Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - One-Night Stands - Are They Worth It?

Episode Date: August 22, 2023

Are they mindblowing spontaneous epic sex with a stranger, OR, are they awkward, embarrassing, regretful rubbish sex where you wish you could forget the entire thing? Let's discuss one night stands shall we!   ​For more awesome content to read including beauty, fashion or dating & love features, please do head over to my digital platform www.nixalina.com. Don't be shy, come say hai! Head over to my Instagram or Tiktok to slide into my DMs.

This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast and I am Nick Salina. Hi, it's Nick Salina. The reason I'm already giggling is because I just had a chat with my producer who always points out that I like almost double my planned time of each episode I'm like yeah this episode's gonna be like 15 minutes and then I just chat so much so the last episode I did my plan was like 10 minutes definitely 10 minutes 10 minutes 20 minutes later he's like are you

aware? Yep. Can't keep my mouth shut. And on that note, this episode is our one night stands worth it. And by one night stands, what I mean is having sex with someone you met that night, probably drunk, and in the morning they leave or you leave. And that's it done that's your one night stand we can extend it to a fling maybe maybe two or three times nothing serious not like clearly you or them are are only tapping that like you're not even you know texting trying to find information out about them are they worth it no the end no are they worth it listen if you've never had a one-night stand and you're curious about like what it's like and you can't really wrap your head around fucking someone you just met

it is odd but usually in like in my experience it would be like someone that is like I'm already out drinking and I see someone at a bar or a club or a friend of a friend and I'm like, fucking hell. Hello. Right. And I'm probably horny as well. And then there's like this electric connection. So you're not just like, oh, you'll do. I fancy a shag. Some people what? I fancy a shag. You're the last one in the bar. Come on in. Just gotta come. I need to spunk somewhere. All good. Come on. That's not how I do it. I think a lot of men do it that way. I mean, don't come. Don't come after me, guys. But I do think guys sometimes like that. I know that's awful, but like just want to spunk into something that isn't their right hand and anything

goes is that why guys like prostitutes I mean do we need to delve into that oh I should so do an episode on prostitution why men pay prostitutes like what's but I need people to come forward and no one's gonna willingly come forward to me and be like hey nicks I love prostitutes here's why anyway I digress so for me the one night stands is some electric unexpected sexual connection and of course it's always heightened if you're drinking right or you're chatting and drinking or whatever and it's club and vibey and you've got dressed up so you look really sexy and you feel sexy yeah that's how I'll usually turn into my one night stands also like for me specifically when I'm drinking I don't want to I don't ever want to go home and stop so if I'm going home

and someone's up for it like yeah come back to mine we'll have beers on the balcony play some music let's keep this going and then of course you know the bedroom's like 15 feet away so let's now talk about the sex is one night stand sex worth it um honestly you can have some fucking blinding one night stand sex like mind-blowing the after what was it last year yeah after my I left my relationship I had one of the best sexual nights ever with a guy that just fucking got me and then it made me realize like the sex I'd have been having for like the last year was shit in comparison I was like oh I just didn't expect it because if you have this frame of mind of which I used to do I would be like one night stand sex is gonna be shit right

you don't know each other it's awkward it's uncomfortable this is basically a stranger You've known them, what, four hours? Four? Three? How awkward is that? And yet, no, sometimes not knowing them, not wanting anything from them, not having some connection beyond this moment is really, it's a turn on and it's very freeing, right? You know, you feel like you can be more you because you don't care if you ever see this person again um yeah I up until last year I never thought that my opinion was like one night stands are like are always shit sex you know or you can barely remember it because you're so drunk being there loads or you wake or you wake up the next day you look over and they're asleep and you're like oh god I thought you were a strong nine out

of ten you're three out of ten and then you give yourself the ick and you just want them to get up and leave I've been there as well get out of my bed and get out of my house and I'm gonna wipe this memory from my mind but if the person is a strong nine out of ten or you know what I mean you think they're hot and the sexual connection is oh my god sometimes it can be fucking wild I think the reason I had if I think back I don't want to think back just get me horny I had such a great night with this guy was because he tapped into like my dom sub vibe which both of my exes couldn't fulfill I was really let down by you know dom sub if you're new to me or that dominance and submissive I like a dominant man I'm a submissive in the bedroom very open about that so to find

a one night stand that fucking got that. I was mind blown. I remember the next day I rung up my best friend in the UK and I was like, I just don't know how to handle that fire sex. And I was like, no, I want it. I want it all the time. All the time. Like, where is he? He needs to come back. I want it all the time. He didn't, by the way. I I mean, it's a one-night stand, right? That's the point of it. And it's annoying because that's an issue with one-night stands is if it's so good that it makes you want it again.

