for sponsoring today's episode and thank you for making my personal roast dinners taste even better and with that we'll head back to the story so squirting is when you orgasm ejaculation doesn't have to be when you orgasm it usually is though the ejaculation is a substance from the prostate being released and a bit of urine squirting is um mostly urine um yeah it is i'm sorry to say that but it basically is um there's a vaginal lubricants mixed in with the squab is pretty much pretty much just urine um and you can live your life having your orgasms with your mold ejaculation you didn't really know what's happening because

it kind of doesn't go it doesn't go mental which is a little bit inside like oh okay i felt a bit more wet then and you can live your life like that. It's great. It's great. Or you can be squirter and you soak the bed every time. Now, here's the deal with squirting. It feels like men these days think that we women should be able to squirt each time. If you don't squirt or soak the bed, then you're not pleasured and they've done a bad job and rah, rah, rah, rah, rah. It's not the case at all and if anything whilst physically yes every woman every woman can squirt physically we can but it's probably less than like 50 actually do and it feels like they become this pressure on women to fulfill this squirting fantasy because it makes men feel like they're

the king of the world. Oh yeah, I made my missus squirt. Like it has any reflection on their prowess. Now to be fair, sometimes it is about the dude. And let me tell you about my personal squirting history. Thank you for asking. I know you're wondering. I assumed I couldn't never ever no nothing nothing until I got to 30s early 30s and I was with my long-term partner um where he I was with him for five years and I gotta be honest our sex was fucking great that sexual connection I think kept the relationship going for as long as it did never even when we were like breaking up it was just banging sex um and I felt really comfortable around him um physically because you know we were in a long-term relationship and kind of whatever

so I really relaxed with him and I remember the first time I had squirted and I didn't know it was happening and he didn't know it was happening and he kind of like what what what just happened I was like I don't know I don't know oh my god did I piss myself and I was really embarrassed and then afterwards we were like oh my god you squirted and then I was like I I just didn't think I could and um and that was that that was I happened just once with him and then my fiancee no never ever never no no not with that one and then I had um a guy who I did an episode about called my fingering game changer he did I was well a one-nighter at F1 years ago and I cannot tell you how incredible he was

but I had never squirted like that before and I was like what the fuck and I remember lying there like and I was so drunk it was like five in the morning it was F1 man like after parties after parties and I just assumed with that much booze

and dancing I was knackered like I wouldn't even it wouldn't even not climax like that and I remember being like what the fuck and he's like yeah I can do it again let me show you and then he did it again. I was like, oh my God, can I keep you forever?

Um, and then recently the guy who brought me back to life in the summer, he did. Um, but my boyfriend before him, no, no, no. So it's up and down and it really actually does depend, I think, on the guy that you're with and how comfortable you feel with them. But it's also about how comfortable you feel about your own body, right? So some sex experts kind of recommend stimulating a G-spot to achieve the squirting orgasm. And I would say that's how I do it. Well, I say me. It's usually a guy and they're well-equipped fingers. Well done, my man. So I say if you can do it yourself or with a sex toy yourself and start to feel more comfortable with your body, then great, do that. Obviously, if you need a guy or your partner or, you know, whoever you're with

to go for it, go for it. But the G-spot stimulation is kind of essential to the squirting, basically. You're probably never going to achieve it if you don't get there. So I guess we can look at using lots of lubrication, combining the clitoral stimulation with G-spot stimulation as well. Say that when you're drunk, G-spot stimulation. You can use sex toys that are designed specifically to stimulate the G-spot. You can also do things like bearing down on your pelvic muscles when you're nearing an orgasm to try and help with the squirting aspect. You can also strengthen your vaginal muscles with Kegel exercises. They're always great anyway. I mean, they're just great. I do them, you should do them, whatever, like, nothing bad comes out of Kegel exercises,

nothing, right, only good things, but yes, whilst I wanted to talk about squirting, ejaculation, everything's so individual, I couldn't really sit here and give you a tutorial on how to squirt, because honestly, even for me, like, none of, you know, my recent long-term boyfriends that I live with they didn't they didn't and they didn't seem to care either whereas guys that like were a shorter thing or like they did it so I'm like hang on a minute then wait so what do I feel more comfortable around these guys or is it because I'm not totally invested or like I know it's you know a thing so that I can I don't know but I definitely believe if you can't ever squirt and you've never done it and you don't give a shit good please don't have anyone make you feel

crap or like you are it like not good in bed because you don't squirt like a fucking porn star yes physically you can but most women don't and if you just ejaculate when you orgasm great and if you if you orgasm and you don't even ejaculate much great good as long as you're enjoying yourself this is not a one-size-fits-all uh pun intended kind of uh sexual uh aspect like it is so subjective and it's so different per person and where you are even mentally you might be able to squirt when you first meet your boyfriend and then months down the line stresses in life or he's becoming a dick and then kind of you can't because you're emotionally and physically blocking away like there's so many different things but yes I thought I would discuss it

because I think it's really important to know it is two different things ejaculation is not the same as squirting well you can do both or just one or none okay and it's all fine as long as you enjoy yourself that's all I fucking care about also it can take a while to learn to square or maybe you just get to your age of no fucks given because my 20s didn't do any of that right now and then 30s here yeah they say your 30s are your new 20s and my girlfriends let me tell you they are I would not trade me now for 20 something nicks in a million years and on that note I shall end this episode I'm sure you will all find this very intriguing can't wait for the dms about this one as always uh my instagram is an open book you can message me at nixalina n-i-x-a-l-i-n-a

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