Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - "Our Interracial Relationship Causes So Much Hate On TikTok"

Episode Date: September 6, 2021

Love conquers all, amiright? Love overcomes age, culture, background, religion... race... or does it? I talk to a couple who have received so much hate, trolls and racial comments on their TikTok, simply because - they're different.

this podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships sex and love it may not be suitable for younger listeners this is the sex in singapore city podcast and i am nick selena hi guys it's nick selena i'm back with another episode of season four and this one is the one we've all been waiting for. I have been asked on repeat to do this episode topic and I've never really understood how to do it or how I can do it well because of my background and who I'm dating. And I just thought what I need is someone to come on my show that can really dig deep into the concept of interracial relationships. Now I was on TikTok. I'm a newbie, FYI. No one look

at my page because it's basically me and a cat and that's about it. And I was on my girlfriend's page and I saw this horrendous comment and it was something like, you've chased the wrong race of her and her boyfriend. And as soon as I saw that comment, I was like, this is the couple I need on the show. So this episode today is basically my interracial relationship gets hate comments on tiktok and my two guests to talk about it with me and their relationship in general is anna she's a banker originally from germany how long have you been in singapore um a little bit over four years no points and i also have the lovely daniel thank you he's a personal trainer yeah full-time full-time um yeah kind of yeah freelance when you want when i want yeah i can

get out of bed and you are originally from Singapore yeah I'm Singapore okay so I have a local and an expat and I have a Caucasian girl and I have a local boy and apparently that seems to be part of the problem yeah right yeah I mean some people see it as part of the problem but for us it's not a problem at all so let's begin with how you two guys met well she and yeah no okay I think like usually he always talks about a joke because he doesn't really want to admit that actually we met in a club. No, no, no, we didn't. Yeah, no, no, see, wait.

So we met in a club like the first time we actually really like saw each other, but we didn't talk. So I just talked to his friends. And then later on, he was sliding into my DMs and texted me. And then only later onwards, when we started talking, we found out I actually saw him before in the gym. And we had eye contact and I was like, who's this guy? but I never made a connection in the beginning that it was actually him when I saw him the first

night when we were out partying yeah I mean I remember I saw her the first time was in Virgin Active I was training with a friend of mine and I just went to my friend like yo who's this like because my friend is a trainer there and he's seen her before so yeah who's this like um she's single whatever you know and he he said to me that she had a boyfriend so I was like okay cool I want like whatever right but it wasn't true at that time yeah it wasn't true so apparently she Apparently she was single And then I think I saw her twice

In the gym Before I saw her At Avenue Yeah we were at Avenue For my friend's birthday And then my friend Came up to her And her friends

To just pull her And her friends To our table And that's how We got to know each other Yeah but We never even like talked So I thought

He has a girlfriend Because he was just like Drinking his water Which I now know is water I thought like He's downing like vodka All the time You're like damn

Impressive No just water Yeah it was just water Looks cool But it's not you're like I'll have water on the rocks yeah water on the rocks are just corks are all is it so I happen to go to the club so you you think you wait so you met at a club first or the gym first let's clear this up well I think like we really saw each other at a club and then later

it was just like ah yeah it was you I had on before at the gym but then after that we started like talking on Instagram and then at like he was quite persistent because a lot of times like he was asking me like yeah okay I'll give you that I'll give you that one oh I was on your case yeah no because like he wanted to meet and I was like nah like I'm not looking to date anyone right now and also like told him that and then I was just like avoiding a little bit like the question whenever he asked me I was just like not even answering yeah because when we were chatting we had the same vibe we were just single yeah remember we were both on the same pal of like we're single we're healing we're not interested and then the next thing you know

