Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - Never Have I Ever...Had a Threesome

Episode Date: April 3, 2023

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This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex, and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast, and I am Nick Salina. Hi, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of me. Yay! Happy Monday evening. I hope you're all doing really well. this episode, I'm going to spill some tea. It is called Never Have I Ever Had a Threesome. Spoiler alert, immediately, I have. More than once. Yeah, just going to slide that right in, pun intended. I have had many. Wow. Just, yeah. Okay. I have had many. So listen, I haven't

had a threesome my whole life until I reached the age of 35. And then I think what happened is I went off to heal from I was going to get married and I went right the other way and yeah um discovered that I really quite enjoy threesomes so I guess let's start off with the question that you're going to ask for is like was it two guys or was it a girl and a guy And how did it start? And did you like it? And what happened? Okay. So, I mean, for privacy reasons, I'm not going to go that balls deep. But I will tell you that it was with a guy and a girl. I will tell you that it was like, they're still in my life. It was not a hookup at a bar. It wasn't a Tinder date. It wasn't a boyfriend and we wrote someone else in. I was like the third person.

And I will tell you that I fucking loved it. Right? Yeah, I never thought I would. So the reason I've never, I have discussed threesomes for many years. And also there was a part of me with my long term ex, where we'd talk about it a lot about getting a woman involved. But I was always very like, if I love someone, the thought of someone else touching them, I'm like, I will rip your fucking hair out if you lay a hand on my man. Oh, don't get me wrong. The hypocrisy has not escaped me at this point. But I just couldn't do it. I like the idea of it. I'm like, no, I can't let someone else touch you. And I'm terrified that it will change the dynamic of the relationship as well but it was a discussion it did turn me on it did turn him on but never

happened never happened and mainly also because of me like I was like yeah when I'm not horny it's like a fetish when I'm horny when I'm not horny I'm like don't even fucking look at her also what do you do with the girl who's like is she do you get a girl who's hotter than you do you get a girl that because I've I've felt like I'm not not fancying women but she's got to be stunning but then if she's stunning I'm well I feel really insecure if she takes her clothes off and my boyfriend like seats her and then I'm standing there like oh embarrassing so you know there's not there's lots of things going on with why I would and wouldn't but also then I get scared that does it change the dynamic and that after that one-on-one sex isn't as fun or

then is it like you know you once you've done it do you want more bit like having a drink and it you have one or two beers and suddenly you want fucking 10 and then one beer no longer is enough like one beer love it but I want all of it now I've had 10 beers it feels great so that's what I worried about a long time. So I haven't. In my single days, I also didn't venture in London. I did sex parties, as we know. I love my BDSM, as we know, very open about being a sub. But never threesomes. And at the sex party that I went to, this couple did really try and beeline for me and get me involved and I just couldn't do it like I but mainly because the whole sex party scene like put me off I just was so uncomfortable maybe and also I didn't really overly fancy

them they were like the hottest at the sex party but they certainly weren't my type but anyway fast forward single nick selena 35 heals from uh i mean i literally was due to get married next month i'm fucking let's sit with that for a minute um so i'm healing from that and the occasion just arose so i've always wondered how do they start how do threesome start how do you make it work you know do you put your fucking profile couple wanted on an app or or do you go to a bar and then start chatting to a couple and hope that they want it out well let me tell you how mine started completely out the blue and very natural drinking we're drinking we're chilling we're having fun. And we're friends. We're friends first and foremost. And I thought that would

be fucking weird. And it's not. It has not changed the dynamic of the friendship at all. And I think, I mean, obviously I was drunk. Like, let's call a spade a spade. Sober Nicks is not like, yo, you too, bedroom, now. No, no, no, no. But also how, you know, I've been drunk nicks before my my 35 years and I've never ever done this before but I think it started because I realized that both of them fancied me and there was indications throughout and I just like let myself roll with it you know and I thought that was I wake up the next day and I think that didn't bother me at all like it I would have assumed there would be I'd wake up the next stay fucking mortified no it was almost like oh that was fun let me go and make coffee what else

can I do today what do I need to write about like it didn't even register it was so weird and then I thought okay it's a one-off no no it wasn't Oh, I love these fun episodes. I like cackle like a witch. You guys have pointed out my cackle. Yes, I'm well aware. I do have a little witch's cackle. But yeah, it wasn't a one-off at all. And every time I fucking love it. I trust them. They trust me. It's safe sex. It's a safe space. it does not in any shape or form ever change the dynamic of the friendship or their relationship and I just it's so weird that it's not weird it's very odd so after the first time I did worry I was like oh like what if now it's awkward um when we sit no nothing nothing we just see each other and

it's just like super normal. We can go like pool together. We can go out to dinner together and we're just friends. Who fuck? This is so fucking tea spilling. Yeah. Sorry, mum and dad, if you're listening, which I really fucking hope you're not. But yeah, I actually love it. Why do I love it? i love being the center of attention because uh they're a couple i get all the attention and i love that um i love the the taboo part of it i'm obviously quite experimental as we know when it comes to the bedroom anyway um i like the double load of like physical affection because obviously you get you can have all those different experiences because there's a double set of hands. There's a double set of mouths. You get both dick and vagina. Am I allowed

to say that? Yeah, I love it. I've got to be honest. And I never thought I would. Not in a million years. And I never thought I would ever have a threesome either. And people always so shocked that I haven't like what you haven't but I'm so closely loyal and very guarded when it comes to sex and my body that I just the idea I always thought having a threesome would be like you have to just like hook up with a random at a bar because there's no fucking way I want someone touching my partner or like hook up with two men but then that terrifies me I've never never have I ever, ever been spit roasted or had more than one dick at a time. I'm not saying I'm against it, but just the idea of it. It's a bit like threesomes before I had one. Scary idea.

I might love it. Who knows? Maybe, you know, airtight at one point in my life. Let's have three dicks. I'm kidding. I'm not going to be airtight ever. It's too much. It's not for me. Thank you. But yeah, I just, where am I going with this episode? Okay, let's find a moral meaning because we always have to try and find something that was educational out of it. although this one clearly isn't this is a tea spill but I would say that if there's something about you that wants to explore but you're not sure I would definitely consider actually exploring and um you see where it goes yeah and just don't be concerned about the fear or the aftermath or something that you are interested in because actually if I'd known they were that fun I

probably would have done more in my 20s genuinely when I was single before my partner and also you have your boundaries it helps you like learn what you like and what you don't like and how do we know what we don't like unless we try it right um but yeah great love it love set up very happy um I haven't written it off in the future if I met someone that I was really into and was dating like then no then that's not i wouldn't go off and oh let's have a threesome and no like i'm loyal but if you're single yeah my seal of approval right here i'm not going to go into the ins and outs of the actual threesome so if you're holding out for that you are going to be sorely let down. I have some level of privacy in my life and I'm not going to go

down that road. But if it's something you've been thinking about and you want to personally DM me for some longer advice or a little bit in depth and whatnot, I am all ears and I will listen and talk to you about it. So as always, you can slide into my DMs at Nixalina, N-I-X-A-L-I-N-A. And if you ever are out with me drinking and we play Never Have I Ever, get a shot ready for me for the topic of threesomes. And that is the end of this episode. Thank you all for listening to my cackling and I will see you all next week. enjoy a new episode every Monday evening. Please do give me a five-star review. It helps other people also find my podcast. For more content and features to read, you can check out my website,

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