And y'all never agreed together that this was more than one night. This was a one night, right? However, they also can be shit. and i think the majority of one night stands is that shit sex vibe i think i had a random unicorn of a fucking hottie oh his body he was like six foot three ripped as fuck this manager of this um Jim and oh god the sex I wish you girls and guys could see inside my head like it was so good he was doing everything I love he was choking me but like got it right he was saying all the stuff I want to hear I just don't know how he got it the way he got it but like dude if you're still

ever listening, fucking kudos to you. But beyond him, yes, there has been some horrendous sexual experiences and one night stands. Awkward doesn't cover it. I need a new layer of awkward for how shit that one night stand sex was. And if they don't leave, usually if it really is that shit, they will go or you can leave if you're drunk enough or you just pass out you got that what could morning thing I hate it like fucking leave my house I tried to get rid of one guy what was this last year oh she should do a whole podcast episode on this but um I tried to get him to leave I declined I wasn't feeling it and he kind of didn't get the memo and then he wanted it was like one or two in the morning and he wanted to go and get McDonald's and then come back to my house

and I was like no but I didn't know how to I was getting I was getting a little bit scared because he wasn't leaving and I ended up locking as soon as he left to go and find his McDonald's I locked my door and he was messaging trying to come back and oh so I got the ick I got the ick we're calling it so that's like you know your worst case scenario where someone's in your house and you really don't know them because obviously you just met them and then you change your mind or you have sex and it's so shit you just want them to leave how how do you do that nicely it's so awkward and I mean when I say shit sex I mean like what if like they come really quickly or they can't get it up because they're too drunk oh you know the amount of fucking times I've had that I can't get

it up I've had too much to drink then why are you here please be gone oh no I'm not I'm not shitting on guys that can't get I get it it's a thing but and I know that you won't know that until like you probably were horny and then when it comes to it it's not working I get that I get that it's fine but still it's awkward but then I'm like oh okay okay fine yep sure so I think that the question is oh one night stands worth it I think the majority are pretty bad but I think if you do find someone that somehow manages to match your connection in the bedroom and kind of knows what you want they can be fantastic and if you are single like moi they're kind of fun because it's no strings right when did i last have let me think i was seeing

someone for a wee bit this year as you'll probably saw because you'll stalk my instagram um but my one night stand yeah i think there was a couple in maybe like a few months ago i can't really remember um yeah they're great like if you're no strings and you don't want I don't want anything I'm not looking for a boyfriend and but I you know obviously want my needs met hallelujah go to a bar find a hottie which in Singapore is the first problem oh my god fuck me sideways or don't because you're all ugly where are my hot men damn um yeah but it's it's good for me to fulfill my needs you know and then be like see you later and not have to worry about seeing them later and just crack on with what I'm doing so I guess the answer to the question is there is no

answer to the question are one night stands worth it well it fucking depends on whether you're up for just a cheeky shag whether it suits and fulfills your needs and where you're at in your life like me and it also depends on the guy or the girl you choose because if you choose someone and the sex is embarrassing or shit or by the time you get them home you're already regretting it and then you're you do sobering up and realizing they ain't as hot as you thought or maybe you get home and then you think oh I'm not even horny anymore but now I've got to go through with it because here they are all that then no it's not worth it and I would put my money on it if we if we interviewed every possible person who's had a string of one night stands I reckon 70%

would say they are not worth it and what makes that part not worth it is the ick you get after obviously god forbid if you don't use a condom then you're probably thinking i gotta go have a fucking std test now because i don't know where they've been you know you don't know this person and then you got all that worry god forbid if you're not on any contraception and then you'll be rowing you might be fucking pregnant and yeah all for what like a sex night you can barely remember or a sex night that actually like was the opposite of what you thought it'd be because sometimes guys are really fucking hot and sexy and women too and the sex itself is shit but someone being attractive and sexy has no correlation to how they are in bed we assume that if they're hot

and fit and sexual and you know that that they'll be great in bed no do not make assumptions my friends so that can be another fucking letdown but yeah I reckon 70% of all the poll I'd ever take people would say they're not worth it however because of my shining example last year of an incredible one night stand I hold hope and also because they suit my needs right now so very selfishly I think they are because I get what I want I don't have to worry about being anyone's fucking girlfriend or their wife or their maid or their cook or their cleaner or their parent I can just be me get what I want and then crack on being me and on that note I am done with this episode I would love to hear your thoughts as always do

you think one night stands are worth it what's your thoughts do you love one night stands do you get a kick out of one night stands do you love the idea and the thrill of being with a stranger for one night only i just want to sing a song then you know the song or are you like i feel so gross opening up my body to some fucking total random never ever do i want to do that or i've done it once or twice absolute horrendous no interest anymore tell me tell me your experiences You can find me on Instagram and TikTok at nixalina, N-I-X-A-L-I-N-A. Thank you all for listening and I will see you all next week. Thanks for listening to the Can't Keep My Mouth Shut podcast, produced and hosted by me,

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