this massive bodybuilder type turns up I was like wait what oh yeah but also maybe we have to add so we started dating uh last year yeah for a while and then a circuit breaker happened when we were like freshly together and then yeah we broke up during that because we just like didn't see each other and I was like he dumped me yeah I did on the record okay it was me dumped him I'm sorry and I won't do it again no and then because it was circuit breaker so there was no point like we didn't see each other and then in the beginning I mean especially in the honeymoon phase you want to like hang out a lot and see each other and I didn't want to risk it because of my employment pass like I didn't want to sneak out and still like see him of course because you

couldn't even like physically interact yeah and that's why I was like okay you know what then like let's just like let it be like it is because our our communication wasn't like great via phone and I'm not a big texter like I think it was also like a lot for my side it was just like not great and I was like like it's not really developing so then I called it like quit so then we didn't like talk at all and then only um his twin brother like was messaging me because he needed some help in German and then I just told him like okay like yeah like let's meet up for dinner soon and then his twin brother asked like oh can I bring Dan along I was like yeah sure like I'm cool with him I thought there was a plot twist here yeah I thought the twin brother was gonna go down the

line and I'm like I literally wish I had popcorn go on you dump Dan no no no twin brother slides to the dm no no no so he was just asking me in general like for for some help with like something in German yeah and so I helped him and I was like oh yeah it would be nice to catch up so we said yeah let's meet for dinner and then he said I said okay if I bring Dan along I was like yeah cool so that was then in January February this year and then that was like the first time we met again and I was like food damn and yeah so I think that's how it started again and then we started yeah yeah and then at one point we were just like okay like let's just admit it like let's try it again so yeah that's so I didn't know that I didn't know it was a thing before a thing so you've

been together since February this year and and how long did you guys was you just basically because you were together before go right we're done we're together did you still date was it I think from from January all the way to like March or April April it was 16th of April basically when we committed I know that I love throwing dates at couples by the way because you've always got he's like January and she's like no bitch January to March no it was April it was just like casually like going out on dates and stuff but yeah after April it was yeah and then April because then I was I was super upset I know like we're talking about something and then I was upset about something and I told him I know I shouldn't be upset because we're not really like

dating even like i don't have any right to get upset like with him about like another girl or something no no it's just like in general i got upset about i think like something i will talk to you about this later it's not other women yeah now hopefully not anymore no i know yeah but that's nice that if you felt like however you felt the time about possibly that's good that cements that like you two should be the thing yeah and that that also when i realized like oh like why do i even have that feeling like i would be upset if he's seeing someone else now so i was like okay then like then i have to commit you know i have to if that if that makes me upset as well fine you wore me down i wanted to come in as well yeah

like shit oh so good yeah it was a can I just say I feel very I feel like a celebrity you know

on a talk show you are professional setting you are you got this sound thing here it's a legit podcast babe this is legit yeah

I'm like you know Spotify podcast charts dude you are you are a celebrity I'm on it this is alright you made it in life

I made it I can retire after this. Fuck everything else. Yeah, well, we haven't got to the end of this actual episode yet. You might fucking hate me after I'm finished with it. Because what I want to know, and obviously I know everyone listening is going to go check out Anna's TikTok, which you should definitely do. Don't check out mine.

Don't check out hers and then mine, okay? Yeah, do it. I've had mine for like a week. But what I want to know is, so when you guys became official, of course, as every couple does, you want to post photos together. you do silly videos together everyone's like oh i'm young in love and i think it's great and you obviously both have instagram yours is private yes yours is open yeah do you avoid posting about your do you have any couple photos on your instagrams or is it just very like business

focused for yeah mine is mostly business like my fitness stuff right yeah i mean i i would post the only thing I would post of us would be like the photo shoot we did in the pool yeah or like you just post stories

like you don't post yeah I post stories but like a post post I would post like if we did a nice photo shoot like the one we did in the pool I think I would post that so you both

because I have checked out your Instagrams and your body's completely overwhelming by the way and I really need to drop my happy weight

no you look amazing no I've I've champagne diet is going on but you're with your trainer always yeah yeah no i well i was but then i sort of you know i met my partner and then i wasn't really

on it and then you know the next thing you know i was like how is it eight kj how so i was like right i'm gonna check out their instagrams once again before because i obviously we both we all follow each other way before but i thought i have a look i said fuck they're they're actually really fit it hurts to see um so both of you the vibe I get from the instagrams is like you know it's like all of us the tiles it's photos of us at work and you know outfits and bikinis and whatnot that's fine for you guys right it's it's your tiktok let's be honest yes which has suddenly become it's not a problem because it's a great page but suddenly become the hub of comments yes but I also think it's a little bit maybe because you know people know him from like the scene from

the fitness scene bodybuilding scene and then he's very accessible with his content and also sometimes a little bit controversial because in my opinion he also knows that like sometimes he portrays himself as a little bit as a douchebag with some comments yeah and I also told him that I'm like seriously like when I only would see him as his like Instagram personality I would be like you a fucking idiot like we are breaking up tonight I'm just lowering my head he knows that and then I just told him like oh it's just like sad because if you don't know him personally then you really think this is who he is and he's not like he's the sweetest person like if he sees a snail on the road he will like bend down and get the snail off the road because he's

afraid someone will step on it like he's the cutest person ever so you're so so from Dan's Instagram it portrays Dan exhibit A but when we go to like your TikTok you actually see Dan Dan right you see the real person yeah and that's also why I then think um because my Instagram is private and I don't have like a big following and I also like filter who has access to my things um people then oh I've given me access I'm not going anywhere near her yeah no but I mean I mean then um people who see his Instagram then they for example they see oh he's tagging me then they want to like find out something about me and they can't find out because I'm private this is the thing with you Anna is TikTok kind of like took off for you in a way you didn't really expect

right yes but also I must say so I'm a banker right like I love numbers and I love things that are like logical and make sense so I actually went on TikTok because I wanted to promote um my side business so my pineapple shaker so I was then like trying to find out how can you get a lot of views on TikTok because my Instagram page for the business is not really taking off so much. And also on Facebook, it's a bit slow. So I was like, well, everyone is on TikTok right now. So what I should do is try to get on TikTok. So I was basically researching how can you tweak the algorithm for TikTok that you get a lot of views. And I was like, just reading up a lot about it. And I told him, hey, like, I want to try this, just like post random videos and really

posted the most random things to just see what do people want to see so I for example posted just like baking a cake or like posting a workout and then we felt like okay like as long as it's something like a couple things like oh sweet like he picked me up after work and we went for a bike ride together suddenly there were so many views like thousands of views and he's like okay like this is taking off so then only from there like we kind of like started to develop like what we're people were enjoying the couple vibe yeah yeah and that of course when you got more views and more people tuning into the couple vibe you are then of course going to create some negative people tuning in yes so when did would like do you remember when you first read like the

like the first hate comment you had I think it's the one me sleeping on your tummy yeah so I think um yeah I did like this one which also like almost has two million views it's just like he's like sleeping on me and then I'm just like singing the song like oh like tell me how I'm supposed to breathe yeah yeah um so then people like started to really comment on that and we recorded that um on a staycation and then like people in the beginning because I wasn't like used to like such comments on social media because my Instagram is private so people who would like comment something they're my friends like they would let me know like personally and don't comment on my pictures or whatever so then I was like a little bit upset and also like told him like why

are people so mean and then Dan like made it very clear and he said like look if we ever gonna get into a fight because of TikTok you have to promise me to delete your profile no but it came came to like she was getting really affected by the comments and I was like if you pay attention to them and if you reply to them just giving them that attention that they want ignore it delete it do what you want but just don't entertain these comments you're gonna keep getting them but just don't entertain them the more you don't entertain them the more they just stop do you have any like what comments what what do you remember things that were said well like especially on that video it was just like a lot like also like racial comments um like yeah or like you're like you're

chasing the wrong race or like once you gave once you go brown the other colors let you down which is more like towards like brown man and then but it was then also is that true once you go brown the other color so you guys because my boyfriend's white and his dick is huge so I want to lay on the table here I'm quite happy I don't know am I supposed to go brown because I'm having a great time well I think yeah you have to you have to find out what works for you right it's like it's I just can't get my head around this like ideology about skin color yes like why even and that's why also like why even comment yeah what's the issue here I don't know and that's why even like on some um like comments I then just like didn't comment like to defend ourselves or anything but I just

like made it clear like look there's no right or wrong race like why does it even have to be like this is now on this is now public on your TikTok yes so now what's happening is you're almost being brought in to this dialogue this narrative that you didn't even want in the first place so what do you do do you comment back do you delete do you like how do you deal with it it really like depends so if it's just like a normal like normal range comment I just like let it be there um sometimes I say something for example like why are you so hostile just like trying to like make this person think about like why are you even like asking such a question without like trying to defend it or anything just like asking questions um if they're really rude

and just like beyond like respectful I delete them like I deleted so many comments did you yes like really also like going towards like sexual things super disrespectful so I was just like yeah you know what like I don't need that and then also like block these people so they have been I don't know like if I would have to like guess I deleted around maybe 200 comments or something really yeah yeah like on different videos but also sometimes it's nice because sometimes also other viewer like other users they jump in right they jump in so then they are defending and then sometimes they really start like a shit storm in the comment section energy of your time yeah and that's why like i don't even like we don't even like

engage or comment and i'm just like reading it i'm like wow like people are really a bit dumb sometimes you know like yeah and i tell her just like even if she leaves it there it's fine because it shows that we don't give a fuck yeah i said can we curse here uh do you know hey i did my research on you did you do your research on me because bitch place that's all i do people like stop swearing and i'm like take that opinion shove up your ass okay yeah so i was saying like it takes like you said it takes a lot of effort to just delete the comments it's annoying so i'm from my point of view i mean like she said i'm a fucking douchebag on instagram like i admit it like people like the kind of douchebag shit right that's why i've got

that in verbal he is a douchebag and he emits it yes i admit it because like look at look at the biggest stars and whatever like conor mcgregor and shit right those guys are fucking douchebags but you don't know what you don't know what or how they are behind closed doors and that's how they promote themselves that's why they're the best businessmen yeah people enjoy that people like yeah they like that everyone on like say you go on my instagram people think i'm high maintenance they think you know i'm someone thought i was the slut of singapore maybe because of that that title you post yeah i mean i don't help myself but it's not you know like there's there's a front view and then there's the back view and i actually quite like that i'm very

protective over like me you know like my real name not nick selena my quiet time so i wouldn't say like you portray yourself as a douchebag i think there's a level of branding and marketing strategy and it's about what you do for a living and that's who you are and it's also a protective thing because all you see of me as dan is the bodybuilding the fitness you don't know me right but i feel like on anna's tiktok you actually do stuff you know exactly you start to see you you know all the goofy stuff yeah and the intimate stuff and the home stuff and then people feel they have access to you yeah right and then if they feel they have access to you that's when they feel they can say something yeah right and also I think it's just because it's so easy to hide

like anonymously online so I think also like in general people wouldn't come up to us and say something like sometimes I feel people are a little bit like staring at us when we walk past You know Because I mean It's still Yeah sometimes I think I think they're staring at us Because we look good

But Not because of the racial thing They are hot Confirmed Not the racial thing I don't think If we're talking about The racial thing

Let's get into the crux of it Is it because It's a Muslim Dark skinned guy And a white And a white Caucasian woman Yeah maybe Because like

Obviously we have Different religions as well Right And of course we have Like different We're from a different background What is the different religions If I can ask

I'm Muslim And I'm Christian Oh okay I'm atheist so I'll see myself out so it's a complete like you literally are like not a clash but like a culture it is a culture you are you are polar opposites yeah yeah 100% yeah but also like I mean also what we get in a lot on TikTok for example like oh he shouldn't like take alcohol he doesn't take alcohol and because we made one video where we're like shaking a cocktail and then I shake a cocktail and it's just like funny I offered it to him he rejects it he's making a

protein shake yeah so like it's really not like that he's drinking or anything I really like that because you have I was like oh that's really cool because it was like how we deal like oh you shake your car and it's very harmonious in my opinion it was harmonious like live and let live this is your thing this is my thing yeah where is the issue yeah and this is exactly what we're doing so then people were commenting for example like oh but he can't use the same like shaker as you do when you put like alcohol in it i'm like well please like yeah it was two shakers even i was like can you please bitch i own the brand honey i've got as many shakers as i fucking want yeah right so it's like then people are just like commenting without even like thinking about it

and then also asking me like oh yeah um it's sinful like you should get married or then um someone commented why is he rejecting the cocktail but not rejecting her oh no yeah so you get she's a hot piece of ass that's why open your eyes gone yeah so you get these kind of comments so wait do you feel when we come to these comments is is it the religion that overweighs like the the race stuff or it i think it's both right i think it depends like who's commenting um fuck this is heavy honestly anna i didn't realize it was like this i really didn't i saw when i went on the the sleeping thing that's when i saw a couple of comments and i was like and i love the fact that you bit back like when there was like you chose the wrong race and

you're like there is no wrong race like fuck you i would be a lot more mouthier than you you're actually quite tame but i just couldn't believe it that even in this day and age that people are still thinking this way and daring to say it on people they don't know and you on tiktok you guys are just so sweet and loving and it's like just a very you just give off like a very loving happy couple so what i guess i have to ask about the families how do they feel about the your relationship i mean we haven't met each other's families yet oh yeah because of covid it's oh no way yeah because yeah yours is in germany still yeah yeah i've saved my annual leave for december to go back to the UK and I'm really sure it's not happening yeah no but I mean uh so my family is

very supportive so they know as long as I'm happy right they're happy for me it doesn't really so yeah for them like they wouldn't like make this an issue they just like asked me like if I'm okay with that and um that's all they want to know like if I'm content with that and I'm like yeah and I'm okay with that like I support him and his religion I'm just not practicing the same religion but you both knew this before you fell for each other it's not like it was a surprise drop three months in no right so it's a decision made yeah yeah and also like we had to talk about it because I mean there's then like a lot of issues like coming with it right like especially like oh if you would ever get married like how or if you would ever have like children like how do we raise

them and all that kind of things yeah it's like it's very like also weird to talk about that at the beginning of a relationship but we also said like well we have to talk about it at not like two years down the road we're then like oh like we can't be together because of that so you're both on the same page you know and you know and you're like oh actually i i get where you're coming from but this is how i feel then you just work around it i think it works because you just have that mutual respect you know for not just not just for each religion yours and mine but for every religion yeah right so we just have the respect and we just don't cross that like i can i do my prayers in front of her and she she doesn't remind her like yeah and then i'm just

like staying like quiet yeah and like and do you guys like off tiktok do you guys get people be like oh how do you do that or bro your missus is like do you get i don't think people come up to us and say that kind of stuff do people come well it's more like yeah my friends like more asked me like oh like how do you deal with it like him being muslim like have you talked about it and also like my for example like my muslim girlfriends like also asked me like oh like have you talked about this this have you thought about this so they were like more checking in if i'm like aware about like some things and stuff so it's more concern based yeah and very positive yeah not negative at all no so I had no one saying like oh like you can't be with him or anything no it's

more like are you aware of the full situation you're like well we speak because we're adults so I am actually fully aware yeah gotcha okay yeah I mean has there any been any point where these kind of barriers have made you go like we should call it a let me say not from my side my parents are very traditional like my my parents they they're pretty staunch especially when they they've gone for like the pilgrimage stuff and like you know to saudi arabia and do their stuff um yeah they would definitely want anna to convert so yeah right so i mean we will we're still talking about we're still yeah talking about how to work around this situation yes yeah so we're still dealing with it but it just feels like for me that this

is gonna sound so cliche but with you guys it's like love conquers it all you know yeah love is up here and then we deal with everything yeah that you know like i don't care whether you believe in God or don't believe in God what color your skin is I don't I don't care and it's such an alien concept to me that people care yeah and see like we're only gaining from this so we can celebrate Christmas together and we can also celebrate Hari Raya I mean there's a lot of festivals going on yeah right I mean do you find like bringing it back to the TikTok a second do you has it ever negatively affected you too what you got what you got sent i what we got sent like no no for me what we got sent never never really affected us but yeah for me in the beginning like just i was like

there was like one comment and then i asked him like do you know this girl yeah um because it was like a little bit disrespectful and i was like do you know this girl and he said no so then i like replied a very petty comment and then he got mad at me for replying her and he's like yeah why do you even like waste your energy or time and replying to her and i was like yeah okay like it's true like i don't have to defend myself and then i just deleted the comment and but yeah that was like in the beginning like almost a typical point but now we don't fight about any of the comments but but she's very precise with how she wants to do her tiktok videos and i'm not i'm not an artsy guy man he is not i'm not a fucking artsy guy man i take a video from the front and say oh

you have no fucking photogenic skills I'm like what the fuck I'm a personal trainer not a yeah but I mean like just have a little bit common sense you know

then he's like placing the lamp right above his head I'm like dude like this is not nice lighting like it should come from the front you know just stuff like this

and he's like filming from like from below you look good in every lighting no like shouldn't matter you know what I mean when you film from below you have like a double chin

and stuff like this it's just the basics well even with with TikTok the worst thing is the fucking getting the song the same and so I just That's all her

I don't do any of that That's all her I'm cutting and everything So he's just like in there I tell him sit there Say something I'm just the talent Or the dog

Whichever you want to call it The talent or the dog I don't know Dan would you Ever get your own TikTok? I don't know I don't even know How to use it then

He has a TikTok But he's not He's just using it to stalk I'm using it to just View your stuff I'm on it But Phil Because I have to

I really got on it during the circuit breaker I thought it was fucking hilarious the shit I saw on that yeah but other than that I've never posted anything

yeah you've never posted I'd be interested to see if you started posting on TikTok with you and Anna how what the comments would be on your page

I think that it's very like hers is blowing up because it's a couple thing and like you see on YouTube all this like

couple of family vlog channels and whatever they blow up a lot yeah because people love that kind of couple stuff yeah

So I think I think one of the main reasons Why it's blowing up Is because of the couple thing Yeah Yeah I also still think That I just knew How to tweak the algorithm

Yeah of course That as well That as well I give her that She was She was legit Reading up When I was asleep

Reading up On all this analytic shit I said what are you Watching videos Watching videos Doing coding And all that stuff I'm like

Holy this girl's Taking it to another level Shit No damn girl I'm like give me some some of that okay yeah I can talk to you later and give you some tips anyone listening you know people you've been like Emma how did you do it no because your TikTok page is great and I love it and I love a little insights into your life and honestly like from the bottom of my

heart I love how open you both are together and how you got that like doesn't fucking phase us attitude to your relationship because for me that's how it should be and with regard to these hateful comments i i understand i understand where you're coming from that it does affect you at the beginning but yeah i love that you're just like we're gonna just do us and even the the cocktail thing which you talked about which obviously plug is anna's brand which is awesome pineapple rose gold cocktail shaker which i have anna's design go on her instagram we'll do at the end the handles but when you did that and you was like this is how i drink and this is how he drinks And you're very open

You're like This is how my Muslim boyfriend drinks You don't hide anything We had a better caption But she thought It was too out there Yeah

It was Making my Muslim boyfriend Drinking with me How to make your Muslim boyfriend Drink with you No but that was his idea Yeah it was my idea

It was my idea Because that would get A lot of fucking views Yeah no but then I'm like This is disrespectful And this makes it look Like I would try To like sway him

Or like disrespect him As a Muslim To make him Like make him drink Again So that's why I said no i'm not gonna put this i'm on both fences here because it is clickbait it's genius by the way that is genius but i understand that you're the one that has the account and you're getting these

fucking comments anyway and then i didn't want to give them a reason why they can like put that hate on me because this is not how it is but i think you did it really well it was like very yeah i loved it and i just thought you just you guys are just so open it's actually like a breath of fresh air that you're just very like okay cool christian muslim different backgrounds expat local what and what you know yeah and it's fantastic and I am so sorry that you have dealt with what you've dealt with and I just love the fact that it hasn't bothered you on any level like it's not been hugely detrimental because I can imagine lots of couples might actually split over things like this you think so yeah yeah yeah 100% really like all this like I'm sorry the love is not real

like family pressures and then online pressures you know and everyone's like no but like I said like okay so for example if there's something she wants to do on TikTok right and I don't want to do it

like that dance thing yeah I'm not doing that I've tried I've tried he's waited till he's on air to tell her that I'm not fucking doing it

I will stop making me and she respects that it's just like okay cool you don't want to do it I won't ask again you know so if she comes up with an idea

if I like it I'm like okay cool let's do it together if I don't like it she won't ask me again so at least there's like that boundary I don't want to watch something

And like cringing Of me dancing Like What the fuck I think that would be amazing No Don't you think so I'll tune in

But it might not be For the same reasons I'll be leaving hate comments What the fuck Is this Stan You're a douche bag Go back to the fucking gym

And Can I just ask Because I really feel That this is a question I've been wanting to know Has Having these comments Ever made you want to

Just delete your TikTok profile or are you like dealing with it no never because then I was like like whatever then they go on right

and yeah and then I'm like you know if you don't like the content I put out there just don't watch it because also yeah I get like sometimes

then like oh this is so boring or like why does this appear on my for you page I'm like well that's not up to me you know

you don't have to click on it and you don't have to comment it I gained the algorithm bitch so that's why it's on your page because I sat and researched motherfucker Hashtag FYP Yeah don't use that hashtag

It doesn't work I guess also I want to know We've talked about a lot Obviously the whole episode About haters Have you had any positives? Have you had any people Come up to you

Or message like Guys you're like Repping the interracial Yeah of course We had a lot of that A lot of that as well I think it's almost 50-50 Oh really?

Yeah people love that Oh you guys are so sweet together or a loving couple like god bless or yeah or like but also i mean sometimes still you just like don't know what is going on in people's heads because for example i posted a video where being out like eating high tea someone is asking so who is paying i'm like why does that even like what why is that even yeah why is that even an issue and then someone else um comments isn't it obvious and to me it was like hey why like what would be obvious like either way for me it's not obvious at all so then and then for example I just because I don't want it then to blow up I just commented

well we're like we're splitting equally like once it's my turn the other time it's his turn like it's equal style what we're doing so I can't believe that that's so fucking rude yeah or like paying yeah and people called me a broke ass bitch from Russia before and I'm like well i'm none of that like it's just weird sometimes yeah you're a broke-ass bitch from russia yeah wow well it doesn't really apply at all but jesus this is i yeah wow i mean like some people i mean even the high tea thing everyone thinks that we're always dining out in nice places i mean not always oh and i cook a lot as well yeah we're home because i have my meal prep shit I have to eat my own meal

So only on like Friday, Saturday night You go out Yeah Yeah but this is the thing You shouldn't have to justify it And everyone needs to understand That social media

Is your highlight reel Like everyone messages me And was like All you do in your Like your partner Is drink champagne You film And you

And you stitch Especially for TikTok Your highlight reel This is your highlight reel Of your life And it's obviously And people enjoy that Of course

People like that Like the fancy shit People like that Yeah But then what I like About your page as well Anna is that you also do the real stuff I feel like you have a very like real sense of content it isn't

like your your Instagram is your highlight reels but your TikTok has a very like nice little access to you and how fun you guys are together it gives you personality it shows you two as a really loving couple and yeah I just can't believe that that turns into a space where people feel that they they know you well enough to say what they say well everyone is entitled to their opinion right it's just like said that sometimes you don't like respect any boundaries and you just like lash it out on people because I mean like as we said we're not really faced by it but I mean like for example when you have like some mental issues or like you're very insecure or whatever I think like that can really get to you so like before you write like any nasty comments online like maybe

just think how you could make that person like feel or how it could affect them like yeah exactly oh guys I cannot thank you enough for coming on honestly this is probably my favourite episode and I love you two together

you just sing that no it's true you say that to all the people who come on here come on you do not I could show you my DMs interracial relationships

interracial relationships I'm like fuck I'm white my boyfriend's white I don't know how to do it he's Australian I'm British that's all we've got

like he says some words funny that's all I've got I've got nothing else he also says some words funny so and do you guys still work out together at the gym where it all started well not so often because he doesn't really like to work out with me no sadly no let me speak oh shit I touched a mess yeah no because then he's like you know it's different when you train your partner I'm like well you don't have to train me like just train like together with me but I mean I get it I can't lift like as heavy as he does like it's by the way there's like a video coming up which is like really funny when I try to lift as heavy as he does yeah it failed a lot um and

then when we do core things like this is the only thing I'm good at my core is a lot stronger than his and then he doesn't like that so he also doesn't want to do that with me anymore okay I I literally could feel the tension rising. No, no, there's no tension. See, I feel like you should have gone down the road of, you're just so sexy, Anna. When I train you, I can't focus because I can't let... And got out of it that way, mate.

I feel like I gave you an out there and you didn't take it. He didn't. At least he's honest, you know? Yeah. The reason I don't train you, Anna, is because you're so beautiful. I can't concentrate and I can't do my session properly. No, he wants to be seen.

And I'm annoying. And the core thing, and the core thing is like, Yeah, her core is stronger than mine. Yes. I have that on tape now. Awesome. I do something on the mini... The littlest thing wrong for the core,

she's like, oh, you've got to do it this way. I'm like, I'm fucking doing it. Chill the fuck out. It's not like I'm lying down on the floor doing a plank. I'm still planking. See, I feel like what's going to divide these two, isn't culture, religion, race, anything. It's the gym.

Yeah. It's the gym, 110%. You're like, look. I was like, how did it work out? nah I tried to do call with him he would have

none of it we have a video of like a 10 minute call workout when we first started dating no one's seeing that fucking video

because I look like a fucking pussy okay if someone wants to bet money I can release the video on TikTok

I'm here for it I pledge I start with Selena and on that note do please tell people what is your

TikTok handle ananasia a-n-n-a-i-n-a-s-i-a yes correct and your Instagram is same same yes same same and dan what is your instagram my instagram is the gold standard d-h-e-g-o-l-d s-t-a-n-d-a-r-d dot s-g what the fuck underscore douchebag

hashtag douchebag hashtag asshole hashtag prick hashtag okay please please guys do go check out their instagram and definitely the tit talk and you will fall in love with them the way i did And please shower with positive comments because these guys are brave, they're open, they're loving and everything we should all basically be. So we just look past all of the racial, the culture, the religion stuff. And for me, love wins. And you two are the best version of that, if I'm totally honest. Thank you so much. Thank you for having us.

Thank you for coming on. Thank you. Thank you. Pleasure. Bye guys. Bye guys. thanks for listening to the sex and singapore city podcast this episode was produced and hosted by me nick selena and recorded at the splice car studio in singapore i'm available to listen to on spotify

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